FabSwingers.com forum: Picking up a guy on a normal night out

By *ature Spice OP Couple
1 week ago

Ramsbottom

We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice.

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By *antstoexploreCouple
1 week ago

wales

We look for same with no luck

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By *rtfull-doggersCouple
1 week ago

mowcop

Ask hubby to pre arrange but don't tell you

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By *opoftheworld39Man
1 week ago

Swords

Definitely agree with this one. Get hubby to pre arrange and not tell you!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
1 week ago

East Sussex

You might need to roleplay a bit and agree to meet a man from here 'accidentally'. I don't agree with getting the husband to arrange, what if the wife doesn't find the guy attractive?

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By *erbys_coupleCouple
1 week ago

Derby

My guess is that if you see a guy out that fits the bill then make an approach. Think it’s unlikely that the guy will approach a couple.

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By *ature Spice OP Couple
1 week ago

Ramsbottom

We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
1 week ago

There and Here

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"

Perhaps you need to be more direct

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By *os19Man
1 week ago

Edmonton

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
. I think this will only work if you guys make the first move.It’s highly unlikely a single guy will approach a couple unless he knows one or both of them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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1 week ago

East Sussex

Also I think that picking people up on a night out becomes less likely as you grow older. Many older men on a night out will be expected home at a certain time and picking up a couple is probably the last thing on the list of likely events of the others.

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By *ature Spice OP Couple
1 week ago

Ramsbottom

"Also I think that picking people up on a night out becomes less likely as you grow older. Many older men on a night out will be expected home at a certain time and picking up a couple is probably the last thing on the list of likely events of the others. "

Thats a good point

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By *raverageMrsmilfCouple
1 week ago

Surrey

Fantasy of Mr is Mrs bringing a guy back after a night out

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By *harAndBryCouple
1 week ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

In almost five years of doing this, we've managed to pick up one guy at a garden centre and take him home, and Char's managed to blow one guy in a car park next to a pub.

We've been approached a few times in shops and also approached a few guys and if they've been single, Char's swapped numbers, but nothing's ever come of it.

Keep trying, but have realistic expectations.

(Bry)

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By *aughtycheshirecoupleCouple
1 week ago

Cheshire

It’s really easy to pick guys up on nights out. Marie normally gets her tits out on a night out anyway.

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By *ancelot1633Man
1 week ago

weybridge

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple

Perhaps you need to be more direct"

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By *rankie4Man
1 week ago

Glasgow

The male of the couple can talk to the single guy in the toilet or when his wife is away to powder her nose and tell him what the couple are looking for. Simples.

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By *ancelot1633Man
1 week ago

weybridge

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. . I think this will only work if you guys make the first move.It’s highly unlikely a single guy will approach a couple unless he knows one or both of them."

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By *un couple 2Couple
1 week ago

Tynemouth.

easy if you make it known your looking, wear an anklet.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
1 week ago

Teesside

Have the lady make the first move, if you get on then make it clear what you’re both looking for. Men aren’t going to spend time chatting to a random couple for long if they think you’re just chatty people and being friendly.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
1 week ago

cahoots

Just leave her alone for a few minutes if it's a busy bar or try hotel bars midweek...pretty much guaranteed.

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By *ellhungvweMan
1 week ago

Cheltenham

"In almost five years of doing this, we've managed to pick up one guy at a garden centre and take him home, and Char's managed to blow one guy in a car park next to a pub."

Genuinely curious as to how you pick someone up at the garden centre! What’s the opening line? Something about a bush?

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By *ancelot1633Man
1 week ago

weybridge

“Couldnt help but admire your bush”

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By *harAndBryCouple
1 week ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Genuinely curious as to how you pick someone up at the garden centre! What’s the opening line? Something about a bush?"

We're normally VERY careful taking our flashing pics, but he clocked us and followed us around. We nodded hello at one stage then as we were getting in the car we noticed he'd parked in a corner. We drove over, got talking, he copped a feeling in the car then we asked him if he wanted to come back with us.

