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High sex drive...... How can I reduce it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi well I've turned to google and it gives you a million and one ideas but trusting my fab members I turn to you

I've a ridiculous high sex drive and live in a sexless marriage. I'm bouncing off the wall seriously and my wife does not care at all for any form of intimacy.

My post is not some random attempt to get some attention or swipes from other members about being on here but to try and reduce my sex drive. There must be a easy way, I've sex sex sex on the brain at work every where.

Gutted so please post or message me with some sound advise

Lee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reduce your sex drive?? Not sure if that's even possible not to mention a healthy solution! I'm not married but i would think If your marriage is sexless and you have a high sex drive, it'd make far more sense to work on your wife's libido and reignite your sex life by perhaps meeting her half way...initially, then you go from there! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it is possible, i've always had a over active sex drive, i'm single so don't get sex often, i've tried alsorts to not feel so horny, even wanking don't help I just want a shag even more after i've had a wank, we just have to learn to live with it i'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You thought that people on a swingers site would know how to reduce sex drive? Not following the logic there, lol. Plenty of high sex drives here, and i doubt many would want to reduce it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yoy say your wife doesn't want sex at all?

Can you tell us a little more about her, does she work, any kids, medical problems or conditions.?

How long have you been together and has it always been like this?

Have you tried couples councilling or sex therapy? Has she spoken to the doctor?

Do you have any sex at all or just occasionally?

Sorry for the barrage of questions, but we'll be able to advise better if we know a bit more.

Women can lose libido for a lot of reasons from stress, hormones or many other reasons. And of course the less you get the more you want it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yoy say your wife doesn't want sex at all?

Can you tell us a little more about her, does she work, any kids, medical problems or conditions.?

How long have you been together and has it always been like this?

Have you tried couples councilling or sex therapy? Has she spoken to the doctor?

Do you have any sex at all or just occasionally?

Sorry for the barrage of questions, but we'll be able to advise better if we know a bit more.

Women can lose libido for a lot of reasons from stress, hormones or many other reasons. And of course the less you get the more you want it."

Hi no problem with the questions

We have two kids, she can't relax around the house, she has no medical problems and works from home...

Sexless, does twice this year count as hardly any at all, we have been with each other for 11 years and married for .......7

She says there's nothing wrong with her I'm just over sexed

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

I sympathise and actually feel slightly better about my "weekly ration" from the wife although like you I would like it a lot more - work, kids, tiredness all valid reasons but doesn't stop me from feeling horny most of the time - just preserve and be nice and romantic with her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I sympathise and actually feel slightly better about my "weekly ration" from the wife although like you I would like it a lot more - work, kids, tiredness all valid reasons but doesn't stop me from feeling horny most of the time - just preserve and be nice and romantic with her."
once a week, that would be really nice, you lucky sod

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire


"Yoy say your wife doesn't want sex at all?

Can you tell us a little more about her, does she work, any kids, medical problems or conditions.?

How long have you been together and has it always been like this?

Have you tried couples councilling or sex therapy? Has she spoken to the doctor?

Do you have any sex at all or just occasionally?

Sorry for the barrage of questions, but we'll be able to advise better if we know a bit more.

Women can lose libido for a lot of reasons from stress, hormones or many other reasons. And of course the less you get the more you want it.

Hi no problem with the questions

We have two kids, she can't relax around the house, she has no medical problems and works from home...

Sexless, does twice this year count as hardly any at all, we have been with each other for 11 years and married for .......7

She says there's nothing wrong with her I'm just over sexed "

Fuck her sister, and make sure she finds out. She'll either want loads of sex to make amends for driving you away, or she'll snip your knackers off with garden shears. Either way, your problems are solved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yoy say your wife doesn't want sex at all?

Can you tell us a little more about her, does she work, any kids, medical problems or conditions.?

How long have you been together and has it always been like this?

Have you tried couples councilling or sex therapy? Has she spoken to the doctor?

Do you have any sex at all or just occasionally?

Sorry for the barrage of questions, but we'll be able to advise better if we know a bit more.

Women can lose libido for a lot of reasons from stress, hormones or many other reasons. And of course the less you get the more you want it.

Hi no problem with the questions

We have two kids, she can't relax around the house, she has no medical problems and works from home...

Sexless, does twice this year count as hardly any at all, we have been with each other for 11 years and married for .......7

She says there's nothing wrong with her I'm just over sexed

Fuck her sister, and make sure she finds out. She'll either want loads of sex to make amends for driving you away, or she'll snip your knackers off with garden shears. Either way, your problems are solved.

