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By *crewfix OP   Man
23 weeks ago

Braintree

Hi,

I’m looking to attended a club at some point. I hope that with this thread it’s possible for me to go there knowing what should be expected of me as a single man in a club. Obviously I wouldn’t be going with the expectation of getting my end away straight away but equally I don’t want to be stood in the corner watching. I would be more then happy to have a conversion with a female or couple at most but I don’t want to come across the wrong way

I see from some threads that some guys can be pushy and expect everything so this makes me feel uneasy about myself going however would love the chance to atleast experience it.

Is I the case that no couples would even entertain a single bloke because of this?

What is the right way to go about it all at a club.

Any help would be massively appreciated in advance

Much love

AJ x

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By *bitofaslutWoman
23 weeks ago

Cannock

Make an effort.

Shit, shower, shave. A nice suit and good shoes, clean fresh boxer briefs.

Don't expect to play first time, try to become at least semi regular - enough to be recognised. Have a look at the club ads and see if there's a VIP list or chat group.

Just be friendly but not creepy. Talk to the face not the tits. You're gonna see body parts that turn you on and you're gonna see body parts that don't. It's just skin, don't stare, don't gawp, just be chill.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
23 weeks ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Have a mooch of the forums too as lots of other threads on this subject

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By *crewfix OP   Man
23 weeks ago

Braintree

I did see that after I posted this. Was going to delete it but didn’t see the harm in keeping it 😄

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By *crewfix OP   Man
23 weeks ago

Braintree

I see someone say don’t be a wanking zombie 😂 that’s something I mainly want to avoid. I want to be involved but not to the full extent. I’m happy to chat and get to know rather then asking for a shag on day dot.

Is that something that appeals to people just chatting or would they avoid that and go to the regulars straight away?

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By *irsSubCouple
23 weeks ago

Darlington

Nearly Everytime we go to a club we are happy to play with single guys, however 90% don't have a clue how to get it. If youre respectful, chat in the non play areas and avoid walking around the play areas being predatory there is good chance you will find someone to play with.

Timing also plays a part, interrupting our play to ask to join in will almost always end up with us saying "no thanks", chat to us before hand in the bar then there's a good chance we would invite you to play (as long as there is some attraction there).

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By *immyTaylorMan
23 weeks ago

leeds

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By *irsSubCouple
23 weeks ago

Darlington


"I see someone say don’t be a wanking zombie 😂 that’s something I mainly want to avoid. I want to be involved but not to the full extent. I’m happy to chat and get to know rather then asking for a shag on day dot.

Is that something that appeals to people just chatting or would they avoid that and go to the regulars straight away? "

As a couple we don't really think of there being "regulars" just single guys who know what to do and ones that don't. There are people we've encountered multiple times who we see as creepy and would never play with

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By *lowercandyWoman
23 weeks ago

Lancashire


"I see someone say don’t be a wanking zombie 😂 that’s something I mainly want to avoid. I want to be involved but not to the full extent. I’m happy to chat and get to know rather then asking for a shag on day dot.

Is that something that appeals to people just chatting or would they avoid that and go to the regulars straight away? "

The social side is a big thing at clubs because the lounge areas are basically a slightly naughty pub

I talk to loads of people in club lounges

Doesn't mean I'm looking for more

Most conversations start with a smile, pass the ice or a compliment

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By *cottish guy 555Man
23 weeks ago

London


"Nearly Everytime we go to a club we are happy to play with single guys, however 90% don't have a clue how to get it. If youre respectful, chat in the non play areas and avoid walking around the play areas being predatory there is good chance you will find someone to play with.

Timing also plays a part, interrupting our play to ask to join in will almost always end up with us saying "no thanks", chat to us before hand in the bar then there's a good chance we would invite you to play (as long as there is some attraction there). "

What they said.

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By *ddie7XXXMan
23 weeks ago

wigan

make a effort look good smell nice be polite best to chat in the bar area first to get to know people don’t go with the impression that you will be hooking up with anyone just go looking to make new friends. It is hard as a single guy in clubs as it is off putting when a lot for lads are just hanging around

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By *crewfix OP   Man
23 weeks ago

Braintree

[Removed by poster at 05/02/25 16:11:01]

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By *crewfix OP   Man
23 weeks ago

Braintree


"I see someone say don’t be a wanking zombie 😂 that’s something I mainly want to avoid. I want to be involved but not to the full extent. I’m happy to chat and get to know rather then asking for a shag on day dot.

Is that something that appeals to people just chatting or would they avoid that and go to the regulars straight away?

The social side is a big thing at clubs because the lounge areas are basically a slightly naughty pub

I talk to loads of people in club lounges

Doesn't mean I'm looking for more

Most conversations start with a smile, pass the ice or a compliment

Okay I didn’t realise there was a softer side to the clubs for chats. That’s ideal! thanks x

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By *iss DevilWoman
23 weeks ago

Bedford


"Nearly Everytime we go to a club we are happy to play with single guys, however 90% don't have a clue how to get it. If youre respectful, chat in the non play areas and avoid walking around the play areas being predatory there is good chance you will find someone to play with.

Timing also plays a part, interrupting our play to ask to join in will almost always end up with us saying "no thanks", chat to us before hand in the bar then there's a good chance we would invite you to play (as long as there is some attraction there). "

Exactly this! It's too late to get my attention when I'm already in the middle of a play as all I want to concentrate on then is getting as much pleasure from the play as I can, and giving pleasure to the person/people I am already playing with.

My rule is, if I am not good enough to someone to chat to me away from play areas, they are no good for me in the play areas.

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By *andystick72Man
23 weeks ago

kinky Street

Walk in the club ,swing your cock around ,slap it in the face of a few women you can't go wrong

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By *oiluvfunMan
23 weeks ago

Penrith

The golden rule for solo guys in clubs is; go with a female friend

I guarantee you will feel more welcome as the male half of a couple, than you will ever be as a guy on his own. I speak from my personal experiences of 9 clubs up and down the country

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