FabSwingers.com forum: Difficult to get a meet as an Asian Indian

By *ak4321 OP Man
1 week ago

Ashford

Stand out from 1000s of single guys out there is a challenge. Instead of bragging about this that and all I choose to be real and transparent. But responses are dry. The ones who respond once in a while just ghost after few chats. Is it hard to be real and genuine?

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By *armandwet50Couple
1 week ago

Far far away

It's difficult to get a meet regardless

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By *anysicoMan
1 week ago

cork

With a profile like that it should be no problem getting a meet ,beautiful pictures you have on display

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
1 week ago

Chester

"With a profile like that it should be no problem getting a meet ,beautiful pictures you have on display "

Which profile are you looking at?

My advice would be more images and get rid of the legal guff at the bottom of the profile. As to why people are chatting then ghosting - it’s par for the course I think.

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By *ovinglife!40Man
1 week ago

Hinckley

"Stand out from 1000s of single guys out there is a challenge. Instead of bragging about this that and all I choose to be real and transparent. But responses are dry. The ones who respond once in a while just ghost after few chats. Is it hard to be real and genuine? "

So you think it is harder because you are Asian? Have you spoken to many other Asian guys about that, or is it your assumption because of the difficulty that you experience?

Standing out is not a challenge to be honest. I think that everyone can research how to present their shop window well.

There are PLENTY of examples on this site..

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
1 week ago

Chester

Let’s keep it in the forum OP.

Photos don’t have to show your face. There are plenty of ways to pique someone’s interest without that - of course it’s fine to hold identifying images back.

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By *man91Man
1 week ago

Manchester

As an asian male myself, I can say unfortunately we are not of interest to many people and you will face rejections. However, I also found many more amazing people who are interested. I think people are more open to conversations when meeting face to face rather than through messages here, as couples and single ladies often get so many messages from single men on their inbox that many genuine profiles often get missed out. I found going to socials and swingers club events, great ways to meet people. Search on Meet event and forum section for interesting meets nearby. Get communicating with people going if you can and hopefully you will meet some similar minded people.

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By *B KINGSCouple (MM)
1 week ago

South

It’s hard regardless on here to find a meet

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By *anonfire96Man
1 week ago

Mansfield

I wish there were more Asian singles/ couples on here. And of the ones I have messaged they either don't reply or just say not interested. Which is par for the course.

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By *iss KinkWoman
1 week ago

North West

"It’s hard regardless on here to find a meet"

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By *lsiePTV/TS
1 week ago

Gateshead

I'll echo what others have said. Don't rely on the site by itself. Get out to socials and clubs and speak to people. Introduce yourself and let them see you shine.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
1 week ago

Around the Midlands

As suggested above, clubs and socials are probably your best bet. Don't go with expectations though and just be yourself.

Good luck OP

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By *eroLondonMan
1 week ago

Mayfair

How do they know that you're "𝘈𝘴𝘪𝘢𝘯 / 𝘐𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘢𝘯" ?

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By *hico_traviesoMan
1 week ago

Newcastle under lyme

"As suggested above, clubs and socials are probably your best bet. Don't go with expectations though and just be yourself.

Good luck OP"

Absolutely! Sometimes you are lucky and get to know very lovely interesting guys like this pair!

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By *lowercandyWoman
1 week ago

Lancashire

Even if you keep a face pic as friends only to attach to a message you have zero public photos...

Yes you have put some effort into the blurb but your shop window is blacked out

And tbh

One person's kink is another persons vanilla so that's a meh statement as it sits in your blurb

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
1 week ago

Central

Have you seen the thousands of posts from all the single men here?

You can try to apportion cause to anything but will probably only be able to single out being a man as the definite cause of your challenge.

Get to clubs and meet people. Sell yourself

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By *ilverfox for youMan
1 week ago

Hull

Join the club ! Same for nearly all guys on here !!

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By *ysonfuryMan
1 week ago

Stockport

As people have said socials are a great way to meet people with no expectations or pressure.

It is possible to meet folks on here if you are respectful and polite and you have taken the time to read their profile.

Don't get disheartened though if not everyone replies as couples and single ladies get loads of messages, you can't be everyones cup of tea

Good luck and happy fabbing

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By *AURUS 85Man
1 week ago

CHESHIRE, BIRMINGHAM & MANCHESTER

This site is more of a porn site now , some only want likes on their pics etc

Some genuine people on here but a minority spoil it for the majority….