"
lol very good, she's not got a sister but better sharpen the shears if she finds out im in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sympathise there I also have a very high sex drive its terrible at times, I'm single lad so resort to wanking a bit but like previous post said you feel even more horny after a wank. I was in a relationship before where I wanted sex every day and my girlfriend was happy with it few times a week, very hard I know hope you work it out somehow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slam your balls in the cutlery drawer.

Hope this helps

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By *igboobies42Woman
over a year ago

Essex

I'm sure you've tried it but try having a date night once a month. Get dressed up go out for dinner / drinks. Ban all talk of work, kids, house etc when you're out. Book a hotel and for the first few times don't even try to have sex ( hard I know) and just cuddle, give her a massage etc. Hopefully after a few dates you're wife will start to realise why she fell in love with you. It's a longer term solution and will need a bit of cash but it may help. good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Careful what you wish for cos, in my case a broken heart and all my dreams dashed has pretty much killed my sex drive...and I'm usually very very horny.

Hope you manage to reignite the spark in your marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have two kids, she can't relax around the house, she has no medical problems and works from home...

Sexless, does twice this year count as hardly any at all, we have been with each other for 11 years and married for .......7

She says there's nothing wrong with her I'm just over sexed "

She is technically right in that there's nothing physically wrong with her, it does sound like a case that she just can't relax at home. Like another poster has said, she needs to be romanced away from the daily grind, how can she get in the mood for sex when there are 101 thoughts and worries spinning around in her head - the house is a tip, the kids need clean school uniforms, it's mum's birthday in a week and she hasn't bought a present etc etc etc.

Take her out for meals, drinks, whatever she loves to do but as already stated with no preasure for sex (another worry)take her out and show you enjoy her company as a person and not just because you want to get your rocks off.

I would also suggest getting councilling as this is putting pressure on your relationship. It is possible that there is something else subconciously affecting her that a professional might be able to help with.

Good luck regardless, don't do something that will destroy your marriage unless you are really sure that is what you want.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Castration either chemical or physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have two kids, she can't relax around the house, she has no medical problems and works from home...

Sexless, does twice this year count as hardly any at all, we have been with each other for 11 years and married for .......7

She says there's nothing wrong with her I'm just over sexed

She is technically right in that there's nothing physically wrong with her, it does sound like a case that she just can't relax at home. Like another poster has said, she needs to be romanced away from the daily grind, how can she get in the mood for sex when there are 101 thoughts and worries spinning around in her head - the house is a tip, the kids need clean school uniforms, it's mum's birthday in a week and she hasn't bought a present etc etc etc.

Take her out for meals, drinks, whatever she loves to do but as already stated with no preasure for sex (another worry)take her out and show you enjoy her company as a person and not just because you want to get your rocks off.

I would also suggest getting councilling as this is putting pressure on your relationship. It is possible that there is something else subconciously affecting her that a professional might be able to help with.

Good luck regardless, don't do something that will destroy your marriage unless you are really sure that is what you want."

The one thing the OP hasn't mentioned is the age of their kids. Assuming you had kids after you got married the oldest will be, at most, 6 years old - maybe younger.

Did she suffer post natal depression after giving birth, assuming you noticed whether she did or not?

I agree with the the above comment - your wife's life totally revolves around the house - and you expect her to relax enough to have sex there...???

This is NOT going to turnaround overnight, and you are right: if she finds you on here, you are very likely to be sleeping at the nearest YMCA in double quick order.

Swinging is NOT a way to solve problems within a marriage. Quite the opposite...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the sounds of it her entire life revolves around home she is at home for work and life perhaps you just need to pay more attention to how much she lumps on herself on a normal day then try and see where you can take some of the load off her so you guys can have more possible free time to relax and for want of a better discription fall in love again, I know what it feels like to be a sex addict it ruled my life for so many years and over time and so many mistakes came to realise that I had in my addiction neglected the things that had mattered in the real world, for me that moment of clarity came way to late to save me from myself, but good things did come from it in the long run, try to step away from your online life and focus more on the life around you it's not easy god I know it's not easy but look to the life around you find ways to make your wife more content and less stressed, fun moments, meals out little things that make her smile, it will take time that's for sure. But from exeriance and I'm not saying this is what you are doing, filling you life with thoughts of sex and images will only reinforce your needs not take them away. Mine drove me to the lowest points in my life but lucky for me Jayne found me and literally saved my life! Lucky for us we are both very sexual people but even so we both know we need lots of just us time. Good luck with your issue and sorry for rambling so much I hope some of this made sense, find some quiet time to think some where away from it all and think about what's important in your life, really think and you may find that your sex drive comes way down the list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some more good points above. Assuming you work full time, do you help out around the house when you get home or are you off with mates or sat in front of the telly?

