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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi need advice how do I surgest to my gf that I would love to see her get fucked. We been together 3 months and want to see if she would be up for it any advice

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

explore if she has a sexual fantasy that involves multiple partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her your on fab and everybody wants to meet her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi need advice how do I surgest to my gf that I would love to see her get fucked. We been together 3 months and want to see if she would be up for it any advice "

According to your profile text you want a 70 year old to fuck your fuck buddie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi need advice how do I surgest to my gf that I would love to see her get fucked. We been together 3 months and want to see if she would be up for it any advice "

Tell her that you are ona. Swinging site looking for casual sex, and that you asked for advice on here .

Then say what do you think

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Hi need advice how do I surgest to my gf that I would love to see her get fucked. We been together 3 months and want to see if she would be up for it any advice

According to your profile text you want a 70 year old to fuck your fuck buddie. "

get back to me in 17 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"explore if she has a sexual fantasy that involves multiple partners"

This! You can't expect to convince someone, and after that short amount of time I'd have thought you'd still be in the honeymoon period...not wanting to involve more partners so soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to be very careful asking her this, do you think it is something she might be interested in? 3 months is not a lot of time to have been together, perhaps it's a little soon to be introducing this?

I would talk about fantasies and she what she comes up with. 3sums & swinging isn't for everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We still are in the honeymoon period and we fuck most nights but would love to see her taking another mans cock up her. We text each other dirty texts about going and fucking on the beach but she words it like she is talking to some other man then she will say to me that she is going to meet another guy on the beach and do I mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear I can see this thread not ending very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We still are in the honeymoon period and we fuck most nights but would love to see her taking another mans cock up her. We text each other dirty texts about going and fucking on the beach but she words it like she is talking to some other man then she will say to me that she is going to meet another guy on the beach and do I mind "

Tell her to go to the beach where I'll meet her! Lol. Then cum on down and join in or watch as you please- both fantasies fulfilled! Happy days, always keen to be of assistance!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And at what point did I say I WOULD MAKE HER like people have said if you have nothing constructive to say and helpful please don't comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi need advice how do I surgest to my gf that I would love to see her get fucked. We been together 3 months and want to see if she would be up for it any advice "

I have got an idea instead of asking us lot

Why not ask her !

I know it's unusual in this day and age to ask someone you know instead of random strangers on a swinging site

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And at what point did I say I WOULD MAKE HER like people have said if you have nothing constructive to say and helpful please don't comment "

Maybe the title of the thread could have been worded differently as getting someone to agree to something does sound like there's an element of coercion. Thanks for clarifying that there isn't. My advice would be to talk to her about it and see if it's a fantasy she would like to make a reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi need advice how do I surgest to my gf that I would love to see her get fucked. We been together 3 months and want to see if she would be up for it any advice "

Out of interest what is your motivation for wanting that to happen?

Is it for her gratification or yours? Is it something she has expressed any interest in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi need advice how do I surgest to my gf that I would love to see her get fucked. We been together 3 months and want to see if she would be up for it any advice "

if she wants it sure but i wouldnt force the issue or push it as you could end your relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We still are in the honeymoon period and we fuck most nights but would love to see her taking another mans cock up her. We text each other dirty texts about going and fucking on the beach but she words it like she is talking to some other man then she will say to me that she is going to meet another guy on the beach and do I mind "

Hummm the beach thing could be a way of seeing how jealous u get and how into her u r!

Why not when she next says about taking another guy to the beach, ask to watch.. If she takes it badly then u said it in jest.. But see her reaction

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi need advice how do I surgest to my gf that I would love to see her get fucked. We been together 3 months and want to see if she would be up for it any advice "

You need to be talking to your girlfriend, tell her that you have a fantasy of seeing her with another man.

I've said it before and I'm sure I'll say it again but the contempt you must hold this woman in is staggering, asking for advice on your sex life with her on a site where you are trying to meet other women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust.....nobody has mentioned this....build up to different things and situations.three months is a very short time...my Mrs and I are a team we look out for each other and are best friends. build every part of your relationship.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust.....nobody has mentioned this....build up to different things and situations.three months is a very short time...my Mrs and I are a team we look out for each other and are best friends. build every part of your relationship........."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get some 'Screw My Wife Please' porn and then introduce it in dirty talk to see if it turn her on. if she slaps your face and storms off I suspect she isn't into it!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Trust.....nobody has mentioned this....build up to different things and situations.three months is a very short time...my Mrs and I are a team we look out for each other and are best friends. build every part of your relationship........."

