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How to break the ice when inviting a guy to your room on a hotel meet with wife ?

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By *rivatelurker OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford

So we are planning on doing a spontaneous meet . My wife said if we plan something in advance she will be too nervous and would rather go out for couple wines and head back to hotel room and then put a message out on fab to see who's about and see what offers we get on the night with 0 expectations of someone decent popping up but on the other they might pop up and if they do what does the couple do? Does hubby go down and meet him then go back to the room then what happens does he just straight away start kissing the Mrs or talk or ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Did you post something similar previously?

I think you need to sort this out in your own minds and agree how you'd handle it between yourselves first.

Personally I think you need to start a couple's profile for the guy's safety and that you should both meet him before taking him to your room. Any decent man will want to know that your wife is fully consenting.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Oh I see that you do have a couple's profile.

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By *rivatelurker OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford


"Oh I see that you do have a couple's profile. "

Hi Nicole we do have one . I wanna do it janeys way. She said to me she would rather do it spontaneous as it also makes it more exciting on the night. She said if was pre planned she would so nervous for the weeks leading up to it all where she would rather just do it. I mean we speaking to someone we got in mind that she's keen on so maybe if he is available on the night we are then we can go for that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Great. Obviously you must do things your way but I don't understand why you post these threads from your single profile.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

We used to break the ice by playing a forfeit game or by Mr and I starting the proceedings then suggesting the guy joined in.

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By *ibLeiMan
3 weeks ago

Manchester

Recent experience with a couple: they were in Manchester for a few days. They reached out to me 24 hours before a potential meetup. That gave us enough time to discuss and get a feel for one another. We both slept on it and the next day, we felt like we clicked, we all went for a drink in the evening before heading to their hotel room (and had a really fun time there!).

My advice is to give yourself at the very least a few hours to vet each other :thumb:

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By *star90Man
3 weeks ago

Orpington

Tbh ur in a similar situation to mine and my exs first time.

How we played it was to find a guy we liked on here, chatted to him to check we clicked and verified via a video call.

We then booked a hotel not too far from him, however also booked him his own room. We explained there may be a chance of us not wanting to meet but at the very least he got a free night and breakfast in a decent hotel. But this took away the option of not being able to find anyone.

Well the night went on and we ended up dropping him the message to come to our room, he came in, shook my hand and found her on the bed in her underwear. Ended up being a great night for all 3 of us tbh.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
3 weeks ago

Halifax

Love the idea of spontaneous meets but then the germophobes and clean freaks inside us kicks in.

If we don't give enough notice to people, how can they ensure they are nicely groomed for the meet.

You need to account for at least some grooming time.

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By *aughtycheshirecoupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

We’ve had a few last minute meets in hotels after a night out. Either brought someone back or invited someone from here. Breaking the ice usually easy. Have a drink and chat then Marie goes and puts on an outfit and the vibe is set and off we go

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By *j1981Man
3 weeks ago

cork


"We’ve had a few last minute meets in hotels after a night out. Either brought someone back or invited someone from here. Breaking the ice usually easy. Have a drink and chat then Marie goes and puts on an outfit and the vibe is set and off we go "

Then see what 'pops' up.... and off you go.....

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By *rivatelurker OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford


"Great. Obviously you must do things your way but I don't understand why you post these threads from your single profile. "

I can't post as a couple yet have to be on here a number of days

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By *rivatelurker OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford


"Love the idea of spontaneous meets but then the germophobes and clean freaks inside us kicks in.

If we don't give enough notice to people, how can they ensure they are nicely groomed for the meet.

You need to account for at least some grooming time."

Didn't think of that

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By *rivatelurker OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford


"We’ve had a few last minute meets in hotels after a night out. Either brought someone back or invited someone from here. Breaking the ice usually easy. Have a drink and chat then Marie goes and puts on an outfit and the vibe is set and off we go "

Thank you for you advice!

You can check our joint profile "peachesandcream93" can't post on here yet as haven't been on long enough

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By *ellhungvweMan
3 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I would suggest that you meet for a drink in the bar first. Don’t get too d*unk. If you hit it off over a drink then it is a fairly easy step to say “Shall we go up stairs?” and then you can start to explore each others whn you reach the room.

If you don’t hit it off then it is fairly easy to say “Thanks for the drink, I am not sure this is for us.” and then take your leave.

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
3 weeks ago

Midlothian

We had a meet with a guy who was working nearby, staying in a nice hotel. Basically it was a no pressure meet for all of us with no promises for fun. Thankfully we all hit it off and within the hour S was being fucked by a handsome scouser. It was great.

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By *onandCouple
3 weeks ago

Cheadle

We were in Menorca last year and just looked on who is near……. Provided hotel and room number….. left the door ajar….. we were already playing on the bed…… in he came stripped played fucked. Nice hour !!

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
2 weeks ago

Cornwall/Devon

One of our things is a spontaneous cum and go meet with a stranger. What we do is put a meet ad up on Fab. When we find a suitable gentleman we ask him to call us for a chat with us both to prove we are all genuine. If all good we invite him to the hotel. Mr meets him in the foyer whilst Ruth is waiting for him in the room either naked or scantily dressed. That in its self breaks the ice and the action starts pretty quickly. No fumbling, or awkward small talk.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

If we are having a drink in the bar with the guy Debs will say something like "I need some cock"

That usually breaks the ice.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds


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I can't post as a couple yet have to be on here a number of days "

You have had your couples profile for two weeks. Maybe try posting from it to see if you now can.

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By *alsam1Couple
2 weeks ago

Caister

We add potential meets on snap so we can have a chat and we can share what we're into.

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By *onandCouple
2 weeks ago

Cheadle

Yep……. Partner exactly the same…… spontaneous fun is so much more interesting

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By *ids2000Couple
2 weeks ago

Worcester


"If we are having a drink in the bar with the guy Debs will say something like "I need some cock"

That usually breaks the ice. "

Haha , can’t say I’ve ever been that forward

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