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By *j678 OP   Man
8 weeks ago

kingston

I’m still new to this and I’m interested in getting stuck into the deep end. I’m genuinely a respectful and easy going person, but apparently I’m too young to be on here or so I’ve been told. I didn’t know that people wouldn’t want a guy who’s young got a high libido and ready to give a woman pleasure all day was such a bad thing but I guess so because I haven’t been up to much here yet

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By *oxy jWoman
8 weeks ago

taunton somerset

yes your age is a small problem but your main problem is your a guy and theres zillons to pick from by the so few

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By *aomilatteCouple
8 weeks ago

Midlands

At 25 you're definitely not too young for many on here. Not all Women want to be pleasured all day though, and some will be put off by certain phrases.

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By *hong80321967Man
8 weeks ago

Wakefield

Definitely not too young, enjoy

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By *iss KinkWoman
8 weeks ago

North West

Wouldn’t say too young but we arnt all wanting sex all day or our pussy destroyed!

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
8 weeks ago

Halifax

It's not your age, most women need mental stimulation and much as physical, certain words in your profile just reeks immaturity.

You will likely be more successful attending cougars and cubs nights at clubs.

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By *NLOS123Man
8 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

You joined 5 weeks ago. What were your expectations in the 5 weeks you’ve been here

Your profile is as others say rather specific but also all you talk of is older woman and pleasing them but will meet an 18 year old

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

It screams I just want to fuck anyone. Don't care about the art of conversation

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By *lik and PaulCouple
8 weeks ago

cahoots

You're not too young to be here OP but you will be too young for some as often people aren't keen on meeting others that are younger than their children.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

You aren't too young. There is a 19 year old who attends clubs for cubs and cougars nights we are friends with.

Your bio is more of a turn off than your age is.

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
8 weeks ago

Leicester


"At 25 you're definitely not too young for many on here. Not all Women want to be pleasured all day though, and some will be put off by certain phrases."

This. Pussy destroyer=total turn off for us

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
8 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Sorry OP its not your age putting people off its your profile

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
8 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Plus saying you're not interested in chatting but need a proof of life pic isn't really going to appeal to a lot of people!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
8 weeks ago

Coventry

Your not too young to be on here. Its just your age group for males is maybe a smaller range of desirability on here. Maybe suggest one of the under 35/40s club events. Not only for a great night out specifically for your democracy but also an opportunity to make connections going forward.

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By *awpleasureMan
8 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

Destroying a pussy.....

That'll be it

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
8 weeks ago

Wherever

You’re not too young.

But you present yourself in a way many people wouldn’t want to engage with you, with a great deal of immaturity, selfishness and lack of understanding of what being in this lifestyle means.

That is me not trying to be rude, just explaining from the point of view of someone who meets people your age.

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By *uliette500Woman
8 weeks ago

Hull

As others have already said I don't think age is your biggest issue. It is certain things in your profile that will put most women off.

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By *oastal1968Man
8 weeks ago

London

It's more or less all been said. Your age is irrelevant. Your profile oozes immaturity. You come across as arrogant and not confident. Not sure I know many women who would find your approach appealing. But good luck all the same.

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By *ee69Man
8 weeks ago

glasgow

There’s someone for everyone

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By *weetRollMan
8 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth


"I’m still new to this and I’m interested in getting stuck into the deep end. I’m genuinely a respectful and easy going person, but apparently I’m too young to be on here or so I’ve been told. I didn’t know that people wouldn’t want a guy who’s young got a high libido and ready to give a woman pleasure all day was such a bad thing but I guess so because I haven’t been up to much here yet"

Although there are a noticeable number of people who you might not be able to message due to their age preference,

Please do listen to the other forum users on here. In some ways I'm a bit jealous of you cus for a lot of people their lower limit is 25 and I'm a couple years short of that, ahaha.

You cant change how old you are, but you can improve your profile to make it more appealing, so do that but still remain honest about what you want -- its really important HOW you communicate not just that you do.

Happy Fabbing mate!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
8 weeks ago

Wherever


"In some ways I'm a bit jealous of you cus for a lot of people their lower limit is 25 and I'm a couple years short of that, ahaha.

"

Re age limits - if this is going to make you feel better - you are lucky enough to reach many people’s age limits soon, and in no time, whereas people over 50 and older, we won’t be getting any younger.

Just another perspective on this.

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By *weetRollMan
8 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth


"In some ways I'm a bit jealous of you cus for a lot of people their lower limit is 25 and I'm a couple years short of that, ahaha.

