FabSwingers.com forum: Never get a reply

Kirkintilloch

Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
4 weeks ago

cahoots

No pictures including avatar plus very limited text is unlikely to encourage people to message you.

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By *iss KinkWoman
4 weeks ago

North West

I wouldn’t reply if no pictures

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By *iker JackMan
4 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Would you honestly reply to someone if their profile was like yours?

No photos. Little or no bio

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By *enelope2UWoman
4 weeks ago

Fife

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By *enelope2UWoman
4 weeks ago

Fife

No public pictures and a shadow profile.. immediate pass...

Semi filled profile description and discreet lover.

So are you hiding and ashamed of who you're trying to love, in the house you "own".

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Most people will delete any message from a shadow op.

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By *harAndBryCouple
4 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

As other have said, no profile pic means we'd just delete a message unless the first few words we can see were REALLY interesting. Then we'd open your profile and as there's no pics and no verification for two years, we'd then delete your message, sorry.

Maybe look at some non-play organised socials or clubs and get out and verified again? It shows that you're willing to leave the house, and therefore more likely to turn up to a meet.

(Bry)

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By *irsSubCouple
4 weeks ago

Darlington

No public photos, not even the mandatory dick pic

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Central

Almost nobody is mutually compatible with anyone except maybe 1% or fewer people.

When not mutually compatible, you should not expect any reply.

It doesn't mean there's anything wrong. If you've read profiles and been fully respectful, then you can do nothing more than assess how well you are marketing yourself. Only you can do this

Plus get to socials and clubs. But you'll still only click with a minority of people

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By *umagain58Man
4 weeks ago

London

I used to have pictures longish while back but they got abused. It’s not stopped me getting messages. Appreciate not for all though

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By *urvyBunnyWoman
4 weeks ago

Suffolk

For me personally, it would be due to the lack of photos on your profile, lack of text and also the fact you have a single verification. I understand its hard for a single male, but I've seen first hand people giving fake verifications to profiles of people they haven't met. I hope you manage to have some luck soon!

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By *entenTeaCouple
4 weeks ago

Buckley North Wales

No public pics, brief profile with poor grammar and composition. Sorry nothing inspiring or interesting. Also and this no fault of yours but you are just another single guy on here. The text in your profile is fine, if a bit brief. Your best option is to go to clubs and socials.

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By *urge72Man
4 weeks ago

oxfordshire & Hull

Hi OP

Just like you I am a single male. I don't know your circumstances but despite me going through a separation and divorce (I am honest and upfront with people) I have still had meets and verifications.

Basically all of what I have done to make it work for me has already been mentioned above, but here is what has worked for me:

1. Get to socials/clubs - you do not have to play, just be approachable respectful and most importantly: be yourself and dont stand on your own in one place for too long. It will make it obvious you are on your own and if you stand there all night like a rabbit caught in the headlights you will stand out for all the wrong reasons.

2. There are lots of us single guys out there. A sillohette and no public pics is a big NO NO. What are you trying to hide? Thats a rhetorical question by the way.

3. A single verification from 2 years ago is baggage not a plus. Did you set up a fake profile and veri yourself? No? Okay, maybe not but thats the question everyone else will be thinking alongside point 2 above. I'm trying to be helpful here, not rude so please do not take it the wrong way.

Of all the above points, point 1 is the biggest in my view. Verifications are gold dust and you never know you may find someone who is interested in a further social/meet at a later date outside of the event.

Good luck and give it a go. The worse that will happen is that you will get to experience some socials or see the inside of some clubs.

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By *harAndBryCouple
4 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Just like you I am a single male. I don't know your circumstances but despite me going through a separation and divorce (I am honest and upfront with people) I have still had meets and verifications."

This guy talks sense

(Bry)

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By *ewintheareaMan
4 weeks ago

Thornbury

"No public pics, brief profile with poor grammar and composition. Sorry nothing inspiring or interesting. Also and this no fault of yours but you are just another single guy on here. The text in your profile is fine, if a bit brief. Your best option is to go to clubs and socials."

Yeah but don't forget "he own a house and a car "🤣🤣🤣🤣" ,he forgot to mention that he has a bank account and broadband also 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Is this guy for real....

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

Why would anyone waste time replying to a profile they can't see who's behind it? I want to know if there's any initial attraction before investing my time in conversation.

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By *harAndBryCouple
4 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

And as always, asks the question five days ago, been online and hour ago, nothing changed on the profile and not even an acknowledgement of the replies here.

