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By *ootyliciousC OP   Woman
17 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

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By *WSharedVixenCouple
17 weeks ago

Bristol

Honestly I'm assuming it's just a numbers game situation most of the time. Cast a wide net with a copy and paste message that maybe gets tweaked and hope that it catches someone's attention.

Obviously it would be better to cultivate a message to someone's profile but in somes eyes they could put a lot of effort into a message and get exactly the same response (or lack of one)... So they end up going down the numbers game. Annoying but just the way it is. Easy to recognise and move on though at least.

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By *ootyliciousC OP   Woman
17 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
17 weeks ago

oxford

I’m sure like everything some do and some don’t. The ones that do probably don’t fit your criteria and so don’t message to make it feel so unbalanced?

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By *ootyliciousC OP   Woman
17 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

I have stopped replying I just delete or block.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Yup, we get it too, especially people trying to add us as friends so they can see those pics, first part of the profile says they will just end up blocked, but hey.

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By *ess n BenCouple
17 weeks ago

Didcot

A lot of guy’s just look at your pictures and then fire off a message in the hope you respond

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By *ilberryMan
17 weeks ago

Scarborough

OP profile read in full, i always do before messaging anyone, how its written, wants? All give a clue to how a people are in real life? I am a 'Hairy' so no use to you!

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By *riciaWoman
17 weeks ago

Blaydon

I have what I would like to think is an "unusual" profile pic.

So at the end of my profile I ask a question about it.

Probably 80% of the replies I get do not reference this, and I therefore I presume that they did not actually read to the end of the profile.

It is a useful filter though!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
17 weeks ago

bedford

Agree we get so many messages , so obvious they havnt read profile , with friends request attached , Those are the easy ones to delete

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
17 weeks ago

Birmingham

A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣

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By *inks_apeyCouple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣"

Likewise

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By *imbob2021Man
17 weeks ago

Sleaford

Those very keen people get all excited seeing someone online and after looking at a few pics they message, hoping it will get ready, personally I'm a bit mmm about it all and hardly ever message anyone

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By *WB85Man
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I always do....what's the point investing time and effort into somebody that wants different things.

It amazes us how many couples send messages to our couples account that haven't read the profile either. It's like people can't see past a profile picture.

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By *end1Man
17 weeks ago

southend on sea

Always read profiles doesn't take long to see if the profile could be a possible match to what both sides are looking for.

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By *lym4realCouple
17 weeks ago

plymouth

Quite agree and our mail box is full of males implying they've read it or some inane question which is answered in our rather long winded profile and as we do keep saying if you can't be bothered to read we can't be bothered to reply and 99.9% of messages from males now just end up in the bin and blocking them BUT we also say couples can be just as bad if not worse if we had a £1 for every message from couples at stupid o clock asking if we are "Up" for some ? we'd be living high on the hog ? loll xx ps so juat in case we are mostly fine with outbreaks of sanity and we have zero plans if it's a week day xx

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By *ousewifeonheatCouple
17 weeks ago

watford

I just block and delete its so plain to see what i request on my profile but still every other message contains attached pics of some kind its very tiresome now and i think just rude not to read a profile

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Definitely not haha. Our first line in not looking to meet men and we still get messages wanna meet every day

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By *ll 4 herCouple
17 weeks ago

Bury/Bolton

We had started to assume profile text or preferences don't actually appear for single males to see , so it's nice to see one or two in here confirming it does

As for the couples messages in the early hours, we assumed the brains of the outfit was snugly tucked away in bed getting her beauty sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

The vast vast majority of messages we get haven't read the profile.

The ones that have still choose to ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Speaking from a single guy point of view (and maybe in a minority) but if the profile says no single guys/local only etc then I don't message. Pretty obvious but maybe not to some fellas I guess

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By *yreGuy99Man
17 weeks ago

Somewhere in Moria

For the most part, no. Its usually men that ignore people's preferences.

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By *ackformore100Man
17 weeks ago

Tin town

Delete block next. No point moaning. Either that or join a site with better quality offerings. You get what you pay for.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Rarely I get anyone read all my profile. Then it's d pics and general disrespect. Saying that I have chatted to and meet some great people off here

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By *olfandtazCouple
17 weeks ago

Bristol

If they haven't read our profile it's a simple delete for us

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By *ootyliciousC OP   Woman
17 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣"

Think mine is too. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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By *ootyliciousC OP   Woman
17 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

Thank you for your comments some positive and some negative. It's interesting to see it's singles and couples that has the issue. I may do a quick experiment and take my pictures down and see if people read it 🤔 🤣🤣. I dought it.

