FabSwingers.com forum: Picking up a guy on a normal night out

By *ature Spice OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Ramsbottom

We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice.

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By *antstoexploreCouple
6 weeks ago

wales

We look for same with no luck

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By *rtfull-doggersCouple
6 weeks ago

mowcop

Ask hubby to pre arrange but don't tell you

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By *opoftheworld39Man
6 weeks ago

Swords

Definitely agree with this one. Get hubby to pre arrange and not tell you!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

East Sussex

You might need to roleplay a bit and agree to meet a man from here 'accidentally'. I don't agree with getting the husband to arrange, what if the wife doesn't find the guy attractive?

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By *erbys_coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Derby

My guess is that if you see a guy out that fits the bill then make an approach. Think it’s unlikely that the guy will approach a couple.

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By *ature Spice OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Ramsbottom

We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

There and Here

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"

Perhaps you need to be more direct

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By *os19Man
6 weeks ago

Edmonton

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
. I think this will only work if you guys make the first move.It’s highly unlikely a single guy will approach a couple unless he knows one or both of them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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6 weeks ago

East Sussex

Also I think that picking people up on a night out becomes less likely as you grow older. Many older men on a night out will be expected home at a certain time and picking up a couple is probably the last thing on the list of likely events of the others.

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By *ature Spice OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Ramsbottom

"Also I think that picking people up on a night out becomes less likely as you grow older. Many older men on a night out will be expected home at a certain time and picking up a couple is probably the last thing on the list of likely events of the others. "

Thats a good point

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Fantasy of Mr is Mrs bringing a guy back after a night out

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By *harAndBryCouple
6 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

In almost five years of doing this, we've managed to pick up one guy at a garden centre and take him home, and Char's managed to blow one guy in a car park next to a pub.

We've been approached a few times in shops and also approached a few guys and if they've been single, Char's swapped numbers, but nothing's ever come of it.

Keep trying, but have realistic expectations.

(Bry)

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By *aughtycheshirecoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

It’s really easy to pick guys up on nights out. Marie normally gets her tits out on a night out anyway.

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By *ancelot1633Man
6 weeks ago

weybridge

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple

Perhaps you need to be more direct"

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

The male of the couple can talk to the single guy in the toilet or when his wife is away to powder her nose and tell him what the couple are looking for. Simples.

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By *ancelot1633Man
6 weeks ago

weybridge

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. . I think this will only work if you guys make the first move.It’s highly unlikely a single guy will approach a couple unless he knows one or both of them."

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By *un couple 2Couple
6 weeks ago

Tynemouth.

easy if you make it known your looking, wear an anklet.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
6 weeks ago

Teesside

Have the lady make the first move, if you get on then make it clear what you’re both looking for. Men aren’t going to spend time chatting to a random couple for long if they think you’re just chatty people and being friendly.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
6 weeks ago

cahoots

Just leave her alone for a few minutes if it's a busy bar or try hotel bars midweek...pretty much guaranteed.

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By *ellhungvweMan
6 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"In almost five years of doing this, we've managed to pick up one guy at a garden centre and take him home, and Char's managed to blow one guy in a car park next to a pub."

Genuinely curious as to how you pick someone up at the garden centre! What’s the opening line? Something about a bush?

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By *ancelot1633Man
6 weeks ago

weybridge

“Couldnt help but admire your bush”

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By *harAndBryCouple
6 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Genuinely curious as to how you pick someone up at the garden centre! What’s the opening line? Something about a bush?"

We're normally VERY careful taking our flashing pics, but he clocked us and followed us around. We nodded hello at one stage then as we were getting in the car we noticed he'd parked in a corner. We drove over, got talking, he copped a feeling in the car then we asked him if he wanted to come back with us.

Unfortunately you have to scroll through to June '23 to see the pics in our gallery!

(Bry)

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By *anonfire96Man
6 weeks ago

Mansfield

Something I'd love to experience, about zero % chance of it happening.

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By *tevenTellyCouple
6 weeks ago

Newmarket

Always an idea we are up for but I don't know we have ever pushed for it. But if the opportunity presented itself.....

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By *siaessex2Couple
6 weeks ago

essex

We been thinking about trying to pick up a guy at the bar of hotel is this a good idea should she flash at him or what.

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By *wice pleaseMan
6 weeks ago

near Darlington

Try hotel bars. I have met random couples there several times. I do stay in a lot of hotels though. Usually alone on business I always find people to chat to and sometimes get lucky.

