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By *andPextra OP   Couple
7 weeks ago

North West

A fairly regular experience.

We say no, politely, have a good day etc.

We then get a "woe is me, I never get any success on here, why am I here ..." in what reads like a take pity on me.

Which we never have. My charitable nature doesnt extend to here.

The question is does anyone either be that charitable OR had any success from such a message?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
7 weeks ago

Flagrante

We get this a lot and although charitable, like you it doesn't extend to giving away free sex as that's all it would be....nothing to do with swinging.

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By *aomilatteCouple
7 weeks ago

Midlands

It's not something we've experienced. However we wouldn't send a polite "no, have a good day". No reply is a polite no as per Fabs faqs.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
7 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Ah… go on then

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By *umfun24Man
7 weeks ago

wilmslow

For me, the biggest excitement from sex is feeling wanted, so I couldn’t imagine being dished out a favour. I do understand the frustrations of the site though. As a single straight man, it is extremely hard to get a decent conversation going, let alone something physical.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
7 weeks ago

Kendal

We've had a couple but never replied - mainly, as they were totally not what we're looking for, which they'd have realised if they have read our profile.

Somehow you always end up being the bad guy!

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By *bxanfCouple
7 weeks ago

Shadow Moses, Stourbridge

We had one dude message who was not what we were looking for. We gave a polite no thank you since he put some effort in ajd wished him luck.

He replied to that by saying he could die anyday and we could make an old guy happy.

He was 5 years older than me.

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By *andPextra OP   Couple
7 weeks ago

North West


"We had one dude message who was not what we were looking for. We gave a polite no thank you since he put some effort in ajd wished him luck.

He replied to that by saying he could die anyday and we could make an old guy happy.

He was 5 years older than me."

If it’s any consolation, this made me spill my drink laughing

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By *herryEatersCouple
7 weeks ago

East Cheshire

Lol not exactly yet had one couple who wouldn't take no for an answer so had to block them. You'd think that would be the end of it...... But NO, they created another profile to send abuse so had to block that one too !

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

To the few explicit rejections I get, I always reply with something along the lines of "Thank you for actually taking the time to let me know, I appreciate it. Best of luck."

To "no replies", I just move on. What's the point? I surely don't want a pity fuck (I wouldn't even take it from my two main crushes on here... maybe), nor do I feel the need to be offensive. But again, I have a particularly thick skin, because reasons.

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
7 weeks ago

London

It doesn't happen often at all but a couple of times in the past I (Mr) have met up with a guy for a drink just because I was at a loose end. Usually that's been it, but once or twice they were actually great guys and have later joined us for a threesome

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I've had men (who I've turned down) ask me if I know any females on here as they aren't having much luck , that pisses me off.

It's not my job to find other ladies for them & if I'm not into them, what makes them think anyone I know would be.

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By *entenTeaCouple
6 weeks ago

Buckley North Wales

For the most part just ignoring folk works well enough. But we suggest, at all costs if some one is being clingy at a club DON'T give them a sympathy shag just don't. We did that few months back and the sex was truly shit!

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By *ornycougaWoman
6 weeks ago

MOROCCO Wherever I lay my hat

I have never had a message requesting a pity fuck but I see status updates along those lines all the time and wonder if they ever generate any positive interest. It just turns me right off and has me reaching for the block button

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
6 weeks ago

Leeds

Not for sex no, I don't do sympathy sex.

I have jumped on cam and verified some people who have posted they've struggled to get one though.

Mrs

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

I've got a sympathy shag slot that's unallocated at the end of the year 3,000. I'll pencil anyone in, if you don't feel it's right for you to offer.

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By *adyBugsWoman
6 weeks ago

cognito

Eww no. And I wouldn’t want anyone to pity fuck me either…I hope they haven’t

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Yorkshire

The simple logic that men are massively over subscribed here hasn't sunk into the minds of some.

I seem to get repeat messages from guys who I have no interest in, even after deleting multiple messages, for some reason, which usually results in a block (current list around 400)

I get 'your loss' 'manners cost nothing' 'it would be nice to reply' and everything else in between on a regular basis, howeve there's no pity-party here

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By *eyeYCouple
6 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Sympathy or charity does not extend to our bodies..

Won't lie we've played with some at clubs who on a purely (hate to say it, but being honest) physical appearance wouldn't have. But they've been either very engaging personalities or in the right place at the right time and circumstance..

Via here, a different story.

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By *enfleetMaleMan
6 weeks ago

Hadleigh

My block list contains 25 local females who clearly state in their profile that they are looking for someone who I'm not. Saves me messaging them and wasting time.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I’d never send such a message.

It’s screams insecurities and a narcissist.

Last week. I was called rude for not wanting to talk with someone with no profile picture. For me, it defeats the object and you need to find the person attractive, to be fully committed and turned on.

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