FabSwingers.com forum: Couples, separate room play

By *herrybakewell OP Couple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?

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By *weetnjuicycoupleCouple
17 weeks ago

nottingham

Not our thing personally- we prefer to play together or at least see each other having fun x

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By *orl1971Couple
17 weeks ago

Glasgow

We’ve done separate room with a few different couples. It’s a different dynamic from same room provided everyone trusts each other but you are within earshot usually so not that risky. We’ve enjoyed separate rooms.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Not our thing personally- we prefer to play together or at least see each other having fun x"

We're the exact opposite, we don't enjoy same room at all.

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
17 weeks ago

Hyde

It's rarer for sure ...

We play same room in a club, in private house parties we sometimes can be in separate rooms but they never have closed doors so feels less distant

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"It's rarer for sure ...

We play same room in a club, in private house parties we sometimes can be in separate rooms but they never have closed doors so feels less distant

We've never played with anyone in a club, we've never really pushed it.

We've done separate rooms in a house and separate hotel rooms.

We all have different preferences.

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By *weetnotinnocentCouple
17 weeks ago

South Wales

We have enjoyed both, separate room can be more relaxed and feel more naughty x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
17 weeks ago

Coventry

We rarely play seperate room and genrally seperate singles rather than couples. We find most of what we do or don't do really depends on the people we're playing with, the situation and what we're feeling at the time. It really ranges from soft swing to hard swing, together or individual side missions.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We rarely play seperate room and genrally seperate singles rather than couples. We find most of what we do or don't do really depends on the people we're playing with, the situation and what we're feeling at the time. It really ranges from soft swing to hard swing, together or individual side missions."

Interesting read thankyou.

For us we just don't feel comfortable watching each other.

We both love to hear what we've been upto, just don't necessarily need to see it.

We've always said though that with the right couple we would possibly build up to same room / group play.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
17 weeks ago

Coventry

Interesting read thankyou.

For us we just don't feel comfortable watching each other.

We both love to hear what we've been upto, just don't necessarily need to see it.

We've always said though that with the right couple we would possibly build up to same room / group play.

For us it's mainly the opposite we love sharing this together and we also love to join in a good orgy.

But the beauty of this lifestyle is the freedom to enjoy world as you want to enjoy it in the format that works for you. From a couples perspective to safely communicate what you want with each other and be able to enjoy that as part of your relationship. Maybe that'll always be the same, maybe not. We've changed as we've explored new things and like I said it also change depending on the people we meet and where we're at in that time.

We love this life and we've found for us it's not always static.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
17 weeks ago

The Continental

Mrs Wick and I play in separate houses, never mind separate rooms.

It’s awesome

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By *neeyedwillieMan
17 weeks ago

Darlington

Depends how you view it.

I am on here with my wife but I've left her at home when I've gone to a hotel with another woman.

Plus at the club, she's gone off with a woman into a private room on a few occasion whilst ive stayed in the bar with the womans partner chatting. .

Technically that's seperate room.

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By *inkyPair2018Couple
17 weeks ago

Wolves and Northants

We are into this!

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By *punk n gushCouple
17 weeks ago

deal

We do both same room is good to all have a laugh and watch each other but equally the separate room is fun as you can hear what is happening but can't see them it can be fun to think ehats going on

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
17 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?

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I wouldn't say really rare. We have lots of friends that seem to do this. Have met one half at a club and the other is somewhere else.

We have dabbled but much prefer it when we play together... I don't like it personally... it makes me feel uncomfortable

Cali

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?

I wouldn't say really rare. We have lots of friends that seem to do this. Have met one half at a club and the other is somewhere else.

We have dabbled but much prefer it when we play together... I don't like it personally... it makes me feel uncomfortable

Cali "

Interesting, thanks for sharing your experiences.

We find it so uncomfortable playing together, it really takes away from the experience.

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By *avwxmMan
17 weeks ago

wrexham

Very interested in this

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By *kyblue1878Couple
17 weeks ago

Southport

We're happy with both, it's equally sexy to see each other but also re-connect with each other after a separate swap and hear what each got up to.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Seems to be! Too rare in our opinion lol

Would love to do separate house play but even separate room is hard enough to find in Loughborough.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
17 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?