Unfortunately you have to scroll through to June '23 to see the pics in our gallery!

(Bry)

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By *anonfire96Man
1 week ago

Mansfield

Something I'd love to experience, about zero % chance of it happening.

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By *tevenTellyCouple
1 week ago

Newmarket

Always an idea we are up for but I don't know we have ever pushed for it. But if the opportunity presented itself.....

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By *siaessex2Couple
1 week ago

essex

We been thinking about trying to pick up a guy at the bar of hotel is this a good idea should she flash at him or what.

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By *wice pleaseMan
1 week ago

near Darlington

Try hotel bars. I have met random couples there several times. I do stay in a lot of hotels though. Usually alone on business I always find people to chat to and sometimes get lucky.

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By *he Happy ManMan
1 week ago

Merseyside

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Where do you drink lol?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
1 week ago

cahoots

"We been thinking about trying to pick up a guy at the bar of hotel is this a good idea should she flash at him or what."

Just start chatting and take it from there

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By *eesside50Man
1 week ago

Stockton-On-Tees

Also free to chat and see where it leads with a female or couple xx

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
1 week ago

Cheshire

Best left to the lady to do then just let her tell the lucky its on the cards aslong as its with the other half half. He will already be wanting to fuck the misses.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
1 week ago

Cheshire

Tell the lucky guy

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By *umagain58Man
1 week ago

London

Oooh would be an honour if this happened

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By *lanenakedMan
1 week ago

near you

As a single guy there's no way I'd approach a couple even if the lady was being flirtatious. They'd have to make the first move or id just assume they were pissing around having a laugh at my expense or kidding on, so I'd likely smile and move on..

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By *ean directMan
1 week ago

havant

Think there would have to be a very direct dialogue.

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

We’ve tried this to no avail

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By *r-bond-DMan
1 week ago

Wallasey

I'd love to meet a mature couple and be able to have fun with the Mrs

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By *arry bethelABCMan
1 week ago

Aberdeen

This is how i found fab. I was chatting with lady at bar and her hubby was there. Thwy were very direct after 20 mins so think that is the way to go

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By *rystal cannonMan
1 week ago

alfreton

had an expeirence where a couple started chatting didnt think anything was up for fun until she handed me a blue pill and winked the rest is history

I think you need to be bolder

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By *stwo80Couple
1 week ago

yorkshire

Done it before and it is hard to do, but it's all possible.

Found the best way is to enter the bar separately,blokes are always looking for a single girl.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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1 week ago

East Sussex

"had an expeirence where a couple started chatting didnt think anything was up for fun until she handed me a blue pill and winked the rest is history

I think you need to be bolder "

Did you take the pill?

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By *arkX1982XMan
1 week ago

Dartford Kent SE London

Definitely be more direct with your intentions, good luck

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By *rouble-RedmistCouple
1 week ago

Hertford

Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.

She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.

I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room

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By *iberatedduoCouple
1 week ago

Ashbourne

No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
1 week ago

Teesside

"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "

If guys have seen you both drinking together then that’s probably why no effort was made.

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

I’ve had a guy come up to me and just have a chat, about life etc. Normal talk shit to someone on a night out.

I’m open and friendly naturally so didn’t mind it.

He brought up the subject of his wife later and we had a great time at their place.

It may depend on the person you choose, if they friendly and open to the idea?

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1 week ago

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "

As TallinHandsome said, no man would approach a couple on a night out, as 9/10 times, it would probably end in tears.

You guys need to make the move, so they know what you’re after.

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By *orruptionandliesMan
1 week ago

leeds

If midweek look at hotel bars and guys away with work

But agree with everyone you guys need to just be polite and quite early in the conversation just ask if they would be interested

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By *over of ladiesMan
7 days ago

cannock

Most blokes will stay away from a couple,so you would have to make the first move,I think,if one of you came to me and explained what your looking for,think you would be surprised at how many would jump at it,I know I would.

