FabSwingers.com forum: Advice /feeedback

By *ojorising40 OP Man
10 weeks ago

sunderland

Hello deviants! Probably get tortured for this but I like a good banter so feel free to go all out. Been on a year, only had two meets, wasn't attracted unfortunately so I'm still searching for my first new encounter in more than 18 month's now. Any advice on my profile or events in the North East? Thanks..

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
10 weeks ago

Stoke

Use Fab as a network and get yourself off to clubs if it's your thing, you'll have far more success there.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Your status is borderline offensive, so I'd lose it and hope no one has even seen it.

The blurb isn't particularly interesting. You get no sense of who you are as a person and why someone should pick you over the 10 million other guys.

Your pics aren't bad, but they are a bit of a muchness. Do some clothed ones, some of you outdoors having fun, looking happy - above all, add a face pic. You're divorced and single, so you've got nothing to hide and not having one really hurts your profile.

Get rid of the pointless warning at the bottom. It serves no purpose and makes you look as if you're not that clued up.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
10 weeks ago

Chester

If someone’s build is number one importance to you, I’d go to clubs and not rely on Fab; people who might otherwise be compatible are probably likely to rule themselves out based on your profile and their understanding of your requirements measured against their perception of their body type/height.

I also use people’s statuses and whether they have a disclaimer as a useful filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Get rid of the pointless disclaimers. How would you sue us if we used any of your photos / details?

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By *ojorising40 OP Man
9 weeks ago

sunderland

Thanks, appreciated. Seemingly the disclaimer is annoying however plenty of other people on here also have one so I'm keeping it.

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By *ojorising40 OP Man
9 weeks ago

sunderland

Well there are plenty of ladies on here that have disclaimers in regards to use of their photos..

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By *neeyedwillieMan
9 weeks ago

Darlington

I would have suggested going to either Club Shhh in Newcastle or Club F in Stanley...but I dont think they would be for you to be honest given what you're said you're looking for in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"Well there are plenty of ladies on here that have disclaimers in regards to use of their photos.. "

If you read the site FAQs you’ll see it’s pointless, but if it makes you happy.

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By *iss KinkWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

Your status would put me off immediately

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"Your status would put me off immediately"

I agree and the last one was pretty much offensive, too.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
9 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Also remember - when you are messaging and trying to meet couples the majority of inboxes are managed primarily by the husbands, not the wives, a key point lost to most single men on here.. if you don’t get it… you’re not going to get it… most single men on Fab are just a bunch of fucking oblivious chancers, wasting their time and that of those weary and unfortunate recipients… bombarded with shit messages and fucking ugly dick pics with piss poor profiles that are instantly deleted.

To be honest most single men on here just don’t have the social skills, empathy, sexual insight or personality to make it in the lifestyle. They haven’t a clue, don’t know how to market themselves, fail to understand the crucial criteria that they must apply —- do I appear and describe myself in my profile in a way that makes me ‘fuckable’?

Now me using the term ‘fuckable’ is intentionally covering a wide spectrum of desire and fantasy and does not mean ripped gym bods and massive cocks (although that may well indeed be the ‘fuckable’ criteria for some). Some ladies are looking for comfy dad bods and average sized penises. Some want big hairy rugby player type bears of men, some want big beards and tats… There is no one size fits all perfect profile either.. Some women want to see your full body, others want to be tantalised by a sharp suit, white boxers and moody black and white pictures..

Look at your profile from a reader’s perspective.. be honest with yourself, do you think you look ‘fuckable’?

Are you the kind of guy that the husband will be comfortable meeting his wife?

Do you come across as a potential safe and enjoyable meet for a single woman ? Do you describe disgusting and crass sex acts (regardless of them likely being carried out at a meet), degrade women, or just cause the ‘ick’ or ‘eeewww’ faces to be pulled on opening your profile?

Are your pictures thoughtless, lacking in any aesthetic quality?

Does your profile rant, project negativity, indicate drama ahead?

Does your profile project a personality that a couple will be happy to bring into their tight pair bond?

If it does, you are an instant delete.

The fact is that you argued that the fucking idiotic meaningless legalese bullshit that still permeates amongst hard-of-thinking profiles on Fab - ‘I’m keeping it because lots of other people do’ tells me that any really valuable advice I’ve provided above is going to be a complete waste of my time…

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"Thanks, appreciated. Seemingly the disclaimer is annoying however plenty of other people on here also have one so I'm keeping it.

So, say we used any of your details or photos how would you sue us? You don’t know our names, addresses or anything that would help you?……. See what we mean

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By *ojo2joWoman
9 weeks ago

Penclawdd

"Thanks, appreciated. Seemingly the disclaimer is annoying however plenty of other people on here also have one so I'm keeping it.

By leaving it you’re only proving you haven’t read the FAQs. It’s also almost as long as your profile.

Current status is wingey and negative regardless of your sexual preference.

Keep it positive

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By *sGraceTV/TS
9 weeks ago

manchester

"Hello deviants! Probably get tortured for this but I like a good banter so feel free to go all out. Been on a year, only had two meets, wasn't attracted unfortunately so I'm still searching for my first new encounter in more than 18 month's now. Any advice on my profile or events in the North East? Thanks.. "

I would say your profile reads as a quite depressing and negative overview… quick to centre on what you don’t want, slightly critical of others shape, kinks etc and as such perhaps it presents a guy who is a bit wrapped up in his own ego rather than just a fun, exciting character.

My suggestion would be present the fun you, let the filtering/choosing what’s a match occur in your mailbox… the comment on womens figures though, that’s a death nail, you might have well put size 12 and below only… it just howls superficial if I’m honest and is probably very off putting to women well within your visual fit.

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