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By *onlywishi OP Man
3 days ago

Newcastle

Got a new inexperienced sun who I want to get her to really enjoy the experience

I have limited experience so wondering if you could give me some tips or ideas on how to get her into this slowly

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By *xLusciouslyxxWoman
2 days ago

Not single and not meeting

It needs a lot of open and honest communication about hard limits, boundaries and consent before you do anything.

And you must never pressurise her.

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By *ouncingboobies22Woman
2 days ago

Sunderland

Honesty and trust are key to a dynamic. Make a list of things you would both like to try, talk to her about what she needs for after care as sub drop can have consequences and lead to a break down in communication. Trying something new should be done slowly ask if she wants it harder softer tighter or loser. Enjoy dynamics can be beautiful

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
1 day ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

"Honesty and trust are key to a dynamic. Make a list of things you would both like to try, talk to her about what she needs for after care as sub drop can have consequences and lead to a break down in communication. Trying something new should be done slowly ask if she wants it harder softer tighter or loser. Enjoy dynamics can be beautiful"

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By *onlywishi OP Man
1 day ago

Newcastle

Thanks we are exploring through chat everything she would like to experience and of course both her pleasure and education will be of the upmost on my mind

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By *xLusciouslyxxWoman
13 hours ago

Not single and not meeting

"Thanks we are exploring through chat everything she would like to experience and of course both her pleasure and education will be of the upmost on my mind "

You've already said that you have limited experience so your own education is also very important.... it keeps yourself and your sub safe.

Enthusiastic consent is absolutely vital and understanding it and knowing when to stop is critical. As is knowing what aftercare your sub needs.

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By *elkieWoman
12 hours ago

Durham

Build the dynamic, not the play. So first aftercare: figure out what you personally need after harder play, and make sure you text good morning the day after in case she drops. Let her ask for what she needs.

Reflection: find a way of communicating what worked well during play and what didn’t. I keep a journal with one dom. For me, text works better than in person for this.

Headspace. You can create a very intense sense of submission by controlling her space and time. Ask her to kneel for you - it’s a very vulnerable position to be in. Create pauses where she is wondering what you’re going to do. Your presence as a dom is more important to her experience than any toys you use or weird kinky shit you try, and I say this as someone who is into weird kinky shit.

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By *onlywishi OP Man
5 hours ago

Newcastle

"Build the dynamic, not the play. So first aftercare: figure out what you personally need after harder play, and make sure you text good morning the day after in case she drops. Let her ask for what she needs.

Reflection: find a way of communicating what worked well during play and what didn’t. I keep a journal with one dom. For me, text works better than in person for this.

Perfect has not only helped get my mind right but given me great advice much appreciated

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