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By *ryorkshirepleaserMan
7 days ago

Yorkshire

This is how I got my first 3 way... I pulled the lady as normal and then she introduced her husband who was sat at the bar watching..

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By *obf27Man
7 days ago

st Helen’s

I’d love this to happen on a normal night out would be so hot

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By *anonfire96Man
7 days ago

Mansfield

I certainly wish this would happen to me on a night out. More chance of winning the lottery.

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By *anonfire96Man
7 days ago

Mansfield

Most guys won't approach if they've seen you arrive together, if you want to pick up a guy like that you will almost certainly have to make the first move. If a couple approached me like that I would definitely be up for it.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
7 days ago

furnace

It has happened to me but years ago now

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By *rouble-RedmistCouple
7 days ago

Hertford

Following on from this

Mrs doesn't stand at the bar waiting for someone to approach, she will start a conversation, flirt a little and then lean in for a snog

In this day and age, the women have to be very forward, there are lots of gentlemen quite rightly worried about repercussions of making the first move and getting it wrong

"Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.

She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.

I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room

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By *rouble-RedmistCouple
7 days ago

Hertford

100% this

This is how it's happened for us

"Best left to the lady to do then just let her tell the lucky its on the cards aslong as its with the other half half. He will already be wanting to fuck the misses."

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By *eckard2019Man
7 days ago

North West Durham

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"

You need to be a bit more up front with what you are after or find me in a bar

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By *lanenakedMan
7 days ago

near you

"Done it before and it is hard to do, but it's all possible.

Found the best way is to enter the bar separately,blokes are always looking for a single girl.

Good plan ..

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By *arry monk40Man
7 days ago

Telford

Come to Telford buy me a pint I'm cheap

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By *lanenakedMan
7 days ago

near you

"Following on from this

Mrs doesn't stand at the bar waiting for someone to approach, she will start a conversation, flirt a little and then lean in for a snog

In this day and age, the women have to be very forward, there are lots of gentlemen quite rightly worried about repercussions of making the first move and getting it wrong

Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.

She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.

I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room

100 percent correct.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
6 days ago

north of lincoln

We pick up guys all the time in bars. It’s actually easier than getting a decent meet on here.

Boobs is very good at chatting to guys she fancies at the bar or on the dance floor. She tells them we are swingers and then sees if they are interested in joining us . Also beards does similar in the gay bars.

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By *immyg88Man
6 days ago

Wrexham

Following

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By *hisismeXXXMan
5 days ago

Welsh Wales

This is easier than you’d imagine, with a little bit of planning, the right attitude and a bold approach.

Along with my ex, we would often go clubbing when staying away from home, either overnight hotel break or on holiday, and the wife would like to dance so would hit the dance floor while I sat on the side watching her dance.

Inevitably she would attract male attention and she would enjoy flirting, kissing etc, and if all going well would head over my way and casually drop in ‘this is my husband’.

Some would freak out, some would go with it, and we’d often take a guy back to the hotel.

Holiday hotels/bars, waiters and bar staff can be a fruitful hunting ground also.

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By *hisismeXXXMan
5 days ago

Welsh Wales

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"

You can’t leave it up to the guy to work it out. You need to be up front and tell them.

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By *hirleyMan
5 days ago

somewhere

This is not likely to happen. You can't force spontaneity which is what that sounds like to me

You'd have more chance arranging a social with a potential to do more through this website.

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By *hirleyMan
5 days ago

somewhere

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple

You can’t leave it up to the guy to work it out. You need to be up front and tell them. "

Some people are not naturally up front and for all the want of trying you can't force that out of someone.

You're right in what you said before though. You have to create your own luck, nothing comes to you. I do wonder if OP may have that trail of thought

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By *endalshaggersCouple
4 days ago

Kendal

I have been hit on a lot in the past even when I'm clearly out with my husband and not "aiming" to pull.