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By *he Happy ManMan
6 weeks ago

Merseyside

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Where do you drink lol?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
6 weeks ago

cahoots

"We been thinking about trying to pick up a guy at the bar of hotel is this a good idea should she flash at him or what."

Just start chatting and take it from there

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Also free to chat and see where it leads with a female or couple xx

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

Best left to the lady to do then just let her tell the lucky its on the cards aslong as its with the other half half. He will already be wanting to fuck the misses.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

Tell the lucky guy

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By *umagain58Man
6 weeks ago

London

Oooh would be an honour if this happened

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By *lanenakedMan
6 weeks ago

near you

As a single guy there's no way I'd approach a couple even if the lady was being flirtatious. They'd have to make the first move or id just assume they were pissing around having a laugh at my expense or kidding on, so I'd likely smile and move on..

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By *ean directMan
6 weeks ago

havant

Think there would have to be a very direct dialogue.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

We’ve tried this to no avail

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By *r-bond-DMan
6 weeks ago

Wallasey

I'd love to meet a mature couple and be able to have fun with the Mrs

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By *arry bethelABCMan
6 weeks ago

Aberdeen

This is how i found fab. I was chatting with lady at bar and her hubby was there. Thwy were very direct after 20 mins so think that is the way to go

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By *rystal cannonMan
6 weeks ago

alfreton

had an expeirence where a couple started chatting didnt think anything was up for fun until she handed me a blue pill and winked the rest is history

I think you need to be bolder

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By *stwo80Couple
6 weeks ago

yorkshire

Done it before and it is hard to do, but it's all possible.

Found the best way is to enter the bar separately,blokes are always looking for a single girl.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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6 weeks ago

East Sussex

"had an expeirence where a couple started chatting didnt think anything was up for fun until she handed me a blue pill and winked the rest is history

I think you need to be bolder "

Did you take the pill?

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By *arkX1982XMan
6 weeks ago

Dartford Kent SE London

Definitely be more direct with your intentions, good luck

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By *rouble-RedmistCouple
6 weeks ago

Hertford

Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.

She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.

I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room

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By *iberatedduoCouple
6 weeks ago

Ashbourne

No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
6 weeks ago

Teesside

"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "

If guys have seen you both drinking together then that’s probably why no effort was made.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I’ve had a guy come up to me and just have a chat, about life etc. Normal talk shit to someone on a night out.

I’m open and friendly naturally so didn’t mind it.

He brought up the subject of his wife later and we had a great time at their place.

It may depend on the person you choose, if they friendly and open to the idea?

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6 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "

As TallinHandsome said, no man would approach a couple on a night out, as 9/10 times, it would probably end in tears.

You guys need to make the move, so they know what you’re after.

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By *orruptionandliesMan
6 weeks ago

leeds

If midweek look at hotel bars and guys away with work

But agree with everyone you guys need to just be polite and quite early in the conversation just ask if they would be interested

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By *over of ladiesMan
6 weeks ago

cannock

Most blokes will stay away from a couple,so you would have to make the first move,I think,if one of you came to me and explained what your looking for,think you would be surprised at how many would jump at it,I know I would.

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By *ryorkshirepleaserMan
6 weeks ago

Yorkshire

This is how I got my first 3 way... I pulled the lady as normal and then she introduced her husband who was sat at the bar watching..

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By *obf27Man
6 weeks ago

st Helen’s

I’d love this to happen on a normal night out would be so hot

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By *anonfire96Man
6 weeks ago

Mansfield

I certainly wish this would happen to me on a night out. More chance of winning the lottery.

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By *anonfire96Man
6 weeks ago

Mansfield

Most guys won't approach if they've seen you arrive together, if you want to pick up a guy like that you will almost certainly have to make the first move. If a couple approached me like that I would definitely be up for it.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
6 weeks ago

furnace

It has happened to me but years ago now

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By *rouble-RedmistCouple
6 weeks ago

Hertford

Following on from this

Mrs doesn't stand at the bar waiting for someone to approach, she will start a conversation, flirt a little and then lean in for a snog

In this day and age, the women have to be very forward, there are lots of gentlemen quite rightly worried about repercussions of making the first move and getting it wrong

"Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.

She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.

I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room

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By *rouble-RedmistCouple
6 weeks ago

Hertford

100% this

This is how it's happened for us

"Best left to the lady to do then just let her tell the lucky its on the cards aslong as its with the other half half. He will already be wanting to fuck the misses."

