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By *ature male Oldham OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

Looking for serious advice only...I'm looking to meet a couple for MMF.. best place to meet ?

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

On here you're 1 in probably 30k.

In a club you have far better odds.

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By *ature male Oldham OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham


"On here you're 1 in probably 30k.

In a club you have far better odds. "

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By *udandBryanCouple
5 weeks ago

Boston

A club, as many of us will no longer meet men privately

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By *ature male Oldham OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

Thanks

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By *ill Hill FunseekersCouple
5 weeks ago

london

We joined up here with the eventual aim of going to clubs, meeting and getting to know other couples and then see what happens thereafter.

As time went on we’ve met up with a few couples that we’ve met on holiday on the nude beach or in various bars. The club idea has been pushed back for now.

We’ve enjoyed what we’ve done so far and don’t want to take it further. We know what we want. C

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By *iss KinkWoman
5 weeks ago

North West

Deffo a club

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By *dquestCouple
5 weeks ago

Peterborough

Club

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Central

Wherever/however is still going to depend on the mutual compatibility, especially whether they pick you, or another single man instead.

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By *orny PTMan
5 weeks ago

Peterborough

Decadence is around the corner from you, so give that a try.

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By *oiluvfunMan
5 weeks ago

Penrith

You can (as a solo guy), meet couples in clubs, but you are restricted to the times solo guys are ‘allowed’ entry to clubs, and usually pay a gender-biased fee for the pleasure. Once inside, unless you have visited a few times previously, and been ‘accepted’ by the regulars, you may be fortunate enough to meet a friendly couple genuinely interested in getting to know a solo guy. Although, in my experience, that was rarely the case in the club scene…..

You can use Fab completely free of charge, and at any time, 24 hours per day, 7 days per week. You can message anyone you think might make a great connection, and there will always be more choice in here than in a club. There’s never any of that “We’re not interested in solo guys” in here either, as those couples not looking for single guys will have them blocked…..

Clubs are for couples, leave them to it

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By *ot workman 88Man
5 weeks ago

Colchester

My experience it's so much better for a guy in a club especially if it's invite only

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By *harAndBryCouple
5 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Looking for serious advice only...I'm looking to meet a couple for MMF.. best place to meet ? "

If you just want to meet a couple from the choice of about twenty, have a drink and maybe fifteen minutes of sex, then a club is going to *probably* be easier.

If you want to meet specific couples, spend time chatting and getting to know them, probably spend an hour or so in the bedroom with maybe some banter and a drink afterwards, then a home meet night before better.

They're very different things and different couples prefer different things.

(Bry)

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By *irsSubCouple
5 weeks ago

Darlington

*top tip*

Chose and a club and night that suits. In the 48 hours prior to going check the club meets section and look out for couples who are planning to attend said club and check if they meet with single guys. If they do send them a nice message explaining you will be attending too and also include a face pic. Whilst it won't guarantee a meet it's probably got the best odds.

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By *oiluvfunMan
5 weeks ago

Penrith


"My experience it's so much better for a guy in a club especially if it's invite only "

Invite-only events for guys aged 25-45? Great these work for you, but no good for myself or the OP....

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By *tagge_fyxeCouple
5 weeks ago

Yorkshire

We’re only looking for single guys or guys from couples who play alone when we go to clubs. We usually try and stick to hot wife/stag&vixen type events which don’t happen that often. We’ve had more success on here.

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By *aughty-oneMan
5 weeks ago

Nazeing


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If you just want to meet a couple from the choice of about twenty, have a drink and maybe fifteen minutes of sex, then a club is going to *probably* be easier.

If you want to meet specific couples, spend time chatting and getting to know them, probably spend an hour or so in the bedroom with maybe some banter and a drink afterwards, then a home meet night before better.

They're very different things and different couples prefer different things.

(Bry)"

This is quite possibly the most accurate and honest answer that you’ll find on this site.

Sure going to a club does lower the potential odds for success but it can also make you feel more defeated if your night out ends with more rejection than actual action, but also by having real in person interactions, you are much more likely to be able to work the charm with people.

If you are browsing the site for profiles that you feel attracted to then you could be facing a uphill battle and more difficult choices as it’s really hard to get replies from messages as a single guy that is hidden behind a poorly written message and a very questionable photograph.

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By *irty_little_blondeWoman
5 weeks ago

your bed

I’d say club

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By *oiluvfunMan
4 weeks ago

Penrith


"

If you just want to meet a couple from the choice of about twenty, have a drink and maybe fifteen minutes of sex, then a club is going to *probably* be easier.

If you want to meet specific couples, spend time chatting and getting to know them, probably spend an hour or so in the bedroom with maybe some banter and a drink afterwards, then a home meet night before better.

They're very different things and different couples prefer different things.

(Bry)

This is quite possibly the most accurate and honest answer that you’ll find on this site.

