FabSwingers.com forum: Profile advice

By *en_Lad OP Man
9 weeks ago

Gateshead

Do I need a face pic visible? Because I prefer to send them privately.

I'm also just getting a lot of messages left on unread.

Do I need to attend clubs to be successful? Getting disheartened a little bit.

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By *uffman69Man
9 weeks ago

Mid Cornwall from somewhere else

Don't worry you're not alone

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By *weetRollMan
9 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth

Sending a face pic privately is fine.

Make sure you're confident the profile you are sending it to are real people. Don't send to unverified profiles.

No matter how good your introduction, a lot of your messages will be left on 'read' or not even opened.

This is normal. I personally think leaving someone on 'read' is toxic, I would prefer if people just deleted the message... but it seems to be the norm here.

Don't think of it as being done out of malice, its just how people say 'no' on the site.

I would advise you make a decent profile and try to contact compatible people, but definitely go to a club/socials. So much advice on here for single guys recommends we go to clubs and socials, its much easier to stand out and you wont need to jump through as many hoops to actually meet people.

May the odds be in your favour mate.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
9 weeks ago

Pontefract

"Do I need a face pic visible? Because I prefer to send them privately.

I'm also just getting a lot of messages left on unread.

Do I need to attend clubs to be successful? Getting disheartened a little bit. "

Clubs and socials is definitely a good idea your a good looking guy you certainly would get someone talking to you i would definitely say hi if I seen you in a swingers club x

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By *enk15Man
9 weeks ago

Evesham

Only put up a public face pic if you are comfortable with it. Don't compromise on what you want to do in the hope it gets you a meet.

I'd say your profile text probably needs work. Its very generic and doesn't distinguish you from the 1,000's of other single males.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Your profile bio is the same as 100s of others

You could put what hobbies you have, what you have to offer

No ones profile is 100% perfect though

Good luck

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
9 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

You don't really give me a sense of what you're offering or looking for tbh.

So maybe expand your bio, you do need to sell yourself on here.

Most delete messages, if they dont fine the profile of interest.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
9 weeks ago

Stoke

Only approach people you'd approach in real life. Some see sexy women and get carried away, that's probably why they're not read.

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By *olinOfBathMan
9 weeks ago

Corsham

Before writing to someone, read their profile several times. Then, show that you have, by writing about how you match what they are seeking.

Do not include a dick pic unless they have asked for one.

Draw attention to anything in your own profile that relates to their needs. Give them extra information that isn't in your profile, if it's relevant.

Every message that you send should be individual and unique. Make them realise that you're treating them with respect, not just sending a 'one size fits all' universal message.

Treat people as adults and use proper sentences, not text speak.

Remember that they may receive hundreds of messages every day and give them a reason to respond to yours.

Ending with a question helps them by providing a starting point for their reply.

Do not hassle them for a response.

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By *weetRollMan
9 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth

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By *weetRollMan
9 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth

"Before writing to someone, read their profile several times. Then, show that you have, by writing about how you match what they are seeking.

Do not include a dick pic unless they have asked for one.

Draw attention to anything in your own profile that relates to their needs. Give them extra information that isn't in your profile, if it's relevant.

Every message that you send should be individual and unique. Make them realise that you're treating them with respect, not just sending a 'one size fits all' universal message.

Treat people as adults and use proper sentences, not text speak.

Remember that they may receive hundreds of messages every day and give them a reason to respond to yours.

Ending with a question helps them by providing a starting point for their reply.

Do not hassle them for a response."

Solid advice here

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Face pics aren't needed as long as you send them when asked.

Clubs and social events are always so much better for meeting people.

You have 1000's of blokes here and messages get missed/ignored because there's so many.

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