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By *eckard2019Man
6 weeks ago

North West Durham

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"

You need to be a bit more up front with what you are after or find me in a bar

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By *lanenakedMan
6 weeks ago

near you

"Done it before and it is hard to do, but it's all possible.

Found the best way is to enter the bar separately,blokes are always looking for a single girl.

Good plan ..

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By *arry monk40Man
6 weeks ago

Telford

Come to Telford buy me a pint I'm cheap

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By *lanenakedMan
6 weeks ago

near you

"Following on from this

Mrs doesn't stand at the bar waiting for someone to approach, she will start a conversation, flirt a little and then lean in for a snog

In this day and age, the women have to be very forward, there are lots of gentlemen quite rightly worried about repercussions of making the first move and getting it wrong

Mrs has done this a few times in our 5 years together.

She has the most success in Butlins at the Adult Weekenders, she'll get chatting to a guy while she's waiting to be served at the bar, 5mins later they're snogging.

I'd recommend booking yourselves there, everyone is out on the pull and only a 5min walk from their room

100 percent correct.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
6 weeks ago

north of lincoln

We pick up guys all the time in bars. It’s actually easier than getting a decent meet on here.

Boobs is very good at chatting to guys she fancies at the bar or on the dance floor. She tells them we are swingers and then sees if they are interested in joining us . Also beards does similar in the gay bars.

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By *immyg88Man
6 weeks ago

mold

Following

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By *hisismeXXXMan
6 weeks ago

Welsh Wales

This is easier than you’d imagine, with a little bit of planning, the right attitude and a bold approach.

Along with my ex, we would often go clubbing when staying away from home, either overnight hotel break or on holiday, and the wife would like to dance so would hit the dance floor while I sat on the side watching her dance.

Inevitably she would attract male attention and she would enjoy flirting, kissing etc, and if all going well would head over my way and casually drop in ‘this is my husband’.

Some would freak out, some would go with it, and we’d often take a guy back to the hotel.

Holiday hotels/bars, waiters and bar staff can be a fruitful hunting ground also.

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By *hisismeXXXMan
6 weeks ago

Welsh Wales

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"

You can’t leave it up to the guy to work it out. You need to be up front and tell them.

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By *hirleyMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere

This is not likely to happen. You can't force spontaneity which is what that sounds like to me

You'd have more chance arranging a social with a potential to do more through this website.

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By *hirleyMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple

You can’t leave it up to the guy to work it out. You need to be up front and tell them. "

Some people are not naturally up front and for all the want of trying you can't force that out of someone.

You're right in what you said before though. You have to create your own luck, nothing comes to you. I do wonder if OP may have that trail of thought

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By *endalshaggersCouple
6 weeks ago

Lake District

I have been hit on a lot in the past even when I'm clearly out with my husband and not "aiming" to pull.

My advice is wear something sexy, flattering although not absolutely over the top "slutty". Go to the bar on your own, leave him sat at a table. If there's a gaggle of guys stood together, accidentally knock into one of them (great if your're wearing heels and it's a bit of a cobbled/uneven floor). You'll probably end up being able to get your drink bought and have a bit of a gossip. If there's any of them that particularly take your eye and it's mutual, focus on them and keep talking to them throughout the night. If they are moving on to a different bar, go with them. While you make it clear you are out with Mr, don't stick to his side like glue all night. Bring the guy over to the table, introduce each other, keep it flirty.

C xoxo

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By *eediousMan
6 weeks ago

Smallville

Had this happen to me as a single guy.

Was on a solo holiday to GC and sat in the hotel bar after breakfast to watch the Euros. Was the only person there at that point and a couple staying at the hotel walked in.

We struck up a conversation and spoke to 30mins, then the man made an excuse to get something from their room and left the missus. We chatted for a further 30mins and she admitted that they were trying to pick me up but he wanted it and she wasn’t so sure.

Anyway, the lack of directness and possible wading through nerves put me off, so made my excuses and left.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

coleraine

We have managed this a couple of times successfully.

I am naturally quite confident and flirty when I want to be and a few touches on a leg helps things along. We I get a positive reaction I will go to the toilet and hubby will just ask if he want to join us both. If it’s positive then hubby will go to the toilet and allow us 10 mins to chat alone as well.

Both times on holiday. Things are much more relaxed and less time pressured then back home.

