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"Hiya op You could use the privacy settings and hide your profile, least then if things don't work out you haven't lost anything but if you really want a relationship then focus on that and maybe at a later stage when you've actually built a relationship discuss, remember if she not interested then id shut fab and fulfill your dreams with your future " I been here before and did just that, lasted just over a month last time. Always seems like the right thing but I just can’t seem to do vanilla any more. Thanks for the advise | |||
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"It depends on what is important to you. The scene, my friends in the lifestyle and the clubs are a part of me so if I meet someone, I would let them know the beginning that this is part of who.I am. If it didn't work for them, that's okay as I would be being true to myself. Not everybody is here to stay though, some people will leave the lifestyle if they get into a vanilla relationship as that would complete them, in how they needed. It all depends on you." I know a few left many came back. It is I guess a battle of doing the ‘right thing’ that you are ‘supposed’ to be doing. Every time for 6 years I try it just doesn’t work, I end up gettin a txt or something and well that’s that. I fuck it up. I have avoided clubs like the plague because in my head that is that, their would be no going back, been asked to go to them loads by singles, Couples etc But I have it in my head, that’s one rabbit hole too far. mad I know. I love the idea of a ‘normal’ relationship, christmas, birthdays etc but can not stick to the ‘normal’ things I should | |||
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"You keep mentioning vanilla , what aspect of swinging do you see as not vanilla ? This woman might not be up for a 3 some or swapping of partners. But she might be into toys, restraints or roleplay etc which is a lot more fun. " I mean just two people is vanilla for me toys and the like are still with the two | |||
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"It seems you are just waiting for this to fail. You have choices He up front with the person and see what their reaction is. Try to make a go of things without swinging. End the relationship now. It's really up to you " I know this, as well as it being up to me. Both worlds don’t collide for me. I want both things at different times. That isn’t going to happen | |||
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"It seems you are just waiting for this to fail. You have choices He up front with the person and see what their reaction is. Try to make a go of things without swinging. End the relationship now. It's really up to you I know this, as well as it being up to me. Both worlds don’t collide for me. I want both things at different times. That isn’t going to happen" Why can't you say "there's this site do you want to come it?" . What have you got to lose? | |||
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"It seems you are just waiting for this to fail. You have choices He up front with the person and see what their reaction is. Try to make a go of things without swinging. End the relationship now. It's really up to you I know this, as well as it being up to me. Both worlds don’t collide for me. I want both things at different times. That isn’t going to happen Why can't you say "there's this site do you want to come it?" . What have you got to lose?" That isn’t what I want, I want and don’t want normal. Complicated yes. So I want the idea of a girlfriend doing all the shizle you do, but not the standard stuff that goes with it. | |||
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"Or do you mean you don't want to swing with a partner?" Yep I think so, I see the two as very separate one emotional the other not at all just what I can’t seem to get away from. Selfish I know | |||
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"Or do you mean you don't want to swing with a partner? Yep I think so, I see the two as very separate one emotional the other not at all just what I can’t seem to get away from. Selfish I know " I see this a lot on here, people want to have sex with others partners but with no intention of sharing their own which isn't really what the lifestyle is about. Sounds like you're not a swingers OP and just use the site for sex when you're in-between relationships so maybe it's time to choose what you actually want. | |||
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" That isn’t what I want, I want and don’t want normal. Complicated yes. So I want the idea of a girlfriend doing all the shizle you do, but not the standard stuff that goes with it. " So you want a "vanilla" relationship with your new girlfriend and also threesomes and moresomes without her ? | |||
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"Or do you mean you don't want to swing with a partner? Yep I think so, I see the two as very separate one emotional the other not at all just what I can’t seem to get away from. Selfish I know I see this a lot on here, people want to have sex with others partners but with no intention of sharing their own which isn't really what the lifestyle is about. Sounds like you're not a swingers OP and just use the site for sex when you're in-between relationships so maybe it's time to choose what you actually want." He wants EVERYTHING! He wants to eat the cake and have it, too   | |||
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"Or do you mean you don't want to swing with a partner? Yep I think so, I see the two as very separate one emotional the other not at all just what I can’t seem to get away from. Selfish I know " You want what you want, there's no getting away from that. You could have a full and frank conversation with this person and see what comes of it. Would you accept a completely open relationship where they had the same freedoms as you? | |||
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"Or do you mean you don't want to swing with a partner? Yep I think so, I see the two as very separate one emotional the other not at all just what I can’t seem to get away from. Selfish I know I see this a lot on here, people want to have sex with others partners but with no intention of sharing their own which isn't really what the lifestyle is about. Sounds like you're not a swingers OP and just use the site for sex when you're in-between relationships so maybe it's time to choose what you actually want." We totally agree with the above. We came on here to swing with couples , like you have said there are so many who just want to join as a threesome ( probably with a partner at home unaware what's going on ) which in our eyes isn't what we are after. | |||
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