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By *ickens Cider38 OP   Man
3 days ago

Peterborough

Hi all,

I am looking to branch out and find my feet with a club scene....never been to one but it interests me. I am single and i am wondering what kind of etiquette i woukd expect to uphold by attending a venue? Obviously there are do's and dont's but is it down to the discretion of people you are interested in or are there host/hostess rules that over-rule too?

Also, is it beneficial to attend with someone who is happy to come with you?

Thanks all.

From an interested guy

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By *ogandher1962Couple
3 days ago

Reading


"Hi all,

I am looking to branch out and find my feet with a club scene....never been to one but it interests me. I am single and i am wondering what kind of etiquette i woukd expect to uphold by attending a venue? Obviously there are do's and dont's but is it down to the discretion of people you are interested in or are there host/hostess rules that over-rule too?

Also, is it beneficial to attend with someone who is happy to come with you?

Thanks all.

From an interested guy"
don’t be a wanking zombie. Talk to people. Be yourself.

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By *ickens Cider38 OP   Man
3 days ago

Peterborough

Fantastic answer, that really made me laugh so hard.

I guess keep it simple then

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By *rdere OpusCouple
3 days ago

Brum - ish


"Hi all,

I am looking to branch out and find my feet with a club scene....never been to one but it interests me. I am single and i am wondering what kind of etiquette i woukd expect to uphold by attending a venue? Obviously there are do's and dont's but is it down to the discretion of people you are interested in or are there host/hostess rules that over-rule too?

Also, is it beneficial to attend with someone who is happy to come with you?

Thanks all.

From an interested guy don’t be a wanking zombie. Talk to people. Be yourself."

Great answer.

I’d add that no means no, talk to the men in couples as well as the woman and you should go expecting to make connections but not believing you have a right to play just because you’re there.

Most clubs have an etiquette section - worth reading for the place you’re planning to visit.

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By *ickens Cider38 OP   Man
3 days ago

Peterborough

That's brilliant. Thank you

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By *iss DevilWoman
3 days ago

Bedford

Regarding whether to bring someone with you- if you believe that would be better, and already know someone, than do. I would not advise trying to find someone who'd be happy to take you to a club, as not many people are happy to do that for a stranger.

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By *hirleyMan
3 days ago

somewhere

I mean the thing to do is ask yourself; is the way I'm thinking of, or about to behave going to be c**ty? If so, chances are it is! But if you're one of these that doesn't know what the definition is of being an a**e, you probably don't belong in most social settings, let alone swingers clubs.

I always like to remember some good advice I heard once that I apply to everything I do now, that is to try and imagine you have a camera on you like a police body cam, watching and reviewing all actions you take, If you make an effort to see the way you do things from another perspective, I guarantee you will naturally think in this way (conscientiously), you will not need to ask or question anyone about how to behave anywhere, including swingers clubs because it will just become your nature

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By *hirleyMan
3 days ago

somewhere


"I mean the thing to do is ask yourself; is the way I'm thinking of, or about to behave going to be c**ty? If so, chances are it is! But if you're one of these that doesn't know what the definition is of being an a**e, you probably don't belong in most social settings, let alone swingers clubs.

I always like to remember some good advice I heard once that I apply to everything I do now, that is to try and imagine you have a camera on you like a police body cam, watching and reviewing all actions you take, If you make an effort to see the way you do things from another perspective, I guarantee you will naturally think in this way (conscientiously), you will not need to ask or question anyone about how to behave anywhere, including swingers clubs because it will just become your nature "

It's a long winded way of saying "be yourself". Sometimes gets used a lot but there's a reason for that cliche

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By *lowercandyWoman
3 days ago

Lancashire


"Hi all,

I am looking to branch out and find my feet with a club scene....never been to one but it interests me. I am single and i am wondering what kind of etiquette i woukd expect to uphold by attending a venue? Obviously there are do's and dont's but is it down to the discretion of people you are interested in or are there host/hostess rules that over-rule too?

Also, is it beneficial to attend with someone who is happy to come with you?

Thanks all.

From an interested guy"

Besides all the general rules please visit the website for the club you are attending

Each club is different in their vibe, dress rules etc

So take that into consideration

Also if you haven't become a member what you need to do to fulfill the requirements

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By *irsSubCouple
2 days ago

Darlington

Go in with the expectation that you are going to talk people in the non sexual parts of the club - nothing more. The smoking areas, saunas and hot tubs work best in our opinion. If you get talking to couples or single ladies there is decent opportunity for play.

Don't expect any play without organizing it beforehand, don't walk around wanking and have respect for people i.e. don't touch without permission, don't try and force your way into a scenarios. Imagine how you would feel were the boot on the other foot with every action you take towards a couple or single lady and you can't go far wrong.

When you know, you know

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By *ickens Cider38 OP   Man
2 days ago

Peterborough

Many thanks for your sound advice. That helps clear up a few thoughts in my mind. Don't know why but i seem to imagine that walking into a venue might end up looking like an orgy 🤣🤣🤣. Much appreciated for your answer.

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