Sure going to a club does lower the potential odds for success but it can also make you feel more defeated if your night out ends with more rejection than actual action, but also by having real in person interactions, you are much more likely to be able to work the charm with people.

If you are browsing the site for profiles that you feel attracted to then you could be facing a uphill battle and more difficult choices as it’s really hard to get replies from messages as a single guy that is hidden behind a poorly written message and a very questionable photograph."

I would far rather prefer an unanswered message in here, than the eyes rolling, snappy response of “We’re not looking for single guys!”, or worse; being completely blanked as you make an approach in a club (yes, it’s actually happened to me)…..

Clubs are for couples, leave them to it

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By * and BCouple
4 weeks ago

Durham


"

If you just want to meet a couple from the choice of about twenty, have a drink and maybe fifteen minutes of sex, then a club is going to *probably* be easier.

If you want to meet specific couples, spend time chatting and getting to know them, probably spend an hour or so in the bedroom with maybe some banter and a drink afterwards, then a home meet night before better.

They're very different things and different couples prefer different things.

(Bry)

This is quite possibly the most accurate and honest answer that you’ll find on this site.

Sure going to a club does lower the potential odds for success but it can also make you feel more defeated if your night out ends with more rejection than actual action, but also by having real in person interactions, you are much more likely to be able to work the charm with people.

If you are browsing the site for profiles that you feel attracted to then you could be facing a uphill battle and more difficult choices as it’s really hard to get replies from messages as a single guy that is hidden behind a poorly written message and a very questionable photograph.

I would far rather prefer an unanswered message in here, than the eyes rolling, snappy response of “We’re not looking for single guys!”, or worse; being completely blanked as you make an approach in a club (yes, it’s actually happened to me)…..

Clubs are for couples, leave them to it "

We've met some great single guys in clubs. Negativity gets you nowhere. Guys with a positive outlook generate a great persona in clubs. As a couple we've been blanked by people in clubs but we don't take it personal, it's just life. Maybe the OP will love them if he tries a club, so hopefully he doesn't take your advice but more so the advice of 'go to a club' be sure to try and chat with people not just walk around smiling at them. Stop and talk to folk, it only needs to be small talk for first contact. Leave the folk alone who say we don't want to chat as we are not looking for men. In our opinion couples will still chat even if they don't want a single guy but will tell you from the off. Yes some are that ignorant and not speak but that's the filter in clubs for people you wouldn't want to interact with. Enjoy your journey OP

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By *iss KinkWoman
4 weeks ago

North West


"

If you just want to meet a couple from the choice of about twenty, have a drink and maybe fifteen minutes of sex, then a club is going to *probably* be easier.

If you want to meet specific couples, spend time chatting and getting to know them, probably spend an hour or so in the bedroom with maybe some banter and a drink afterwards, then a home meet night before better.

They're very different things and different couples prefer different things.

(Bry)

This is quite possibly the most accurate and honest answer that you’ll find on this site.

Sure going to a club does lower the potential odds for success but it can also make you feel more defeated if your night out ends with more rejection than actual action, but also by having real in person interactions, you are much more likely to be able to work the charm with people.

If you are browsing the site for profiles that you feel attracted to then you could be facing a uphill battle and more difficult choices as it’s really hard to get replies from messages as a single guy that is hidden behind a poorly written message and a very questionable photograph.

I would far rather prefer an unanswered message in here, than the eyes rolling, snappy response of “We’re not looking for single guys!”, or worse; being completely blanked as you make an approach in a club (yes, it’s actually happened to me)…..

Clubs are for couples, leave them to it

We've met some great single guys in clubs. Negativity gets you nowhere. Guys with a positive outlook generate a great persona in clubs. As a couple we've been blanked by people in clubs but we don't take it personal, it's just life. Maybe the OP will love them if he tries a club, so hopefully he doesn't take your advice but more so the advice of 'go to a club' be sure to try and chat with people not just walk around smiling at them. Stop and talk to folk, it only needs to be small talk for first contact. Leave the folk alone who say we don't want to chat as we are not looking for men. In our opinion couples will still chat even if they don't want a single guy but will tell you from the off. Yes some are that ignorant and not speak but that's the filter in clubs for people you wouldn't want to interact with. Enjoy your journey OP "

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By *oiluvfunMan
4 weeks ago

Penrith


"

If you just want to meet a couple from the choice of about twenty, have a drink and maybe fifteen minutes of sex, then a club is going to *probably* be easier.

If you want to meet specific couples, spend time chatting and getting to know them, probably spend an hour or so in the bedroom with maybe some banter and a drink afterwards, then a home meet night before better.

They're very different things and different couples prefer different things.

(Bry)

This is quite possibly the most accurate and honest answer that you’ll find on this site.

Sure going to a club does lower the potential odds for success but it can also make you feel more defeated if your night out ends with more rejection than actual action, but also by having real in person interactions, you are much more likely to be able to work the charm with people.

