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"What's wrong with a bit of performance? Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, it's supposed to be fun. If aliens don't exist as far as we know we're the only species in existence for whom the act of procreation is enjoyable so why the hell not enjoy the damn thing? perform for each other, have fun, have a laugh. " Think there's other mammals that fuck for pleasure, think dolphins are one that springs to mind, but don't quote. Not to mention the other ape species. | |||
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"Hey all just wondering about a problem I have, I've been seeing this girl for a bit now doesn't know I'm on here however we talked about sex one day and she said that she just likes normal sex(me on top and that it) and thinks anything else is just a performance..I didn't know ow what to say so just agreed how do I bring up that I'd want more that just me on top "Your mistake was that you "just agreed" with her in the first place. Your obviously dissatisfied and should have talked about it and found out why she had that outlook. If you say anything now she's likely to ask why you've never said anything about it before, which could put you on the back foot and make things awkward depending how deep your feelings are for her. If something not right for you it's always best to sort things out in the early stages of a relationship before getting in too deep. Lifes too short for living in a relationship your not happy in or a partner you can't be honest with. | |||
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"Hey all just wondering about a problem I have, I've been seeing this girl for a bit now doesn't know I'm on here however we talked about sex one day and she said that she just likes normal sex(me on top and that it) and thinks anything else is just a performance..I didn't know ow what to say so just agreed how do I bring up that I'd want more that just me on top
Your mistake was that you "just agreed" with her in the first place. Your obviously dissatisfied and should have talked about it and found out why she had that outlook. If you say anything now she's likely to ask why you've never said anything about it before, which could put you on the back foot and make things awkward depending how deep your feelings are for her. If something not right for you it's always best to sort things out in the early stages of a relationship before getting in too deep. Lifes too short for living in a relationship your not happy in or a partner you can't be honest with. "Not sure if I agree with that entirely, I think it's never too late to try rectify a situation and there's always something that will be highlighted over the years of knowing another that you didn't have to raise before. | |||
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"Hey all just wondering about a problem I have, I've been seeing this girl for a bit now doesn't know I'm on here however we talked about sex one day and she said that she just likes normal sex(me on top and that it) and thinks anything else is just a performance..I didn't know ow what to say so just agreed how do I bring up that I'd want more that just me on top
Your mistake was that you "just agreed" with her in the first place. Your obviously dissatisfied and should have talked about it and found out why she had that outlook. If you say anything now she's likely to ask why you've never said anything about it before, which could put you on the back foot and make things awkward depending how deep your feelings are for her. If something not right for you it's always best to sort things out in the early stages of a relationship before getting in too deep. Lifes too short for living in a relationship your not happy in or a partner you can't be honest with.
Not sure if I agree with that entirely, I think it's never too late to try rectify a situation and there's always something that will be highlighted over the years of knowing another that you didn't have to raise before. "Well I've been in a 3 way relationship for the last 13 years and with my longest term partner for 40. All 3 get along great, no problems at all and we put that down to total honesty and sorting any potential problems out at the get go. It's worked for us, honesty is definitely the best policy in any relationship. As I said before, lifes too short to live a lie. | |||
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"In my experience setting out on an ideally permanent relationship where there is a fundamental sexual incompatibility is a fools errand. It will come back to bite you later no matter how lovely the person is. Trust me, been there. " Agreed | |||
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"In my experience setting out on an ideally permanent relationship where there is a fundamental sexual incompatibility is a fools errand. It will come back to bite you later no matter how lovely the person is. Trust me, been there. " This is sooo true, you either need to discuss this with her or move on. You will not be truly happy if your not honest with yourself. Does she like foreplay?? Could you bring in a game and start with something different that way? But in all honesty of she just wants to lay on her back and not do anything that is not fun for anyone long term. | |||
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"What's wrong with a bit of performance? Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, it's supposed to be fun. If aliens don't exist as far as we know we're the only species in existence for whom the act of procreation is enjoyable so why the hell not enjoy the damn thing? perform for each other, have fun, have a laugh. Think there's other mammals that fuck for pleasure, think dolphins are one that springs to mind, but don't quote. Not to mention the other ape species. " Fair enough. The point being sex is supposed to be fun for everyone involved, y'know? Play, perform, laugh. This woman's complaining that anything but missionary is a performance, THAT'S THE POINT! It's been decades since women were expected to lie there and take it. Sexual incompatibility is a huge red flag to me honestly. If only missionary satisfies her, fair play to her, many women don't even get that much, but it's supposed to be good for both of them and if his needs aren't being met, move on so they can both find someone they're more compatible with. | |||
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