Imagine you had got up an hour earlier, started work within minutes of getting up, done a full 8-9 hours then had another 3-4 hours of chores around the house on top.

Then finally you get to bed tired and run down and you are expected to be in the mood for sex.

Question: does your sex 1-2 times a year happen while you are on holiday?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi well I've turned to google and it gives you a million and one ideas but trusting my fab members I turn to you

I've a ridiculous high sex drive and live in a sexless marriage. I'm bouncing off the wall seriously and my wife does not care at all for any form of intimacy.

My post is not some random attempt to get some attention or swipes from other members about being on here but to try and reduce my sex drive. There must be a easy way, I've sex sex sex on the brain at work every where.

Gutted so please post or message me with some sound advise

Lee"

I could introduce you to the mother-in-law....... That should do the trick.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Some good advice on here...

OP how was your sex life when you were first together?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Agree with a lot of what's been said.

Plus... Do you go on at her a lot and try to persuade her?? My ex used to do this to me and it used to piss me off so much him acting like some sex crazed nutcase that it used to put me off even more! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dale Carnegie suggests that those men who can learn to Mutate their sex drive into other energy and using that to drive forward a business or a career will become super rich.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Not much I can say that hasn't already been said. If she works from home aswell, how often does she actually get out and have some "me time" or see her friends away from home? COULD there be signs of stress, isolation or maybe even depression?

I think organising a date night would be ideal. Just get out, go somewhere fun and get away from the house, kids and everyday stress. Maybe even a weekend away somewhere she's always wanted to go (if you can afford it).

Me and Vince enjoy going for a walk every night and just the exercise boosts our sex drive (As if we needed anymore!), but it gets us out of the house, gives us time to talk about absolute crap and is a simple way to relieve stress.

Of course, if she does find out you're on here I think you can kiss goodbye any chance of rekindling that intimacy, so I would advise severe caution here... I don't think Fab is the answer. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Original poster: Feel free to send me a private message if you want to talk more about your situation.

I'm not a shrink, or a healthcare professional but happy to talk things over in private on here if you want.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Bromide - or wank a lot more. Z

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Hi well I've turned to google and it gives you a million and one ideas but trusting my fab members I turn to you

I've a ridiculous high sex drive and live in a sexless marriage. I'm bouncing off the wall seriously and my wife does not care at all for any form of intimacy.

My post is not some random attempt to get some attention or swipes from other members about being on here but to try and reduce my sex drive. There must be a easy way, I've sex sex sex on the brain at work every where.

Gutted so please post or message me with some sound advise

Lee"

get a divorce..that will sort it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get the wife to kick you in the knackers around 9PM.

Should sort it out till morning, when another swift kick will work till you get home.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Bromide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you should try to revive your sexlife with your wife, sit down and talk to her find out what or why she don't want sex, try to talk about fantasys ect she must have a spark in there somewhere, tell her you are frustrated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put your knackers in a vice that will take the urge away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi well I've turned to google and it gives you a million and one ideas but trusting my fab members I turn to you

I've a ridiculous high sex drive and live in a sexless marriage. I'm bouncing off the wall seriously and my wife does not care at all for any form of intimacy.

My post is not some random attempt to get some attention or swipes from other members about being on here but to try and reduce my sex drive. There must be a easy way, I've sex sex sex on the brain at work every where.

Gutted so please post or message me with some sound advise

Lee"

Bromide in your tea? It used to work for guys in the army n I assume leaves no long term effects. Other than that TIME will eventually decrease yr libido!

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

FFS. Just have a wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you happy together in other ways?

Or just going through the motions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you happy together in other ways?

Or just going through the motions?

"

Very good question for him. I know a number of retired couples who have stayed together because they were used to each other and didn't want to risk being single who have ended up being stuck with someone they've grown to dislike over the decades who they now can't afford to leave due to pensions etc.