My advice is wear something sexy, flattering although not absolutely over the top "slutty". Go to the bar on your own, leave him sat at a table. If there's a gaggle of guys stood together, accidentally knock into one of them (great if your're wearing heels and it's a bit of a cobbled/uneven floor). You'll probably end up being able to get your drink bought and have a bit of a gossip. If there's any of them that particularly take your eye and it's mutual, focus on them and keep talking to them throughout the night. If they are moving on to a different bar, go with them. While you make it clear you are out with Mr, don't stick to his side like glue all night. Bring the guy over to the table, introduce each other, keep it flirty.

C xoxo

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By *eediousMan
4 days ago

Smallville

Had this happen to me as a single guy.

Was on a solo holiday to GC and sat in the hotel bar after breakfast to watch the Euros. Was the only person there at that point and a couple staying at the hotel walked in.

We struck up a conversation and spoke to 30mins, then the man made an excuse to get something from their room and left the missus. We chatted for a further 30mins and she admitted that they were trying to pick me up but he wanted it and she wasn’t so sure.

Anyway, the lack of directness and possible wading through nerves put me off, so made my excuses and left.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
4 days ago

coleraine

We have managed this a couple of times successfully.

I am naturally quite confident and flirty when I want to be and a few touches on a leg helps things along. We I get a positive reaction I will go to the toilet and hubby will just ask if he want to join us both. If it’s positive then hubby will go to the toilet and allow us 10 mins to chat alone as well.

Both times on holiday. Things are much more relaxed and less time pressured then back home.

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By *kdbaldmanMan
4 days ago

Harrogate

I'm wanting that too to be picked up Yorkshire area

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
4 days ago

Coventry

We tend to find nights out a great place to pick up guys, ladies and the occasional couple. I think the biggest problem for us is not having a space to take them back to and likewise them. Also as we're not so keen to go to a strangers house, other people are likewise not so keen to go to a strangers house. So having somewhere neutral like a hotel to go back to helps.

Luckily being in a big city there tends to be lots of people visiting/working from hotels. Hotels work for us as a nice neutral space. We met a vanilla couple (now an ex vanilla couple) who were staying in the same hotel as a Christmas party which turned out to be a really hot night. Mrs bumped into 3 lovely guys who were working in the area on a night out. She went back to their hotel and had a lovely time.

So I would say from our experience picking up guys is not so difficult but having a nice neutral space like a hotel room to go back to can make the difference in sealing the deal.

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By *d4ugirlsMan
2 days ago

Green Cove Springs

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Have to approach this from a different angle.

What subtle hints are you giving to a guy to show your intentions?

That way there I am not missing opportunities!

The rubbing on the upper thigh, being asked to go on the dance floor and grinded on, being flashed breasts are pretty obvious and happen all the time according to the Stories and Fantasy section.

A thick fella ( in the head, better say brain so not missinterpreted) needs to know the subtle hints!

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By *erlins5Man
2 days ago

South Fife

"The male of the couple can talk to the single guy in the toilet or when his wife is away to powder her nose and tell him what the couple are looking for. Simples."

Not all guys would be up for this, and believe it or not there are men who would be shocked by this.

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By *eyeYCouple
2 days ago

Nr Leicester

If we were interested in picking up a single guy, we'd have D initiate chat as he's great at connecting with people, have some pictures of me in less attire (not action or fully nude) and ask them if they're interested in seeing more/for real..

We feel it would be far more upfront from him than me flirting and then dropping the fact we're a couple on the guy..

He's managed it with ladies so would have no issue applying to guys.. 👍

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By *orny salesmanMan
2 days ago

Preston

I wish a couple would approach me but my ultimate fantasy would be if we hit if off with a guy and my wife ended up fucking him while l watched

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By *oppySeed3Couple
2 days ago

derby

This is a fantasy of mine and the mrs would be happy to do it. Just finding the right guy

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By *fweonlymeettwiceMan
2 days ago

Madrid

Why not use the 'Whos near' when you are out then maybe choose someone to your liking

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By *ink vixenCouple
2 days ago

Medway

Perhaps if you go to towns where you’re not known you could be more direct.

