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By *arriedwelshcouple OP   Couple
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

Hey everyone

So we've been in the lifestyle for a couple of years and have only met with single women and couples.

Recently we chatted about maybe inviting a single man to join us. We love the idea of it but we know what it can be like on here for single men and it can be hard to find the genuine ones.

Does anyone have any advice on how to find the genuine men?

Xxx

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By *teveanddebsCouple
7 weeks ago

Norwich

If you go to organised social ask other couples for recommendations.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"If you go to organised social ask other couples for recommendations. "

Or, do the same here? Check the veris of couples around your area and ask them for recommendations?

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By *andK78Couple
7 weeks ago

Newport

Where in the same position, we have been let down a couple of times now, tend to ask guys to meet us at the Social events now and still don't turn up.

Planning more club visits to hopefully meet genuine people.

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By *andPextraCouple
7 weeks ago

North West

Whatever you do make sure you map out every scenario that could take place.

We thought we had, but the event ran away with us a little and it ended up more the extra man controlling it, rather than us. This took the shine off it a little bit, as he was getting more out of it than we were.

Much wiser now.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
7 weeks ago

Woking-ish

Invited three, should get 1!

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By *ifestyle1Man
7 weeks ago

me171


"Where in the same position, we have been let down a couple of times now, tend to ask guys to meet us at the Social events now and still don't turn up.

Planning more club visits to hopefully meet genuine people.

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By *ifestyle1Man
7 weeks ago

me171

Does show single makes hard to say hi again..

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
7 weeks ago

Coventry

We can't give any advice but likewise like to here some. Finding the right guy for us has always been the real unicorn in the lifestyle. There are so many guys out there (and good ones in all fairness as well as bad or unreliable) yet so few that tick the boxes. It's so difficult just to find that three way vibe and teamwork.

We've ironically nearly found the guy more times on vanilla nights out than on the scene.

The search continues...

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By *renzMan
7 weeks ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Probably the same way you find couples or single females. Strike up a conversation. If you only receive single word replies then they aren't interested. Arrange a social meet, confirm the day before, during the day and the hour before. If at any time they go quiet they are unlikely to turn up. Tell them if you haven't heard from them by an hour before meeting you're not going to turn up. Communication and gut instinct.

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By *londebiguyMan
7 weeks ago

Southport

I would suggest to chat on here first and set out your boundaries.

Make sure that they know what us expected.

Read all their verifications too

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By *bxanfCouple
7 weeks ago

Shadow Moses, Stourbridge

What we did is we put up a status saying what we wanted then went through the replies and contacted the ones that seemed genuine and could hold a conversation.

After that we narrowed it down by chatting on here for a few days and that left us with one guy who was a perfect fit.

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By *elanieforyouTV/TS
7 weeks ago

, Ashburton sometimes Penzance

Role playing as a T girl Maid ,and looking for a Bi guy to pleasure my Lady, took many months to find, A local Guy , Single, cultured,conversation A gentle approach, well endowed, Good looking,

We eventually found him, and after a few meets we are enjoying the dynamics of hightened Sexual activity with a Mistress, Maid, and Gentle passionate lover,

Such satisfying Fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I would recommend contacting silver and gold members. Those of us supporting the site are much more likely to be genuine.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
6 weeks ago

Woking-ish

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By *lexV16Man
6 weeks ago

Welling


"I would recommend contacting silver and gold members. Those of us supporting the site are much more likely to be genuine. "

Interesting to know the source of the data for analysis to come to such conclusions?

My advise: check the verification of the couples around you. Hunt the guys who left genuine verification and cross check the verification from couple on his page.

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By *illyMidOffCouple
6 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Good luck!!!! Minefield.

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By *rightonsteveMan
6 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Talk to them for some time and then meet socially first. Get some boundaries in place.

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By *bflirtyCouple
6 weeks ago

Milton Keynes

Never had a problem with them not showing up, they do seem to be reliable.

Always worth a FaceTime to see if they actually look like their photo and are something close to the age they've put on here.