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By *kdbaldmanMan
6 weeks ago

Harrogate

I'm wanting that too to be picked up Yorkshire area

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
6 weeks ago

Coventry

We tend to find nights out a great place to pick up guys, ladies and the occasional couple. I think the biggest problem for us is not having a space to take them back to and likewise them. Also as we're not so keen to go to a strangers house, other people are likewise not so keen to go to a strangers house. So having somewhere neutral like a hotel to go back to helps.

Luckily being in a big city there tends to be lots of people visiting/working from hotels. Hotels work for us as a nice neutral space. We met a vanilla couple (now an ex vanilla couple) who were staying in the same hotel as a Christmas party which turned out to be a really hot night. Mrs bumped into 3 lovely guys who were working in the area on a night out. She went back to their hotel and had a lovely time.

So I would say from our experience picking up guys is not so difficult but having a nice neutral space like a hotel room to go back to can make the difference in sealing the deal.

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By *d4ugirlsMan
5 weeks ago

Green Cove Springs

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Have to approach this from a different angle.

What subtle hints are you giving to a guy to show your intentions?

That way there I am not missing opportunities!

The rubbing on the upper thigh, being asked to go on the dance floor and grinded on, being flashed breasts are pretty obvious and happen all the time according to the Stories and Fantasy section.

A thick fella ( in the head, better say brain so not missinterpreted) needs to know the subtle hints!

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By *erlins5Man
5 weeks ago

South Fife

"The male of the couple can talk to the single guy in the toilet or when his wife is away to powder her nose and tell him what the couple are looking for. Simples."

Not all guys would be up for this, and believe it or not there are men who would be shocked by this.

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By *eyeYCouple
5 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

If we were interested in picking up a single guy, we'd have D initiate chat as he's great at connecting with people, have some pictures of me in less attire (not action or fully nude) and ask them if they're interested in seeing more/for real..

We feel it would be far more upfront from him than me flirting and then dropping the fact we're a couple on the guy..

He's managed it with ladies so would have no issue applying to guys.. 👍

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By *orny salesmanMan
5 weeks ago

Preston

I wish a couple would approach me but my ultimate fantasy would be if we hit if off with a guy and my wife ended up fucking him while l watched

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By *oppySeed3Couple
5 weeks ago

derby

This is a fantasy of mine and the mrs would be happy to do it. Just finding the right guy

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By *fweonlymeettwiceMan
5 weeks ago

Madrid

Why not use the 'Whos near' when you are out then maybe choose someone to your liking

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By *ink vixenCouple
5 weeks ago

Medway

Perhaps if you go to towns where you’re not known you could be more direct.

Believe me, most guys need to be hit over the head or given a hand written invite a week in advance to actually get the message!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
5 weeks ago

cahoots

"Perhaps if you go to towns where you’re not known you could be more direct.

Believe me, most guys need to be hit over the head or given a hand written invite a week in advance to actually get the message! "

Paul is like this as he gets flirted with a lot but doesn't have a clue that it's happening even when I point it out.

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By *attering_ramMan
5 weeks ago

near you

Well your profile says you only play with 50+ …. Finding a guy of that calibre in a club is definitely going to be hard work

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By *loydyMan
5 weeks ago

British

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
move to Newcastle lol

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By *jekimMan
5 weeks ago

Wigan

Anyone in Wigan I'd be happy to help out

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By *DW1983Man
5 weeks ago

Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I think you'd need to make it very obvious and be open about what you're looking for. It might be clear to you, but how should a guy know that?

Even being flirtatious wouldn't be a definite signal for me - lots of people can be naturally flirty but aren't saying 'come to bed'.

Also, don't forget that despite the stereotype, or what you read on here, many guys probably *aren't* looking for anything. And even if they are, not every one of them will be attracted to you, no matter how obvious you make it.

Being direct about what you want seems the best option to me, that way both parties know where they stand.

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By *dz69247Man
5 weeks ago

Manchester

I’ve pulled a couple or two out on the town in bury. It’s a shame the Clarence has shut down, as that use to be a meeting place for a lot of people before they went to partners.

I’ve had a couple of meets where I’ve been drinking in the Clarence, been chatting with a group of people, and they have invited me to join them at partners.

No idea of the pub they use nowadays but worth finding out as this could be a good jumping place.

The key is to get flirtatious. Everyone in Bury talks to everyone, so it should be easy to start making conversations, I’ve chatted to many a couple on a night out, but it’s just general chit chat, I would never dream of getting flirty with a lady of a couple, unless they made them intentions first, then at that point it’s all game.