I don't think trust is high on the list of priorities in the OPs relationship.

What you say is so true, build on every part of the relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I have yet to see a thread on here saying something like

"I want to take my girlfriend out for dinner, what food do you think she'll like?"

or

"How can I get my girlfriend to try mussels?"

but the idea behind it is the same......ask her not us we can't possibly know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I've said it before and I'm sure I'll say it again but the contempt you must hold this woman in is staggering, asking for advice on your sex life with her on a site where you are trying to meet other women. "

How do you know how many people he's contacted since he started seeing this girl? For all you know he might have left the profile "as is" in case things don't work out with the girl.

Give him the benefit of the doubt, then if he admits to trying to shag around you have proof to jump down his throat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I've said it before and I'm sure I'll say it again but the contempt you must hold this woman in is staggering, asking for advice on your sex life with her on a site where you are trying to meet other women.

How do you know how many people he's contacted since he started seeing this girl? For all you know he might have left the profile "as is" in case things don't work out with the girl.

Give him the benefit of the doubt, then if he admits to trying to shag around you have proof to jump down his throat."

If he had left the profile as a "in case" things don't work out, surely he wouldn't be putting up a status asking if anybody is about today?

But as other people have said TALK to your partner ask her what her fantasies are, discuss them during foreplay see what her reactions are and lastly swinging is all about trust and honesty in a relationship.............

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


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I've said it before and I'm sure I'll say it again but the contempt you must hold this woman in is staggering, asking for advice on your sex life with her on a site where you are trying to meet other women.

How do you know how many people he's contacted since he started seeing this girl? For all you know he might have left the profile "as is" in case things don't work out with the girl.

Give him the benefit of the doubt, then if he admits to trying to shag around you have proof to jump down his throat."

I'm not particularly interested in how he uses his profile but it doesn't say anything about not meeting so I have made an assumption on that basis, its alsothe fact that he is using it to ask people who know nothing of his girlfriend for advice on his sex life with her. Disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"get some 'Screw My Wife Please' porn and then introduce it in dirty talk to see if it turn her on. if she slaps your face and storms off I suspect she isn't into it! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried with my Ex, she was not up for swinging at all.

3 months is such a short time to know someone to even remotely suggest what your suggesting.

Imo, I wouldn't even attempt to ask a girl I was actually dating (mode = Romantically involved with) to do that in the space of 3 months of knowing her.

Not enough time for me to ask that question.

Cheers

Ben

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the past 18 months I've had three short relationships (3-5 months each) and with each lady I've explained my sexual history and sexual preference and on each occasion the response was that they didn't want to share. I respected their wishes and didn't play at those times. My two previous long term partnerships (15 years and 3 years) were both swinging ones – the former developed with a cuckold kink and was enjoyed for many years (and even now we play occasionally 4 ½ years after we split) and the latter was MMF with open bi play and to be honest we largely regretted doing so in the end.

The point being that you should be honest with her but respect the response and be prepared to live with the consequences. If she says no then don’t cheat and if she says yes … be prepared as you might be opening Pandora’s Box.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Agree with what most people have said here.. you can chat to her, discuss fantasies, see if she's interested. If not then it's a no go - it's got to be a turn on for both of you.

I have to say though when you meet a like minded person then how long you've been together doesn't matter. OH and I discussed fantasies very early on and it was me who first suggested going to a club. We both enjoy what we like doing - but BOTH being the key.

OP- just ask her but as the person above said, if she's not interested respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recommend this article:

http://www.nyswingers.net/2011/06/single-guys-guide-to-swinging-meeting.html

It says, did she sleep with you on the first date? If so, that is a good sign. Ask her about past experiences - has she had threesomes, what are her fantasies, how many people has she slept with at a time?

If she seems up for it, tell her you've heard of a crazy party and you want to see what happens there. Tell her you don't want to participate and if she feels uncomfortable at any time you can both leave.

Go to a club on a couples-only night where everyone who attends has to prove their home address. If afterwards she is excited and wants to go again, then game on. If she is totally revolted, she is not for you.

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