FabSwingers.com forum: Is it just me

By *aul.J.J OP Man
8 weeks ago

Sedgley

Afternoon folks

I have been back on here for about a month having had a long break, and fab has changed enormously.

Before I found it relatively easy to chat to people, have a laugh and have a few meets. Now it's a whole different world!!

I send messages to people being respectful, not being pushy, sending a pic with my message, asking to reply if they want a chat as I just don't want a quick jump but a conversation and rapport but get absolutely no replies. It does get a bit disheartening.

No I know people will say there are more men to women, my photos are crap, my profile is crap etc etc but I actually think my profile is ok and my pics aren't that bad.

Is it just me...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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8 weeks ago

East Sussex

It's not just you there are many complaints like yours.

Fab hasn't changed but maybe the members have?

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By *aul.J.J OP Man
8 weeks ago

Sedgley

Yeah that's a fair point, it is just frustrating and disheartening but we plod on !!

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By *oxy jWoman
8 weeks ago

taunton somerset

simple maths will tell you what your first hurdle is ...ie the sheer amount of men and thats before we get to attraction and other things...

then add in theres less couples /women on the scene and then at least half of those use fab as social media and dont meet via fab ie clubs only

add in a lot of guys think its a shag anyone site as long as you have a cock women will drop knickers ...not

then theres the private invite only parties scene thats thats becoming big again where alot are not inviting guys..

quite simply put the scene is now harder for guys than i can remember in the 30plus years ive been on it most men dont ever get a meet

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By *oiluvfunMan
8 weeks ago

Penrith

"Simple maths will tell you what your first hurdle is; the sheer amount of men, and that's before we get to attraction and other things...

Then add in there's less couples/women on the scene and then at least half of those use fab as social media and don't meet via Fab ie clubs only

Add in a lot of guys think its a shag anyone site as long as you have a cock women will drop knickers ...not

Then there's the private invite only parties scene that's becoming big again where a lot are not inviting guys..

Quite simply put the scene is now harder for guys than I can remember in the 30 plus years I've been on it most men don't ever get a meet"

Pretty much spot on

You are statistically likely to meet more single ladies in your local Wetherspoons, than through Fab or the swinger club scene

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By *NLOS123Man
8 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

As someone who was on here during covid I found with more people working from home that the site in general and the forums were far busier

Now it’s as it was before Covid. A little slower

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I wouldn't say it is just you, it happens to us as well. Maybe attitudes have changed? We were never on fab when it was "good". We have been told by a few who we have made friends with on the scene that fab used to be great.

Don't give up hope mate ❤️

Also it says you are new to Sedgley. The Clifton is a nice place to eat. We have lunch there whenever we pass through 😁

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By *aul.J.J OP Man
8 weeks ago

Sedgley

Thanks, I ain't giving up!

Yeah I've been to the Clifton many years ago, will have to visit there again

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By *aul.J.J OP Man
8 weeks ago

Sedgley

"simple maths will tell you what your first hurdle is ...ie the sheer amount of men and thats before we get to attraction and other things...

then add in theres less couples /women on the scene and then at least half of those use fab as social media and dont meet via fab ie clubs only

add in a lot of guys think its a shag anyone site as long as you have a cock women will drop knickers ...not

then theres the private invite only parties scene thats thats becoming big again where alot are not inviting guys..

quite simply put the scene is now harder for guys than i can remember in the 30plus years ive been on it most men dont ever get a meet"

Many thanks for your response and it does explain a lot

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By *andPextraCouple
8 weeks ago

North West

It's a minefield this site sometimes.

We get a wife range of messages, from the abusive to carefully crafted and engaging.

However, experience has taught us even replying to the later type can be fraught;a polite no thank you or a banal chat often leads to people expecting more than I have the time/inclination/patience to deliver.

Hence it's now mainly easier not to reply.

Frustrating for the sender I'm sure, but it's a buyers market so to speak.

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By *andPextraCouple
8 weeks ago

North West

Wide not wife

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