FabSwingers.com forum: Mrs agreed to soft swinging! What next?

By *adamm7406 OP Man
5 weeks ago

leeds

Hi guys, partner has agreed to experimenting and trying some soft swinging.

Any advice on how to make this dream a reality? How do we go about finding someone non pushy?

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By *ornyBerksMan
5 weeks ago

Didcot

Great idea

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By *is and hers 2024Couple
5 weeks ago

york

Start by making a couples profile that would normally help.

Mrs

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By *eeshellsCouple
5 weeks ago

Reading

Well - we are well positioned to help as we have just started this journey properly.

Create a couples account. Get photo verified. Put a few pics up, doesn't need to be much.

Write up a sensible profile, use paragraphs, full stops etc. Who are you, what are you looking for?

Wait for couples to find you.

It's been a fun journey since we did this on Saturday morning. So many non-pushy and friendly couples have written to us.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Maybe take her to Quest ?

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By *issmorganWoman
5 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Agree with set up a couple account and put filters on to start with, so she can have a good look round fab and see if anyone takes her fancy.

Then you can explain what you're into and looking for.

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By *iss KinkWoman
5 weeks ago

North West

Make a couples account then go to a club

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Northampton

Contact the guy that verified you. Ask him to bring his female friend, bosh, 4 some.

Set some ground rules and soft play away

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By *aomilatteCouple
5 weeks ago

Midlands

Go to a club, you don't even need a couples profile (though it's easy to get one if you're a couple). In clubs there will be other people looking to play, there's no need for the message ping pong on Fab that leads to nothing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

As others have said and I can't emphasise this enough, set up a couples profile. Block all mail contact, get it photo verified then look through profiles with your partner and contact the ones you like the look of.

You don't say if you want to meet couples, women or men

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

We have not tried this but certainly sounds effective

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By *itygamesMan
5 weeks ago

single guy again pretending..

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Just go to a club. Don't even bother opening a couples account on here yet.

I'd choose a couple and single ladies night, they have a much softer feel to them.

She will either love it or hate it.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
5 weeks ago

Coventry

Another vote for a club. You can just enjoy a night out in a freindly social environment and take things at her speed. Maybe first just enjoy watching others. She how yes feels about that. Then just go at her speed, no pressure. Maybe start with simply playing together, in a private room, a secure voyeur room (locakble room with window for others to see) or simply an open public area. This will help get her just get comfortable in the environment with you. Also playing together where you can be watched by other is a good baby step towards soft swing if she finds she enjoys having sex around other people. For some that a big turn on (we've known couples in clubs who are not actual swingers, they come for the atmosphere and purely to be exhibitionists).

Then if she wants to go a step futher and soft swap you're in the right place. That may look like finding another couple for soft swap. Or simply if there's a bit of action in an open group space just putting yourselves on the bed next to others. This gives you first the experience of having sex directly next to others having sex (which in its self can be hot). Then opportunity of maybe being invited to join in or you doing the inviting (if feeling brave). This maybe verbal or maybe some eye contact and smile followed by a wondering hand. What's really important being happy there is consent and just to letting others know you're soft swap. It's no biggy, just simply drop into their ear your soft swap couple at the start. The majority of people are totally happy with soft swap, it just prevents some misunderstandings down the line as you get more interlaced.

I totally think a club environment is the best way to go about it

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
5 weeks ago

Coventry

"Just go to a club. Don't even bother opening a couples account on here yet.

I'd choose a couple and single ladies night, they have a much softer feel to them.

She will either love it or hate it. "

Also I'd echo this about not bothering with a couples account yet. Let's find out if she enjoys the scene first without pressure. Making a couples account may feel a little like pressure (and pressure is counterproductive to your aims). Wouldn't it be so much nicer that after a great first time experience in a club it's her who says to you let's set up a couples profile?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
5 weeks ago

cahoots

Clubs are where we started together and we are soft swingers. Generally relaxing and open environments where you can both find your way at your own pace.

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By *oft and sensualCouple
4 weeks ago

Stone

"Just go to a club. Don't even bother opening a couples account on here yet.

I'd choose a couple and single ladies night, they have a much softer feel to them.

She will either love it or hate it.

Great advice, go with no expectations other than to see what it’s all about after that communication is key make sure you agree boundaries before hand and stick to them let her decide what these are. A quick way to understand the scene is the women are in control stick to that and you won’t go far wrong lol

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
4 weeks ago

Wherever

Hey OP, how did it go so far?

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