FabSwingers.com forum: What makes a GOOD private swingers party?

By *ris221fab OP Man
23 weeks ago

North West

Im considering hosting private parties at my house. I own a house with 4 bedrooms I rent out using airbnb, but it seems perfect for a swingers party.

So with that in mind, im thinking of designing a swingers party that has everything you'd want. But also, I'd be open to ideas of how you could make it different, and it enhance things.

So,

What makes a good private swingers party?

What ideas have you had that could make it better, and different?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aptain Caveman41Man
23 weeks ago

Home

People turning up

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

No viruses

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ustforfun1759Couple
23 weeks ago

IRVINE

Yep people turning up mrs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lik and PaulCouple
23 weeks ago

cahoots

Couples only

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *teveanddebsCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwich

"Couples only"

The the Op can't go.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss KinkWoman
23 weeks ago

Up North

Only invite people with good veris

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

A relaxed vibe and people who actually turn up would be the critical factors!

If you have enough interest then it's good to try and choose compatible numbers of couples / singles etc too.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *cottish guy 555Man
23 weeks ago

London

Chips, dips, chains, whips.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *en_Dover79Man
23 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

The people. I have only ever been to one though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rpeggioCouple
23 weeks ago

Baughurst

The guests and the hosts is what makes it good.

There's about 4 to 5 dynamics within guests and the way they like to play. Some of them are compatible, some are not. Choose compatible dynamics for each particular set of guests and invite profiles that would fit those dynamics.

For example, couples into gangbangs for the lady will not mix well with Bi couples looking to play with other couples or Bi group play.

You can have both types of party, but be aware of the 4 or 5 different dynamics and invite guests that will not feel out of place.

Some dynamics need single men invited, others will not like single men in the party.

Besides that. The rest is logistics. We have never had any problem with people attending, as in the past we over invited by 25% so 1 in 4 would not turn up on average ans so ended more it he's worth the right amount of people.

Feel free to DM us with specific questions. If you'd find it useful, let us know here in the Forum and We will DM you first since you can't, we block single men.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rpeggioCouple
23 weeks ago

Baughurst

By the way, if anyone in the South East is in a similar position as the OP with a house or flat they would be willing to make available or rent for a swingers party, let us know. We can help with the rest.

(Single males profiles state your interest here and we'll DM you since we block single Ms).

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *allySlinkyWoman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

An ice breaker game

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lowercandyWoman
23 weeks ago

Lancashire

Hosted before (when a couple)

We invited two couples we already knew and who we felt would get on with eachother

We also had a few couples we had chatted to /had a social with

Also one or two that we'd not met but had been maybe on our hotlist and they'd messaged us

We found that it allowed for people to meet someone new

People to catch up with old friends

And we got to interact with possible without any awkwardness if we didn't fancy them irl

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *teinsGateDuoCouple
23 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Couples only.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *herrybakewellCouple
23 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Vetting guests. Quality over quantity.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enelope2UWoman
23 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

[Removed by poster at 05/02/25 10:26:24]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enelope2UWoman
23 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Actually having compatible people there that have similar interests personalities because the HOST knows or can vouch for those invited or present or deciding if it's just going to be a brothel.

In the states lifestyle organisation was essential and a requirement of any swingers party/events.. Firstly it wasn't just bed notchers/fakes/porn dreamers it's called lifestyle for a reason..

there's nothing remotely close to that here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *urFantasy21Couple
23 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

An invite since we have yet to experience one (more's the pity)

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
23 weeks ago

East Sussex

A social, no sex space, a private room and a public room.

Clean towels, at least one non playing person who can deal with any problems, strict no is no policy, very little alcohol, condoms, lube, snacks, waterand access to a shower

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enelope2UWoman
23 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"A social, no sex space, a private room and a public room.

Clean towels, at least one non playing person who can deal with any problems, strict no is no policy, very little alcohol, condoms, lube, snacks, waterand access to a shower"

Crazy basics like that go forgotten

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
23 weeks ago

East Sussex

"A social, no sex space, a private room and a public room.

Clean towels, at least one non playing person who can deal with any problems, strict no is no policy, very little alcohol, condoms, lube, snacks, waterand access to a shower

Crazy basics like that go forgotten "

Yeah. It's also wise to put any valuables and private correspondance somewhere inaccesible. For your guests and hosts benefit. Nobody wants to be accused of pinching great aunt Ethels diamond ring only for it to be found a week later.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *P mature cplCouple
23 weeks ago

Hull

Limit single guys 3 single guys per 5 cpls.

If you do organise a party keep us in mind

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ris221fab OP Man
23 weeks ago

North West

Loads of wonderful advice here, thanks. Im definitely thinking about it for April time. Im thinking 10-15 people max. I have already thought of which rooms would be used for what etc. I probably just need to vet some people now, ha.

Thankyou all for the advice, genuinely really helped!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *acky RacersCouple
23 weeks ago

Lincoln

"A social, no sex space, a private room and a public room.

Clean towels, at least one non playing person who can deal with any problems, strict no is no policy, very little alcohol, condoms, lube, snacks, waterand access to a shower"

Great advice...I also put hand gels, wipes and bins in every room designated for play...

