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By *uke02 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Waterford City

Hey everyone just putting this up looking for some advice. I've this profile a while bit I'm struggling to get meets. I've never even had a meet before and I'm just wondering what to do.

A lot people I message will look at the message and not respond or they just block my profile which makes no sense to me. I'd love to hear back from people on here.

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
2 weeks ago

Durham


"Hey everyone just putting this up looking for some advice. I've this profile a while bit I'm struggling to get meets. I've never even had a meet before and I'm just wondering what to do.

A lot people I message will look at the message and not respond or they just block my profile which makes no sense to me. I'd love to hear back from people on here."

First thing to understand is that men outnumber women/couples on here 100 to 1, so it's a struggle for most single guys to get noticed.

When I was on here as a single before meeting H, I made most of my connections through chatting in the forums and the chat rooms. Be active in those, show people who you are and why they should give you a chance. Consider going to organised socials too - they're incredibly helpful for meeting new people on here

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

OP, as the previously poster just said you are up against a plethora of other men, men who outnumber the women beyond comprehension. A message from you to another woman is going to fester unread in her ever-increasing Inbox.

Most women will simply look at your profile before even opening your message, if at all, and probably delete it.

You need to ask yourself what stands out in your profile that makes you unique? Perhaps remove the cock photo, take some more photos, be creative and refine your profile narrative. Maybe also attend a few fab organised socials and make some new contacts.

Also, and this is probably the crucial thing: your age. Unfortunately a lot of women/couples will find you too young or outside of their age bracket. That's not necessarily a deal breaker.

Whatever happens best of luck. 🌈🌈

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By *ogandher1962Couple
2 weeks ago

Reading

You’ve been here 6 weeks, you’re young, and your profile reads like a dating app.

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By *uke02 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Waterford City

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By *uke02 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Waterford City


"Hey everyone just putting this up looking for some advice. I've this profile a while bit I'm struggling to get meets. I've never even had a meet before and I'm just wondering what to do.

A lot people I message will look at the message and not respond or they just block my profile which makes no sense to me. I'd love to hear back from people on here.

First thing to understand is that men outnumber women/couples on here 100 to 1, so it's a struggle for most single guys to get noticed.

When I was on here as a single before meeting H, I made most of my connections through chatting in the forums and the chat rooms. Be active in those, show people who you are and why they should give you a chance. Consider going to organised socials too - they're incredibly helpful for meeting new people on here"

Thanks that's really helpful

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By *uke02 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Waterford City


"OP, as the previously poster just said you are up against a plethora of other men, men who outnumber the women beyond comprehension. A message from you to another woman is going to fester unread in her ever-increasing Inbox.

Most women will simply look at your profile before even opening your message, if at all, and probably delete it.

You need to ask yourself what stands out in your profile that makes you unique? Perhaps remove the cock photo, take some more photos, be creative and refine your profile narrative. Maybe also attend a few fab organised socials and make some new contacts.

Also, and this is probably the crucial thing: your age. Unfortunately a lot of women/couples will find you too young or outside of their age bracket. That's not necessarily a deal breaker.

Whatever happens best of luck. 🌈🌈"

Thanks, I'm gonna make some changes around on my profile

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By *uke02 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Waterford City


"You’ve been here 6 weeks, you’re young, and your profile reads like a dating app. "

Any tips so my profile doesn't look like a dating app and that would suit this site?

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By *heLeadbettersCouple
2 weeks ago

Reading


"You’ve been here 6 weeks, you’re young, and your profile reads like a dating app.

Any tips so my profile doesn't look like a dating app and that would suit this site?"

Think about who and what this site is for, what you offer and what you want.

Then write your profile.

If you took everybody's advice (mine included) it wouldn't be your profile, it would be 50 other people's.

It's for you to show who you are, not a mongrel of a resume.

J

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Delete your fab account and go to clubs and organised socials.

Your chances will change dramatically.

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By *ornych87Man
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Same I do try with no luck

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By *iss KinkWoman
2 weeks ago

North West

You are far too young for most people. Get yourself to clubs

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By *enSiskoMan
2 weeks ago

Cestus 3


"Hey everyone just putting this up looking for some advice. I've this profile a while bit I'm struggling to get meets. I've never even had a meet before and I'm just wondering what to do.

A lot people I message will look at the message and not respond or they just block my profile which makes no sense to me. I'd love to hear back from people on here."

If you are prepared to pay then go to clubs, or socials, but if you went out, just went out to a place that hasn't or ever will offer the chance of sex you will do much better there.

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By *uke02 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Waterford City

Thanks for all your advice

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By *onguiliciousMan
2 weeks ago

Northallerton

You’ve been in 6 weeks! Would you expect promotion at work after the same time period…..no! Don’t be ‘desperate’

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By *b03Man
2 weeks ago

Exeter

Its at the point where most women have so many messages (most of them crap) that Brad pitt himself could message and probably not get noticed for weeks.

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By *akie32Man
2 weeks ago

winchester

go to some local socials, meet some people, swinging is alot like dating, its about the connection.

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By *akie32Man
2 weeks ago

winchester

also you profile isnt great, dick pics are not good, and needing to be dis create infers you are cheating, that doesnt go down well with swingers

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By *r SensualMan
2 weeks ago

London


"Hey everyone just putting this up looking for some advice. I've this profile a while bit I'm struggling to get meets. I've never even had a meet before and I'm just wondering what to do.

A lot people I message will look at the message and not respond or they just block my profile which makes no sense to me. I'd love to hear back from people on here."

The odds are stacked against you OP being a single man. As already eluded to, you’re a dime a dozen. Even myself, as someone who has 100+ meet verifications along with what I think is decent profile has their messages ignored, read and deleted. The phrase “small fish in a big pond” comes to mind…

On the other hand, stepping away from my phone and getting out and about to clubs/events etc. is how I’ve got to meet people in person and make genuine connections, my advice would be to do the same if that’s what you want.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

There's always going to be the majority of people who are not mutually compatible. These will not reply.

If your profile sells you at your best, then it's just about finding the match. Partners will likely want to know what you're going to be like sexually, less so the stuff that daters would potentially want..

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