As others have said, may be have a social meet first - if they can't be bothered to do that then they're only really in it for the quick hookup and own gratification.

Good luck, it is actually a lot of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Interesting read

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By *isntacrowdMan
6 weeks ago

Devonshire


"Interesting read "

Seconded ✅

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By *isty286Couple
6 weeks ago

Dorset

Have an evening at your local swingers club, just go with the idea of a few drinks and a chat, the single guys there are into what you are looking for and they have already turned up, plus if you find one you really like you can play immediately as little or as much as you wish

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
6 weeks ago

Leeds

Check verifications.

Find one at a club or social event.

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By *opmantopmanMan
6 weeks ago

hampstead

From my experience as bull who been seeing and training couples for more than 29 years, I find out that communication is the key. Make sure to agree on boundaries and expectations before meeting.

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By *enusandmarsCouple
6 weeks ago

Buryish

Site supporters only

Verified only and check what veri they've left the profile

Talk for a good while on here first

We've chatted to a few on here, who seem perfect, then a week or so later you see a status that you don't like.

Never had an issue finding the right guy, but couples we do struggle with

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By *he James gangCouple
6 weeks ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

Just a bit of advice, mmf signifys 2 bi guys, an mfm is 2 straight guys

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By *enshun4Man
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

There are plenty of genuine guys about on here

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By *nnandElleCouple
6 weeks ago

Brackley

We just hosted our first bi MMF at home this weekend past - we had met the guy briefly at the swinger club we go to and got on well but never played until now - so that would be my tip: essentially a social first and then you'll know you're comfortable inviting a relative stranger into your home, which helps keep everyone relaxed.

(Note - it was a fantastic evening!!)

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By *ellinever70Woman
6 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Be realistic with your expectations and it should be easy enough to find a guy for a threesome

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By *ppicplCouple
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

What we learned is that many men will say literally anything to shag another man’s wife and will morph into the person that they think you want them to be to get their foot in the door so to speak. So if you’re chatting on here and the match seems too good to be true, it probably is. The term ‘talk is cheap’ is never truer than for organising an MMF.

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By *onnybgdMan
6 weeks ago

Derby

I'm genuinely interested, message me if you are

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By *estiswestMan
6 weeks ago

glasgow

Tends to be the couples agenda, not always but often the case

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By *omRachCouple
6 weeks ago

Wirral

Make sure its on your terms initially as the lady needs to feel as safe and secure as is possible.

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By *Spicey4MeMan
6 weeks ago

Leeds


"What we learned is that many men will say literally anything to shag another man’s wife and will morph into the person that they think you want them to be to get their foot in the door so to speak. So if you’re chatting on here and the match seems too good to be true, it probably is. The term ‘talk is cheap’ is never truer than for organising an MMF. "

Seems like a minefield. What is the solution? My first MMF was brilliant but I don't think I had any expectations the only thing I knew was we all got on well together and connected when we met in a social setting first

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By *enusandmarsCouple
6 weeks ago

Buryish

The solution is communication, it means both parties fully understand the requirements.

Too many profiles say they don't want ping pong messages, but for us it's essential. If the lady prefers lots of quality foreplay over being rounded for 4 hours, but you turn up with a cock full of viagra and a can of delay spray, it's guaranteed to not be the night that all want.

Know your talents, know your limits and find the right people to work with

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By *herryEatersCouple
6 weeks ago

East Cheshire


"Hey everyone

So we've been in the lifestyle for a couple of years and have only met with single women and couples.

Recently we chatted about maybe inviting a single man to join us. We love the idea of it but we know what it can be like on here for single men and it can be hard to find the genuine ones.

Does anyone have any advice on how to find the genuine men?

Xxx"

Ha !!... exactly our problem. We opened our profile up to single guys for a day and later quickly closed it again . Incredibly difficult finding a suitable GENUINE guy who can read and that Cherry actually fancies . They can still fab our photos to gain our attention (it's usually those who can't read or are 1000 miles away though)

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