FabSwingers.com forum: Doing it wrong or unattractive

By *oneybadgermeu69 OP Man
23 weeks ago

hull

Need some help with my profile, not sure if I'm doing it wrong or I'm simply not attractive, it's been a while!

Any feedback welcome!

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By *ust jizzMan
23 weeks ago

stockport

I don’t think you’re either unattractive or doing it wrong. It’s just a difficult marketplace for the guy looking for ladies. Patience and honesty I suspect is key

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
23 weeks ago

Durham

Couple of minor things with your profile, 1 is easy to change but the other may not be.

Your pics are all very similar, and some aren't the greatest quality. Try adding some different style pics, that aren't just if your torso and cock.

The other one is that you're a single guy who is unable to accommodate. It may not be the case with you, and there's no judgement on it, but this usually means it's a married/attached guy looking to play away. It's off-putting for some, who won't want to take the risk of a scorned partner finding out

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By *harAndBryCouple
23 weeks ago

Downham Market

"Need some help with my profile, not sure if I'm doing it wrong or I'm simply not attractive, it's been a while!

Any feedback welcome!"

The first pic is a dick pic, never a good sign. Then all the other pics are the same. Uninspiring and nothing to make you stand out among the 30/40 messages we might get on an average day, sorry.

(Bry)

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By *allySlinkyWoman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

"Looking to pleasure a lucky lady" seems a bit arrogant to me

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By *ager 2 PleaseMan
23 weeks ago

Birmingham/midlands

Hi fella, same here, I wasn’t appealing, with far too many dick pics, even ones taken in the bathroom when I started, a big no no.

But the best way for a guy to do this, at least a really good way that gets you friends to chat with and play, is to find a club.

It’s much better to show your personality in person, and not through dick pics and cheesey chat up lines.

I’ve had more meets and chats from being approachable in a club than any from the flooded space of fab. If there’s a club nearby, get yourself down there.

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By *oneybadgermeu69 OP Man
23 weeks ago

hull

Thank you for the feedback will take on board

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
23 weeks ago

London

Your photos aren't great, I'd recommend normal ones where you're dressed nicely and not in a public bathroom. The men that do best here are the ones that treat their profile like you would a public dating one - with maybe a couple of ones showing off your body. Obviously depends who you're looking for.

The other thing is you're a single guy so you need to be prepared that for every 1000 very well crafted messages you send to people who are looking for someone exactly like you, you will get 1 response.

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By *emonMissileMan
23 weeks ago

Somewhere

Would love a female critique of my profile

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By *lowercandyWoman
23 weeks ago

Lancashire

"Need some help with my profile, not sure if I'm doing it wrong or I'm simply not attractive, it's been a while!

Any feedback welcome!"

Relaxed until I'm in the mood!?! Wtf does that mean. What do you turn into!

Photos definitely need a few more good quality ones on public view.

Blurb... It's just...

You can improve it

But definitely get to some social events (check the forums)

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By *lowercandyWoman
23 weeks ago

Lancashire

"Would love a female critique of my profile

You had a verification in January 2025

Not sure what you want help on

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By *lusherCouple
23 weeks ago

bodmin

I think it is really hard to sell yourself. Try to find a bit of honesty in each line. The profile is cold and no personal warmth. The fact that you asked for feedback suggests this is not a very good depiction of you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Central

I can't see how attractive you are OP.

But we'll only be attractive to an almost infinitesimally tiny fraction of people, when they are able to see and assess you for attraction. Plus you have to be mutually compatible, with interests, preferences, etc.

If you are potentially attractive, you will not be the only one who is. They may prefer the others.

Take the onus as it being your responsibility to do something about it, as much as you potentially can. Use the guidance available to let us know and assess how attractive you are. Meet and engage with us ,- get to clubs and socials.

And make sure your expectations are realistic.

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
23 weeks ago

Gillingham

We get so many guys message us and we ignore so many because they simply don't stand out.

First of all make your profile picture really stand out, face pics always help on that but if you are trying to be discreet, then have something that makes you look alluring, approachable, mysterious and above all respectable and clean. (A nice suit can help with this). Dick pics as a profile pic is an instant ignore for us so don't be tempted to do that.

Have plenty of photos too, from different angles.

Next I would re-write that profile, it can be help judge the type of character you are, at the moment it's riddled with grammatical mistakes and kinda doesn't say much about you. For example you say you're up for either nsa or regular...well that covers everything so pointless putting it in.

Be creative, write about yourself, what your boundaries are. The sort of people you're looking for. And also don't say face pics available. That should be included in messages early on to avoid wasting time.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"Need some help with my profile, not sure if I'm doing it wrong or I'm simply not attractive, it's been a while!

Any feedback welcome!"

Prolly a bit of both

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By *enelope2UWoman
23 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Your profile is a walking red flag of... typical lies to get sex...

You aren't consistent in a single aspect of what you're seeking, not seeking and are just chunking words about hoping they stick to something..

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By *ACOLCouple
23 weeks ago

Limerick

Time to hit the socials, 4 months and no verifications, one wonders if you are real.

Lina.

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By *rDJ40Man
23 weeks ago

Nuneaton

Best thing I ever did was go to organised socials and clubs, made some amazing friends, had some unbelievable experiences and even met my future wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

For Me the opening conversation Is really important , if the opening line catches my eye , I then check the pics and bio , be interesting ...I only had two real conversations on here yesterday ,one from an older gent and one with an older couple ...neither would have caught my eye in the slightest by their pics , but both were really witty and charming ....and I started to think " I wonder " somewhere into the chat ... everyone different though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"Time to hit the socials, 4 months and no verifications, one wonders if you are real.

Lina."

So to confirm. Anyone who has no verifications or decides not to share them could be a fake?

Interesting as that will most could be

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By *enAdams87Man
23 weeks ago

Bradford

You need to aim to stand out, single women get bombarded with messages so you could be 1 of 300+ that has messaged that day. Don’t take it to heart.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Look to othe successful male profiles. What are they doing that you are not.

You get what you put in and you have to work at networking.

Local socials events clubs. Attend regular. Get seen for the right reasons.

Online, forums, chat rooms. Get seen for the right reasons.

Once you get known and get you first few verifications.

You'll become a trusted individual.

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By *harAndBryCouple
23 weeks ago

Downham Market

"So to confirm. Anyone who has no verifications or decides not to share them could be a fake?

Interesting as that will most could be

No, but in five years of doing this, the two most common denominators among our no-shows have been distance and lack of meets verifications.

(Bry)

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