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"Hi all, we're tentatively dipping our toes into the world of swinging. Our profile has been live for a while, however after a failed meet we haven't found the confidence to try again...yet! We've spoken about the best way to get into it and looking for some advice or tips Mrs would prefer a meet with someone she has built a rapport with...Mr would prefer trying BGHS and meeting at random. So question, if you were to start out again what would you do? " If we was to do it all again I would do everything the same. We started by messaging through here and got nowhere, then we went to a club and met people and made friends. As we only play with 'unicorns" we had a tough task on our hands starting out. Our first meet was with a lovely lady that we got introduced to by a couple we made friends with at the club. So if we hadn't gone to the club and made friends things may have been very different. I believe jumping in head first at the deep end is definitely the best way to proceed. As you are looking to play with couples you are very likely to find them at a club. We like clubs as you can sit and chat for a good while before deciding whether you'd like to do anything. I would argue that would be long enough to build a rapport with someone and discover if there's a connection. Most importantly just go along and have fun, if things happen great! if they don't, oh well!. At least you've met some new people and gathered experience in the process. Mrs x | |||
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"Also most swinger clubs allow single men in on Fridays, you'd have no trouble finding willing participants in a club x Mrs x" but if your like alot of us were attraction is key then clubs can be very hit n miss .... most club nights we do are just a great socials as not very often is there anyone in there of interest .... and if there is a guy its normally lets chat and take your phone number for a private meet rather that play in the club that attracts others where im having to say no all night as no attraction .. we do clubs once a month have been for years and all over the uk and Europe when on a break | |||
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"also top tip dont meet anyone at home unless you know them very well there are some crackpots on here who you dont need for them to know where you live ... trust is built not given" so true | |||
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"Hi all, we're tentatively dipping our toes into the world of swinging. Our profile has been live for a while, however after a failed meet we haven't found the confidence to try again...yet! We've spoken about the best way to get into it and looking for some advice or tips Mrs would prefer a meet with someone she has built a rapport with...Mr would prefer trying BGHS and meeting at random. So question, if you were to start out again what would you do? " Hi we are a couple who have been together over 25 years and on here for a while. We had our first meet this year and haven't looked back! If you want to chat about it send us a message Good luck xx | |||
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"What fantasy do you have Mr X and what scenarios have you in mind? " Mr X wants to see Mrs X get screwed by another man, and join in (no male on male action). Then perhaps MFF and couple swaps. | |||
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"Hi all, we're tentatively dipping our toes into the world of swinging. Our profile has been live for a while, however after a failed meet we haven't found the confidence to try again...yet! We've spoken about the best way to get into it and looking for some advice or tips Mrs would prefer a meet with someone she has built a rapport with...Mr would prefer trying BGHS and meeting at random. So question, if you were to start out again what would you do? Hi we are a couple who have been together over 25 years and on here for a while. We had our first meet this year and haven't looked back! If you want to chat about it send us a message Good luck xx" That's great to hear you are enjoying it! Maybe we'll take the plunge soon . We've been together for a long time too, both up for spicing things up, just trying to find the right way to go about it. Thanks x | |||
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"Our thoughts. BGHS is not a club. Totally different vibe If you want to go and have a super chilled naked spa day with the possibility of some play, then put it on the list. Don’t play in the public areas, you will be chucked out You may want to loosely arrange meets with guys in a club. By loosely we mean, chat on here briefly and arrange to meet, not exclusively at a club. You have an idea of attraction from their pictures, the thought of arranging a club meet soon s out the photo collectors. If you arrange to meet a few guys non exclusively it doesn’t matter if one or two bottle it and don’t show. If they all don’t show, no worries, a club load of guys to fastrack the process " Have you been to BGHS? Would you recommend as a starting point? | |||
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" Have you been to BGHS? Would you recommend as a starting point? " We went recently with lifestyle friends, tbf we went early evening when single guys had left. We’ve heard it can be a bit ‘letchy’ in the day time. From what you describe in your profile it’s not a starting point. It’s a naturist venue, so not a swinger venue. There is the opportunity to play in the rest rooms. It’s no alcohol. Our suggestion would be as above, go to a club on a singles night. We’re biased to VA as that’s where we are mostly, although we are at Liberty Elite this weekend. No cameras allowed in any of these locations so you can’t meet your filming desires, that will be a challenge in most clubs. | |||