Also I noticed you look for mainly older males. Which is great, but older males are usually more gentlemanly, so you have a further uphill battle, you definitely need to make your intentions much clearer. Most men in bury are Randy fuckers, so you shouldn’t have much trouble, especially if you look like your pictures to take it further.

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
5 weeks ago

Salford

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Dress us, you leave him at the table, you out to find the guy and chat and flirt. Then say what you're after, be honest then kiss him if he interested.

Bring him back to the table but you fit next to him touching his thighs and cock

Explain this is your husband, show a picture of you together to prove this is real and not a stitch up

Fella confirms all you spoke about. To make things neutral ground, fella can book a place from there in a place near the new guys so if anything goes wrong he knows he's close to home and can leave.

This would be better. Do not go looking together, it'll come off as too weird l..remember you're going out to meet regular people not swingers so you have to approach casually with just the woman then slowly acclimatise the guy you like.

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By *lfa RomeoMan
5 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

Maybe come down to Hertfordshire op

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By *ev_1Couple
5 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Finding the right venue is a good start op for similar age range have you thought about a Butlins Adult weekend ??

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
5 weeks ago

London

We've done this a fair few times and a bit of advice which may help

As soon olhave said, going to places where guys picking up women is more common will help. Bars more than pubs, clubs too. But could also be hotel bars.

Most guys won't approach a couple, so hubby needs to be prepared to step back for some time… and Mrs needs to be happy to dance or be on her own for a bit.

The biggest thing though is that you cannot be subtle. If you think you're giving off vibes to be approached, do more! The guys will need to feel very confident that you're ok to be approached so make it obvious! This is less important if Mrs is on the dancefloor alone but it's likely they've seen you together at some point

Hope that helps!

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By *hisismeXXXMan
5 weeks ago

Welsh Wales

"We've done this a fair few times and a bit of advice which may help

As soon olhave said, going to places where guys picking up women is more common will help. Bars more than pubs, clubs too. But could also be hotel bars.

Most guys won't approach a couple, so hubby needs to be prepared to step back for some time… and Mrs needs to be happy to dance or be on her own for a bit.

Hope that helps!"

Spot on advice

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
5 weeks ago

newcastle

srgent peppers is known for this in the town newcastle lots and lots xxx

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By *otfunx1Man
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

This is how I'd love it to happen for us. She wants another guy, so hopefully she gets chatted up wants to bring him home soon

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By *jonesMan
5 weeks ago

Plymouth

I was chatting to by a very friendly couple in a soul music club ..I then had a dance and the Mrs joined me and was quite tactile ...I was a bit nervous ...thought I might get a battering from hubby and then she gave me a peck on the cheek and said don't worry in my ear

I went home with them.

I've also done the thing where a gent of a couple on fab has chatted to me and we've agreed to meet in a bar so I can chat up his wife ...he said what she was like etc..and I went very slowly , chatted to them both and flirted with her ...loved it , just a peck on the cheek at the end of the drink. He messaged, said she very much enjoyed it and gave some more suggestions for the next date ...

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By *otfunx1Man
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"I was chatting to by a very friendly couple in a soul music club ..I then had a dance and the Mrs joined me and was quite tactile ...I was a bit nervous ...thought I might get a battering from hubby and then she gave me a peck on the cheek and said don't worry in my ear

I went home with them.

I often stand back or take trip to toilet when man starts chatting to her on hope it goes further but usually when return back off even though can tell things we're getting heated

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By *amesandhollyCouple
5 weeks ago

north west

We are looking for the same as well x

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By *irebrand 1263Man
5 weeks ago

near you

This would be amazing

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By *bi HaiveMan
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5 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

It's a nice fantasy scenario of course.

But the majority of people in vanilla bars aren't swingers.

The majority of men probably have no interest in threesomes with another guy. After all, there's a hell of a lot on here that aren't. Then factor in the number that won't be interested in actually sleeping with someone else's wife/partner and the potential pool shrinks even more.

Sometimes it's easy to forget that not all men are sex crazed maniacs who will say yes to every approach made, especially given what's often seen/said on Fab.

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By *uckurcumMan
5 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

"It's a nice fantasy scenario of course.

But the majority of people in vanilla bars aren't swingers.

Sometimes it's easy to forget that not all men are sex crazed maniacs who will say yes to every approach made, especially given what's often seen/said on Fab.

This sums it up it a very balanced way .

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By *orcester-guyMan
5 weeks ago

Worcester

Happened once with me

My status was "if you d*unk I can drop you home" my lucky night.. Couple messaged me. Picked them from club car park, drived to a lay by outside city had fun and dropped them back to club car park.

