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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dated this chick a few years ago. I was 22 or 23 I think. We only dated for 5 months. She was my first girlfriend. Anyway, it got too serious too quick and we split but remained friends. We see other people and we fine with it.

The other day she asked me to read her conversation she was having with this new guy. I was reading her texts and it started to get into sex talk. At one point she text him saying something along the lines of 'its been such a long time since I had a good shag, in fact, I never have to be honest'.

Wtf, I thought. I didnt mention it but if im honest, im a bit offended. Would anyone else be?

And I know the right answer is 'no I wont be offended' but really think about it. If your ex was telling people they never had a good shag, that would offend you right? Interested to see honest opinions.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I can't possibly comment until I know whether you are a good shag or not.

To be honest I would be offended and I would have said something, albeit in a jokey way. However that's me. She is your ex, after all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't possibly comment until I know whether you are a good shag or not.

To be honest I would be offended and I would have said something, albeit in a jokey way. However that's me. She is your ex, after all. "

There is only one way to find out lol

But yes I agree. I am right to be offended. In fact im going to text her and tell her right now

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I would've offended then I would think that as she was your first girlfriend you wouldn't have had a lot of experience and also it takes two so if she's never had a good shag maybe it's her who's responsible.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Would be

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would've offended then I would think that as she was your first girlfriend you wouldn't have had a lot of experience and also it takes two so if she's never had a good shag maybe it's her who's responsible.

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Ah yh I like that reasoning. Thats something I can throw at her lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I shouldnt of mentioned it, I think I have well and truly pissed her off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be offended from a female point of view, serves her right you telling her, takes two to make it good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Id be offended from a female point of view, serves her right you telling her, takes two to make it good "

Looks like it was offended 3, not offended 0 so I am glad it was a normal reaction lol thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She asked you to read the texts... Sounds like maybe she did that on purpose so you'd read it and feel crap. Bit mean of her. But as others have said you were both young and inexperienced etc.

But still... Put me down as a tick for 'offended'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She asked you to read the texts... Sounds like maybe she did that on purpose so you'd read it and feel crap. Bit mean of her. But as others have said you were both young and inexperienced etc.

But still... Put me down as a tick for 'offended'. "

Nah I dont think she did it on purpose. I think she forgot she said that to him. Great 4.0 to offended. Actually 5.0 including myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dated a chick?? Didn't you get feathers everywhere??!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You dated a chick?? Didn't you get feathers everywhere??!! "

Nah it was more of a dog lol. joking she was lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've got loads of veris on here you could always show them to her and say that everybody else thinks you're a great shag!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you've got loads of veris on here you could always show them to her and say that everybody else thinks you're a great shag!!!"

Lol nah. To be fair I probably was crap. It was my first I was very shy back then. I have changed a lot since then. And she didnt mean to offend me. I think she forgot she said it to this other guy.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

not really seeing an issue here but your ego taking a bruising . be honest do you think that it has been rockets and fireworks for everyone youve been with? lets be realistic here ,not every sexual encounter can be a earth shattering religious exsperience .doesnt mean she didnt enjoy it or it was "bad" . i can garentee there are partners whove ive had who wouldnt rate me to high in bed and others who may . think thats will be same for anyone .

time to just man up and just put it behind you .

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By *yggeCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

I wouldn't tell a swinging site someone thinks your a crap shag! Lol

However add us to the offended tally x

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

could it just be you are just a crap shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I be the first 'not offended' vote?

It's highly likely that she was saying that more to get a reaction out of the other guy than anything else.

It wouldn't be the first time such a thing has happened!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dated this chick a few years ago. I was 22 or 23 I think. We only dated for 5 months. She was my first girlfriend. Anyway, it got too serious too quick and we split but remained friends. We see other people and we fine with it.

The other day she asked me to read her conversation she was having with this new guy. I was reading her texts and it started to get into sex talk. At one point she text him saying something along the lines of 'its been such a long time since I had a good shag, in fact, I never have to be honest'.

Wtf, I thought. I didnt mention it but if im honest, im a bit offended. Would anyone else be?

And I know the right answer is 'no I wont be offended' but really think about it. If your ex was telling people they never had a good shag, that would offend you right? Interested to see honest opinions. "
Maybe she wanted a reaction from you and maybe she still has feelings for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I be the first 'not offended' vote?

It's highly likely that she was saying that more to get a reaction out of the other guy than anything else.

It wouldn't be the first time such a thing has happened! "

Also, like others have said, every time is not going to be rockets blasting off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I think that she wanted you to read it all and not to be nasty to you.

I think it's her way of trying to path the way for a repeat performance now that you are older.

I can't see any other reason for a woman to want you to read texts from her to another man and his to her I definitely think it's a signal from her

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I'd throw a dog poo bag at her for being so insensitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is an ex for a reason or reasons, and I would be inclined to dissociate myself from her completely, as she does not come across as being very honourable, based on the little one-sided information posted here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She is an ex for a reason or reasons, and I would be inclined to dissociate myself from her completely, as she does not come across as being very honourable, based on the little one-sided information posted here.

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No we are friends now. She obviously forgot she said that to him before I read her texts. She didnt do it on purpose. I was just surprised she obviously didnt enjoy it that much. But I was inexperienced then so all fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd throw a dog poo bag at her for being so insensitive. "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have a variety of agenda's and reasons why they do things.

People often say things just to obtain experiences or adventures most people do this either harmlessly or more seriously.

A text is nothing in the grand scheme of life compared to a conversation in person with body language doing the talking.

Your ex either see's you as a plutonic friend or was trying to see if there was any chemistry there by letting you see and comment on the texts...

Mark

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I think that she wanted you to read it all and not to be nasty to you.

I think it's her way of trying to path the way for a repeat performance now that you are older.

I can't see any other reason for a woman to want you to read texts from her to another man and his to her I definitely think it's a signal from her "

Nah dont think so. We dont like each other that way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

People have a variety of agenda's and reasons why they do things.

People often say things just to obtain experiences or adventures most people do this either harmlessly or more seriously.

A text is nothing in the grand scheme of life compared to a conversation in person with body language doing the talking.

Your ex either see's you as a plutonic friend or was trying to see if there was any chemistry there by letting you see and comment on the texts...

Mark"

Hmm nope still dont think she meant for me to see that message. She forgot she sent it to him. I know her very well. It still cut deep though lol haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"could it just be you are just a crap shag"

Yeah probably lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"She is an ex for a reason or reasons, and I would be inclined to dissociate myself from her completely, as she does not come across as being very honourable, based on the little one-sided information posted here.

No we are friends now. She obviously forgot she said that to him before I read her texts. She didnt do it on purpose. I was just surprised she obviously didnt enjoy it that much. But I was inexperienced then so all fine "

Sane and mature thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way to find out if she intended for the OP to read what was written is to ask her yourself.

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