FabSwingers.com forum: ‘Not heard from you in a while…’

By *wendolineFox OP Woman
7 weeks ago

Chester

I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.

I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.

It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!

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By *onnynclaireCouple
7 weeks ago

Reading

We get this quite often.

We usually say that there must’ve been a good reason that we didn’t carry on chatting or meet so ending it here.

Followed by a block so that they can’t chance it again.

We like the new feature of being able to see that there was chat and what the chat was when viewing profiles.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
7 weeks ago

It's a common thing, I think they assume we are all stupid.

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By *iss DevilWoman
7 weeks ago

Bedford

I have not had that on Fab much (I'd probably just say to the person "you have the wrong profile" or similar), but I have had some people message me on other chats. People I have met or was chatting with, then they chose to stop messaging, for whatever reason. Then all of a sudden they remember I exist, start chatting and expect things to be exactly the way they were all those months or years ago. It doesn't work that way.

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
7 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I get that all the time along with hey we met before I’d love to meet again when I know we haven’t met so I ask for details, that silences them.

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By *iss DevilWoman
7 weeks ago

Bedford

I have been getting another one lately- "thanks for looking at our profile", even though I know for sure I don't show on "who looked at me".

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By *icecouple561Couple
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7 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yeah we've had this. They hope you'll be curious enough to reply, like the cold callers who start with a question.

I'd say if you like the look of them respond and if you don't...don't

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
7 weeks ago

dudley

I get this quite a lot, I don’t really have any interest in men I think it’s just an attempt to engage in conversation, also get them saying do you remember we met at the “attic “ etc etc,

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.

I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.

It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!

Gx"

Make people aware? That sounds like it’s something sinister. Maybe they have made a genuine mistake and it’s not a new angle.

It’s a shame that we look for the worst in people and assume they are devious tricksters. Let’s have some positivity and look for the good in people.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

What a way to manipulate a response to a message.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
7 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Fab’s new messaging date system on profiles is an excellent development. We can now see when we last communicated even if the messages are deleted. These types of messages are ao pointless, as it’s so easy to check now. We just block and move on.

Consent and honesty is absolutely critical to us, so don’t entertain this type of nonsense.

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
7 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I’m very positive and look for the good in people in real life but this is fab and a bit more caution is required

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By *wendolineFox OP Woman
7 weeks ago

Chester

"I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.

I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.

It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!

Make people aware? That sounds like it’s something sinister. Maybe they have made a genuine mistake and it’s not a new angle.

It’s a shame that we look for the worst in people and assume they are devious tricksters. Let’s have some positivity and look for the good in people. "

Fab will tell you when you’ve already messaged someone - it’ll pop up at the top of the profile, so no, it’s not a mistake. Last time I ‘looked for the good’ in someone I ended up getting SA’d so you’ll pardon me for exercising some healthy caution.

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By *icole-everyWoman
7 weeks ago

Leicester

I have a lot saying "do you remember me?" Or a new line is "I need to talk to you"

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By *endalshaggersCouple
7 weeks ago

Kendal

We get this, from people who we genuinely may have chatted with at some point briefly over several months ago.

"Remember us, we chatted 8 months ago?"

Er, no, sorry, we logged into 65 messages this morning and the chances of remembering a discussion we had last week never mind 8 months ago is a big ask.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
7 weeks ago

Norwich

"I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.

I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.

It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!

Make people aware? That sounds like it’s something sinister. Maybe they have made a genuine mistake and it’s not a new angle.

It’s a shame that we look for the worst in people and assume they are devious tricksters. Let’s have some positivity and look for the good in people. "

I think it's happening too often to be genuine mistakes. Wee had them from couples as well. We assume that's a single guy posing as a couple and trying his luck.

There is probably a thread on reddit or somewhere where a guy tried this on someone gullible and it worked

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By *olchester dreamCouple
7 weeks ago

Colchester

We can only be messaged by a verified couple, go to settings.

So many time wasters and picture hunters on these sites

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By *teveanddebsCouple
7 weeks ago

Norwich

"We can only be messaged by a verified couple, go to settings.

So many time wasters and picture hunters on these sites"

There are a lot of verified couples where it turns out that now only he can meet.

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By *issmorganWoman
7 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I've had this a few times,

I even had one man try and insist we'd met in the past.

He got where I lived wrong and what I did for work, I think he really wanted a face pic.

I didn't send one as I know full well we never met.

I agree its definitely a deceptive way to try and start chatting to someone and I tend to block them.

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By *un and Games 2016Couple
7 weeks ago

Darlington

I get that, or 'Hi (insert any random female name), is that you? I recognise your photo!'

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By *essTTWoman
7 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I’m suddenly getting quite a few messages saying things along the lines of ‘not heard from you in a while…’ from various men I have never, ever messaged with.

I guess they think that I’ll just assume I’ve forgotten and start chatting - but what a duplicitous way to start something.

It’s a new technique to me, so just wanted to make people aware! Or have I been lucky to not have encountered this to date?!

Gx"

I get this all thr time, it's such an odd way to try and start conversation

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
7 weeks ago

Sheffield

The….hello stranger message, nope!

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