If you are browsing the site for profiles that you feel attracted to then you could be facing a uphill battle and more difficult choices as it’s really hard to get replies from messages as a single guy that is hidden behind a poorly written message and a very questionable photograph.

I would far rather prefer an unanswered message in here, than the eyes rolling, snappy response of “We’re not looking for single guys!”, or worse; being completely blanked as you make an approach in a club (yes, it’s actually happened to me)…..

Clubs are for couples, leave them to it

We've met some great single guys in clubs. Negativity gets you nowhere. Guys with a positive outlook generate a great persona in clubs. As a couple we've been blanked by people in clubs but we don't take it personal, it's just life. Maybe the OP will love them if he tries a club, so hopefully he doesn't take your advice but more so the advice of 'go to a club' be sure to try and chat with people not just walk around smiling at them. Stop and talk to folk, it only needs to be small talk for first contact. Leave the folk alone who say we don't want to chat as we are not looking for men. In our opinion couples will still chat even if they don't want a single guy but will tell you from the off. Yes some are that ignorant and not speak but that's the filter in clubs for people you wouldn't want to interact with. Enjoy your journey OP "

Such a shame you blanked me the night we were in TH lol! But then; a single guy, sat by himself on a bar stool? Who approaches them......?

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By *r SensualMan
4 weeks ago

London


"Looking for serious advice only...I'm looking to meet a couple for MMF.. best place to meet ? "

A club is the best place to sew the seed, to make that first interaction, have that conversation etc etc. may lead to sex on the night. If not, follow up post club, continue to be engaging and stimulating and you can look to arrange something in a more private setting.

Ignore all the negativity that’s spewed on here about men “not being welcome” at clubs as quite frankly it’s a crock of sh*t. Rock up with ya game face on, ready to approach those who catch your eye with confidence, respect and a positive outlook and you’ll be sound as a pound.

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By *enelope2UWoman
4 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

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By *enelope2UWoman
4 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

With your eyes closed...

most don't want to do any effort so unless you are a typical mold of....fit,tall, age range, hung, hot, cute, smells nice, dresses nice, great teeth, see them at the perfect opportunity encounter, are semi hard at first sighting, can throw a smile that doesn't seem cheesy, confident , assured, but don't come off as the desperate club scene type to the equally desperate couple that fits the same mold.... it's unlikely to happen.

If you had a legitimate regular fck buddy with an equally regular mate that was as decent of a person as you were it could be daily..

But most prefer fantasy land dreaming for the club method

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By * and BCouple
4 weeks ago

Durham


"

If you just want to meet a couple from the choice of about twenty, have a drink and maybe fifteen minutes of sex, then a club is going to *probably* be easier.

If you want to meet specific couples, spend time chatting and getting to know them, probably spend an hour or so in the bedroom with maybe some banter and a drink afterwards, then a home meet night before better.

They're very different things and different couples prefer different things.

(Bry)

This is quite possibly the most accurate and honest answer that you’ll find on this site.

Sure going to a club does lower the potential odds for success but it can also make you feel more defeated if your night out ends with more rejection than actual action, but also by having real in person interactions, you are much more likely to be able to work the charm with people.

If you are browsing the site for profiles that you feel attracted to then you could be facing a uphill battle and more difficult choices as it’s really hard to get replies from messages as a single guy that is hidden behind a poorly written message and a very questionable photograph.

I would far rather prefer an unanswered message in here, than the eyes rolling, snappy response of “We’re not looking for single guys!”, or worse; being completely blanked as you make an approach in a club (yes, it’s actually happened to me)…..

Clubs are for couples, leave them to it

We've met some great single guys in clubs. Negativity gets you nowhere. Guys with a positive outlook generate a great persona in clubs. As a couple we've been blanked by people in clubs but we don't take it personal, it's just life. Maybe the OP will love them if he tries a club, so hopefully he doesn't take your advice but more so the advice of 'go to a club' be sure to try and chat with people not just walk around smiling at them. Stop and talk to folk, it only needs to be small talk for first contact. Leave the folk alone who say we don't want to chat as we are not looking for men. In our opinion couples will still chat even if they don't want a single guy but will tell you from the off. Yes some are that ignorant and not speak but that's the filter in clubs for people you wouldn't want to interact with. Enjoy your journey OP

Such a shame you blanked me the night we were in TH lol! But then; a single guy, sat by himself on a bar stool? Who approaches them......? "

Not sure who you are responding to but if us, we weren't in Townhouse

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
4 weeks ago

Coventry

Another vote for club here. From experience as a single guy at clubs and from a couples perspective clubs are your best bet. Simply because couples go to clubs to find guys. It's naturally a good place to be. I would say if you're comfortable in your own skin, can read a room and just have a bit of spark about you that really helps too. Personally I find my true character is far better communicated in real life than online which I found advantageous about the club environment. It's simply easier to stand out in a club than it is in the sea of men online.

Also to add as a couple we sometimes simply pick up guys out and about in town in the vanilla world too.

Mr

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