Easy block

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By *uddsguy555Man
4 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?"

Hahahah love this site!!! I left for this reason!!! Let's be fully honest your a needle in a hay stack on this site!!! It don't matter what u put on your profile women are here to find things if you don't fit that your not getting a reply!! They better sites than fab swingers look into it

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By *ucka39Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

Maybe add some smartly dressed public photos as needs to be some kind of attraction

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By *umagain58Man
4 weeks ago

London

Any change in your luck OP. Sometimes if on forums definitely get contacted

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

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By *uddsguy555Man
4 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 weeks ago

There and Here

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol"

And? What point are you trying to make?

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
4 weeks ago

Chester

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol

And? What point are you trying to make?"

Did you not get the memo? We’re supposed to delight in any and all cocks presented to us, irregardless of what’s attached. (Ends sarcasm.)

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By *xXGemEcsXxXCouple
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol

And? What point are you trying to make?"

He thinks that because it’s a swingers site women shouldn’t have any say over who they want to have sexual encounters with and if boundaries are crossed in any way then it’s their own fault for putting themselves in that situation

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By *hico_traviesoMan
4 weeks ago

Newcastle under lyme

I got an ok profile with pics and verification and I'm known on the scene too but I still don't get replies either.

However is quite funny how when I go out to clubs I usually chat and even play with women and couples that later on turn out to be the same ones I messaged and never got a reply.

A few couples and friends have told me that they mass delete all the single male messages without actually reading any of them so I don't send any nowadays. Is pointless

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By *mma and ChrisCouple
4 weeks ago

Greater Manchester

We have taken to deleting msgs from guys who obviously haven’t taken 30 secs to actually read our profile - so much so we re wrote the first paragraph specially. We still get men from the groups mentioned messaging us.

For us if a guy can’t show us enough respect to actually read our profile, there’s very little chance he will respect us later on or even turn up in our experience

We read profiles before we send a message - not much to ask in return is it surely

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By *uddsguy555Man
4 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol

And? What point are you trying to make?"

Everyone is shagging everyone on1 cares who your fucking!!!

I stated that if a woman on here looking for something if you don't fit it your not getting a reply!!!

If a women don't fit what I'm looking for im not gunna message am I??? Ffs not frigging hard lol

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 weeks ago

There and Here

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol

And? What point are you trying to make?

Everyone is shagging everyone on1 cares who your fucking!!!

I stated that if a woman on here looking for something if you don't fit it your not getting a reply!!!

If a women don't fit what I'm looking for im not gunna message am I??? Ffs not frigging hard lol"

You're right, I don't care who anyone else is having sex with but, like the majority of people here, I care who I have sex with.

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By *anonfire96Man
4 weeks ago

Mansfield

You say verifications are gold dust, for me if I see too many they are a big avoid at all costs. I've had a few meetings, never ask for give veries. Also I big no no for me is no photo verification. But each to their own.

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By *mma and ChrisCouple
4 weeks ago

Greater Manchester

That’s very short sighted coz they may have been on site for years and have lots of veris/experience

Swinging isn’t something invested in the last 5 years lol

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By *m NormalMan
4 weeks ago

Telford

I am not familiar with the place you live. Is it possible you are so far away from other people you are just too far to get to or you to go to?

If you think you have problems at your age, wait until you are 77. Then it gets difficult

Never give up. There is bound to be someone that likes you enough to see you.

In the meantime, go to your local pub and chat up a likely woman in the normal way.

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By *apio51Man
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh ish

I would say that face to face verifications are very important as a guy on here. I’ve seen so many profiles from single ladies and couples that say they won’t consider a meet without them.

I would say that photo verifications (if the profile doesn’t have verifications from meets) is more important for couples and single women. Ensures the profile isn’t a man’s profile in disguise.

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By *mma and ChrisCouple
4 weeks ago

Greater Manchester

Have some public pics that give couples/women an idea of what you look like and have to offer so to speak. It doesn’t have to be a face pic at all in the public ones - we understand discretion only too well - but if we get a msg from a guy and click to open and it is either hidden or has no public pics we simply delete msg. We get too many to trawl through ones that don’t have pics so it’s a good editing tool for us.

We aren’t to worried about veris as we know how hard it is to meet a couple of u a single guy -which is why we always give one to guys we meet

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol"

And that means we should fuck any minger than shows an interest.....I think not.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol

And that means we should fuck any minger than shows an interest.....I think not.

