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By *idnight Secret OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Derby

Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

Blocking and an end to messaging, is a no thanks, that prevents further engagement, when people are not mutually compatible. No reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks in Fab.

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By *orkshire UnicornWoman
6 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Respectfully, expecting an explanation seems a bit entitled OP. It’s as simple as they decided you’re not for them. Try not to take things so personally. Fab world isn’t like vanilla world in terms of blocking - it’s a pretty common occurrence

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago


"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "

I often find that 9 times of 10 it’s because you have a different opinion to them, or you’ve dared to challenge them on viewpoints they are trying to force on you!

On the other occasions it’s probably justified for a reason, but there isn’t anything that can’t be solved through communication, unfortunately that’s something that’s severely lacking within todays society

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By *ymrumMan
6 weeks ago

North Wales

To be as busy as the inbox of a couple or single female it must be like rush hour Shinjuku Station. Don’t take it personally, move on until you find a match.

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By *WANDTGCouple
6 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We've had conversations and have told the person it won't be going anywhere, not being rude to them but they are like a dog with a bone. They just won't let go , so we have to go over old ground explaining why they aren't compatible ( normally wrong age, straight or a smoker). Then they will message again 3 weeks later asking for a meet , so we again explain the situation. After 2 strikes it's a block

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

South Down

The reason is they don't want to engage with you any further. What more do you need to know 🤷‍♀️

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By *andPextraCouple
6 weeks ago

North West


"We've had conversations and have told the person it won't be going anywhere, not being rude to them but they are like a dog with a bone. They just won't let go , so we have to go over old ground explaining why they aren't compatible ( normally wrong age, straight or a smoker). Then they will message again 3 weeks later asking for a meet , so we again explain the situation. After 2 strikes it's a block "

This. So we got fed up of it and if a person we have engaged with is not going anywhere its easier to block.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich


"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "

And that whole idea falls down because blocking isn't rude.

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By *rith47Man
6 weeks ago

Erith

Blocking is fine. It is the explanatin.

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By *tew008Man
6 weeks ago

edinburgh


"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "

You ugly brother

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By *teveanddebsCouple
6 weeks ago

Norwich

If we don't want to talk to someone we don't have to explain why.

I can't see how having lots of reasons is any better to be honest. Do you really want to find out why x number of people don't like you/ don't fancy you?

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By *iss DevilWoman
6 weeks ago

Bedford

Would "sorry, but our plans have changed/you're no longer what we're looking for/we changed our minds" be any better, OP, than just a block?

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By *heelerMan
6 weeks ago

Northants


"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "

I agree it seems a lot worse now people before said no thanks or not for me but now it's mostly a blocking I suppose it stops guys from continue messaging them.

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By *heelerMan
6 weeks ago

Northants


"Would "sorry, but our plans have changed/you're no longer what we're looking for/we changed our minds" be any better, OP, than just a block? "

Yes I think so

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By *equila89Man
6 weeks ago

Tortured Poets Department

My block list is into the multiple hundreds. It’s kinda depressing when I think of it like that, but I pretty much always block if left on read or the conversation feels one way.

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By *andPextraCouple
6 weeks ago

North West


"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle.

I agree it seems a lot worse now people before said no thanks or not for me but now it's mostly a blocking I suppose it stops guys from continue messaging them. "

This. We tried to be polite when we first joined and thought people would reciprocate and respect our no thanks. Had a fair few just refuse to take no for an answer, or continually send random shite. So we got more liberal with it.

After all, this site is meant to be fun, not a chore dealing with halfwits.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Try not to take blocking too seriously. Sure, it's frustrating if you're already chatting but places like these have a habit of attracting a certain type of person.

One who won't take no for an answer and if allowed to, will constantly message over and over. Sometimes they turn nasty, kick off, spout abuse and treat people like shit.

Sadly, this is the online world we live in now and people choose to block before any potential fallout occurs.

It's that particular person's way of feeling safe online. If that's how they want to deal with people they no longer want to talk to, then it's their choice.

Sure, closure is nice. Sometimes we have to create it ourselves, though.

Expect less from others and it gets much easier. You learn to appreciate the ones who make effort and stick around more, rather than those who wronged you. 😊

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By *BCambsCouple
6 weeks ago

Biggleswade

Today we received some good but mainly poor messages.