Is the OP in that potential situation? I don't know, only he can decide that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marry my ex wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I am very anti "staying together for the kids".Its all very well trying to make do for the sake of others but at the end of the day its YOUR life and if sex is extremely important to you(as it is me),then it may be that you are just not meant for each other any more.

And staying together for financial reasons or because of fear of being alone is not good either.

We come in to the world alone and we die alone.

Look after and be kind to others yes,but not at your own expense!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FFS. Just have a wank. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u cant..

my partner is high and I mean high I can't match it her last fb couldnt either

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

If she is on the pill, get her off it. For some women it works like hitting an "off" switch !

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh good point about the pill...also try this if she is on the injection or implant for contraception!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly I think it's safe to say there is nothing wrong with you. Having a high sex drive is a good and healthy thing.

If you really want to focus it in another area other than sex, then I'd say go hit up the gym 5 days a week... Even then, you'll still want sex though... possibly not as much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she is on the pill, get her off it. For some women it works like hitting an "off" switch !

Jane x"

Good point, although speaking to the doctor and maybe changing to a different type might be safer than just dropping the pill.

Regardless, councilling and speaking to a professional are vital if they want to make the relationship work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If she is on the pill, get her off it. For some women it works like hitting an "off" switch !

Jane x

Good point, although speaking to the doctor and maybe changing to a different type might be safer than just dropping the pill.

Regardless, councilling and speaking to a professional are vital if they want to make the relationship work."
will mention it again, even said I will have the snip...

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By *cEvil and BlueangelCouple
over a year ago

Co Durham

I never wanted sex with my ex husband....he reconed I was fridgid.

Truth is I just didnt fancy him anymore.

Just a thought OP

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By *andykissesWoman
over a year ago

laugharne

I had a really high one aswell even went to drs abt it and she told me to get a bloke with a high sex drive. Then i got depression and the tablets have now killed my sex drive. Im lucky if i want sex twice a month now

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Take up long distance running or some other tough sport?

I trained quite hard for a marathon in early 2012 and my libido definitely went down. I think it lowers your testosterone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as folk being born with high sex drive its just about lust. If you for example get depressed in some not all cases libido fades.

In essence its all in the mind.

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

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I have had a great idea!

Make a pass at any woman who catches your eye. Either you will get a shag, or a kick in a the knackers, which will dampen the old libido somewhat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have had a great idea!

Make a pass at any woman who catches your eye. Either you will get a shag, or a kick in a the knackers, which will dampen the old libido somewhat"
lol good reply mate like this one

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"Hi well I've turned to google and it gives you a million and one ideas but trusting my fab members I turn to you

I've a ridiculous high sex drive and live in a sexless marriage. I'm bouncing off the wall seriously and my wife does not care at all for any form of intimacy.

My post is not some random attempt to get some attention or swipes from other members about being on here but to try and reduce my sex drive. There must be a easy way, I've sex sex sex on the brain at work every where.

Gutted so please post or message me with some sound advise

Lee"

Best bet? Tell her. Tell her you NEED sexual intimacy. Tell her she knew you needed that when you married each other and that she has restricted a basic need you have. Everyone is entitled to that. And I think if she doesn't care, she needs to realise that you need to find it elsewhere ... and would rather do it with her blessing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi well I've turned to google and it gives you a million and one ideas but trusting my fab members I turn to you

I've a ridiculous high sex drive and live in a sexless marriage. I'm bouncing off the wall seriously and my wife does not care at all for any form of intimacy.

My post is not some random attempt to get some attention or swipes from other members about being on here but to try and reduce my sex drive. There must be a easy way, I've sex sex sex on the brain at work every where.

Gutted so please post or message me with some sound advise

Lee

Best bet? Tell her. Tell her you NEED sexual intimacy. Tell her she knew you needed that when you married each other and that she has restricted a basic need you have. Everyone is entitled to that. And I think if she doesn't care, she needs to realise that you need to find it elsewhere ... and would rather do it with her blessing."
but if I do this its almost like begging or even worse forcing her to do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi well I've turned to google and it gives you a million and one ideas but trusting my fab members I turn to you

I've a ridiculous high sex drive and live in a sexless marriage. I'm bouncing off the wall seriously and my wife does not care at all for any form of intimacy.

My post is not some random attempt to get some attention or swipes from other members about being on here but to try and reduce my sex drive. There must be a easy way, I've sex sex sex on the brain at work every where.

