FabSwingers.com forum: Not really get messages or reply’s

By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

I have messaged people but I don’t really get many reply’s back or people messaging me i am not sure if it’s my profile or if something else

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By *oxy jWoman
2 weeks ago

taunton somerset

bluntly put people will only message you if they want to ... nobody owes you anything ... and with the amount of men on fab and how few couples and women compared its always going to be very hard for most men

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By *nytime2023Couple
2 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

As above. You have 12 pictures and all are your cock or your boxers! Profile picture is decent though so that’s a positive. Lose the ridiculous disclaimer in your bio, it’s literally longer than your actual bio and means nothing at all.

Your profile is a shop window so make it yours and stand out. And again, as above has said, men outnumber women and couples by thousands (we get 20+ messages a day and our profile clearly states we only meet in clubs). Take time to create a profile that really reflects you and your personality…and even then there are no guarantees.

Organised socials and clubs offer a better chance but also appreciate they are not for everyone. Good luck OP. V&K x

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By *ink vixenCouple
2 weeks ago

Medway

Are you certain of your direction and desires?

You’re 23 and horny.

Explore the swinging community?

In what way?

What are you looking for exactly in your exploration?

Generic and meaningless really.

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By *ogandher1962Couple
2 weeks ago

Reading

Being unable to travel may put people off. We certainly wouldn’t meet a single man at their place first time off

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By *exxyyDy11Man
2 weeks ago

Darwen

I'd personally delete the cock pics, most women on here get sick of seeing cocks day in and day out. Add your bio more, to include what you're specifically looking for, add a few examples of your hobbies. Add more pictures of you without the cock pics.

Nip down to a social event in your area or a club and make connections. And make yourself noticed on the forums.

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

London

Have you thought about joining a group of established guys who organise gangbangs? Ready made network of connections through the guys and any couples those guys meet. All the advice above is very good too. Good luck

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By *iss KinkWoman
2 weeks ago

North West

Your age is also against you. I would re think your pictures and bio. Tbh we don’t need to know you wank several times a day. Maybe go to some socials

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By *harAndBryCouple
2 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

First two pics are (pretty awful) dick pics, other pics are all the same and not very flattering (and showing no effort at all). Constantly horny always makes us think there's a medical condition going on, there's no need to copy and paste your "looking fors" into your profile text, and the text itself sounds more like a 13yr old who's just found boobs online.

Sorry, but when you consider that most single women and couples only *need* fewer than 5% of the offers they receive, you've made it really easy to quickly delete.

Look at people you'd like to meet. Look at their verifications. Look at the profile of those verifications.

(Bry)

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By *arahfromwarringtonTV/TS
2 weeks ago

warrington

Your lack of punctuation suggests a lower than average educational standard, which puts a lot of people off.

We get so many posts saying “what’s wrong with my profile?” They don’t need to work on their profiles, they need to work on themselves.

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By *lowercandyWoman
2 weeks ago

Lancashire

"I'd personally delete the cock pics, most women on here get sick of seeing cocks day in and day out. Add your bio more, to include what you're specifically looking for, add a few examples of your hobbies. Add more pictures of you without the cock pics.

Nip down to a social event in your area or a club and make connections. And make yourself noticed on the forums. "

This!

Your profile is your shop window

Why do I stop at yours (let alone go in)

There's one photo thankfully it's not a cock

You seem to want everything/know nothing and need a teacher...

That in itself could put people off

Get more involved on the social side

Go to the chat rooms/forums

Learn about yourself as well which could help narrow down what you actually seek and have to offer

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By *iker JackMan
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Your profile is confusing

You want to see what kinks you’re into with people into the same kinks - slightly paraphrasing

If you don’t know what kinks you’re into how will you know if they match someone else

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By *moothGrooveWoman
2 weeks ago

Durham

Breeding and fisting?!

I'd say your profile is very niche which may account for your lack of replies.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever

But you also didn’t reply to any of the comments on your post where people are genuinely talking their time to answer your question OP, so?

🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

Expectations are king.

People will respond and engage with people who they are mutually compatible with. Expect this. When people are not matching, they won't engage. Get to socials and clubs

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By *cnugatugMan
2 weeks ago

Chatham

My friend your one in a sea of thousands of guys here. I haven't seen your profile so I won't give you advice on that but the one thing I will say is making these types of threads doesn't help your cause have a look around search the forums for profile advice post's and take any kind of criticism in the chin

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By *rdere OpusCouple
2 weeks ago

Brum - ish

A couple of the interests you’ve added to your profile text are very niche. That’s not to say you should remove them but as people are looking for compatibility, this may put some off.

A thought from me - the comments about your sex life up to this point suggest those who meet you for the interests you’ve listed, may find themselves in a teaching role. Again, you’re right to be upfront about your experience but if others read it the same way I have, it may switch many off who are looking for mutual enjoyment not to initiate someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

Thanks for you to everyone who commented

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By *ewintheareaMan
2 weeks ago

Thornbury

Just wondering why people honestly tell the guy,what's his actual problem is🤔

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By *ink vixenCouple
2 weeks ago

Medway

And just like that…..he was gone!

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