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By *ndlessVicious OP   Man
3 days ago

Manchester

Hi all,

We are a couple 5'9" both of us the same height, we are 31 years old and we've been together for 9 years

Let me begin with our story, I always wanted a threesome and finally about 2 or 3 years ago I have decided to ask my girlfriend/wife. She was reluctant in saying yes, mostly because she thinks it will affect our relationship in a bad way. I have explained this encounter would be only for exploring and only to try a new thing, I wanted her to feel good pleasured by two men and enjoy something new after all those years. Finally last week she agreed in trying a threesome, the condition is that we have to do far away from home and we would like it to be spontaneous, we don't want anyone from the website, we simply want to go to a night club and see what is coming our way. I said that the whole night should be relaxed and we shouldn't pressure ourself into trying so bad to find someone. My wife is very attractive and I have mentioned that I'm willing to spend our night mostly on the dance floor and if she can just "invite" men to join us dancing and rub against them in front of me to see how far they would go, basically exploring their limits, if we see someone is very confident, I would excuse to the bathroom and see if he would even go further, like touching her intimate parts and even trying to kiss and I said I would be more than happy for her to go ahead let herself carried away. My question is now, how successfull do you think this scenario would be ? 30% or 100% ? Any advice here please? We are planning to do this scenario in multiple places the same night with more than 1 person.

The next thing I mentioned that she should try to find out their size through their pants or do you think it's possible to actually put her hand inside their underwear without anyone noticing ? The reason I want this is because I don't really want anyone that has is smaller than me. She said that it's almost impossible to find someone's size through their clothes. What do you think ? She also said that she would someone taller than us and she always gets turned on by men in tie suits.

After we are going to have all this fun games, we will then proceed in inviting someone to our hotel room for some drinks and take it from there. I have mentioned that we should try DVP, now I want to try DP, she said this will be very difficult as she is very tight on her bum, I'd like to say that I only tried 2 times in there.

What do you think about those scenarios, do you think we can make them happen easily ?

I would be happy to find out people's experiences in trying this scenarios or similar? How did you feel the next day ? Did the 3rd person leave straight away after all has finished ?

Would really appreciate your advices of any kind you are willing to give.

Thanks in advance.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

3 days ago

East Sussex

Personally unless you are going to do this in a swingers club I think what you propose is risky.

I also think that your wife is not as keen as you are on the idea reading between the lines.

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By *ndlessVicious OP   Man
3 days ago

Manchester


"Personally unless you are going to do this in a swingers club I think what you propose is risky.

I also think that your wife is not as keen as you are on the idea reading between the lines. "

What do you mean by risky ? In what way ?

She is not as keen, but she is thrilled by the idea.

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By *lossomTreeWoman
3 days ago

Ipswich

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

3 days ago

East Sussex


"Personally unless you are going to do this in a swingers club I think what you propose is risky.

I also think that your wife is not as keen as you are on the idea reading between the lines.

What do you mean by risky ? In what way ?

She is not as keen, but she is thrilled by the idea."

You're involving unaware people in your games and you don't know how they feel about threesomes. You and your wife have discussed this, they don't know your intentions.

In my opinion it isn't fair. Plenty of people will say go for it though.

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By *lossomTreeWoman
3 days ago

Ipswich

You are on here as a single man but have been inna relationship for 9 years?

Also your post reads about everything that YOU want and fantasise about.

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By *ndlessVicious OP   Man
3 days ago

Manchester


"You are on here as a single man but have been inna relationship for 9 years?

Also your post reads about everything that YOU want and fantasise about. "

This is just a profile, I'm not looking for hookups outside my relationship on my own.

Yes, It is me that fantasise about.

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By *itygamesMan
3 days ago

UK

Should be in the fantasies and stories section

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By *issmorganWoman
3 days ago

Calderdale innit

I have to agree it reads like it's all about what you want to happen.

I agree with Mrs Nice in that it would be much safer done in a club environment, where people look out for others.

Not everyone is would react kindly to people groping them on a dance floor or in public. If she goes to a bathroom with them what if it goes too far, she changes her mind and they don't want to stop etc.

If she does this just to please you & it doesn't go well, it could change your whole relationship.

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By *issmorganWoman
3 days ago

Calderdale innit

Sorry meant if you go to the bathroom and leave her alone.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
3 days ago

Chester

Go to a swingers’ club.

What you describe is risky unethical business, that could be fine, or could end up with someone on a sexual assault charge.

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By *rpeggioCouple
3 days ago

Baughurst


"Should be in the fantasies and stories section"

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Disagree. OP is asking people's opinions on how feasible would be to make his fantasy a reality. So I think this is the right forum section.

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By *hyguyindevonMan
3 days ago

dartmouth

I had a 'meet' with a lady and agreed to meet in a pub....but unknown to me...her hubby was watching us from another table all through the meet.

She told me the next day...I was not annoyed with her...but being honest if she had been truthful..things would have been better for us all.

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By *rpeggioCouple
3 days ago

Baughurst

OP: nice fantasy but making it real the rest you describe it is a car crash waiting to happen. Do this in a swingers club. Not a normal club. Any men there that she likes that are happy to dancing and flirting with her will likely be interested in playing with her.

Cock size: just ask bluntly, because a hand inside trousers will not let you know.

Going to the loo: bad idea, gives the impression that she is cheating rather than seeking a consensual threesome.

If I was a single man in a club, I would feel better and more confident to consensually touch her if you were there so we are all clear that she is giving consent and that you are aware and no dramas will take place. Otherwise I would not lay my hands on her while you disappear to the toilet. Most decent singles that go to clubs know how to behave and will be cautious in that regard.

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By *b03Man
3 days ago

Exeter

Profile hidden already! Says it all really .

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By *carlettxWoman
3 days ago

Essex


"Personally unless you are going to do this in a swingers club I think what you propose is risky.

I also think that your wife is not as keen as you are on the idea reading between the lines.

What do you mean by risky ? In what way ?

She is not as keen, but she is thrilled by the idea.

You're involving unaware people in your games and you don't know how they feel about threesomes. You and your wife have discussed this, they don't know your intentions.

In my opinion it isn't fair. Plenty of people will say go for it though. "

I agree - I personally think swinging / exhibitionism etc should be kept within the safety of the swinging community

It’s not fair on vanillas , could be embarrassing for them it even anger them if it’s not their bag

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