FabSwingers.com forum: Opening message from guys

Halifax

I know its hard for guys to get messages read and replied to. My question is what kind of good messages do women and couples receive? And what type (give examples guys) do you send that get a rare reply?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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7 weeks ago

East Sussex

Good messages *for us* are friendly and chatty without being crude.

Do you really want examples from other men? Just be yourself, everyone else is taken

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By *layfullsamMan
7 weeks ago

Solihull

"I know its hard for guys to get messages read and replied to. My question is what kind of good messages do women and couples receive? And what type (give examples guys) do you send that get a rare reply?

I offer cake and cocktails

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By *bi HaiveMan
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7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Good messages *for us* are friendly and chatty without being crude.

Do you really want examples from other men? Just be yourself, everyone else is taken

This!

On the couples account, if we get a dull 'hi' or 'nice pics' we'll not read it and just hit delete.

That said, we look at the profile before opening a message and if there's little to go on, or it's a dickfest we'll not bother reading those either.

Doesn't have to be war and peace, just interesting and showing they've actually read the profile.

There's no one size fits all so don't look for one.

And never, ever, copy and paste. We got one yesterday, replied and eventually cut the chat as it went OTT rapidly. 5 mins later she got the exact same opening message on her single profile. 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

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By *orkshire Gent78 OP Man
7 weeks ago

Halifax

"Good messages *for us* are friendly and chatty without being crude.

Do you really want examples from other men? Just be yourself, everyone else is taken

Ah yea good point x

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Do you really want examples from other men? Just be yourself, everyone else is taken

I won't be divulging my intellectual property here, nor my secrets or necromancy. 😉

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By *ccasionallyNaughtyWoman
7 weeks ago

Sussex

Definitely none of the "I'm gonna do this and that to you" wank chat stuff ⛔️

Or the "I'm a dom" 50 shades-esque chaps.

If its clear the writer has actually read my straightforward profile before sending a message I'll usually reply.

That said, the most common reply I send to men is: "Your copy and paste message is receiving my standard copy and paste response". They of course all swear blind that they would never copy and paste a message 🤣

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By *layfullsamMan
7 weeks ago

Solihull

I can give you loads that haven’t worked

lol

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By *itygamesMan
7 weeks ago

introduce yourself as you would in a pub to a stranger/strangers......if they chat back , carry on chatting..........if no reply..........walk away

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By *erigold300Couple
7 weeks ago

Doncaster

We aren’t looking for single guys, but those who have sent polite messages are saved, for when we do look for single guys.

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By *enk15Man
7 weeks ago

Evesham

I've had the most replies from messages where I have just been myself and said the first thing that comes to mind after reading their profile.

Just be you, OP, you got this.

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By *oxy jWoman
7 weeks ago

taunton somerset

i dont mean this in a horrible way but if you cant write a simple message to someone then your not going to get anywhere on this scene as a guy its going to be hard enogh fgor you just being a guy and the fact that there are zillions of you ...

theres no one way all women are different and what they are looking for is you to be you and what you are looking for..

its like profile advice = more boring samey get nowhere profiles ...be you not someone else....

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By *ack FrostyMan
7 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

No one can give you or tell you a first message.

It’s about resonating to something in a profile or something in the forums.

Remaining respectful

And then you’re not guaranteed a reply. However, for me, message those that only genuinely maybe of interest to you rather than messaging all

Keep it simple and unique

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
7 weeks ago

Hyde

All depends on what you're looking for .... for us....

What doesn't work...

Free tonight?

I'm in your area

I'd like to get to know you and see if we connect

Your Mrs has got a juicy body that I wanna ..... XYZ

What works.....

Hey, saw that you're at -insert club name- on... -day-wondered if you fancied grabbing a drink and maybe more?

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By *xixWoman
7 weeks ago

Coventry

"All depends on what you're looking for .... for us....

What doesn't work...

Free tonight?

I'm in your area

I'd like to get to know you and see if we connect

Your Mrs has got a juicy body that I wanna ..... XYZ

What works.....

Hey, saw that you're at -insert club name- on... -day-wondered if you fancied grabbing a drink and maybe more?

I'm single, though very similar feelings to the above.

I delete messages that just say "hi", or "I love your xyz" (so what?). But those that have clearly thought about the content of my profile and are aroused by it, well they'll aroused me

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By *xixWoman
7 weeks ago

Coventry

"All depends on what you're looking for .... for us....

What doesn't work...

Free tonight?

I'm in your area

I'd like to get to know you and see if we connect

Your Mrs has got a juicy body that I wanna ..... XYZ

What works.....

Hey, saw that you're at -insert club name- on... -day-wondered if you fancied grabbing a drink and maybe more?

I'm single, though very similar feelings to the above.

I delete messages that just say "hi", or "I love your xyz" (so what?). But those that have clearly thought about the content of my profile and are aroused by it, well they'll arouse me

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
7 weeks ago

coleraine

We want to know about you and why you think we would be a good match, why you like us, what makes you a good choice, why you are safe, reliable, nice, respectful etc

Most messages from me we get are a single line then like just now a guy wishing to meet us after three short messages on one day.

Everyone who had ever met us has been one who made a real effort in his messaging over several weeks

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By *jonesMan
7 weeks ago

Plymouth

If you can pick something relevant and witty to their profile..and just start to chat ...I've found that so much better than trying to sell how wonderfully i match them etc

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
7 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Uh.

Something relevant to something I've said or shown, beyond the general Ur hot from photos.

Something that actually invites a response and conversation to flow from it. Rather than just saying they want a conversation and expecting me to do the legwork.

Positive or interesting, as opposed to negative amd disparaging, either of themselves or others.

From a profile with enough profile text and images to give me an idea of physical attraction and general compatibility.

Otherwise the only likely response is No thanks 💜

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By *orelloCouple
7 weeks ago

Hitchin

Must be just us....you could be an unbelievable wordsmith...however we go straight to the photos

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By *lleyCat1969Man
7 weeks ago

Folkestone

It's not just single guys who send cut and paste messages.

I had a message this afternoon from a couple who clearly hadn't read my profile and it even began with hi [another chap's profile name].

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By *enelope2UWoman
7 weeks ago

Fife

A message that has CLEARLY read my profile and shows originality.. the end there's no secret power..

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By *enelope2UWoman
7 weeks ago

Fife

"Uh.

Something relevant to something I've said or shown, beyond the general Ur hot from photos.

Something that actually invites a response and conversation to flow from it. Rather than just saying they want a conversation and expecting me to do the legwork.

Positive or interesting, as opposed to negative amd disparaging, either of themselves or others.

From a profile with enough profile text and images to give me an idea of physical attraction and general compatibility.

Otherwise the only likely response is No thanks 💜"

Exactly!!!

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By *rimals at PlayCouple
7 weeks ago

Manchester

Be polite, be direct, be yourself.

If something on our profile interests you then mention it.

But if you want something we don't do, don't pretend you want something else just to get talking - we ain't changing our mind.

We'd rather chat to 1-2 people we have the chance to progress with that 100-200 fantasists, people who want to force their kink on us or have no intention of meeting/playing on our terms.

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