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By *oe90s OP   Man
4 days ago

Whitstable and London (central)

I'm planning to host for the first time for a group event and would appreciate any advice, tips or do's and don'ts from you more experienced guys.

Questions like what's a good ratio of women vs couples vs men, how many rooms should be made available etc.

Perhaps you went to a really good or bad event - it would be good to hear what you did and didn't like about it.

On a very basic level, presumably it's good to have some refreshments available too? It's not a commercial event so I would be hosting and getting things in.

And for anyone who is based near/in reach of Whitstable in Kent that's where it will be so feel free to message if it's something you might want to attend.

Thanks in advance!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 days ago

East Sussex

From what little experience we've had of attending private parties I'd say

Have a designated social only space

Have a dedicated fully sober, not participating person around all the time.

Provide snacks.

Limit alcohol etc

Have plenty of clean towels.

Shut all but the rooms you're using and lock them if possible.

Make it clear to everyone beforehand what type of party it will be.

Have an ice breaker prepared.

Good luck and hope it goes well

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By *oe90s OP   Man
4 days ago

Whitstable and London (central)

That's super helpful! Many thanks x

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By *ogandher1962Couple
4 days ago

Reading

Probably invite three times as many people as you’re capable of hosting due to no shows and dreamers. Will it be in a private property or a commercial unit?

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By *oe90s OP   Man
4 days ago

Whitstable and London (central)

Thanks for the tip. It will be in a private residence x

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By *ovecumfromyouCouple
4 days ago

northampton

We have been to a couple of house parties and ratio of men to women is usually 4 to 1, which I love. There are limited snacks and usually a beer or wine to start the evening to break the ice.

There are limited house parties we attended started of with the men and women separately receiving rules and then straight into a bukkake. Short break then party into full swing. Great nights with lots of fun.

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By *oe90s OP   Man
4 days ago

Whitstable and London (central)

Thanks for that. Out of interest, what sort of rules were/are typically set? Is it then for the group to self moderate behaviour if they see or hear anything that's out of order?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 days ago

Central

You could perhaps meet potential attendees at clubs, as they will have track record of being around others.

I would definitely recommend meeting all of the potential guests in advance anyway, as you'll be able to guage reliability and suitability too.

I generally support the other posts here. And especially upon expecting a very high proportion of people who don't turn up.

Question yourself why you're doing this, including at your own home. It carries risks and is very hard work. Would a smaller get together at a club give you some of the same rewards but at lower risk?

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By *ogandher1962Couple
4 days ago

Reading

We'd add one more caveat, where are you going to find the couples / single women from?

We'd also add that we wouldn't really want bunch of swingers in our house.

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By *dz69247Man
4 days ago

Manchester

I hosted a gangbang once at my flat, with people I didn’t know, never again.

The main key issues I had was parking, 8 cars on a very narrow street didn’t help matters, finding a solution to this will help. Also you need to dictate the flow of the event, so keep rooms you want private shut and locked, it’s easy to fit a quick bolt to a door, however with me, some cunt decided they wanted to warm up and wank in my kids bedroom (kids wasn’t there obviously lol), which was locked, and had to throw him out, which then caused the mood to change.

Luckily 5 of the lads I knew well and we rescued the evening quite well. Lady and her partner had a great time and have arranged GBs since, but always at a hotel now lol.

My best advice, make sure you know who you are inviting into your home

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By *rincessandthebearCouple
4 days ago

Alton

Plan a good way in advance, fix a maximum number and stick to it. We work on a max of 10 couples, 3 single guys, 3 single ladies. Expect that there will be no shows. It’s helpful to have a core of people that you know will actually show up, so at least then the effort you have made will not be in vain.

We say to bring own drinks and contribution to snacks, and go through rules etc with any new guests- eg no go areas, reminding about consent, tidying up mess.

I would also set a time to arrive by- so you can come off door hosting duties, and also a time to finish so you can happily chuck everyone out.

It’s a fair amount of work to get the right mix of people, and you may find that people are put off as it’s a single guy hosting it. Or, you may not.

Oh- and waterproof mattress protectors!

Have fun!

