FabSwingers.com forum: advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all. A while ago i asked for helped in aproaching the subject off swinging with the wife.

Well we have chatted, and although we did not discuss swinging. We did discuss a lot and it has come to light that she would love to be watched by others while we have sex. She also asked me to read a hot little story about a sub and master, where 2 men got to have their way with her. This made the wife so so wet.

She says she loves this idea but does not want to have anyone else involved in our sexlife.

I am just wondering if there is more but she is worried abiut addmitting it? Or is it a no to swinging?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

she loves you mate - a much craved thing by some.

You could say, 'I only asked as ive had a fantasy of you being had by a guy' and leave it like that.

If she doesnt want to do it - dont push it as you'll end alone

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think really the only way to know for sure is to speak to your wife, we can't really know how she feels...

Be careful though in case that is all there is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She likes the fantasy nothing more and for her it will only be that so don't press her into doing something she clearly doesn't want to do

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

And also remember, most women's fantasies are just that fantasies, doesn't mean she wants to take things further!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She likes the fantasy nothing more and for her it will only be that so don't press her into doing something she clearly doesn't want to do "

She says its all about the fantasey and the idea of wanting to be had.

Just wonder if there is more. Or is it just that.

Do women have fantasies that they dont want to act on?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And also remember, most women's fantasies are just that fantasies, doesn't mean she wants to take things further!

I need to learn to type faster. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She likes the fantasy nothing more and for her it will only be that so don't press her into doing something she clearly doesn't want to do

She says its all about the fantasey and the idea of wanting to be had.

Just wonder if there is more. Or is it just that.

Do women have fantasies that they dont want to act on? "

I think most people have fantasies that they don't want to act on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"She likes the fantasy nothing more and for her it will only be that so don't press her into doing something she clearly doesn't want to do

She says its all about the fantasey and the idea of wanting to be had.

Just wonder if there is more. Or is it just that.

Do women have fantasies that they dont want to act on? "

Your wife is an individual and what other women want isn't necessarily what your wife will want. You have talked to her, she has opened up to you which is great but you must realise that asking us if she means something more than what she is saying to you is futile. Carry on talking to her and maybe she will tell you but not one of us can possibly know what goes on in your wifes mind and whether her fantasies are ones she wants made into reality or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She likes the fantasy nothing more and for her it will only be that so don't press her into doing something she clearly doesn't want to do

She says its all about the fantasey and the idea of wanting to be had.

Just wonder if there is more. Or is it just that.

Do women have fantasies that they dont want to act on?

I think most people have fantasies that they don't want to act on."

Your my Fantasy lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think most people have fantasies that they don't want to act on."

I have fantasies and given the vhance i would act on them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people have fantasies that they don't want to act on.

I have fantasies and given the vhance i would act on them .

What would your wife honestly think if she found out you was here? Not digging but think of her rather than your fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people have fantasies that they don't want to act on.

I have fantasies and given the vhance i would act on them .

What would your wife honestly think if she found out you was here? Not digging but think of her rather than your fantasies "

Plus you've a lady friend too, I do feel for your wife

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What would your wife honestly think if she found out you was here? Not digging but think of her rather than your fantasies "

My fantasies include the wife... hence i want to try swinginv with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would your wife honestly think if she found out you was here? Not digging but think of her rather than your fantasies

My fantasies include the wife... hence i want to try swinginv with her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What would your wife honestly think if she found out you was here? Not digging but think of her rather than your fantasies

My fantasies include the wife... hence i want to try swinginv with her.

Hmm, some of your fantasies might include your wife but you appear to have started without her!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

what do you mean? She's got her own profile on here and is having loads of fun! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

keep talkin to her about yours and her fantasys , your sexlife will improve as you both open up to eachother , even if it does not lead to full swing it will still be fun where ever it leads , be prepared for some suprizes too she may ask for something that you have not thought about hee hee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people have fantasies that they don't want to act on.

I have fantasies and given the vhance i would act on them .

Yes well there are plenty of fantasies that i would and have acted on, but most people also have fantasies where the reality would either be no fun, emotionally or physically damaging, or could hurt other people.

Im sure there have been a bunch of times when something has turned me on in porn, but if i was presented with the same situation in reality, there is no way that i would want to do it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You're in a better position than you were. Consider yourself lucky to have such a wife. Read her some more bedtime stories, do the voices and the actions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love mine to swing with, but I'm afraid its a no! But recently she's been talking about who she fancy's

wonder if she's trying to tell me something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what you've described OP it rjust sounds like a fantasy and not something she wants to act on.

It is you that wants this to be more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She likes the fantasy nothing more and for her it will only be that so don't press her into doing something she clearly doesn't want to do

She says its all about the fantasey and the idea of wanting to be had.

Just wonder if there is more. Or is it just that.

Do women have fantasies that they dont want to act on? "

Yes they do, especially when they are alone at night, if you get my drift

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was the same with my hubby.,,don't swing but go to swinging clubs to start ,, watch other people, let them watch you. She will soon feel comfy to let someone else Join you .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I was the same with my hubby.,,don't swing but go to swinging clubs to start ,, watch other people, let them watch you. She will soon feel comfy to let someone else Join you ."

You can't say what she will feel comfortable with, she isn't you!

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By *izz37Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

If it's only a fantasy for her then you should honour that,as you would have promised to her when she became your wife and in that respect either stop meeting other people,discretely or otherwise or tell her the truth and see what her decision is about your relationship. Swinging should be done in the full knowledge of each other,whether or not both participate,otherwise it's just cheating,simple.

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