FabSwingers.com forum: Not having any luck.

By *oodle_doo OP Man
12 weeks ago

london

Hey all, I’m a single straight man and since joining I’ve not had any luck getting message replies etc. just wondered if it’s a common thing for single guys or am I doing something wrong?

Cheers for any help.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

As you are getting no replies, have you considered changing your profile or pics ?

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
12 weeks ago

Chester

Single guys have to really sell themselves with their profile text and images to stand out because of the numbers. People will check a profile before reading a message and if there’s next to nothing there any message is likely to be unread/deleted.

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By *eterandJaneadventuresCouple
12 weeks ago

Sutton

Sadly your profile picture ( pillar box eyes ) is no way alluring , there is not even any hint of mystery) add a few full length pictures , don’t need to be nude , can be in a suit down to swim trunks . Add more in your bio , about what you offer , seek, enjoy give , you need to tempt others.

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By *illan-KillashMan
12 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Hey all, I’m a single straight man and since joining I’ve not had any luck getting message replies etc. just wondered if it’s a common thing for single guys or am I doing something wrong?

Cheers for any help.

Fab offers many opportunities to connect with others.

Your profile, (biog and photo gallery) by far the most important.

Messages.

1 2 1 socials.

Group socials.

The forums.

If you're only using 1 of the possibilities, and using it really poorly, you're not making the most of your opportunities.

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By *NLOS123Man
12 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Without knowing what you message or how you construct a message no one can say or give advice

Based on your profile if you think a strip of your eyes works and a 2 line bland bio then I politely suggest you’ll need a killer first message

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By *oodle_doo OP Man
12 weeks ago

london

Thanks for all the feedback. Looks like I need to improve my profile and get some new photos. Fingers crossed I’ll do a better job this time 👍🏻

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By *illan-KillashMan
12 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Thanks for all the feedback. Looks like I need to improve my profile and get some new photos. Fingers crossed I’ll do a better job this time 👍🏻"

Right now, you don't have a profile.

Pick any forum thread and view any male profile.

See how yours compares.

But........ if you're only going to rely on your profile and messaging, you're limiting your chances of success.

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By *tew008Man
12 weeks ago

edinburgh

"Hey all, I’m a single straight man and since joining I’ve not had any luck getting message replies etc. just wondered if it’s a common thing for single guys or am I doing something wrong?

Cheers for any help.

Nope just fade into obscurity

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By *iss DevilWoman
12 weeks ago

Bedford

OP, you're just 1 man in an ocean of men. You need to convince others why they should give you, and not 999,999 others, a chance, and the main way to do it is via your profile. You can also get yourself to a club or an organised social where your profile is not going to matter, but your personality would.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

When someone messages I go straight to their profile to see if we match in what we are looking for & if there's an initial attraction to their pics.

Op you have 1 photo of your glasses, absolutely no way to gauge any attraction.

Your bio says nothing, nothing about what your looking for, nothing about what your into, what your like as a person and most of all nothing to say pick me out of the other 173930 single blokes profiles.

You expect sex without any effort at all & it's not going to happen.

Take a look at other blokes profiles that do meet & do well.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Your profile doesn't give anyone much to go on op.

Most of us look at a profile first and delete a message if it's not appealing.

More pics would be good, to give people an idea of you, plus some info on what you're offering, into and looking for.

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By *ivelifeexplore_007Man
12 weeks ago

dagenham

Hi All, I have joined 2 weeks ago. Sent messages to the matched users. But no luck. No idea what to do to get on to the ladder.

Really appreciate every little helps

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By *ookgoodnakedMan
12 weeks ago

Norwich

"As you are getting no replies, have you considered changing your profile or pics ?"

Jesus look at you

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By *he James gangCouple
12 weeks ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

I'm not surprised with a bio like that and pics (lack of). No effort put in means zero success taken out. Have a butchers at other guys profile and your lack of meets should become patently obvious.

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By *end1Man
12 weeks ago

southend on sea

Please no more single guys moaning about no meets or messages. We outnumber the couples and single females by 3 to 1 if not more!

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By *issfrogstompWoman
12 weeks ago

Oxford

"Hi All, I have joined 2 weeks ago. Sent messages to the matched users. But no luck. No idea what to do to get on to the ladder.

Really appreciate every little helps

Firstly, make your own thread - it's considered rude to jump in on someone else's...

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By *oodle_doo OP Man
12 weeks ago

london

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By *anonfire96Man
12 weeks ago

Mansfield

Unfortunately it's a common question. But yes it's extremely hard to get replies or meets due to the vast numbers of men on here. As others have said, you have to stand out in your pics and profile. That being said, it's difficult to know what to put because what may be ok with some people may offend others, little tip! Read other profiles, especially those with lots of veries from meets , this can give you some idea of what you need. But don't bullshit, be honest.

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By *tevieboyyyMan
12 weeks ago

Waterlooville

Real life has been much better.

Tinder also delivered.

Here, not anything so far, I have an open mind.

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By *old Standard 1000Man
12 weeks ago

portsmouth

I have quite a few in two weeks. Be interesting and show your sense of humour. Get to know someone first, chat and find common ground. It works mate. It’s the art of conversation. Unfortunately it’s a dying skill.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
12 weeks ago

cahoots

Well you have a meet verification from yesterday so something has worked for you OP so keep doing that.

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