FabSwingers.com forum: Messages and profiles getting worse.

By *entenTea OP Couple
10 hours ago

Buckley North Wales

Just a bit of a rant. I know all too well how rough a time single men have of it here. Many have given up trying to send reasonable messages as even those get no responce. But lately it seems like the quality of messages and profiles has declined, significantly so.

There is no hint they have read or comprehended the profiles they are responding to or any attempt to address a couple as a couple. Their own profiles have all the clarity and depth of a Trumpian edict.

We have no desire to block single guys but it seems like the quality of aspirant depravity has degenerated to the point of depressing insipid brevity and banality. We are condemned to be spattered by communicatory smegma of masterbatory mediocrity.

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By *en_Dover79Man
9 hours ago

Oswaldtwistle

"Just a bit of a rant. I know all too well how rough a time single men have of it here. Many have given up trying to send reasonable messages as even those get no responce. But lately it seems like the quality of messages and profiles has declined, significantly so.

Lot of big words in that last chapter haha.

Us single men aren't all the same don't get too down on us

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By *enelope2UWoman
9 hours ago

Fife

I've been ghosted twice this month and it's just the 7th.. it's a shit show

Unless you're fucking for drugs/money/ or to be cum buckets then you stand no chance of being taken seriously on here..

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
9 hours ago

Hoddesdon

We are having this trouble also x

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By *litterbabeWoman
9 hours ago

hiding from cock pics.

I have this kind of narrator that replies (in my head) to the messages that I get, with a lot of sarcasm, and comedy. I never type out these replies but they do make me chuckle.

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By *JCRoseWoman
5 hours ago

Caversham

Totally agree. Then they get funny with you if you reply no thank you or delete messages.

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By *aomilatteCouple
3 hours ago

Midlands

We find the same with messages from couples profiles (though the messages likely come from the Man).

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By *lascple24Couple
2 hours ago

Glasgow

Wife has recently decided to give this up as it was too hard to find people with an element of decorum.

Most guys we met seemed to be straight off a building site and most couples our age seemed to be overweight Wetherspoon types. Nothing like the manners or class of our vanilla friends. There are exceptions but hard to find those.

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By *carlettxWoman
2 hours ago

Essex

I have been on here over 10 years and it it has definitely changed

Personally I feel everyone should have to be photo verified and pay a subscription

I have had some very abusive messages and somewhat frightening experiences from men pretending they are couples or single fems.

Was only this week an account offered to pay me to verify them as real - reported obviously but that’s how fake veris happen and potentially putting people at risk

Live Photo verifying would make it so much safer for the genuine swinging community on here

I would be happy to aid in the vetting process to make it safer for everyone

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By *iGuyForCouplesMan
1 hour ago

Staines

I think this applies to fab in general, not just single guys. I get one word messages from couples like "hi" or "now", look at the profile, no info whatsoever just "will fill this later". I ignore them and then get a follow up message with abuse about being arrogant lier🤣

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By *iGuyForCouplesMan
1 hour ago

Staines

I agree with the photo verification. Every weekend there is suddenly all those new "couples" on my feed where it is always her, looking for a guy for the hubby because she is "away".

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By *anonfire96Man
1 hour ago

Mansfield

I find it so frustrating at times that when you do put the effort into a message ( and I do read the profile before messaging so as to try and pick up on something we have in common) only to it either not being ready, or read and no reply. The latest thing I find to be quite common is to have a perfectly good conversation with someone over a couple of days to then get ghosted without explaining. Yes I know people will bang the drum quoting that we don't have to give any explanation, but I was brought up on manners and politeness, common decency. So your post does go both ways OP . After around 3 plus years and god knows how many unread or deleted messages you just become numb to it. There are some amazing single guys on this platform, but we are unfortunately tarred and feathered by the same brush because of the few.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
1 hour ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

In a way I like bad profiles and messages.

They're a useful filter. It's easy to spot a lack of effort, tap that little block button and ensure they never cross your path again.