Re age limits - if this is going to make you feel better - you are lucky enough to reach many people’s age limits soon, and in no time, whereas people over 50 and older, we won’t be getting any younger.

Just another perspective on this.

"

This is very true. I didn't think about it like this before... the more I do the more it resonates.

That does make me feel better about it. Thank you.

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By *ink vixenCouple
8 weeks ago

Medway

The dark destroyer!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

8 weeks ago

East Sussex

Hi op

Welcome to the forum

You're not too young for some but probably are for many. One thing you have in your favour is that you will definitely get older. As you do and gain some experience and insight in to how fab works you might find your luck improves.

Good luck.

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By *rsFieryFoxWoman
8 weeks ago

Somerset

"pussy destroyer" and "cba" probably sums up why it would be an avoid here!

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By *iss DevilWoman
8 weeks ago

Bedford

OP, you have been already given a lot of great and quite in depth advice. Let me give you more generic one. Your profile is your shop window, people will read it and see you in the light you are showing yourself through it. Are you happy with how your profile is presenting you to the community of Fab? If yes, leave it alone and don't change anything.

Happy Fabbing.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

8 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If you really and honestly think it's your age that's the issue then just browse for profiles using the advanced search function and tick the box that days you're the age they're looking for.

It might not be the age that's causing you problems though. 🤷‍♂️

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By *empest2KMan
8 weeks ago

Derby


"OP, you have been already given a lot of great and quite in depth advice. Let me give you more generic one. Your profile is your shop window, people will read it and see you in the light you are showing yourself through it. Are you happy with how your profile is presenting you to the community of Fab? If yes, leave it alone and don't change anything.

Happy Fabbing. "

Just to extend the shop front analogy, I'd add that your messages are your customer service

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By *iss DevilWoman
8 weeks ago

Bedford


"OP, you have been already given a lot of great and quite in depth advice. Let me give you more generic one. Your profile is your shop window, people will read it and see you in the light you are showing yourself through it. Are you happy with how your profile is presenting you to the community of Fab? If yes, leave it alone and don't change anything.

Happy Fabbing.

Just to extend the shop front analogy, I'd add that your messages are your customer service "

Lol, that's a good one! May I borrow it for next time, please?

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
8 weeks ago

Around the Midlands


"OP, you have been already given a lot of great and quite in depth advice. Let me give you more generic one. Your profile is your shop window, people will read it and see you in the light you are showing yourself through it. Are you happy with how your profile is presenting you to the community of Fab? If yes, leave it alone and don't change anything.

Happy Fabbing.

Just to extend the shop front analogy, I'd add that your messages are your customer service

Lol, that's a good one! May I borrow it for next time, please? "

In that case, pics are the stock 😉

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By *revaunanceCouple
8 weeks ago

Exeter

Hello OP

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about your age, so don't fret. You shouldn't look on it as a negative, because for some potential meets your age is a selling point.

Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. For example, if they are looking for a bi guy and you are straight, just move on and forget them.

Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. Messaging like that doesn't work on Fab like it does with instant messaging services. Can you imagine writing Hi, waiting three days and then getting a msg back saying hi, to which you reply how are you and have to wait another three or four days for a reply? If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. Never be so crude as to send messages like 'Hey im free monday. Wanna come to my place and let me use that pussy?' You wouldn't say that sort of thing in person, so don't say it online.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly you have had ten months to fill out your profile, but it still doesn't leap out of the screen at prospective meets. Your profile could be summed up as 'I don't know what I want, with whom, or what I offer'. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make.

We are a couple that do meet guys of your age, and one look at your profile would put us off from looking any further. Sadly, it is bland and doesn't stand out. I do not want my pussy destroyed; talk like that is seldom considered as sexy by women.

Your profile also shows that you have taken no time whatsoever to use your profile to make a positive impression, in your own words, you cba. If you cba, then why should anyone else?

Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle. That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression.

Dick pics are not the way to promote yourself, especially not as a profile pic if your trying to show your maturity. Everyone knows what a dick looks like, and believe it or not very few people actually want to look at row upon row of cocks when they look at a profile page. Your probably better off to leave your dick pics in your private file, if someone really wants to see it they will ask. Smiling face pics are invaluable. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice. The photo's you already have would be better presented with some pixelation, rather than a messy and lazy scribble across them.

Getting involved with the forums and the chatroom are both great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Rather than relying on a message, show your maturity and join in conversations, you never know someone might take an interest.

Get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do?

Some will give you a chance, some won't, but we wish you luck

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Central

When you're over 18, you're fine.

But all single men need to have realistic expectations here. Most people will never match with most other people.

Do Advanced Search for people who want your age.

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