Only luck night I had

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By *aramel.desiresMan
5 weeks ago

Heathrow

"Finding the right venue is a good start op for similar age range have you thought about a Butlins Adult weekend ??"

The people who attend a Butlins weekends are ways game for this. I have been 5 times but not been approached yet. Fingers crossed.

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By *ill69888Couple
5 weeks ago

cheltenham

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "
sit separately in the bar. Other guys are more likely to chat to her if they think she is on her own. Once a guy is chatting, she can then mention that her husband is nearby and call you over if the other bloke is happy.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

" sit separately in the bar."

This is a good idea

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By *orcester-guyMan
5 weeks ago

Worcester

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. sit separately in the bar. Other guys are more likely to chat to her if they think she is on her own. Once a guy is chatting, she can then mention that her husband is nearby and call you over if the other bloke is happy."

Is this work??

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By *hoc TitanMan
5 weeks ago

Peterborough

Think the guy of the couple will have to take the lead with this and approach the guy and lay out the situation, obviously the Mrs can flirt etc but you need to be open that you no issues sharing your Mrs and you encourage it .

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By *rLicksMan
5 weeks ago

Worcester

Wife has attempted this on many occasions with no luck sadly. They get to the point of conversation and married is mentioned or hubby at home but knows / is fine with it and they flake.

Understandable I guess as it could come across as a honey trap setup to those in the vanilla world.

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
5 weeks ago

Norwich

I'm a single lady and I've not had this for years. Tips gratefully received!

I am 49 and wobbly so thats probably why!

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By *orthampton jamesMan
5 weeks ago

Northampton

Come to Northampton, I'll be waiting

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By *rminjoMan
5 weeks ago

london

Younger guys?

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By *stwo80Couple
5 weeks ago

yorkshire

" sit separately in the bar.

This is a good idea"

We always enter a bar separately if we are doing this,guys clock people entering and a woman buying her own drink is a good sign,plus the female has to scan the crowd too and make eye contact .

It genuinely does work

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By *allGuy1000Man
5 weeks ago

Reading

"Fantasy of Mr is Mrs bringing a guy back after a night out "

I’d happily help with this 😁

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By *pen to offers!Man
5 weeks ago

Carlisle

When my wife played I’d pre arrange guys to meet on a night out. One night she met one guy, but didn’t like him. So met a second guy and she instantly liked him. He came back to our hotel bar with us snd I left them together in the bar. She brought him up to the hotel room after they had been playing in the bar under the table. I had the pleasure of filming them enjoying each others company.

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By *amesandhollyCouple
5 weeks ago

north west

That’s a great shout we have never thought of doing this x

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By *arysueCouple
5 weeks ago

West Wales

Try dating sites , like plenty of fish , lots of guys looking for sex , had some great times , or hotel bars

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By *imbo365Man
5 weeks ago

Plymouth

You’re absolutely going to have to make the first move and point out your intentions.

Men generally aren’t that good at reading the signs and then most are dyslexic anyway. I think that’s amplified when a couple are looking for some extra help in the bedroom.

It would be amazing to get pulled on a night out by a couple though, I expect most men would think the same whether or not they go through with it is another thing.

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By *bhs72Man
5 weeks ago

witham

I can’t believe all the sexy couples on here struggle to find a man. I think most men would jump at the chance.

Are you explicit enough in what you want?

Do you make the first move?

Are you going to the right places?

I am certain that your luck will change but if not, feel free to come to Essex and I will happily chat you up and take it from there.

Good luck in your search xx

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By *reenleavesCouple
5 weeks ago

North Wales

I think most vanilla guys would probably either smell a trap here or just wouldn't pick up on the hints. I know id be looking round for the hidden camera phone. It very much would seem too good to be true 😅

To make it work, I think the male half would need to strike up the conversation first and then have the lady come over after a few minutes. Just some friendly chat among men in a pub. Then, if it all goes well, lay out what you have in mind really clearly and go from there.

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By *amon.dMan
5 weeks ago

antrim

I would love to flirt with a couple in the lobby and be invited to join them but to do this spontaneously both sides would have to be daring. I would love it. Absolute turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Mrs do the ground work. Men will do anything

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
5 weeks ago

Salford

"I think most vanilla guys would probably either smell a trap here or just wouldn't pick up on the hints. I know id be looking round for the hidden camera phone. It very much would seem too good to be true 😅

Nah I would t trust a guy coming up to me about that. That's fighting words coming from a man to another man. Gotta be feminine lead. When you do sit down, she has to.sit next to the new man and openly flirt with the new man. To show him that he.can let his guard down and not expect a right hook

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By *TWboyMan
5 weeks ago

Norwich

"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches. "

I’m amazed…..

