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"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣" Likewise | |||
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"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣" Think mine is too. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ | |||
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"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣 Think mine is too. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️" Totally agree, could even be higher than that. | |||
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"We read profiles to get a feel for what they're looking for. Its not the be all and end all but it does help give a little indication on what they're looking for." Totally that is my point. As an example if they were in hard BDSM I would not message as that's not my thing. You get a feel for the person and there personal preference and likes | |||
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"Latest one that's irritating me is couples messaging our account. Asking if the male can meet my wife. Ready the fucking profile.....it quite clearly states what were looking for. " 💯 behind you on that one. I am not wasting my time if you can not be bothered. They will just get blocked. | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I do but it doesn’t really change outcomes | |||
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"I have what I would like to think is an "unusual" profile pic. So at the end of my profile I ask a question about it. Probably 80% of the replies I get do not reference this, and I therefore I presume that they did not actually read to the end of the profile. It is a useful filter though!" I would guess 3 people in your profile picture | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " Yes, I always read the profile, for all the reasons you outline and in case there is a like or request I don't cover (eg bbc = not me). I find profiles far more acurate than pictures for gauging someone I'll like and get on with. Does it reduce the number of rejections - no, not that I'm aware of, but it does reduce the number of people I put time into writing to. | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I always read the profile but it is so disheartening when you then craft a message specifically showing where your interests align and then send it, to see the person has gone off-line and it remains yellow and unread until it disappears with time. So nowadays I often do a couple of sentences to show I’ve read the profile and add a more generic ‘cut and paste’ about me - then also watch as it stays yellow and unread… | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I do, thoroughly so. I even messaged people without meeting one minor "requirement", but I clearly stated I was aware of it and made my case for having gotten in touch anyway. I got "forgiven" on most occasions (and politely turned down on the others). From all the complaints I read on the forum, I do believe many single guys really underestimate the power of a decent (as in, civilised, nothing you wouldn't tell your new neighbour... almost 😈), well-composed first message. Not that mine are perfect, mind you, but for being a newbie and a single male, I'd say I've gotten a pretty satisfying rate of people engaging in conversation. | |||
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"I have what I would like to think is an "unusual" profile pic. So at the end of my profile I ask a question about it. Probably 80% of the replies I get do not reference this, and I therefore I presume that they did not actually read to the end of the profile. It is a useful filter though!" If we were to write you I would start the message saying I have no F-ing clue how many, the photo is certainly unusual. I'd guess two, but it could be one, just you... Hard to say... | |||
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"Based on message we get I’d say 95% don’t read it at all (so we get random friend requests, smokers, meet right now etc- all things we specifically ask not for) and then our pet hate- “what you looking for” READ Love your reply THE BLOODY PROFILE " | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " Not just men, women and couples are also very guilty of not reading profiles | |||
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"I have stopped replying I just delete or block. " Exactly this! | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I will admit that when I first came to this site, I was not always good at the profile reading. Since then, I have appreciated the work that goes into a solid profile, and that you will never get anywhere with a person that is not after the same as you. Therefore, sending a wink or a message is really pointless plus can be frustrating to them. Hopefully, I have learnt my lesson now. Not only do I read profiles, but I have worked to make mine a simpler and better read for anyone kind enough to check mine out. Fab is for like minded people that match needs, and not a cheap knocking shop where you get exactly what you like all the time | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 " I think the majority of guys come on when they're horny so aren't always thinking with their brain! Personally I will always read a profile before looking at the photos. It's no good looking at photos only to discover in the text there's something that discounts you. Like yours for instance, you don't like hairy men, so that would rule me out and I wouldn't message. But that's me. | |||
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"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them. I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 I think the majority of guys come on when they're horny so aren't always thinking with their brain! Personally I will always read a profile before looking at the photos. It's no good looking at photos only to discover in the text there's something that discounts you. Like yours for instance, you don't like hairy men, so that would rule me out and I wouldn't message. But that's me. " I have no clue what the majority of guys are feeling when they come on here. I only the way I'm feeling. | |||
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"As an example of no they don't. Last message we received. Outside our age range, miles away, suggesting a very specific sex act I make no reference to at all in our profile and asking for things that I could not marry up to our profile (i.e no clue how they thought we’d be interested) My best guess is he never got past the photo gallery. " In fairness it's a very distracting and sexy photo gallery. Poor fella! | |||
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"No guys do not read profiles at all .x" Show me the data | |||
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"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. " Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it | |||
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"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it " Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! | |||
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"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! " I can live with that. I had to ban a couple of guys that aggressively refused to stop messaging of their own accord. Once the fun messages become hidden by the dross, then it must become very boring | |||
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"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! I can live with that. I had to ban a couple of guys that aggressively refused to stop messaging of their own accord. Once the fun messages become hidden by the dross, then it must become very boring" We've had everything on here from out n out racism to full on abuse cuz they can't get a meet. The second you say no the vileness starts. Don't get us wrong some lovely guys on here so respectful and genuine. We just wish fab would do something about the scum that hurl abuse. We know they don't as we block n report them. They are still on the block list. So fab don't remove them. Shame this site used to be so much fun. Now it's just hard work!! | |||
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"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! " Some couples aren’t much better tbf or women or whoever. There’s shit in every category. | |||
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"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. " A very good point well made | |||
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"A lot of people on here done read profiles and the complain when you don’t reply. " A lot of people do read profiles, send an email suited to the profile and don't get a reply and moan..or get a reply but it's not what they want and moan.. . Is there a theme? Life's so tough. | |||
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