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By *irewithice OP   Couple
9 weeks ago

bristol

Couple who are new to fab, and looking for advice on our next steps….

After lots of discussions we feel we are ready for our next baby steps, after signing up to fab and being inundated with messages which was abit overwhelming as we aren’t ready to play straight off the bat, we think our next step would be going to a local club and talking to people/ watching any advice from people/couples who have been in similar situations would be appreciated

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By *onogamishCouple
9 weeks ago

Hull

We'd recommend going to a club on a quieter night initially as its easier to start a conversation with others when it's less busy. And definitely don't drink too much alcohol

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
9 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

Socials are the best start.

Don't ever consent to anything you will regret later, always, always stay in control.

Negotiate boundaries up front.

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By *revaunanceCouple
9 weeks ago

Exeter

First... Put your Fab filters on.

Second... Talk. no point swinging if there is an issue, such as one is doing it because the other wants you to. You must also talk about the reality of what if the person you introduce to your bedroom only wants one of you to be there for example.

Then try to find a social to go to. There's no presssure and it will give you a chance to meet people and network. As luck would have it, Bristol has quite a good social.

Then talk again.

Don't ruin what you have for what might be; talk, and enhance what you already have.

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
9 weeks ago

manchester

Have a read of this. Its how we starte

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/1640101#last

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Couple who are new to fab, and looking for advice on our next steps….

After lots of discussions we feel we are ready for our next baby steps, after signing up to fab and being inundated with messages which was abit overwhelming as we aren’t ready to play straight off the bat, we think our next step would be going to a local club and talking to people/ watching any advice from people/couples who have been in similar situations would be appreciated "

There's a regular organised group social in Bristol where you can meet others in a non pressure, non play situation - a great way to network.

Club wise there aren't too many locally anymore, but you have Swindon a short drive away and a couple of great clubs up the M5 in Birmingham, dependant on whether you're more comfortable dressing down or dressing up for the evening. Sadly the Bristol area has been a bit sparce on clubs for the last decade since a lot of local ones closed down.

Good luck.

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By *ellhungvweMan
9 weeks ago

Cheltenham

If you want to watch then go to a club rather than a social. Somewhere like Chams is just up the M5 from you and that’s very relaxed. You will be under no pressure to do anything you don’t want to and I think people are pretty friendly there.

Socials are good if you want to meet a few people and just talk.

Take it all at whatever speed you want.

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By *issmorganWoman
9 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Try a club op, couples seem to have more success meeting bi fems there.

Most couples are all looking for the same as you, ie another woman to join them, so you've got a lot of competition just relying on fab.

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By *herryEatersCouple
9 weeks ago

East Cheshire

Absolutely try a nice club (read through the feedback in the club section here). Just go, relax, watch... Remember no is no yet you shouldn't be pressured into anything and be able to take it all in without mither. You will be approached by others, chat with them and explain you're only here to see what it's like but not play.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
9 weeks ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

The best advice we can offer is to get away from the interweb and get out and meet people. No one can make you do anything you don't want to and 99% of people are fine and the 1% are pretty easy to spot. One life, one chance....

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

There are quite a lot of MF couples on here where one person doesn't really wanna be swinging.

Mostly new MF couples wanting a FF show for M to watch don't get pounced on by too too many unicorns...

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

On your account you can select message filters to stop people of certain categories messaging you, this may help with the overwhelming number of messages.

Group socials and clubs are great to meet people I personally find meeting at face value far more easier than online.

Good luck guys, take it at your own pace.

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By *eelslikethefirsttimeCouple
8 weeks ago

MANCHESTER

Go to a club night, and just watch, talk to people. Set boundaries which are agreed by you both. Afterwards talk about, digest it and then try moving your boundaries if you like it. Be open about what you want to try etc

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By *ierycpl08Couple
8 weeks ago

Barnsley

We're in the same place as you now i think it's a bit daunting going to a club for the 1st time

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By *weetnjuicycoupleCouple
8 weeks ago

nottingham

Definitely try a club - we’d recommend Chams - no pressure to play

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By *carlettxWoman
8 weeks ago

Essex


"Couple who are new to fab, and looking for advice on our next steps….

After lots of discussions we feel we are ready for our next baby steps, after signing up to fab and being inundated with messages which was abit overwhelming as we aren’t ready to play straight off the bat, we think our next step would be going to a local club and talking to people/ watching any advice from people/couples who have been in similar situations would be appreciated "

Clubs are definitely a great way to socialise and see the swinging scene

Go with clear set rules between yourself as a couple and don’t deviate because you’ve had a drink or anything

It’s a very sexy vibe

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
8 weeks ago

Hyde

You do you ....

We've never done socials ... probably won't to be honest!!

Swinging for us in solely in clubs and we leave it there in the club... you can socialise in a club with ppl before choosing to go play if you wish.

Otherwise ..... just make sure it's fun! If it isn't then change something to make it fun

K

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By *irewithice OP   Couple
7 weeks ago

bristol

Hi all, thank you for all the helpful messages, myself and ice are going to go to a club night in a few weeks and are really excited, thanks for all the advice was greatly appreciated

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