Believe me, most guys need to be hit over the head or given a hand written invite a week in advance to actually get the message!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
2 days ago

cahoots

"Perhaps if you go to towns where you’re not known you could be more direct.

Believe me, most guys need to be hit over the head or given a hand written invite a week in advance to actually get the message! "

Paul is like this as he gets flirted with a lot but doesn't have a clue that it's happening even when I point it out.

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By *attering_ramMan
15 hours ago

near you

Well your profile says you only play with 50+ …. Finding a guy of that calibre in a club is definitely going to be hard work

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By *loydyMan
15 hours ago

British

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
move to Newcastle lol

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By *jekimMan
15 hours ago

Wigan

Anyone in Wigan I'd be happy to help out

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By *DW1983Man
7 hours ago

Peterborough, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I think you'd need to make it very obvious and be open about what you're looking for. It might be clear to you, but how should a guy know that?

Even being flirtatious wouldn't be a definite signal for me - lots of people can be naturally flirty but aren't saying 'come to bed'.

Also, don't forget that despite the stereotype, or what you read on here, many guys probably *aren't* looking for anything. And even if they are, not every one of them will be attracted to you, no matter how obvious you make it.

Being direct about what you want seems the best option to me, that way both parties know where they stand.

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By *dz69247Man
6 hours ago

Manchester

I’ve pulled a couple or two out on the town in bury. It’s a shame the Clarence has shut down, as that use to be a meeting place for a lot of people before they went to partners.

I’ve had a couple of meets where I’ve been drinking in the Clarence, been chatting with a group of people, and they have invited me to join them at partners.

No idea of the pub they use nowadays but worth finding out as this could be a good jumping place.

The key is to get flirtatious. Everyone in Bury talks to everyone, so it should be easy to start making conversations, I’ve chatted to many a couple on a night out, but it’s just general chit chat, I would never dream of getting flirty with a lady of a couple, unless they made them intentions first, then at that point it’s all game.

Also I noticed you look for mainly older males. Which is great, but older males are usually more gentlemanly, so you have a further uphill battle, you definitely need to make your intentions much clearer. Most men in bury are Randy fuckers, so you shouldn’t have much trouble, especially if you look like your pictures to take it further.

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
6 hours ago

Salford

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Dress us, you leave him at the table, you out to find the guy and chat and flirt. Then say what you're after, be honest then kiss him if he interested.

Bring him back to the table but you fit next to him touching his thighs and cock

Explain this is your husband, show a picture of you together to prove this is real and not a stitch up

Fella confirms all you spoke about. To make things neutral ground, fella can book a place from there in a place near the new guys so if anything goes wrong he knows he's close to home and can leave.

This would be better. Do not go looking together, it'll come off as too weird l..remember you're going out to meet regular people not swingers so you have to approach casually with just the woman then slowly acclimatise the guy you like.

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By *lfa RomeoMan
6 hours ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

Maybe come down to Hertfordshire op

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By *ev_1Couple
6 hours ago

Bickliegh

Finding the right venue is a good start op for similar age range have you thought about a Butlins Adult weekend ??

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
6 hours ago

London

We've done this a fair few times and a bit of advice which may help

As soon olhave said, going to places where guys picking up women is more common will help. Bars more than pubs, clubs too. But could also be hotel bars.

Most guys won't approach a couple, so hubby needs to be prepared to step back for some time… and Mrs needs to be happy to dance or be on her own for a bit.

The biggest thing though is that you cannot be subtle. If you think you're giving off vibes to be approached, do more! The guys will need to feel very confident that you're ok to be approached so make it obvious! This is less important if Mrs is on the dancefloor alone but it's likely they've seen you together at some point

Hope that helps!

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