FabSwingers.com forum: Advice for newbies

By *hiskeymuffin OP Couple
4 days ago

Tayside

I'm writing a series of advice posts to publish on X, i was wondering what nuggets of advice you guys would give people just getting into swinging?

Whiskey

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By *ids2000Couple
4 days ago

Worcester

Go to a club , this site is hard work lol x

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
4 days ago

Hampshire

"I'm writing a series of advice posts to publish on X, i was wondering what nuggets of advice you guys would give people just getting into swinging?

Whiskey "

I think I follow you on X (I recognise the username)😈😈

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By *hiskeymuffin OP Couple
4 days ago

Tayside

"I'm writing a series of advice posts to publish on X, i was wondering what nuggets of advice you guys would give people just getting into swinging?

Whiskey

I think I follow you on X (I recognise the username)😈😈"

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By *hagTonightMan
3 days ago

From the land of haribos.

Patience is the key

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
3 days ago

Around the Midlands

Don't go in with unrealistic expectations and keep communicating

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By *hiskeymuffin OP Couple
3 days ago

Tayside

"Don't go in with unrealistic expectations and keep communicating "

Love this one. We still go with the idea that we will just have fun with each other when we visit a club and if anything else happens it's a bonus

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By *teinsGateDuoCouple
3 days ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Make sure to discuss boundaries with your partner and stick to them. Over time you may want to loosen your rules, which is OK, but ensure you always dicuss with your partner.

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By *hat Other GuyMan
1 day ago

Hartlepool

Whats your X so i can follow the post?

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
1 day ago

Leicester

"Don't go in with unrealistic expectations and keep communicating "

This

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By *TRAY-CATMan
1 day ago

dundee

Don't start unless both partners are 100% into the idea . One partner encouraging the other to do it may lead to an unrepairable relationship. First go to a club treating it as a social event .experience the overall feel of the scene.( no need to participate, even the feel may change your mind on going forward). But if it encourages you to go on then GO slow.. and enjoy the experience.

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By *hillCoupleNLCouple
1 day ago

St. John's

To have realistic expectations.

There's often the misconception that swingers will indiscriminately hook-up with anyone and while it is true for some, the vast majority are looking for something more specific in their LS journey. That ends up translating into usually spending far more time talking about swinging than actually connecting physically with others.

Be prepared and have patience for that because it can be frustrating when you're starting out in the beginning and all excited to jump right in and discover it's not that easy.

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By *itygamesMan
1 day ago

i'd say dont publicise anything online ......it will show on google and many other places, can only lead to trouble...especially FB

be discrete,clued up and switched on.

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By *herryEatersCouple
6 hours ago

East Cheshire

"Go to a club , this site is hard work lol x "

Lol certainly is, especially the last few years

. It was MUCH easier when we first joined ten years ago..

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 hours ago

Staffordshire

Take up golf instead.

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By *enelope2UWoman
5 hours ago

Fife

Understand what you really want and are capable of doing..

Stop daydreaming and creating delusional ideas about the imagined version of yourself.

Fix internal insecurities first before jumping on one of the most secure minded, self assured, and honest necessity lifestyles there is.

Get tested for your own sexual health mindset.

Get comfortable addressing uncomfortable/embarrassing/personal/cultural/conversations.

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By *ownandcuntry83Couple
4 hours ago

Podcasts are a great source of information. We listened to the Vanilla to Vixen podcast when we started. Helped us loads as its aimed at newbies and experienced alike. It dispelled alot of myths for us. Then look for local newbie events. They are alot tamer as everyone is either new or understands how nerve racking it can be. Last don't rush. We did. Had a home meet which didn't leave us feeling good. We stopped for a few months untill we went to our first club. Then made so may friends and had a great time. xx

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