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By *aughtycheshirecoupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Cheshire

It’s easy to find guys on a night out

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By *allGuy1000Man
5 weeks ago

Reading

"It’s easy to find guys on a night out "

Yes and I can see why 😍

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5 weeks ago

Worcester

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By *ids2000Couple
5 weeks ago

Worcester

"It’s easy to find guys on a night out "

It’s fun trying 🤣

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By *otyorkshire01Couple
5 weeks ago

Perth, Australia

Did this a few weeks ago.

We were out for drinks and she fancied a guy in the bar. Told him we’re swingers and he was keen, so I booked a hotel on my phone right there and then and took him back.

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
5 weeks ago

Salford

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Any luck

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By *erald 1999Man
5 weeks ago

carmarthen

Think I had someone try this on me when I was a lot younger didn't have the confidence at the time .....God let this happen to me again lol

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By *otathletic1Man
5 weeks ago

plymouth

As a single guy looking to meet couples I would love for this to happen. I have occasionally picked up a vibe from a couple but only been approached directly once. I suggest you are very direct with any man you fancy. I’d have thought a fair few would go for it!

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By *ucianpoundCouple
4 weeks ago

Cap d’Agde, France

Easy in a club where there’s a mixed night (couples and singles)

Otherwise in a dance bar where most of the guys who dance are looking for just that.

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By *otfunx1Man
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

We find guys are put of with another man being there. As soon as she mentions Im actually her partner, things often tend to cool even though they were getting heated together

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By *mudge354Man
4 weeks ago

Mid Sussex

E more ope and forward, I would love this to happen to me on a normal night out. They will not be aware of your intention becuase your both there.

Keep trying and good luck

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By *rivervaderMan
4 weeks ago

bolton

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple"

I would jump at the chance come to Bolton on a night out

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By *londeandhubbyCouple
4 weeks ago

Kent

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Us too! So let us know how you get on...

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By *neeyedwillieMan
4 weeks ago

Darlington

Best thing you can do is be straight forward. Let the Mrs flirt with the guy and go from there.

Some guys will be in to it, some won't be.

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By *bhs72Man
4 weeks ago

witham

To the couples on here. I think guys just don’t believe their luck or feel intimidated which is why you could be struggling. Keep trying as you are all stunning

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By *riSiMan
4 weeks ago

Nottingham

Following this thread with interest. I'd be wary at first in case it was a set up, girl trying to get fella jealous etc, I speak from experience.

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By *iberatedduoCouple
4 weeks ago

Ashbourne

"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches.

If guys have seen you both drinking together then that’s probably why no effort was made."

Forgot to mention she sometimes wears a bracelet that reads Hotwife in public. You would think that in itself would draw attention.

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4 weeks ago

derby

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By *ickens101Man
4 weeks ago

derby

Hi Liberated Duo, you can approach me any time, Id recognise you from your gorgeous pics on here!

Could you give me a message when you get chance please? I think we're local and compatible

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By *allnHandsome12Man
4 weeks ago

Teesside

"No success here at a regular bar. Kat has gone to order drinks in all her finery and remained at the bar only for the guys just to stand there muted. We’re surprised not one approaches.

If guys have seen you both drinking together then that’s probably why no effort was made.

Forgot to mention she sometimes wears a bracelet that reads Hotwife in public. You would think that in itself would draw attention. "

Not a lot of guys are going to take note of that, nor see it as an invitation. One of you has to make the approach, probably on your own first and after a few mins small talk, make it clear what you’re interested in.

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By *ickens101Man
4 weeks ago

derby

Wouldnt have known was a Hotwife was until about a year ago

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By *alsam1Couple
3 weeks ago

Caister

We find guys all the time, we get d*unk in the bar with them then take them home lol

Having an American wife helps to draw I the guys I guess

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By *ice_genuine_guyMan
3 weeks ago

lincoln

Have you tried dating apps to slightly pre arrange?

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By *ew2thiskinkCouple
3 weeks ago

Waterford

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

We tried this but it’s harder then it should be.

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By *iglittleoneMan
3 weeks ago

B76 is home

I love scenarios like this and the garden centre one is unreal.