Gutted so please post or message me with some sound advise

Lee

Best bet? Tell her. Tell her you NEED sexual intimacy. Tell her she knew you needed that when you married each other and that she has restricted a basic need you have. Everyone is entitled to that. And I think if she doesn't care, she needs to realise that you need to find it elsewhere ... and would rather do it with her blessing."
but if I do this its almost like begging or even worse forcing her to do it

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Hi well I've turned to google and it gives you a million and one ideas but trusting my fab members I turn to you

I've a ridiculous high sex drive and live in a sexless marriage. I'm bouncing off the wall seriously and my wife does not care at all for any form of intimacy.

My post is not some random attempt to get some attention or swipes from other members about being on here but to try and reduce my sex drive. There must be a easy way, I've sex sex sex on the brain at work every where.

Gutted so please post or message me with some sound advise

Lee

Best bet? Tell her. Tell her you NEED sexual intimacy. Tell her she knew you needed that when you married each other and that she has restricted a basic need you have. Everyone is entitled to that. And I think if she doesn't care, she needs to realise that you need to find it elsewhere ... and would rather do it with her blessing. but if I do this its almost like begging or even worse forcing her to do it "

Hi mate. I feel sorry for you but don't give up!

I've been in this situation before. She was never really that bothered. However, I brought it up a few times. I just told her how I felt and how it effected me... I MADE her tell me straight what was wrong. She always fobbed me off at first. When I got her to tell me, I supported her and was sympathetic with her.

My gf was stressed about how she looked and how people portrayed her when she came to my house. But she is a size 8 and has an amazing body... The neighbors aren't arsed about what we do either... I just told her the truth and just supported her.

Now I get it every day! She sometimes asks for it too!

So, make her tell you what's wrong, be sympathetic, tell her how it makes you feel.

I also do other things... Some of them are amazing.

For example... Suprise her! That's always a winner. Another, light candles and make the night about her. Help her put washing out and cook tea. Tell her that you love her... Tell her that she's pretty. Make hee feel wanted. touch her... But in a non sexual way. Trust me, it works!!!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Oh, I must admit though, I did get it originally... Probably once every 10 days or so... The lovey stuff works though! Try it.

I've been getting it every day for about two years now!

What's also weird, the more I pay attention to her, the more she seems to want me... The more I get it, the more I seem to love her. It's odd.... Anyway mate.

Try it! Message me if you like! Good luck!

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Yoy say your wife doesn't want sex at all?

Can you tell us a little more about her, does she work, any kids, medical problems or conditions.?

How long have you been together and has it always been like this?

Have you tried couples councilling or sex therapy? Has she spoken to the doctor?

Do you have any sex at all or just occasionally?

Sorry for the barrage of questions, but we'll be able to advise better if we know a bit more.

Women can lose libido for a lot of reasons from stress, hormones or many other reasons. And of course the less you get the more you want it."

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By *JsPleasureTrainWoman
over a year ago

Gosport

I don't condon fact your married on here. But can kind of understand why.

I personally am single I have always had a high sex drive but recently it's gone through the roof!!

I can play 5-10 times a day!! I'd like to have sex twice or three times daily.... After all most folk get lunch breaks!? Lol...

I can't find any 1 bloke local to match my drive

As for your "condition" there are some medical reasons for higher drive so it maybe worth asking doctor? Even an online dr if u can't face your gp. Failing that consider sexual addiction? Only u know answer there.

Good luck and I hope things work out soon for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly I think it's safe to say there is nothing wrong with you. Having a high sex drive is a good and healthy thing.

If you really want to focus it in another area other than sex, then I'd say go hit up the gym 5 days a week... Even then, you'll still want sex though... possibly not as much?"

Its far from healthy if it is having a major impact on your life and mental wellbeing!

Go and speak to your doctor, could be a hormonal problem or maybe just a phycological one.

As for your wife maybe you need to look at her life better.. A lot of woman loose their sex drive if they are unhappy with their husbands or stressed.

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over a year ago

I sympathise with you mate and am in a similar situation but I haven't had it since December.....2011!

I've tried most of the things suggested but get the same answers no matter what I do "I'm stressed/tired/worried/feel fat". The only thing left is to leave but not sure a sex life is worth missing out on seeing my son grow up for. It's gotten to the point where I've sometimes little interest in her anyway so it's a vicious cycle that I need to break.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, its because your not having any you are constantly thinking about what you are missing out on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be worth checking her birth control I (Faye) had the coil fitted and its lowered mine Alot .

