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By *igcock242024 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Warrington

I’ve been on here abit now and I’ve been trying to get into the scene but I’m not getting no replies or anything is there something I’m doing wrong ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

There's not a lot to go off OP.

What do you think you're doing right?

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By *iker JackMan
4 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

We don’t know what you’re doing to know if you’re doing it right or wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Now for us personally, your username and profile pic would put us off right away. You have some nice face pics on show maybe use one of them?

Your bio really gives people nothing to go on about who you are or what you are looking for.

Look at it from another perspective, would you want to message someone with your profile?

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By *tephanie63Woman
4 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

I think some of the replies above are rather harsh, particularly as you didn't ask for feedback on your profile or profile picture.It can be hard going for single men on Fab, especially younger ones. It doesn't necessarily mean you are doing anything wrong.

Lots of men have cock pictures as a profile picture, so I wouldn't be so fast to blame it on that. Write yourself a few lines of profile, saying what floats your boat sexually or stuff you would like to try maybe.

Don't lose heart. Possibly try a club too ..

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By *oxy jWoman
4 weeks ago

somerset

its simple ... there are zillions of men for so few couples and women ..yep its that simple

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By *anterandbrainsMan
4 weeks ago

Sheffield


"I think some of the replies above are rather harsh, particularly as you didn't ask for feedback on your profile or profile picture.It can be hard going for single men on Fab, especially younger ones. It doesn't necessarily mean you are doing anything wrong.

Lots of men have cock pictures as a profile picture, so I wouldn't be so fast to blame it on that. Write yourself a few lines of profile, saying what floats your boat sexually or stuff you would like to try maybe.

Don't lose heart. Possibly try a club too .."
I'm finding it hard being new . I'm respectful in DMs and I'm willing to learn the scene the right way but I'm struggling to get a look in at present .

I may look at clubs down the line but personal situation doesn't allow for it at the moment

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By *teveanddebsCouple
4 weeks ago

Norwich


"I think some of the replies above are rather harsh, particularly as you didn't ask for feedback on your profile"

It quite reasonable to critique someone's profile if it's relevant to their post.

OP we can see 5 red flags on your profile that could be stopping you getting anywhere.

I realise that everone has their own red flags but with so many you increase the chances of putting a lot of people off

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By *harAndBryCouple
4 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"I’ve been on here abit now and I’ve been trying to get into the scene but I’m not getting no replies or anything is there something I’m doing wrong ?"

Honestly, your profile pic and user name would be enough for us to just delete unread any message you sent. We're sure you mean well but they're both quite off-putting.

(Bry)

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By *ilverfox for youMan
4 weeks ago

Hull

Maybe put a smile on your face ! A body pic might help .also try hiding your cock pic . Show if anyone asks .ladies get sick of seeing them !! Give it a try you never know

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By *ed and WolfieCouple
4 weeks ago

Gravesend

A smile helps, and maybe a bit more creativity or imagination with your pics.

And your short statement says nothing about yourself, what you like, your experiences or what you are looking for.

If you are expecting ladies to throw themselves on you then if nothing else you are optimistic.

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I agree that your username and avatar are off putting op.

Also you've written nothing about what you're offering people and what you're into and looking for here.

Sell yourself.

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By *ancelot1633Man
4 weeks ago

weybridge

All you really have on here is your profile (plus forum posts and chat rooms if you partake) so getting it to say something about you, what you are like, what you can offer and what you are hoping to find, is a big part of what you can do.

To be honest meeting someone directly via the site is quite rare at least in my experience, meeting someone at a club or party who is on the site is much more likely.

Good luck

Lance x

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By *oiluvfunMan
4 weeks ago

Penrith


"I’ve been on here abit now and I’ve been trying to get into the scene but I’m not getting no replies or anything is there something I’m doing wrong ?"

You’re only 25 mate, what are you doing in here? Get out in to the ‘normal’ world of pubs, bars and general nightlife. I guarantee you will meet more women in one night out in Warrington, than you’re likely to after 6 months in here! The ratios are way out, and you’re quite possibly the age of most people’s children in here….

Jeez I wish I was 25 again……

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By *end1Man
3 weeks ago

southend on sea

Ffs can't we put an end to the daily guy's moaning about not having any luck with the ladies. It doesn't matter how big your cock is or handsome we outnumber the couples and single females by at least 3 to 1. Just like the female scorpion they have all the real power!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
3 weeks ago

Chester


"I’ve been on here abit now and I’ve been trying to get into the scene but I’m not getting no replies or anything is there something I’m doing wrong ?"

Hi Cal,

It's notoriously difficult for single guys in the scene in general. It's common knowledge. We outnumber single women something ridiculous like 40:1.

The odds are stacked massively against us from the start. Let me tell you honestly that your profile name and pic are massively hindering you (if you're looking for women).

This game is a social game. In a nutshell, what you've got to do is treat women like friends at the start. They're not turned on by graphic sexual material. It all starts in their minds then you've got to gradually warm them up.

Also, many guys make the fatal mistake of saying "hi", "hey babe", "fancy a fuck", etc... what happens then is that the guys with a different approach scoop them up (sometimes).

I feel like a bit of an idiot giving up my secrets, but sent them messages that they can relate to. Messages that you simply can't ignore. Bizarre messages are good too.

Basically, the first hoop you need to jump through is grabbing attention.

Have a think about how to make a fun and interesting first message. You'll still be ignored 50% of the time, but you'll have an edge over other guys.

Good luck!

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By *oiluvfunMan
3 weeks ago

Penrith


"Ffs can't we put an end to the daily guy's moaning about not having any luck with the ladies. It doesn't matter how big your cock is or handsome we outnumber the couples and single females by at least 3 to 1. Just like the female scorpion they have all the real power!"

Women may have more options to choose from in Fab, but they don’t have “all the real power” lol…..

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By *ohnjones3210Man
3 weeks ago

Chester


"Ffs can't we put an end to the daily guy's moaning about not having any luck with the ladies. It doesn't matter how big your cock is or handsome we outnumber the couples and single females by at least 3 to 1. Just like the female scorpion they have all the real power!

Women may have more options to choose from in Fab, but they don’t have “all the real power” lol….."

I agree. Women have all the power that you allow them to have. 🫢

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By *ovinglife!40Man
3 weeks ago

Hinckley


"I’ve been on here abit now and I’ve been trying to get into the scene but I’m not getting no replies or anything is there something I’m doing wrong ?"

What was your expectations on joining?

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By *onguiliciousMan
3 weeks ago

Northallerton

100s of blokes to every female. If you’re not willing to put effort in over the long term you might as well join a dating site!

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
3 weeks ago

kent


"I’ve been on here abit now and I’ve been trying to get into the scene but I’m not getting no replies or anything is there something I’m doing wrong ?

Honestly, your profile pic and user name would be enough for us to just delete unread any message you sent. We're sure you mean well but they're both quite off-putting.

(Bry)"

Exactly the same opinion from us too

Jules x

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By *eettogetpleasedMan
3 weeks ago

Ponterfact

So true!

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By *ongandharderMan
3 weeks ago

Rotherham

Go with the flow or

Set yourself apart what makes you, you

Personality to your profile

And a bit of flare

In a sea of cocks be a peacock

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