I wouldn't say really rare. We have lots of friends that seem to do this. Have met one half at a club and the other is somewhere else.

We have dabbled but much prefer it when we play together... I don't like it personally... it makes me feel uncomfortable

Cali

Interesting, thanks for sharing your experiences.

We find it so uncomfortable playing together, it really takes away from the experience.

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oh for me watching Mr enjoy himself or him watching me makes the whole experience so much better. The only time I've not been there I felt left out and that it wasn't a together thing. X

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By *imher8587Couple
17 weeks ago

Kingswinford

We prefer se room play as it excites us watching the other having fun. Each to their own though

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By *endalshaggersCouple
17 weeks ago

Lake District

It's something we're considering x

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

We’ve tried and we really enjoyed it - definitely up for doing it again.

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
17 weeks ago

near you...

We do this sometimes depending on how the night is going. We like watching each other have fun but can be distracting. There's a few things he doesn't like to see me doing and vice versa. Lx

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By *WB85Man
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Thankyou all for sharing your thoughts and experiences.

If we were all the same, the world would be very boring.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
17 weeks ago

Cheshire

We have done separate room with doors open. Temptation then takes over to go and watch the other person enjoying themselves before all ending up in the same room.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We just don't currently have that temptation, doesn't seem to appeal.

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By *eronikapaulCouple
16 weeks ago

Reading

We did a "most of the night" chalet swap at La Mirage. Good! Good to be able to concentrate fully on the person you are with. Good to not wonder what your partner is up to. Good to take your time and have no care about when someone else finishes or wants attention. It also feels sensually naughty

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We did a "most of the night" chalet swap at La Mirage. Good! Good to be able to concentrate fully on the person you are with. Good to not wonder what your partner is up to. Good to take your time and have no care about when someone else finishes or wants attention. It also feels sensually naughty

This is exactly our feelings.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Seems to be! Too rare in our opinion lol

Would love to do separate house play but even separate room is hard enough to find in Loughborough."

Not far away from Stoke on Trent, if you guys ever fancy a social sometimes.....just let us know.

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By *eronikapaulCouple
16 weeks ago

Reading

" if you guys ever fancy a social sometimes.....just let us know. "

For one moment there we thought you meant us Cherry 😂. Perfectly compatible but too old. x

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

We tried it and we decided it wasn't for us.

We prefer being able to see the other have fun.

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By *orl1971Couple
16 weeks ago

Glasgow

For us same room full swap can sometimes be distracting as you’re watching your partner rather than concentrating on who your playing with. It can also turn into a competition with each swap couple trying to make particular acts last longer or moving through more positions plus most guys don’t want to be the first to finish.

Separate rooms can bizarrely be a bit more relaxed.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"For us same room full swap can sometimes be distracting as you’re watching your partner rather than concentrating on who your playing with. It can also turn into a competition with each swap couple trying to make particular acts last longer or moving through more positions plus most guys don’t want to be the first to finish.

Separate rooms can bizarrely be a bit more relaxed. "

YES!!!!! Hit the nail on the head here.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

We definitely don't find same room distracting, but instead energizing and encouraging. The hotness of seeing your partner get enjoyed and enjoy another person while you do the same is what drew us into the lifestyle.

Also, we are both bi, so we prefer our couples meets to more a mini-orgy than a simple swap.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
16 weeks ago

Worsley

Always enjoyed separate play whenever we've had the opportunity.

Just sad that not many couples are into it.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We definitely don't find same room distracting, but instead energizing and encouraging. The hotness of seeing your partner get enjoyed and enjoy another person while you do the same is what drew us into the lifestyle.

Also, we are both bi, so we prefer our couples meets to more a mini-orgy than a simple swap."

As couples, we couldn't be any different if we tried lol

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By *andT2023Couple
16 weeks ago

in the middle

Much prefer seperate play .. same room i find uncomfortable. I know i seem to be in the minority .

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Much prefer seperate play .. same room i find uncomfortable. I know i seem to be in the minority .

