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"My partner and I are now to this and had agreed to only soft swinging. We played with a very experienced couple (17 years or so) who were respectful of our limits and we all had fun. Upon messaging it was clear he was the only one typing and he would make comments about PIV, fair enough. We set a boundary though saying that we're not ready and don't want to talk about it until we are, seemingly there was no issue with this. Fast forward a few days, we've talked about what we might do on a future meet, flirty chat etc but then there's a joke made about PIV (specifically him doing it to me). It made us feel uneasy because yes, this is a swinger site, but we set a boundary and it wasn't adhered to. We replied saying 'we said no PIV chat' and got the reply of 'sorry, it was a joke' and then 'maybe we're not for you because we like to have a laugh'. We typed back saying something like 'we love a joke too but we need to know boundaries are respected so yeah, maybe we won't play together but we got on with you guys so we'll see you around' The response was then 'yeah. No worries' A couple of days later and we've realised we're blocked. My concern is that as they're seemingly a big part of the community and everyone else seems to love them/feel super comfortable etc, is this going to impact who we will meet/play with since they could easily say whatever and would probably be believed due to their standing/influence? It feels like we're really off to a shitty start when I don't think we did the wrong thing here. Any thoughts? " Thoughts? If they're that experienced then they should know and understand how to repect boundaries, especially if they know someone else is less experienced. Will them blocking you affect you? No. Nobody has that much influence despite what they may themselves believe. You've dodged a bullet in my mind. | |||
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"That's the thing, our boundaries have changed since then. If he'd have only waited then it would have been a non-issue " Same our boundaries changed naturally in the right moment, with the right people. | |||
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