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By *oe90s OP   Man
4 days ago

Whitstable and London (central)

Thanks for this - great suggestion.

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By *oe90s OP   Man
4 days ago

Whitstable and London (central)

Thanks guys

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By *oe90s OP   Man
4 days ago

Whitstable and London (central)

Thank you!

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By *illmattMan
4 days ago

Leicestershire

Individual drinks bottles or cans that are sealed so everyone knows what they are drinking is fresh and not already opened. Not big shared bottles

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By *Xtriple7Couple
4 days ago

N Peterborough.

Some very good advice here.

We went to a party once where the only people from fabs were this 'couple' and the guy was a complete arsehole. Eyeing up women while wanking as though they were going to offer themselves to him. Ended up cumming in a woman's eye, bearing in mind this was a covered/safe event. They got thrown out and they left a negative review on fabs right away.

As mentioned before, a decent crowd can really make the mood good and have a great time.

Airbnb is a possibility, not easy nowadays as the social media OF working girls plowed 101 guys in one recently so they're wise to groups turning up.

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By *ovecumfromyouCouple
4 days ago

northampton

Guy takes women to one side and explains the order of the evening, then says if anyone is not clean just tap them on knee and say can you clean up please.

The woman explains the exact thing to the men saying if you get tapped on knee go and have a wash. No means No at all times.

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By *dz69247Man
4 days ago

Manchester


"Guy takes women to one side and explains the order of the evening, then says if anyone is not clean just tap them on knee and say can you clean up please.

The woman explains the exact thing to the men saying if you get tapped on knee go and have a wash. No means No at all times. "

That is grim lol. I’m shocked at this day and age that people are not clean in the basic hygiene department. I get it if you have just done anal, and they might have forgotten to freshen up, but to come to an event, and not look your best is just shocking.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 days ago

East Sussex


"Guy takes women to one side and explains the order of the evening, then says if anyone is not clean just tap them on knee and say can you clean up please.

The woman explains the exact thing to the men saying if you get tapped on knee go and have a wash. No means No at all times. "

Is the same system in place for men to tap women on the knee?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 days ago

East Sussex

Op we went to a private party where all the other couples knew each other. This left us at a distinct disadvantage although the hosts were very friendly and welcoming the other guests weren't so much. Hence my advice re an ice breaker.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
4 days ago

North East / London


"…

I would definitely recommend meeting all of the potential guests in advance anyway, as you'll be able to gauge reliability and suitability too.

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I have hosted a couple of private parties and this is the critical step. Always have a social in person in advance without exception. How they handle that will reveal how they behave generally.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
4 days ago

Halifax

Speak with some of the seasoned organisers and maybe go to one of their parties, you can make some good connections.

Lots of good advice here but in the end it comes down to people, unless people know you personally (especially couples and females), you will struggle to get decent people in. We and a lot of people we know only go to parties organised by people we know or our friends know, word of mouth goes a long way in this community.

Rules etc. are secondary, get buy in from attendees first.

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By *dz69247Man
4 days ago

Manchester


"word of mouth goes a long way in this community."

Under rated comment right here. Reputation is everything. I’ve had plenty of invites to private parties due to meeting people and them knowing I’m genuine.

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By *izandpaulCouple
4 days ago

merseyside

We have attended and hosted many parties.

Some good, some not so.

You will have to take into account many on this site are timewasters, dreamers and folks who like in a fantasy world.

Would I host in our home, absolutely not.

we found the best way to out timewasters and non swingers is to initially arrange a social in a pub.

Just a social pub meet, nothing expected, nothing promised, just a nice evening with a few drinks.

If folks won't show up for that, there is no way they will come to a party.

Some will respond they don't like pubs or socials, that's fine, the won't be coming to your party.

The ones who love email or message tennis, we have found through experience, are just that, message senders and no shows.

Expect a lot of work, lots of messages, lots of texts etc.

But, but....when its goes right, its FAB.

Nothing better than a sexy group of people meeting up.

Have a look around pubs first, find one that fits the bill.

Wishing you every luck.

Always happy to advise.

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By *oe90s OP   Man
4 days ago

Whitstable and London (central)

Many thanks to everyone for their advice and suggestions. Much appreciated x

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