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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being new to this and not yet have had a meet, we have some questions. Once we have selected our first couple and go to meet them, what is the easiest way for us to move forward so that it makes for a good experience? Keeping in mind that one of us is a little shy. Would you start with simple same room swap and go from there or ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would meet up socially 1st that way nobody is under any pressure to play lol !! then u can go home and discuss yr 1st meet and go from there,if u decide to meet them again then u can decide yr place or there's remember its not a race (a marathon not a sprint ) so take yr time lol have fun guys xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree that meeting socially first with no intention of playing is a good thing it takes the pressure off and allows you to relax in sometimes company a little. When it comes to it we have found a good way to move things forward.is a simple game such as strip poker with maybe a few gentle forfeits thrown in. Decide in advance if you are going for full swap, separate rooms etc and stock to it. It will not be as easy as selecting a couple I'm afraid though, they will have to want to meet you people don't just meet anyone who contacts them.

Best of luck hope it all goes well.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Stick to it I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being new to this and not yet have had a meet, we have some questions. Once we have selected our first couple and go to meet them, what is the easiest way for us to move forward so that it makes for a good experience? Keeping in mind that one of us is a little shy. Would you start with simple same room swap and go from there or ????"

Arrange. A social first don't be put off by the messages you get from single guys which make them out to be lecherous twats. Most couples are normal if alarm bells ring don't meet or take it any further,

Go for a couple that is experienced and likely to not to waste your time especially if it looks like they have other first timers. Make the meet at a local pub with loud or live music in case conversation is poor

Most importantly make no expectations of the evening and just treat it like a meet with your next door neighbours .

Make sure the guys talk to each other and get on as do the women, if you want to start the playing its usually better to let the girls to start first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being new to this and not yet have had a meet, we have some questions. Once we have selected our first couple and go to meet them, what is the easiest way for us to move forward so that it makes for a good experience? Keeping in mind that one of us is a little shy. Would you start with simple same room swap and go from there or ????"

No.1 - agree your 'ground rules' before you even go for a Social meet - let alone a play meet!!

Make sure BOTH of you are totally clear on what your boundaries are in terms of how far you feel comfortable taking things and NEVER go further than the earliest 'stop point'.

If EITHER of you is not happy with the other couple or the situation, never EVER 'take one for the team'. Bring the meet to an end in a civil way (there is no need to be rude to the other couple) and leave. Don't drag it out - IMHE, this leads to confusion in the minds of the other couple as the longer it goes on 'may' be sign to some that you DO intend to play.

Try and keep alcohol to an absolute minimum - that way, you are still VERY aware of what is going on and hopefully won't get into a situation it could be hard to get out of it. It happens....

Make sure you have both a SAFETY WORD, and a 'Lets get out of here' phrase or subject of conversation, so you have a subtle signal to each other that one of you is not happy.

Apart from all that (!!! Lol!), take a big breath, knock on their door and have a great time!!!!

Good luck guys

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Totally agree with all the above especially the advice about taking one for the team. Very good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree with all the above especially the advice about taking one for the team. Very good advice."

You're too kind. Copies of my new book "A beginners Guide to Shagging Complete Strangers" will be available in Waterstones from next Tuesday...

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By *otwife CoolhubCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Before you even get to this stage you need to find out your own swinging parameters.

Sometimes one of the couple might want to go full swap whilst the other isn't comfortable. No point in finding out half way through a meet that full swap isn't for you. Just be honest and tell your partner what turns you on and what makes you a little anxious.

Also at first, take your time to find a couple whose wants pretty well match up to yours.

And finally relax after all, it's just a but of recreational fun.

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By *exyhornycplCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

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By *exyhornycplCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Totally agree with all the above especially the advice about taking one for the team. Very good advice.

You're too kind. Copies of my new book "A beginners Guide to Shagging Complete Strangers" will be available in Waterstones from next Tuesday... "

perfect x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Totally agree with all the above especially the advice about taking one for the team. Very good advice.

You're too kind. Copies of my new book "A beginners Guide to Shagging Complete Strangers" will be available in Waterstones from next Tuesday... "

I have pre-ordered from Amazon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree with all the above especially the advice about taking one for the team. Very good advice.

You're too kind. Copies of my new book "A beginners Guide to Shagging Complete Strangers" will be available in Waterstones from next Tuesday...

I have pre-ordered from Amazon "

My first bit of commission! Ker-ching!!!

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