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By *iss KinkWoman
1 week ago

North West

No I don’t think it is. All men struggle at some point

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
1 week ago

Around the Midlands

"As suggested above, clubs and socials are probably your best bet. Don't go with expectations though and just be yourself.

Good luck OP

Absolutely! Sometimes you are lucky and get to know very lovely interesting guys like this pair!

Awwww thanks Chico. Been ages, hope you're well x

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By *erdyNymph89Woman
1 week ago

ELLESMERE PORT

Lack of pictures makes me not bother reading the bio and therefore not consider meeting.

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By *ak4321 OP Man
7 days ago

Ashford

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By *hesadistbullMan
7 days ago

India(bengaluru)

Indian here but I struggle mostly because I'm currently based out of India logistics and my age group, my advise would be to try more socials and keep a tab on meets sections assuming you are in a hot location where there are active fabbers

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
7 days ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

A few photos might help but all solo guys are up against it when attempting to meet couples.

Just think, couples and the few solo women receive dozens of messages every time they log on.

Most are either badly written or crude so all tend to be ignored.

Tidy up your profile and let the couples come to you.

They will.

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By *un Times 1Man
7 days ago

coventry

I have been to a lot of Clubs and have never saw an Asian Babe.

Mainly Asian Guys. Also if you have a look at the women on this site the majority are White. If you look at the ratio of females to males. Females probably make up about 2% of the population. A lot of those will stipulate a preference for BBC, BWC. That cuts a majority of men out. So not sure what your post is in reference too. A huge majority of white Men have not had a meet.

You seem to see preferences as something else! Spell it out, so that we have a clue?

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By *exanthemMan
6 days ago

North

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By *exanthemMan
6 days ago

North

One to one meet - very difficult, due to racial biases and/or less appeal for body type and dick size ( although some Indians are VWE )

Clubs meet - good chance so long you can show a bit of confidence, talk properly , and show respect to others choices. Wear nice cloths, Maintain good body shape, look sharp, clean and hygienic.

BDSM or Kink event - best place, as not many have racial/skin fetish, but you need to bring your own game in for e.g having good knowledge about various equipments, toys, practices and procedures help a lot as people show interest in learning about new stuff. You may end up making friends there.

Social event - another best place to make connections.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
6 days ago

A town near you

I don't think guys should focus to much on them personally and just understand that it's hard for single men end off due to the ratio of men to women/couples here that are seeking single men.

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By *Silver-Man
6 days ago

Mold

Throw some more pics up, shorten the bio, be patient. You only been on a few mths, make some connections, message people and learn from it.

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By *iddle ManMan
5 days ago

Walsall

Not just you op, thousands on here in the same boat. I doubt race has much to do with it. The main problem being your single male.

Stay positive and put yourself out there.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
5 days ago

Leeds

I am curious why you need to say that you are an Asian Indian.

Have you tried not mentioning it ?

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By *eroLondonMan
5 days ago

Mayfair

"I am curious why you need to say that you are an Asian Indian.

Have you tried not mentioning it ?"

This is the most compelling comment.⬆️

I would agree.

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By *r OreoMan
5 days ago

Croydon

Couple of reasons really :

- You won't even everyones cup of tea, that's not racism, that's personal choice in the same way some prefer skinny girls to big girls etc.

- You are one of many many single guys, so messaging on here unless you're extremely lucky isn't going to get you very far.

Try the meets, socials or joining in the chat room.

All about standing out from the crowd so you turn a person's head.

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By *aptain VMan
1 day ago

Birstall, Leicester

"It's difficult to get a meet regardless"

100% agree with you there

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By *anonfire96Man
1 day ago

Mansfield

If love to have a meeting with an Asian couple. Like rocking horse shite to find ,

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By *allySlinkyWoman
1 day ago

Leeds

I have often seen Asian couples at Cupids

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By *ovinglife!40Man
1 day ago

Hinckley

"If love to have a meeting with an Asian couple. Like rocking horse shite to find , "

And because they are that rare, they are very very fussy!!

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By *urplebadger69Couple
1 day ago

Colchester

Everyone on here has something that will not be too everyone's taste, in that way you're no different to the rest of us.

My wife and I rarely get approached by single men in a club. We've discovered that men think I'm some kind of psycho biker because of my beard so don't like to initiate contact.

Eventually, we get lucky as no doubt you will. Just be patient.

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