FabSwingers.com forum: General meet

Barnsley

Hi guys

So I’ve been on this site a couple of years now and although I’ve set up a few meets with lovely (so I thought) women, they pull out at the last minute. Starting to lose faith with the site. I’m not an ugly guy I know that and have a decent sized dick which I know how to use. So, what is the issue with meets and, why the ignoring of the NICE messages I send to them. Confused dot com 🤔🤔

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By *icecouple561Couple
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6 days ago

East Sussex

They're probably ignoring your messages because they either have so many that they can't respond to all of them or they don't feel you're their type.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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6 days ago

East Sussex

I don't know why they cancel last minute. It could be a number if reasons . It must feel disheartening

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By *dz69247Man
6 days ago

Manchester

You get a lot of that unfortunately, some are on hear to find genuine real fun, others are on here just for shits and giggles.

Covid had a lot to do with it, people locked up, horny and posting pics of themselves to get likes. Before Covid I’d say the majority on here were genuine and looking for meets, now unfortunately it’s turned to the minority.

Tone of the good things about fab is the verification system, whilst it’s easy to manipulate, it usually does help in finding people that are meeting.

Don’t take it to heart OP, tons and tons of people on here are looking for genuine connections.

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By *umagain58Man
6 days ago

London

Yes frustrating. As others have mentioned they may have good reason or they may be fantasised doing. When you do get a meet the vast majority are lovely people and fun to meet. Don’t give upas can happen. Good luck

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By *izandpaulCouple
6 days ago

merseyside

"Hi guys

We find it best to attend a social.

It's real and people who show up tend to want to be there to meet people.

Once you get your face around and you can show you are potty trained and not too full of yourself, party invites start to trickle through and another world awaits.

Give it a whirl, nothing ventured and all that.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
6 days ago

Coventry

As someone who has done this as a single male and couple I can say the pulling out last minute thing is fairly universal. Doesn't make it suck any less and it does suck harder as a single guy when the scene is a lot harder in general.

However it's is what it is. There lots of reasons why people do this. I think most of the time it's cold feet when shit gets too real. Sometimes it's a case you make have just given them the ick prior somehow. Sometimes you've been gazumped by the appearance of a better offer (people's time is limited). Sometimes it's a last minute failure of mental health or confidence. As well as all the out of the blue genuine reasons. However most people won't give you an honest answer to why. At the end of the day as much as it sucks a stranger off the Internet doesn't owe you a meet and are free to change their mind up to the very last moment. You get a better indication of intent afterwards. Are the chasing you to arrange another meet or are they pulling away, non committal or simple ignoring you going forward? That give you an indication if it was a genuine out of the blue reason or they've simply changed their mind.

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By *iss KinkWoman
6 days ago

North West

Probably being married doesn’t help

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By *iss DevilWoman
6 days ago

Bedford

At the very first glance at your profile, I can see a minimum of two reasons why you're struggling on here. 3rd is, sadly, obvious- you're another man in the ocean of men.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 days ago

Central

If you've got a definite time, date and place to meet arranged and they don't turn up, it's not acceptable.

If people chat for a while and it filters out, that's to be expected as most people are not mutually compatible with most other people and it will take a few messages before they - or you - realise that there's not a match.

Adjust your expectations so that they are realistic expectations

People will generally not write to say that you're both not compatible... No reply= no thanks.

But report to Admin anyone who doesn't turn up for an agreed meeting that was fully arranged.

It's almost certainly not about ugliness or cock etc, when you don't fit the compatibility. 99% of people are not mutually compatible.

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By *etmedomyou123Man
6 days ago

Morley

"Hi guys

I've not been here long and I'm of a similar opinion.

Either that or women just don't like bald guys 🤦‍♂️😂🤣

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By *iss DevilWoman
6 days ago

Bedford

"Hi guys

I've not been here long and I'm of a similar opinion.

Either that or women just don't like bald guys 🤦‍♂️😂🤣"

If I was looking, I wouldn't care about your looks as it's all about connection for me. However, I would have a problem with your line about being a Dom and liking it rough as it's not my cup of tea. But please do not change it, I'm sure there are some women who'd love that.

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By *adam PadamWoman
6 days ago

leeds

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By *adam PadamWoman
6 days ago

leeds

I pull out of meets when people get sleazy before we meet. Any hint of normal being diluted I just withdraw.

I dunno if you do that

Also from the message point of view. I like a polite message with a profile that has a nice pic. A good bio will keep me interested.

Silhouette profiles, empty profiles and a scroll full of dick pics I just won't message. Ask later in bio lacks effort

Also your married. I wouldn't reply. Your wife doesn't deserve it and inevitably the karma police gets us all

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By *herrybakewellCouple
6 days ago

Staffordshire

Does your wife know you're on here? Or are people jumping to conclusions?

We aren't looking for men anymore, but when I was, I'd always choose married over single men.

I hope you find some fun.

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By *ries AngelWoman
6 days ago

poole

If only you were in Dorset…

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 days ago

Fife

Prosti tutes meet strangers to fuck and get paid..you want someone to accept less and on call at your beaming fuck or favourable face imagery just because it's a "sex site".

How about trying to understand the person's interest and wether or not you are comparable to their needs interests etc through a legitimate means like drinks, conversation in person, club, or actual put a bit more effort than a cheap boring "costa social" before throwing unpredictable dick about..

yes there's women on here who are just a hole and guys that don't care what they fuck as long as it has holes... but fortunately they are the minority and not the majority.

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