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"I've found the best way to meet, is through messaging on here. Usually several messages to see if you're compatible before a social meeting somewhere, pub, coffee shop that type of thing then go away and discuss on whether you would like to meet again. That way there's no pressure on anyone and you the couple can make sure you both like your prospective partner/s. " This is exactly our thoughts. | |||
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"Hi all, we're tentatively dipping our toes into the world of swinging. Our profile has been live for a while, however after a failed meet we haven't found the confidence to try again...yet! We've spoken about the best way to get into it and looking for some advice or tips Mrs would prefer a meet with someone she has built a rapport with...Mr would prefer trying BGHS and meeting at random. So question, if you were to start out again what would you do? " As others have said, don't have that first meet at home. You have limited options if you want to escape.......you can't lol. Clubs are a great place to mingle, chat, and make friends with and then you never know. As others have said BGHS possibly isn't the right vibe for what you are looking for. Pleasures isn't a million miles away and is a friendly fun club full of private and public play spaces, bar and dance floor. Looking at your profile I'm sure that Mrs will certainly grab attention. Then it's down to your quality control lol Good luck! | |||
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"What’s BGHS? " Bristol Gardens Health Spa in Brighton | |||
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"Really well timed thread. My wife and I have been getting closer and closer to starting the lifestyle journey and we've booked a weekend in Brighton in November - we will be visiting BGHS with no expectations. More to dip our toes! " Exactly the same as us. We had a taste on holiday that was totally spontaneous, and we’re getting closer to taking another step. We also like the idea of BGHS because of the spa being a no play area. | |||
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"Really well timed thread. My wife and I have been getting closer and closer to starting the lifestyle journey and we've booked a weekend in Brighton in November - we will be visiting BGHS with no expectations. More to dip our toes! Exactly the same as us. We had a taste on holiday that was totally spontaneous, and we’re getting closer to taking another step. We also like the idea of BGHS because of the spa being a no play area." BGHS is great for that. We have had a few great visits there. Going with no expectations and sometimes had good spontaneous fun that we felt comfortable with and sometimes just relaxed together . The spa area is very relaxing and fun to just chat with people, with a trip upstairs on our own or by other people a very pleasant bonus. Took us a few visits to discover the mirror room, which is a whole new dimension that MrsB loves. | |||
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"Our thoughts. BGHS is not a club. Totally different vibe If you want to go and have a super chilled naked spa day with the possibility of some play, then put it on the list. Don’t play in the public areas, you will be chucked out You may want to loosely arrange meets with guys in a club. By loosely we mean, chat on here briefly and arrange to meet, not exclusively at a club. You have an idea of attraction from their pictures, the thought of arranging a club meet soon s out the photo collectors. If you arrange to meet a few guys non exclusively it doesn’t matter if one or two bottle it and don’t show. If they all don’t show, no worries, a club load of guys to fastrack the process Have you been to BGHS? Would you recommend as a starting point? " Check out hundreds of bad reviews on trip advisor and other sites before you decide to go. It’s not a swinger club and owner hates swingers. | |||
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"Our thoughts. BGHS is not a club. Totally different vibe If you want to go and have a super chilled naked spa day with the possibility of some play, then put it on the list. Don’t play in the public areas, you will be chucked out You may want to loosely arrange meets with guys in a club. By loosely we mean, chat on here briefly and arrange to meet, not exclusively at a club. You have an idea of attraction from their pictures, the thought of arranging a club meet soon s out the photo collectors. If you arrange to meet a few guys non exclusively it doesn’t matter if one or two bottle it and don’t show. If they all don’t show, no worries, a club load of guys to fastrack the process Have you been to BGHS? Would you recommend as a starting point? Check out hundreds of bad reviews on trip advisor and other sites before you decide to go. It’s not a swinger club and owner hates swingers. " I have failed to find "hundreds" of bad reviews on Trip Advisor and BGHS has never claimed to be a swingers club I have been going for years and never had a problem with the owner, she is fine if you respect the house rules | |||
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" So question, if you were to start out again what would you do? " I'd join Fab earlier and start clubbing right away. | |||
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