Hope you try the date night idea deffo worth trying and maybe get a sitter who is happy to do late or overnight and get a hotel for u both nothing like a hot bubble bath in a hotel and being kid free to get u in the mood x

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over a year ago


"Might be worth checking her birth control I (Faye) had the coil fitted and its lowered mine Alot .

Hope you try the date night idea deffo worth trying and maybe get a sitter who is happy to do late or overnight and get a hotel for u both nothing like a hot bubble bath in a hotel and being kid free to get u in the mood x "

This is very true hapend to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sympathise with you mate and am in a similar situation but I haven't had it since December.....2011!

I've tried most of the things suggested but get the same answers no matter what I do "I'm stressed/tired/worried/feel fat". The only thing left is to leave but not sure a sex life is worth missing out on seeing my son grow up for. It's gotten to the point where I've

sometimes little interest in her anyway so it's a vicious cycle that I need to break.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, its because your not having any you are constantly thinking about what you are missing out on."

Stick with it dont walk away its hard but there are many different things that influance a womens sex drive whether it be hormonal or just life in general be the best you can be and talk talk talk theres is a saying the less you have it the less you want it the more you have it the more you want it id sugest time away weekends away to talk trust me

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over a year ago

I just dont believe it, be it man or woman to have a high sex drive and to be bouncing off the walls

MASTURBATE

I actually find people who claim a huge sex drive actually mean they want intimate contact

MASTURBATE

I would have to say to my partner also that things arent working, sexual intimacy is paramount to my past/future relationships

I wouldnt shag around though...sorry but thats just me..no matter how frustrated and horny I get...

MASTURBATE

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over a year ago


"I sympathise with you mate and am in a similar situation but I haven't had it since December.....2011!

I've tried most of the things suggested but get the same answers no matter what I do "I'm stressed/tired/worried/feel fat". The only thing left is to leave but not sure a sex life is worth missing out on seeing my son grow up for. It's gotten to the point where I've sometimes little interest in her anyway so it's a vicious cycle that I need to break.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, its because your not having any you are constantly thinking about what you are missing out on."

you will see alot less of your son if your partner finds out about your deception on here..

even your son may turn against you.. and yet here you are claiming this is best :/

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over a year ago


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and yet here you are claiming this is best :/"

I don't understand what you mean by this. Your other points I get and have thought about a lot but you can't turn your urges off!

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over a year ago

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"I just dont believe it, be it man or woman to have a high sex drive and to be bouncing off the walls

MASTURBATE

I actually find people who claim a huge sex drive actually mean they want intimate contact

MASTURBATE

I would have to say to my partner also that things arent working, sexual intimacy is paramount to my past/future relationships

I wouldnt shag around though...sorry but thats just me..no matter how frustrated and horny I get...

MASTURBATE "

What are you trying to suggest?

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over a year ago


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and yet here you are claiming this is best :/

I don't understand what you mean by this. Your other points I get and have thought about a lot but you can't turn your urges off!"

you can go get help...if its THAT bad..which I doubt

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over a year ago


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you can go get help...if its THAT bad..which I doubt"

You should know yourself that having a wank is nothing like the real thing! Out of interest, what's the longest youve gone without if you don't believe you can be "bouncing" off the walls? Not having a pop when I say that. Of course it's partially sexual intimacy but sexual intimacy and sex itself usually go hand in hand for most males.

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over a year ago


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you can go get help...if its THAT bad..which I doubt

You should know yourself that having a wank is nothing like the real thing! Out of interest, what's the longest youve gone without if you don't believe you can be "bouncing" off the walls? Not having a pop when I say that. Of course it's partially sexual intimacy but sexual intimacy and sex itself usually go hand in hand for most males."

I first had sex when i was 20..I never had sex for a few years

its not the same thing having a wank..but I just dont know what shagging a woman will achieve to alleviate constant horn?- like an alcoholic seeking booze to cure themselves is it not????

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over a year ago


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I first had sex when i was 20..I never had sex for a few years

its not the same thing having a wank..but I just dont know what shagging a woman will achieve to alleviate constant horn?- like an alcoholic seeking booze to cure themselves is it not????"

I guess my trouble is that since I'm married, everyday its glaringly obvious to me that I'm not intimate with the person I'm sharing my house, life and family with. To use your alcohol analogy, its like having a house full of your favorite booze but not being allowed to drink any of it.

I

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