I'm always on the look out for any kind of fun but never find it

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By *lanenakedMan
3 weeks ago

near you

"It's a nice fantasy scenario of course.

But the majority of people in vanilla bars aren't swingers.

Sometimes it's easy to forget that not all men are sex crazed maniacs who will say yes to every approach made, especially given what's often seen/said on Fab.

Agree.

It's a fun idea and I'd love the flirt but tbh if the male half is involved physically in any way then the excitement and motivation drops by 50pc for me ..guess I'm just too straight.

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By *efinatelyMaybe100Man
3 weeks ago

bradford

I'd happily facilitate this for you guys;-)

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By *ortugese09Man
3 weeks ago

birmingham

Me personally I would never approach another couple! The female or male of the couple would have to make the first move!

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By *rivatelurkerMan
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford

My wife's idea as we live close to London wss go out for a few drinks then put a message on here to see who's available to meet and see what offers come up and if a good one does it does if not it's all good just have no expectations it will happen when it supposed to

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By *aramel.desiresMan
3 weeks ago

Heathrow

I'm going to be in London this evening if anyone want to pick my up. Probably Westminster or Southwark.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
3 weeks ago

Heathrow

"Me personally I would never approach another couple! The female or male of the couple would have to make the first move!"

Totally agree. Under today's climate its a risk to approach any female.

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By *anonfire96Man
3 weeks ago

Mansfield

I'm looking for a couple to pick me up. About as much chance as winning the euro millions.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
3 weeks ago

Heathrow

"I'm looking for a couple to pick me up. About as much chance as winning the euro millions. "

More chance of winning last week's lotto and I did not even enter.

I'm putting on my pineapple shirt.

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By *BC-BigDMan
3 weeks ago

Exeter/Plym

I love the idea of this but haven’t been approached by a couple outside of this before!

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By *uzzieboyMan
3 weeks ago

taunton

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Well shame we’re not closer

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By *ionycusMan
3 weeks ago

Babylon

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

In a sex shop you shouldn't have a problem doing this , just go in and chat with someone in there .

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By *eyond PurityCouple
3 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I tasked C with this at a Butlins weekender - turns out he was on FAB and his profile mentioned his fiancée so we bailed.

We like the idea of it but then when out there’s never any suitable.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

We've been trying to do this for ages! Got close to success once however his mate wouldn't fuck off sadly.

It's our unicorn moment I suppose. Maybe one day!

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By *punkandSquirtCouple
3 weeks ago

High Peak

"We have chatted to loads of guys but none of them think we are after them sexually as we are a couple

Perhaps you need to be more direct"

This absolutely 👍

As a single guy I wouldn’t approach a couple for sex unless I had a definite sign they were interested 😊 then absolutely 😈

P x

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3 weeks ago

Streatham

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By *oAnCouple
3 weeks ago

Streatham

"Ask hubby to pre arrange but don't tell you

That is the way we do it

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
3 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Ask hubby to pre arrange but don't tell you

That is the way we do it

We find this scenario really hot. Is it a guy from here that you have previously interacted with or just someone hubby thinks would be your type?

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By *adeemMan
2 weeks ago

Nottingham

I’m drive Uber and some time I pick couple and it’s seems there are looking for fun but when arrive at there destination they react like noting…

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By *host63Man
2 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

How picky are you? And how food looking?

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By *m3232Man
2 weeks ago

maidenhead

I think you may have to be more forward with flirting and a touch of naughty talk for them to get the hint.

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By *ackbydemandMan
2 weeks ago

Leicester

"We want to have a normal night out as a couple but pick a guy up and take him home for sex, not having much luck, any advice. "

Can I assume you are looking to corrupt a Muggle, not just meet another single who happens to be in the scene? May be as well to just post a meet, select single guys and put the name of the pub in the details. Then maybe you'll get someone approach you.

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By *didasmanukMan
2 weeks ago

Staines

Have you been to any swinging clubs ?

No means no and guys are normally worried about being asked to leave,but I'm sure you will get attention as the Mrs is very yummy.wish I was closer

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By *ushrangerMan
2 weeks ago

Basingstoke

As a male with morals, there is a unwritten code that if a woman is with a man then you don't try chat up the lady, it's an insult. You may have to make the first move and maybe invite someone over to your table etc

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By *ee And MikeCouple
2 weeks ago

Cannock

We used to enjoy going to nice hotel and Dee would sit at the bar and I’d sit a little away from her, never failed to have a guy come up to her asking if she’d like another drink.

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2 weeks ago

Cannock

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