As an experiment we politely declined each one. They continued to message. Oh. Why. What. Give me a chance. Etc etc.

One no became 3 to 5 more messages.

We said no to 25 emails today.

We sent 25 no's.

20 additional follow up messages saying why.

10 follow up messages to that why. 6 more really no thank you's stop now.

1 reply to an insult.

25 messages saying "No Thank you" resulted in 62 messages we had to send.

We could have blocked them and sent 0 messages and still have the same result.

Blocking is so much easier than sending many many additional messages.

These No's take away the energy and excitement that should be going to the guys we like!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "

If it was probable that a simple "Sorry, I don't think I'm interested in continuing this conversation" would be enough for the other person to say a polite goodbye and leave it at that, more people might say that.

However, there's a reason we just choose to block. Generally, if someone is going to go stomp their feet and all caps about it, blocking was absolutely the right choice 💜

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By *equila89Man
6 weeks ago

Tortured Poets Department

I don’t get who wants to be around someone who has rejected them, like why? It’s embarassing.

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By *illan-KillashMan
6 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "

For the sake of argument, say you send 5 messages a day.

At the end of the week you have 35 no thank you, you're not what I'm looking for messages. At the end of the year you've had 1,825 or an average of 152 a month.

Q1 - Do you reply to all of them with a thank you message?

Q2 - Do you feel better for being rejected 1,825 times?

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By *bxanfCouple
6 weeks ago

Shadow Moses, Stourbridge

Nobody owes anyone a reason nor does anyone owe anyone a reply.

It is even in the sites FAQ page.

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By *ooker and the puddleduckCouple
6 weeks ago

Leicester

One of my first FBs on here had a strict rule that,after an initial message she would either respond or block. The block was simply saying not for me. As many of us have experienced on here,sometimes when we try to explain why we aren’t interested,people get offended and abusive. It’s simply easier to block. I’m sure it’s not only us that have had the… OMG… you’re gorgeous… sorry… not interested…. Wouldn’t touch with a barge pole anyhow situation

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By *neeyedwillieMan
6 weeks ago

Darlington


"Nobody owes anyone a reason nor does anyone owe anyone a reply.

It is even in the sites FAQ page."

Exactly this.

The online stuff just ain't all that. Best to get out into the real world and interact with people rather than thinking a few messages will get you what you want.

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By *ooker and the puddleduckCouple
6 weeks ago

Leicester


"Nobody owes anyone a reason nor does anyone owe anyone a reply.

It is even in the sites FAQ page.

Exactly this.

The online stuff just ain't all that. Best to get out into the real world and interact with people rather than thinking a few messages will get you what you want.

Exactly. Thats why we only meet at clubs and it’s always a social. If we click,who knows,if we don’t,plenty more fish in the sea and we always have a great time regardless

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By *herrybakewellCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

This has to be one of the moment popular threads on here.

It's a daily occurrence.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Blocking is the swipe left of Fab. It curates searches and manages interactions. The reason is "just not that into you".

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By *hirleyMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere

I've blocked people for something I've seen on their profile. If I can do that then I imagine it's quite possible a message that is not well received by someone they could do the same too

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By *hirleyMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere


"This has to be one of the moment popular threads on here.

It's a daily occurrence.

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Thought it's quite novel to be honest

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By *moothGrooveWoman
6 weeks ago

Durham

I block plenty of people, and I don't feel the need to offer an explanation to them. It's not rude, it's saves us both wasting out time

I have tried the polite 'this isn't working for me' approach and more often than not, it's just not worth the abuse.

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By *ucka39Man
6 weeks ago

Newcastle

Blocking is a filter, so you may be left with possibilities for potential meets

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Don’t be a snowflake & take it as a no thanks.

Saves any repeat messages too

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By *he Silver FuxMan
6 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

It was a guy on a female profile and the conversation was getting very close to the point where he’d be forced to meet you…

Dodged a bullet, move on, don’t look back in anger…

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
6 weeks ago

chichester


"Why are people so rude and just block people without telling them why.

Great conversation then blocked out of the blue no explanation just RUDE!!!

I thought people had respect for each other in this lifestyle. "

It’s just fab. It’s strangers don’t take it too seriously. No one on here is worth that level of thought getting worked up over tbh. Just play the game and keep rolling

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