It also cuts down on the volume of messages coming in.

If there was a requirement for all to photo verify, have a set number of photos and a minimum profile word count it would be much harder to separate the good from the bad.

Be careful what you wish for......🤷‍♂️

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By *icecouple561Couple
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60 minutes ago

East Sussex

Filters people, filters.

Use them wisely they're there to make your use of the site easier and to allow you some respite from the messages you don't like.

Set your search filters to exclude people you don't want and your mail filters likewise. You can search for profiles you think you might be compatible with and approach them. If you get responses you don't like it's an easy block and your mail box will be much easier to deal with

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By *lusherCouple
58 minutes ago

bodmin

As a bloke who was a bachelor for many years, you get used to rejection. That is ok, the attraction has to be mutual and no one is entitled to your time. I have no time for rude, be it male or female, and I think there Tate attitude is prevelent today.

The guys who do this need a bit of a reality check.

And yes, I do look at some lady's photos and think "I would love to fuck that hard and dirty!" I am a bloke after all

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By *carlettxWoman
58 minutes ago

Essex

"In a way I like bad profiles and messages.

They're a useful filter. It's easy to spot a lack of effort, tap that little block button and ensure they never cross your path again.

It also cuts down on the volume of messages coming in.

If there was a requirement for all to photo verify, have a set number of photos and a minimum profile word count it would be much harder to separate the good from the bad.

Be careful what you wish for......🤷‍♂️"

With the very greatest of respect it is very different to filter messages when you are a man compared to a woman’s profile

I currently have 2970 unreads in my inbox. I would guess at least a third are pointless / fake profiles / chancer profiles but trying to reply or simply read all is impossible to find the genuine ones

Rather than be careful what we wish for I think we all actually do wish for it ….

Surely safety is paramount ?

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By *anonfire96Man
39 minutes ago

Mansfield

You are absolutely correct, a person's safety is the most important thing on this site. My last meet was so nervous even after wed been meeting for a couple of months, I kept saying, if you don't trust me just don't come with me. I always say with every meeting, even if we are mid sex if you or I say no stop then it stops immediately and I take you home. No question asked.

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By *harAndBryCouple
20 minutes ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"We find the same with messages from couples profiles (though the messages likely come from the Man)."

Absolutely this. Probably 70% of the messages we get from single guys are one word, no profile. With couples it's more like 95%.

(Bry)

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By *rpeggioCouple
8 minutes ago

Baughurst

"I have been on here over 10 years and it it has definitely changed

Personally I feel everyone should have to be photo verified and pay a subscription

I have had some very abusive messages and somewhat frightening experiences from men pretending they are couples or single fems.

Was only this week an account offered to pay me to verify them as real - reported obviously but that’s how fake veris happen and potentially putting people at risk

Live Photo verifying would make it so much safer for the genuine swinging community on here

I would be happy to aid in the vetting process to make it safer for everyone "

The problems you mention are all happening but need different solutions to each.

For example, no point to photo verify single male accounts: no couple or woman is going to pretend to be a male. But It may help with preventing uploading fake photos pretending they are more attractive than reality.

And even if they were photo verified, and they pay to subscribe, the quality of their messages would still be the same awful.

Or should we assume that once verified and paid these men and couples and women will suddenly become all Shakespeares and poets?

Not opposed to your ideas Scarlett, just questioning if they would actually help at all with the quality of communication in Fab, which is poor on average.

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By *rpeggioCouple
2 minutes ago

Baughurst

"We find the same with messages from couples profiles (though the messages likely come from the Man).

Absolutely this. Probably 70% of the messages we get from single guys are one word, no profile. With couples it's more like 95%.

(Bry)"

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Lol. I guess the one words are Hi Hello, "Fuck?" etc etc. Any funny ones? Any weird ones?

Reading your "one word" comment made me think of an angry Father Jack (Father Ted) browsing on Fab and messaging women and couples... "Fuck!", "Arse!", "Tits!".

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