We totally agree.....it's ok to be in the minority. The world would be boring if we all wanted the same.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
16 weeks ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

We have only done separate room with 1 couple and have done it twice with them. Absolutely amazing experience for both of us. We would still play same room, however 1st choice would now be separate room. Something very naughty about it. We loved it

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We have only done separate room with 1 couple and have done it twice with them. Absolutely amazing experience for both of us. We would still play same room, however 1st choice would now be separate room. Something very naughty about it. We loved it "

Thankyou for your comment.

It takes a lot of trust and you really have to find the right people.

But we agree.....it's our favourite.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

We have only played together same room so far but considering me being in another room while she plays.

It's something we've discussed a fair bit but just hasn't happened yet.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We have only played together same room so far but considering me being in another room while she plays.

It's something we've discussed a fair bit but just hasn't happened yet."

Spend time finding the right people and you'll have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"We have only played together same room so far but considering me being in another room while she plays.

It's something we've discussed a fair bit but just hasn't happened yet.

Spend time finding the right people and you'll have a great time. "

Yes that's the plan.

We thought we found the right guy a few months ago but it didn't work out that way.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It's frustrating, but it's always better to find that out before anything happens.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
16 weeks ago

Bedale

We have done 99% same room but recently with our most long standing swinging partners we have branched off into occasional seperate room play.

I do think both have their place in our lifestyle at least, can see why it's not for everyone.

For us, when we discussed it afterwards we both agreed that we would never want to be exclusively seperate room players, we like the togetherness, but with a couple you have known for years seperate can offer a sort of freedom that you just can't necessarily achieve in the same room.

In the same room, your partner may trust you 100% and you the same of them, but they will still moderate their behaviour in a thousand tiny ways to try to please their primary partner. In separate rooms that doesn't happen and both are free to shake loose just a little bit more than they otherwise would.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
16 weeks ago

wonderland.

" In separate rooms that doesn't happen and both are free to shake loose just a little bit more than they otherwise would. "

I think this is why I am so against separate rooms... If there are things we wouldn't do in front of each other, then I wouldn't want them being done at all.

Cali

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It's great that you guys know what works best for you.

We've been together many years and our level of trust is 100%...we just don't enjoy same room.

It's a funny thing as lots of couples are into same room play only....yet have solo accounts and meet on their own, but that's different.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
16 weeks ago

wonderland.

"It's great that you guys know what works best for you.

We've been together many years and our level of trust is 100%...we just don't enjoy same room.

It's a funny thing as lots of couples are into same room play only....yet have solo accounts and meet on their own, but that's different. "
it is what works best for each individual. We trust each other 100% but like to see each other x

To be fair I see more couples that meet separately or other rooms than only play together

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"It's great that you guys know what works best for you.

We've been together many years and our level of trust is 100%...we just don't enjoy same room.

It's a funny thing as lots of couples are into same room play only....yet have solo accounts and meet on their own, but that's different. it is what works best for each individual. We trust each other 100% but like to see each other x

To be fair I see more couples that meet separately or other rooms than only play together "

I wish we saw the same lol....it seems very rare. Either that or we just aren't as hot as we think. Haha.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
16 weeks ago

Bedale

" In separate rooms that doesn't happen and both are free to shake loose just a little bit more than they otherwise would.

I think this is why I am so against separate rooms... If there are things we wouldn't do in front of each other, then I wouldn't want them being done at all.

Cali"

I think it's about perspective, and none of it is overt.

It's being able to relax knowing that your partner isn't analysing you to assess your happiness.

I trust that she isn't going to break any rules, and want her to be able to relax and not worry about me. And she feels the same in respect of me when I'm off with his wife.

But it's also why it absolutely has to be with people we trust implicitly

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By *urious_male1982Man
16 weeks ago

aylesbury

I’d like to try this but would have to trust the guy she’s going with 100%. I would be slightly worried she might end up in a situation she’s not comfortable with. I’ve stepped in before when I’ve seen she’s not comfortable or enjoying it. Other than that it’s hit thought

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
16 weeks ago

Portstewart

With the right couple yes we would play in separate rooms but it would depend upon how many previous times we had been with the couple before. And single ladies beard has no problem with being in a separate room so that the ladies can explore without an audience or can be with beard without boobs in the room

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

More great comments and opinions.

