FabSwingers.com forum: Whats going wrong?!

By *empJb OP Man
12 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Been on here for years, no luck what so ever.

Would anyone be able to help me with finding someone to have fun with?!

Is my profile an issue? Is it an issue with the amount of men to women that make it impossible for guys?!

Thanks all!!

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
12 weeks ago

Chester

There are a gazillion threads on this particular topic at the moment: read them.

Remember that a lot of your target market are here because of the swinging lifestyle, not to alleviate anyone’s sex-starvation - do you think that sounds fun from the woman’s perspective?

Profile is key: sell yourself. Or get out in the real world and meet people at socials and the like.

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By *iss KinkWoman
12 weeks ago

North West

"There are a gazillion threads on this particular topic at the moment: read them.

Remember that a lot of your target market are here because of the swinging lifestyle, not to alleviate anyone’s sex-starvation - do you think that sounds fun from the woman’s perspective?

Profile is key: sell yourself. Or get out in the real world and meet people at socials and the like. "

This ^^

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By *neeyedwillieMan
12 weeks ago

Darlington

I'll repeat what I say in every other thread of this nature.

The site is 75% single males, if not more and women don't just fall.oit of the sky onto your todger just because you went looking online.

I have never had a meet through fab on this account. Not one.

On my wife and i's account yes but not this one.

And yet I get meets. You know why? Its because I'm old school. I go to clubs and social events and meet folks there. That's how us more mature types did it back in the day.

I appreciate you're gen z and have had some ludicrous shite happen to you all these last 10 years but nothing, and I mean nothing, will match going out and flirting with women for real. Get of the apps and go to where the women are.

Sitting behind a screen waiting for it to come to you is a waste of time. Women on here get hundreds of messages per day...but out at a club or social you could.be the only man talking to her making a connection that would never happen online.

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By *empest2KMan
12 weeks ago

Derby

"There are a gazillion threads on this particular topic at the moment: read them.

Remember that a lot of your target market are here because of the swinging lifestyle, not to alleviate anyone’s sex-starvation - do you think that sounds fun from the woman’s perspective?

Profile is key: sell yourself. Or get out in the real world and meet people at socials and the like. "

☝️ Ditto this.

For me, going to clubs and socialising got me noticed... just kidding, it was my shirts really! 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

One thing for me is do you really want to meet anyone between 18-99?

I always notice that and wonder is it really true?

I just think it looks like you don’t put much effort in.

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

OP, get yourself to a social and start networking from there. It's a great way to meet people and gain some attestations.

I personally don't do clubs but don't let that put you off; clearly others prefer this approach and enjoy the experience.

I think your profile needs a redux: the first one looks like an identikit selfie and the second one looks like a family portrait with people/hands cropped out.

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By *isitingbiMan
12 weeks ago

London

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By *isitingbiMan
12 weeks ago

London

Temper your expectations to the real world. Think about how you would approach and engage with someone in person. Messaging someone in the expiation they will want to sleep with you just because they are on a swinger's site will probably lead to lonely nights.

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By *alleyDaveMan
12 weeks ago

Sheffield

"There are a gazillion threads on this particular topic at the moment: read them.

Remember that a lot of your target market are here because of the swinging lifestyle, not to alleviate anyone’s sex-starvation - do you think that sounds fun from the woman’s perspective?

Profile is key: sell yourself. Or get out in the real world and meet people at socials and the like.

☝️ Ditto this.

For me, going to clubs and socialising got me noticed... just kidding, it was my shirts really! 🤣"

With respect, you are probably in the tiny minority of single blokes on here. Respect to you for the amount of meets you have had mate, but we arnt all as lucky as you have been.

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By *an1978Woman
12 weeks ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Sadly you will still be too young for many.

Filter your searches "people looking for people my age"

Also consider adjusting your looking for age range.

As mentioned, socials are the best way to get your veri, and meet a bunch of friendly people.

Also, cannot accommodate usually makes people assume you have a wife or girlfriend at home..

Entirely up to you if you want to add "living with family", or "willing to get a hotel" etc

I personally don't explain.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

From being on here for 2 weeks I can already tell people seem to try jump the gap between getting to know eachother properly and sex… and I don’t blame men for that there’s a real numbers difference men to women so make yourself stand out with your profile and messages maybe? And who knows might get chatting to people who you want to chat to

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By *orldSeller0Man
12 weeks ago

Craigavon

I feel that pain mate and a lot of guys here and elsewhere do too.

There's no real answer to this just as people state and have stated male to female ratio online is wild, there's simply too many great options for women to take a chance on just an average man with average features and/or personality.

It's no ones fault really, its just basic perhaps somewhat flawed human logic/instincts in play (no offence intended of course just my thoughts on the matter)

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
12 weeks ago

brighton

Asking what I asked on another thread - what brings men in their 20s to fab? Do you not go out on the pull anymore? You'll have much more fun and likely more success going to pubs and clubs (unless I'm a dinosaur and nobody goes out drinking anymore!)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Central

I can't know what you have done here, including how you have done it, I can only see what you are showing today. You looked better in your older pic than the most recent one. There is little luck involved here but it's mostly about how you have decided to do things.

What do you think a woman must have, as a minimum, to consider that a guy might be a safer bet, to consider getting to know and, potentially, to be very intimate with? Your answer will dictate how you get on..

The huge majority of women here are not mutually compatible with you.. How are you going to crack this challenge? Probably not doing what you've already been doing is the answer.

Some answers are right when we discover them for ourselves. How much have you learned from looking at other men here, especially those in your vicinity?

It would be interesting to see your answers to these questions OP

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
12 weeks ago

London

"Asking what I asked on another thread - what brings men in their 20s to fab? Do you not go out on the pull anymore? You'll have much more fun and likely more success going to pubs and clubs (unless I'm a dinosaur and nobody goes out drinking anymore!)"

Spot on! This isn't Tinder, Match, Hinge or Bumble. This is a different game for different people in a Sellers market, where the buyers - men - represent c80% + of the buyers. Do the maths. If you want one on one sex dating apps and nights out will have a massively higher success rate. Good luck.

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By *itygamesMan
12 weeks ago

swinging is a couples thing i thought , 4sums , swopping wives etc, a single bloke isnt really a swinger as such , just a fella looking to shag , there are couples and single girls about on here looking for a single male , but not many...

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By *tevieboyyyMan
12 weeks ago

Waterlooville

I get hit on in real lift a LOT. Is really annoying and I always say no even if I am a few hundred miles away.

Had some meets on Tinder.

Fab - not yet - not in a rush - needs to be the right person.

I am married, she is happy to share.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
11 weeks ago

Leeds

I am curious why you find it annoying and always say no.

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