Honestly blokes wonder why they struggle - a swingers site isn't a fuck anyone site, having standards is a good thing, I don't need to fuck the desperate and minging and you know what, I'm quite happy about that.

Just because some of you guys will fuck anything with a hole doesn't mean it's a bad thing that others care who they sleep with.

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By *cnugatugMan
4 weeks ago

Chatham

Again pictures locked no profile pic and a bio that really doesn't tell anyone much. My advice would be to open some pics up have a look around other profiles that work maybe take some inspiration from them and re write, try being a bit more in depth with what you offer, looking for maybe an interesting fact about yourself I can hardly talk my profile still requires work it's not a simple make a profile and done it needs constant updating and changes

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By *obandsue 69Couple
4 weeks ago

north Cornwall

Well at least we know what happened to the milk tray man.

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By *cnugatugMan
4 weeks ago

Chatham

"Is there something wrong with my profile i never seem to get any conversations started with anyone. Is it verifications or pictures?

And you say it likes it a bad thing that women care about who they want to and don't want to fuck?

It's a swingers site lol

And? What point are you trying to make?"
he has no actual point guy has probably been rejected on here so much he's become bitter

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By *uzzleMan
3 weeks ago

Hastings

A profile without pictures is like a blind men reading a book.

See my post here on another thread discussing pictures.

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1662944#message_40623962

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By *oneyVWoman
3 weeks ago

Cirencester

No photos - delete

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

Ladies & couples looking for single males, please can you look at my profile & tell me where I'm going wrong? I have photos & what I thought is a decent bio but I'm getting no joy at all, genuinely interested to hear others thoughts. Or is it just quiet on here? Doesn't seem it.

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By *harAndBryCouple
3 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Ladies & couples looking for single males, please can you look at my profile & tell me where I'm going wrong? I have photos & what I thought is a decent bio but I'm getting no joy at all, genuinely interested to hear others thoughts. Or is it just quiet on here? Doesn't seem it."

Bad form to jump on someone else's thread....

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

Sorry, no offence meant, it was a similar thread to one that I would put up myself & didn't think it would offended the OP

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By *ogandher1962Couple
3 weeks ago

Reading

Does the person who appears in your photos know they’ve been posted?

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
3 weeks ago

There and Here

If you're a single male, why do the majority of your photos have a woman featured heavily in them? I want to see the man I'm potentially going to meet, not the people they've had sex with, and I don't need photographic evidence that they've had sex.

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

Fair enough, but I don't want to stand in front of a mirror with a phone as I always think that looks a bit naff.

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

Does the person who appears in your photos know they’ve been posted? "

Yes, they sent me the photos👍

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
3 weeks ago

There and Here

"Fair enough, but I don't want to stand in front of a mirror with a phone as I always think that looks a bit naff."

I'd rather that than because at least I'd see you.

But you don't need to. Prop your phone up against something and use the timer.

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

"Fair enough, but I don't want to stand in front of a mirror with a phone as I always think that looks a bit naff.

I'd rather that than because at least I'd see you.

But you don't need to. Prop your phone up against something and use the timer. "

Ok, I'll give that a try. Thanks for the tip, I appreciate hearing from a ladies perspective.

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By *harAndBryCouple
3 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Sorry, no offence meant, it was a similar thread to one that I would put up myself & didn't think it would offended the OP"

It causes confusion as not everyone quotes when posting so people often don't know when advice is for them.

(Bry)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

"Fair enough, but I don't want to stand in front of a mirror with a phone as I always think that looks a bit naff.

I'd rather that than because at least I'd see you.

But you don't need to. Prop your phone up against something and use the timer.

Ok, I'll give that a try. Thanks for the tip, I appreciate hearing from a ladies perspective."

It at least shows a modicum of consideration for potential partners' needs, if a man shows us what we'd need to even consider him and whether he's someone we'd potentially want to get physically close to.

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

"Sorry, no offence meant, it was a similar thread to one that I would put up myself & didn't think it would offended the OP

It causes confusion as not everyone quotes when posting so people often don't know when advice is for them.

(Bry)"

Thanks Bry, I'll think a bit more next time before posting 😁

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By *rX2024123Man
3 weeks ago

Rotherfield

"Fair enough, but I don't want to stand in front of a mirror with a phone as I always think that looks a bit naff.

I'd rather that than because at least I'd see you.

But you don't need to. Prop your phone up against something and use the timer.

Ok, I'll give that a try. Thanks for the tip, I appreciate hearing from a ladies perspective.

Ok, thanks too!👍

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