We spend a great deal of time looking for people and filter out until we find the correct people.

From your very first social you know exactly what somebody is like and how nice their approach is.

It's why really our preference has always been couples. There always feels like a mutual respect between couples to be sure everyone is going to be kept safe.

My partners has had experiences with single people that haven't given her the same good feeling.

Mr.

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By *rMrsBigShowCouple
16 weeks ago

stoke on Trent

We have really struggled to find couples who play in seperate rooms.

When we first joined the scene we were adamant that it would be same room only but over the years that has changed and honestly don't think we'd go back to same room again.

For us we feel more comfortable and relaxed and can let ourselves go more when we play separately xx

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

We have done both ans enjoy both. We also go to clubs separately if one can’t go. There are advantages to separate room play for example you can hear sexy stories from each other when you catch up or on the way home xx

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16 weeks ago

We have done both and enjoy both. We also go to clubs separately if one can’t go. There are advantages to separate room play for example you can hear sexy stories from each other when you catch up or on the way home xx

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We have done both ans enjoy both. We also go to clubs separately if one can’t go. There are advantages to separate room play for example you can hear sexy stories from each other when you catch up or on the way home xx"

Stories whilst reconnecting makes for the hottest sex ever.

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By *herryEatersCouple
16 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?

We prefer same room initially but have often played separate if all goes well

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Couples that prefer separate room play, is it really rare?

We prefer same room initially but have often played separate if all goes well

It's funny, we're opposite.

We want to find a nice couple, play separate for a while and over time consider same room.

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By *hisismeXXXMan
15 weeks ago

Welsh Wales

When I was with the ex, we were predominantly about same room playing. We were in this together and it was about mutual fun. Circumstances did sometimes lead to different experiences including separate room, or her meeting alone, but that was always the exception, not the norm, as our priority was each other.

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By *WB85Man
15 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Our priority is each other, we're married.

This is a fun addition to our marriage.

The other big reason of separate play for us is childcare, it's incredibly difficult to arrange.

It's good that worked for you and your ex though.

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By *arysueCouple
15 weeks ago

West Wales

we are happy at either same or separate room play ,both are fun

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By *andb69Couple
15 weeks ago

leeds

Our "kink" is seeing and hearing each others sexual enjoyment, so for us separate rooms would defeat the object entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Do like it when the wife wants to be alone with another man on the odd rare occasion

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By *WB85Man
15 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Our "kink" is seeing and hearing each others sexual enjoyment, so for us separate rooms would defeat the object entirely. "

That's cool, we're all different. We all have to do what works for us.

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By *etro1940sCouple
15 weeks ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Do like it when the wife wants to be alone with another man on the odd rare occasion"
not rare for us but always the lady (Anne) is the lead on this x

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By *andSxxCouple
15 weeks ago

Birmingham

We did both and really enjoyed it.The advantage of a shared room is shared entertainment, seeing, hearing and feeling what the others like.

The advantage of a separate room is that it is much more intimate and erotic, because you are alone, with the other person. And you can focus more on what she/he likes and what you like.

In addition, we did it a few times with a swinger couple of our friends, that we were not only in a separate room but also in a separate apartment for one day . It was an amazing experience. Similar to remarriage or getting married, but without any consequences.🤭🥰

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By *orny PTMan
15 weeks ago

Peterborough

I've done both and it's great, listening through the walls knowing how much fun the others are having is a massive turn on and it's easier if the beds and rooms are really small. Great fun. Everybody needs to be in agreement on this.

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By *herrybakewell OP Couple
15 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"We did both and really enjoyed it.The advantage of a shared room is shared entertainment, seeing, hearing and feeling what the others like.

The advantage of a separate room is that it is much more intimate and erotic, because you are alone, with the other person. And you can focus more on what she/he likes and what you like.

That's a very hot scenario!!!

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