FabSwingers.com forum: Am I missing something??

By *te82 OP Man
5 weeks ago

London

Hi all and thanks in advance of any advice.

If anyone can offer me some tips on my profile and or messages I send.

I only ever write a message after reading a profile and if I'm genuinely interested. My messages aren't a copy and paste and individual to the person or couple I'm sending them to.

I don't wink or add as friend (unless my thumb slipped when I've had a few)

So why or what am I doing wrong?

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By *ourtney CocksWoman
5 weeks ago

Cardiff

You just need patience of a saint on here

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By *te82 OP Man
5 weeks ago

London

It's certainly a test of it!

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By *ourtney CocksWoman
5 weeks ago

Cardiff

"It's certainly a test of it! "
I’m sure something will come keep an eye out for any parties or organised events in your area & join in .. in the meantime

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By *tu.xMan
5 weeks ago

around

Doing nothing wrong just move on properly just not for them ...remember they probably get 100s of messages us guys lucky to get a couple its a waiting game

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By *allySlinkyWoman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

What are the new Fabswingers terms and conditions ?

Maybe post more than one photo.

Do you need to mention previously being stalked on here?

Repeated use of the phrase "discretion needed" makes people think of a married man, swinging without consent.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
5 weeks ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Hi all and thanks in advance of any advice.

If anyone can offer me some tips on my profile and or messages I send.

I only ever write a message after reading a profile and if I'm genuinely interested. My messages aren't a copy and paste and individual to the person or couple I'm sending them to.

I don't wink or add as friend (unless my thumb slipped when I've had a few)

So why or what am I doing wrong? "

Continually asking for things to be discreet is, as has been pointed out, coming across as “I’m cheating and don’t want to be found out”.

The whole T’s and C’s thing is just gullible nonsense that will also turn a lot of people off.

You need more than one public pic, and for the love of Cthulhu please don’t make the rest all cock pics, one of them is plenty.

Rather than talk about what you want, maybe mention things about who you are and what you can offer someone.

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By *ucka39Man
5 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

I see that you must have made some improvements with the bio

Maybe add a little bit about you, let your personality shine and more photos smartly dressed

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By *oxy jWoman
5 weeks ago

taunton somerset

you wont get a meet until someone wants to meet you its that simple .. and you'll see theres guys on here (alot) that never get meets ...at the end of the day attraction/ compatibility is key and that will mean 99.99% wont be interested

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By *te82 OP Man
5 weeks ago

London

Thanks to all who give me some pointers. My profile has been updated hopefully for the better!

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By *hat.coupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Dartford

Socials and clubs are a good way to get things going, it took us a while to get our first meet but we are only looking for bi ladies. You have a larger spectrum of how you'd like to play so I feel clubs would be good for you. Some clubs do bi events, maybe look out for those if you are keen to have fun with guys too.

Mrs x

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
5 weeks ago

Maidstone

You're messaging the wrong people

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By *dam_EveCouple
5 weeks ago

Newcastle

I can only assume you've made considerable adjustments as it looks good from where we're sitting..

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By *entakuruMan
5 weeks ago

Exeter

Honestly, a lot of luck. So I joined Fab in summer 2018 after splitting with an ex I'd been with for 7 years. I was housesitting for friends a long way from home when I found the site and decided to sign up. This sounds implausible but I actually managed to get a social meet (with the intention of more, but it ended up being logistically difficult) in my first two days on the site. Which at the time I didn't realise was basically unheard of, so I never even bothered asking for a veri or anything. It then took another two years of being mostly ignored or blocked after sending a message to get another one.

What did 'unlock' the site a little for me was using the cam chat rooms, which kept me sane during lockdown, and getting into clubs. I found (and still find) the local clubs rather cliquey, not to mention inconsistent. Most are couples only, and I still don't have anyone to go to such events with. And the ones where single blokes are allowed are super hit and miss. I find on any given night I'm either very in demand with multiple opportunities presenting themselves, or people go out of their way to not look in my direction long enough to make eye contact, and I end up going home bored and still horny after a couple of hours.

I've had much more consistently good experiences at bigger more established clubs upcountry (particularly Chams in the Midlands, always have fun there) but then distance and cost becomes the main obstacle, by the time I factor in travel and a place to stay it gets into £2-300 kinda territory, which could get me 10 days all inclusive in some Tunisian flea pit.

I just wish people round my way were less cliquey and a bit more open. I'm the kind of guy that can have a fun chat with pretty much anyone wherever I go, yet within a 50 mikee radius of my home town, I find it very hard to make new friends, vanilla or otherwise. I don't even take it personally, I've realised the issue is people that have spent most of their lives in Devon are basically closed off, insular and just don't really like engaging with strangers unless they're either three sheets to the wind or you've been introduced by someone they know well. In fact a common smalltalk question these parts is "who do you know". If you can't mention someone local that they also have met before they won't give you the time of day...

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By *aughty and nice30Couple
5 weeks ago

West Midlands

Any tips on our profile will be appreciated

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
5 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Dik pics bro u need dik pics

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By *ucka39Man
5 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Any tips on our profile will be appreciated "

Hiya Mr or Mrs

Bio looks great, as you are a couple and I understand about the face, maybe have one joint photo and crop or less light to hide the faces a little

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By *partharmonyCouple
5 weeks ago

Ruislip

You could do with some more photos. I always advise people to try and show a bit of personality in the text rather than a shopping list. A bit of humour goes a long way.

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By *iker JackMan
5 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Any tips on our profile will be appreciated "

Forum etiquette is to start your own thread

But what I will say is that a couples profile with no photos of the male half would be a no

If someone is meeting a couple surely they want to see both?

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By *anonfire96Man
5 weeks ago

Mansfield

Unfortunately you're one of thousands of guys on here, it definitely is a waiting game, but can't see anything inherently wrong with the profile. Good luck.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Much improved profile OP

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