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Inexperienced and nervous

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By *hubbyTrucker OP   Man
22 weeks ago

Canvey island

I’m very nervous to meet as I feel I don’t have much experience and am worried I won’t be up to satisfying the other person.

Are there people who enjoy teaching?

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By *iss DevilWoman
22 weeks ago

Bedford


"I’m very nervous to meet as I feel I don’t have much experience and am worried I won’t be up to satisfying the other person.

Are there people who enjoy teaching? "

Just be honest about it when chatting to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Be yourself to be honest majority of times they are as just as nervous as you

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By *ogandher1962Couple
22 weeks ago

Reading


"I’m very nervous to meet as I feel I don’t have much experience and am worried I won’t be up to satisfying the other person.

Are there people who enjoy teaching? "

Perhaps go to a club and talk to people in the first instance.

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By *ucka39Man
22 weeks ago

Newcastle

Maybe spend more time chatting before actually meeting whether on this or away from this

The chat rooms id say would help build up some confidence engaging with others and those who are on cam

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By *hoccaMan
22 weeks ago

local

Go to a club and just remember, you can leave at any given moment if you really feel you need to.

Chances are you gradually get more and more comfortable in the environment.

Don’t pressure yourself to perform or to get anything out of an interaction, only intention is to socialise and go with the flow

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
22 weeks ago

Gillingham

It's totally normal to feel nervous, it's a daunting thing entering another couple's dynamic to get intimate. As a couple we get nervous too, It's the unknown that causes the nervousness, like going for a job interview or riding a roller coaster...the fear is all in the lead up. Be yourself, relax, and appreciate the fear, it's exhilarating and reminds you that you're human and alive. And once the fun begins, the nerves are no more and it's just total pleasure for the rest of the ride. X

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By *lowercandyWoman
22 weeks ago

Lancashire


"I’m very nervous to meet as I feel I don’t have much experience and am worried I won’t be up to satisfying the other person.

Are there people who enjoy teaching? "

Definitely be honest with anyone you get into conversation with

You say not much but I'm taking it you're not a virgin (though if you are own it there'll be people who are more than happy to help I'm sure)

Remember what are you actually gauging your experience level on anyway???

Is there a scale or is this your own perception of not much...in which case maybe you are overthinking it

There's nothing stopping you reading..

I investigated some things then put the information into practice...

Everything in life is learnt

Just relax, be honest, enjoy

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By *enelope2UWoman
22 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

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By *enelope2UWoman
22 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

By afraid to meet you mean fab term for fucking or sex?.. because you don't need experience to SEE or meet someone in person and establish chemistry/comparability connection.

Everyone is a first time to someone.

Some people like fumble sex, some dread it, some get off on the what if aspect of finding out if there's compatibility BY fucking... so until you're physically in the presence of a person or actually TALK interact with them you don't know how it might go or be.

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple
22 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

There’s an awesome book for people who are sexually inexperienced. It’s called Drawn to Sex by Erika Moen. It walks you through all the basics.

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By *urvykat and JayCouple
21 weeks ago

Ashbourne


"It's totally normal to feel nervous, it's a daunting thing entering another couple's dynamic to get intimate. As a couple we get nervous too, It's the unknown that causes the nervousness, like going for a job interview or riding a roller coaster...the fear is all in the lead up. Be yourself, relax, and appreciate the fear, it's exhilarating and reminds you that you're human and alive. And once the fun begins, the nerves are no more and it's just total pleasure for the rest of the ride. X"

In some cases though the nerves don’t dissipate and you experience palpitations all night.

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By *anonfire96Man
21 weeks ago

Mansfield

There are some very understanding people on here who would be willing to guide you and allay your nerves.

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By *ovinglife!40Man
21 weeks ago

Hinckley


"There are some very understanding people on here who would be willing to guide you and allay your nerves."

Have you come across any??

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By *ellhungvweMan
21 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Don’t overthink it OP. Just turn up (that simple act will put you in the top league on its own!) and go with the flow. Everyone is different and just experiment with what does (and doesn’t) work. Do more of the thing that does work and less of the thing that doesn’t. Simple really.

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