We curate our guest list extremely carefully...usually only people we know and have met before and who we know are respectful of our space and our other guests...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *acky RacersCouple
22 weeks ago

Lincoln

"Vetting guests. Quality over quantity. "

Absolutely this. We now host parties and only invite people we have physically met and think they would fit the dynamics of the evening. We had a bad experience once when we had an open invite event and we found a couple stealing bottles of spirits from our drinks cupboard....we asked them to leave after we made them put it back. Invite randoms and you get to spin the roulette wheel....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ikesEmBigMan
22 weeks ago

Herts

Unlimited lemon drizzle cake

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *allySlinkyWoman
22 weeks ago

Leeds

"Unlimited lemon drizzle cake"

Drizzled with what ?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arysueCouple
22 weeks ago

West Wales

plenty of fit young men lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittyNCremeCouple
22 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

All starts with the guests

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *allySlinkyWoman
22 weeks ago

Leeds

Correct temperature. Not too hot and not too cold.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ikesEmBigMan
22 weeks ago

Herts

"Unlimited lemon drizzle cake

Drizzled with what ?

"
Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ecky and justCouple
22 weeks ago

Godalming

We’ve hosted a few.

Make sure the people coming are all fairly well matched.

Have some ice breakers.

Set clear boundaries.

We find it works best with friends that we already know and trust.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ouple49Couple
22 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Only invite people with good veris "

That’s the best advice and the most important. There’s a lot of people who attend parties just to be seen and don’t have any intentions of properly joining in etc. There’s also the element that get invited and don’t bother to turn up or even send apologies etc.

The best scenario is to only invite people you have actually met and know to be reliable and compatible; but few have enough friends to only do this and usually a few extras are needed.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *izandpaulCouple
22 weeks ago

merseyside

Some of the parties we have attended a social meet in a pub a fews weeks before the party date for those who have shown interest.

Its a great way to sort the wheat from the chaff.

Expect a massive percentage of dreamers, timewasters and strange people but fab people too.

It's your house, you decide who is a good fit.

Once you have decided who to invite set some ground rules and stick to them saves any misunderstandings.

Good luck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ouple49Couple
22 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Actually having compatible people there that have similar interests personalities because the HOST knows or can vouch for those invited or present or deciding if it's just going to be a brothel.

In the states lifestyle organisation was essential and a requirement of any swingers party/events.. Firstly it wasn't just bed notchers/fakes/porn dreamers it's called lifestyle for a reason..

there's nothing remotely close to that here."

Totally agree, the scene here has very much gone downhill over the years and is a poor shadow of what it once was.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tagVixen4grpCouple
22 weeks ago

manchester

Excellent veris are important if you don’t know them personally

Definitely a social area

Matching dynamics

For instance we’d want a decent amount of respectful single straight men, but others only want couples and some prefer bi women or bi men.

Each to their own but for a good party you need similar people with similar preferences

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *un and kinky.Man
22 weeks ago

Blackburn

An invite.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inaTitzTV/TS
22 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Cleaning materials to hand.

Convenient and discreet parking.

Turning the heating off after a while, as it being too hot can be very unpleasant.

Deaf neighbours are a bonus.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
22 weeks ago

Coventry

It terms of private parties the hosts choice of guests is key to a brilliant night. Picking the right mix and characters makes all the difference. I think it really helps if you know the people you're inviting or inviting people off trusted word of mouth. When you bring the right people together it's going to be an awesome night.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lossomTreeWoman
22 weeks ago

Ipswich

The guest list - the best parties I go to are where the hosts invite people they know, or highly recommended friends of friends.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman JayMan
22 weeks ago

Wakefield

"An ice breaker game "

I once went to a great house party where this happened. Got everyone stripped down.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman JayMan
21 weeks ago

Wakefield

I went to one last night. My third invite over the last year or so.

Fabulous house. Four couples and two single guys. Some people already knew each other so connections were already there.

Drinks and social first. After 45 mins or so and instead of guests wondering what would happen next, the female host announced she was going upstairs to slip into her outfit and guests were welcome to join her in five minutes.

Lovely social time after and yummy buffet. Just a great night.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman JayMan
21 weeks ago

Wakefield

"Couples only."

The party’s that I go to are always there or four couples plus one or two guys. The host knows the people being invited so knows the dynamics to keep everyone happy.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *randMrsMaybeCouple
21 weeks ago

hyde

"The guests and the hosts is what makes it good.

For example, couples into gangbangs for the lady will not mix well with Bi couples looking to play with other couples or Bi group play.

You can have both types of party, but be aware of the 4 or 5 different dynamics and invite guests that will not feel out of place.

Some dynamics need single men invited, others will not like single men in the party.

Feel free to DM us with specific questions. If you'd find it useful, let us know here in the Forum and We will DM you first since you can't, we block single men."

Basically this ......

I'm part of a group arranging one in Blackpool soon.

It will be the 7th weekend event we've had and all have been epic!

Kat

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enelope2UWoman
21 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"Unlimited lemon drizzle cake"

I second that..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tagVixen4grpCouple
21 weeks ago

manchester

"The guests and the hosts is what makes it good.

For example, couples into gangbangs for the lady will not mix well with Bi couples looking to play with other couples or Bi group play.

You can have both types of party, but be aware of the 4 or 5 different dynamics and invite guests that will not feel out of place.

Some dynamics need single men invited, others will not like single men in the party.

Feel free to DM us with specific questions. If you'd find it useful, let us know here in the Forum and We will DM you first since you can't, we block single men.

Basically this ......

I'm part of a group arranging one in Blackpool soon.

It will be the 7th weekend event we've had and all have been epic!

Kat

Are you still looking for couples?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread