Sorry if I'm waffling or explaining this a long winded way - know what I'm trying to say, it's putting it into words lol.
So, for a social meet - I fully appreciate both parties should be there and if you can't arrange where everyone can attend there's really no point.
We'd been chatting to a few other couples for a while and decided to try arrange a social. Both me and Mr work very different hours so there's quite a lot of time during a week where one of us is available, other isn't. This is explained early on in our chats. All of the couples had spoken to both of us on here, at length, as well.
So, times/dates were discussed. What suprised me though, is every couple we tried to arrange a social with point blank refused to meet Mr alone if the time they suggested to meet only meant he would be free - citing "we only meet couples together" as the reason - yet all seemed very happy to sort out a time and arrange a social at a time where I could attend alone, and he would be at work or otherwise busy.
Now, I would fully get it if it was a meet both, or not at all scenario; that seems perfectly fair and understandable. What I can't quite understand is why goalposts are moved, and suddenly the "we only meet couples alone" criteria didn't matter?
Is it because in reality the vast majority of couples, despite indicating they want to meet other couples, actually just want a female to join them and they have to accept the other male in a couple as collateral? Or is it because generally the male runs/admins their account and thinks his luck may be in, whereas there's no chance of him getting anything sexual out of it if it progressed into sex? Or is it the distrustful nature of the majority of male profiles on this site, never mind if they're in a couple and meet verified, is so strong some people will genuinely do what they can to avoid a meet?
I've cut contact with all of them, as I said it seemed a bit shady they preach that they don't meet halves of couples alone yet would make every exception to meet a female half alone.
Just really confused by the double standards, per se!
Thoughts?
C xoxo
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