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"Maybe they're real and it's just something that's been said? Just because someone changes their mind it doesn't mean they're not real. 🤷♂️" Indeed. Nor that they're time wasters. It can take a little while sometimes to realise you're not compatible | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well" I've only come across a handful of fake profiles and what you describe isn't time wasting. Time wasting to me is arranging a mert and not turning up, otherwise it simply deciding you're not for them. | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well" chatting to folk is where you’re going wrong | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well" It obviously wasn’t going well for them. Reflect on what you say and how you say it and when in the conversation you say it. Still, it might have been them not you, so don’t sweat it. | |||
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"Best thing i ever did was stop using Fab for meets and start going to clubs and social events instead. " Agreed! | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well" __ Not having a go at you, but what you think of as "going too well" might be you moved the conversation to something that your chat partner did not like and are also thinking that you are the time waster. Its impossible to know, just don't dwell on it, move on and keep chatting, eventually you find the right person for you | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well" Apparently according to other threads there are no fakes or timewasters  . Be aware that some profiles have fake verifications and get off on chatting, especially sexy chatting. Following the verification trail may help to see if they're real. Some of the profiles may be real and put off by you, some may be a Man wanting some sexy chat. | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well" To us a timewaster is someone who arranges to meet and doesn't show, with no excuse. TBF only ever happened to us once. A fake profile is just that, a fake,but they still may chat but would never meet as they would be shown for what they are. Always found verifications to be a good test for actually showing up, never, ever had a no show from a verified member, and the verifications must be face to face not webcam. Just because someone doesn't want to carry on chatting or blocks you, doesn't make them a fake or timewaster, they've just got fed up with you for whatever reason, and that's fine.  | |||
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"...but still want to email." That's a red flag there straight away. 🚩 Scammers almost always ask for email, or send you theirs without asking. It's very common. Have to hand it to them, though. Still trying after all these years. That's dedication right there lol. Makes me wonder who actually uses email to casually chat these days? Scammers, that's who. 😆 There are tons of apps (some don't use your phone number either) and a fully-functional messaging system here. But hey, they will keep trying their luck. | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well" The very nature of fab means that regardless of veris or profile age there’s a huge number of fakers out there. Reverse image search, sounding too good to be true, unable to phone veri etc are all warning signs but at the end of the day leave them to it… just shrug and move on. I’ve always found decent meets occur with a minimum of fuss or requirements… if things are becoming overly complex in conversation it probably means they are not worth the effort, if Sharon who’s fit as fuck suddenly stops messaging it’s likely the Dave, the man behind the profile has completed his wank… a brief reverse image search will show you the original photo that’s had a head cropped off is some lass of a Russian wives website. Report the profiles if you rumble them, once in a blue moon admins do block them but don’t loose too much energy on it x | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well The very nature of fab means that regardless of veris or profile age there’s a huge number of fakers out there. Reverse image search, sounding too good to be true, unable to phone veri etc are all warning signs but at the end of the day leave them to it… just shrug and move on. I’ve always found decent meets occur with a minimum of fuss or requirements… if things are becoming overly complex in conversation it probably means they are not worth the effort, if Sharon who’s fit as fuck suddenly stops messaging it’s likely the Dave, the man behind the profile has completed his wank… a brief reverse image search will show you the original photo that’s had a head cropped off is some lass of a Russian wives website. Report the profiles if you rumble them, once in a blue moon admins do block them but don’t loose too much energy on it x " Agree, the more fuss and messages at the beginning tends to mean a cancellation later on. A few messages, quick chat on phone, usually a winner. Multiple emails, she can't come to the phone right now, just nipped to her mums, or shops or in toilet, but while you're on the phone Liz what do you like to get up to. Best cut and run, chalk it up to experience. | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well __ Not having a go at you, but what you think of as "going too well" might be you moved the conversation to something that your chat partner did not like and are also thinking that you are the time waster. Its impossible to know, just don't dwell on it, move on and keep chatting, eventually you find the right person for you" | |||
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"Best thing i ever did was stop using Fab for meets and start going to clubs and social events instead. " Yep, anything else is a total waste of time when I could be doing something more worthwhile and that's likely to be productive. Actually being seen by - and getting to know - people in person is SO much more worthwhile and productive/successful. I'm amazed at the fact that any men bother messaging any more. No bitterness whatsoever, but it's an utterly pointless exercise. Fully appreciate women put up with some horrible stuff being sent to them, but no man worth his salt wants to be lost in a sea of that. Clubs/socials are absolutely the way forward. | |||
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"Great thread here,!!! I find it s a complete waste of time messaging anyone . Best try a social or go to a club.. " | |||
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"Who else gets fed up with this. Have learnt not to bother with certain profiles now but still get frustrated when you get chatting with someone, who is verified and been here a while only to get blocked when everything is going too well The very nature of fab means that regardless of veris or profile age there’s a huge number of fakers out there. Reverse image search, sounding too good to be true, unable to phone veri etc are all warning signs but at the end of the day leave them to it… just shrug and move on. I’ve always found decent meets occur with a minimum of fuss or requirements… if things are becoming overly complex in conversation it probably means they are not worth the effort, if Sharon who’s fit as fuck suddenly stops messaging it’s likely the Dave, the man behind the profile has completed his wank… a brief reverse image search will show you the original photo that’s had a head cropped off is some lass of a Russian wives website. Report the profiles if you rumble them, once in a blue moon admins do block them but don’t loose too much energy on it x Agree, the more fuss and messages at the beginning tends to mean a cancellation later on. A few messages, quick chat on phone, usually a winner. Multiple emails, she can't come to the phone right now, just nipped to her mums, or shops or in toilet, but while you're on the phone Liz what do you like to get up to. Best cut and run, chalk it up to experience. "To be fair lots of messages may mean someone WANTS to show how genuine they are. I'm always happy to chat for as long (or as little) as it takes for someone to feel comfortable enough to want to arrange to meet. Fully appreciate some 'chatters' are just getting off on the chat potentially though. | |||
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