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"Nothing the matter with your verifications if they are a true and honest reflection of you and what you like to do For many they maybe nicked, but I’m sure you’re not after the many but the few that align to you Personally I do not like seeing or what ever message anyone who has photos of them with others on their profile Obviously you have a kink side and part of that is consent and trust. How does anyone know that the people in them have consented to being there even if you say they have " Niche not nicked!! | |||
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"Nothing the matter with your verifications if they are a true and honest reflection of you and what you like to do For many they maybe nicked, but I’m sure you’re not after the many but the few that align to you Personally I do not like seeing or what ever message anyone who has photos of them with others on their profile Obviously you have a kink side and part of that is consent and trust. How does anyone know that the people in them have consented to being there even if you say they have " | |||
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"I think the problem is probably more to do with some perceived "drama" that has happened around a meet and been discussed with others, rather than your verifications. " | |||
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"I hate verifications with passion, and here’s a prime example of why. Personally, I find your verifications too graphic but that’s probably just me. I would also say something about verifications or whatever as an excuse to not meet if I don’t fancy someone, or their profile, for whatever reason. You could always hide them if you find them to be problematic." | |||
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"Your verifications are a bit niche. That's fine. Why would you want to appeal to people you're not compatible with anyway. As to safe sex and recent events, that's more likely to do with word of mouth following a particular incident. You probably do have at least some inkling of what that is if you think about it 💜" | |||
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"I wouldn't let it bother you OP as it may be more about one of the people who have verified you that had upset someone else which can result in playground like name calling. Just how it is on here sometimes and if they won't tell you what the issue is there's no point losing sleep over it." | |||
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"Judging from your first paragraph I would guess that the veri thing is a red herring and you have either pissed someone off or done something they were unhappy about and now you are being talked about behind your back." | |||
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" I had cancelled a meet at last minute recently and the person was upset " So I assume this person then told three friends who then messaged you | |||
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"Yeah it is a double edged sword - I prefer slightly less graphic ones but I do seem to get them - then you get ina dilemma of hiding verifications making people think there is a issue or showing them and being judged 🤦♂️ I totally accept I am a kinky guy with a skill set in domination and look to match with those that are wanting those experiences I hate verifications with passion, and here’s a prime example of why. Personally, I find your verifications too graphic but that’s probably just me. I would also say something about verifications or whatever as an excuse to not meet if I don’t fancy someone, or their profile, for whatever reason. You could always hide them if you find them to be problematic." I think it might be a good idea to hide them until the whatever drama is going on behind the scenes passes but be willing to show to whoever you are engaging with more in detail. Or leave them be as they are an indication of who you are and what you are good at and ignore the drama but I would take the paragraph going into detail about said drama from your profile but again, you do what ever feels best for you. | |||
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"Yeah it is a double edged sword - I prefer slightly less graphic ones but I do seem to get them - then you get ina dilemma of hiding verifications making people think there is a issue or showing them and being judged 🤦♂️ I totally accept I am a kinky guy with a skill set in domination and look to match with those that are wanting those experiences I hate verifications with passion, and here’s a prime example of why. Personally, I find your verifications too graphic but that’s probably just me. I would also say something about verifications or whatever as an excuse to not meet if I don’t fancy someone, or their profile, for whatever reason. You could always hide them if you find them to be problematic. I think it might be a good idea to hide them until the whatever drama is going on behind the scenes passes but be willing to show to whoever you are engaging with more in detail. Or leave them be as they are an indication of who you are and what you are good at and ignore the drama but I would take the paragraph going into detail about said drama from your profile but again, you do what ever feels best for you." | |||
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"These are good verifications and yes some are bit graphic and may not appeal to few but they are still a reflection of people enjoying your company, I would absolutely not hide or change them. Some people just feel obliged to detail their experience and that is fine, it gives others an idea of what to expect and gauge each other's boundaries. Like many have said, the problem with drama is probably something else." | |||
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"These are good verifications and yes some are bit graphic and may not appeal to few but they are still a reflection of people enjoying your company, I would absolutely not hide or change them. Some people just feel obliged to detail their experience and that is fine, it gives others an idea of what to expect and gauge each other's boundaries. Like many have said, the problem with drama is probably something else." | |||
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"Sounds like someone in your recent veris has been a drama llama or caught and spread something unfortunate then." | |||
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" I had cancelled a meet at last minute recently and the person was upset So I assume this person then told three friends who then messaged you" This could be spot on. | |||
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"I am wondering now if this thread is to lure us in to read your verifications !" | |||
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"Have you kept in contact with the meet you cancelled at short notice ?" | |||
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"Your verifications have got to be better than my verifications! " | |||
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"I can’t stop you wondering that, I am genuinely trying to understand what has happened" ____________________________ Only those directly involved can answer that question. | |||
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"I can’t stop you wondering that, I am genuinely trying to understand what has happened ____________________________ Only those directly involved can answer that question." | |||
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"I mean I read your profile, looked at the veris (which i did not find graphic at all ? ) did the drama occur after your latest veri? potentially the ladies know each other? " | |||
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"Have you any more meetings with anyone planned ?" | |||
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"I hate verifications with passion, and here’s a prime example of why. Personally, I find your verifications too graphic but that’s probably just me. I would also say something about verifications or whatever as an excuse to not meet if I don’t fancy someone, or their profile, for whatever reason. You could always hide them if you find them to be problematic." We would agree.....we simply don't post graphic verifications. We prefer to keep things a little classy. | |||
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"I despise sex verifications anyway but what would put me off yours are "Dominant" "Stretched holes" "Kink" Not everyone is into that." | |||
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"I always think that people who don't like what you do or something about your profile are just demonstrating that they're not compatible with you. It's not really a problem because you'd be unlikely to meet anyway and changing to suit their tastes would be pointless. " | |||
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"I read that as they are not wanting to meet you, because of some of the people you have met, that they don't like. Personally I'd keep all the veris you want to show on show, you can't people please everyone and you wouldn't want to meet jealous people, who feel the need to moan to you about your meets anyway." | |||
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