Time to charge things I think. Block list may get bigger every soon

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By *an hjCouple
17 weeks ago

Stowmarket


"A good 80% haven't read ours. Our block list is forever expanding per day. Hope there isn't a cap on block lists 🤣🤣🤣

Think mine is too. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️"

Totally agree, could even be higher than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

We read profiles to get a feel for what they're looking for. Its not the be all and end all but it does help give a little indication on what they're looking for.

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By *weetnjuicycoupleCouple
17 weeks ago

nottingham

Well said indeed xx

READ THE PROFILES guys xx

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By *herrybakewellCouple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Latest one that's irritating me is couples messaging our account. Asking if the male can meet my wife.

Ready the fucking profile.....it quite clearly states what were looking for.

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By *ootyliciousC OP   Woman
17 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"We read profiles to get a feel for what they're looking for. Its not the be all and end all but it does help give a little indication on what they're looking for."

Totally that is my point. As an example if they were in hard BDSM I would not message as that's not my thing. You get a feel for the person and there personal preference and likes

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By *ootyliciousC OP   Woman
17 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"Latest one that's irritating me is couples messaging our account. Asking if the male can meet my wife.

Ready the fucking profile.....it quite clearly states what were looking for. "

💯 behind you on that one. I am not wasting my time if you can not be bothered. They will just get blocked.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
17 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Yeah agreed here too

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Yes, if it is entertaining

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By *ante40Man
17 weeks ago

Moving around

I read bios 99 percent of the time

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By *r TriomanMan
17 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

If I'm messaging someone it's only because I've read their profile and believe that they meet my needs and I meet their and that I think that there a very good chance that we'd get on well together; I'm dyslexic though so sometimes I miss read things but I do try very hard to make sure that I haven't.

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By *tew008Man
17 weeks ago

edinburgh


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

I do but it doesn’t really change outcomes

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By *ary69321Man
17 weeks ago

Newcastle upon tyne

I read the profiles, I wouldn't send a message to anyone if I'm not what they are looking for.

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By *ea wangMan
17 weeks ago

scunthorpe

Depends if there's a long list of dos or the stroppy cunt demands u read it before messaging lol

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By *r beardMan
17 weeks ago

ware


"I have what I would like to think is an "unusual" profile pic.

So at the end of my profile I ask a question about it.

Probably 80% of the replies I get do not reference this, and I therefore I presume that they did not actually read to the end of the profile.

It is a useful filter though!"
I would guess 3 people in your profile picture

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By *weetbutpsychoWoman
17 weeks ago

Northumberland

When I'm in a completely bratty or arsey mood, and I get a question like "what are you into" or "what are you looking for" I will ask them if they have been looked at my profile, or if they just looked at the pictures. All the answers to those questions are on my profile... mind you I can always tell who has read it too... "what's the name you like to be called" I'm not telling you unless I'm gonna meet you 🙄🙄🙄

So yeah, i think people actually reading and taking note of what is on there is very few and far between...

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By *ipsforlipsMan
17 weeks ago

Midlands


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

Yes, I always read the profile, for all the reasons you outline and in case there is a like or request I don't cover (eg bbc = not me). I find profiles far more acurate than pictures for gauging someone I'll like and get on with.

Does it reduce the number of rejections - no, not that I'm aware of, but it does reduce the number of people I put time into writing to.

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By *unner6969Man
17 weeks ago

Bicester


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

I always read the profile but it is so disheartening when you then craft a message specifically showing where your interests align and then send it, to see the person has gone off-line and it remains yellow and unread until it disappears with time.

So nowadays I often do a couple of sentences to show I’ve read the profile and add a more generic ‘cut and paste’ about me - then also watch as it stays yellow and unread…

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By *piritOfWolvesMan
17 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I always aim to read every profile. However, if the profile is too long and just a list of "don't do's" I won't bother to read it, but I won't message either whereas I know some will.

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By *andPextraCouple
17 weeks ago

North West

Based on message we get I’d say 95% don’t read it at all (so we get random friend requests, smokers, meet right now etc- all things we specifically ask not for) and then our pet hate- “what you looking for”

READ

THE

BLOODY

PROFILE

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
17 weeks ago

Leeds

People don't and won't, the ones that don't won't be reading or responding to this post.

Many will mass message in the hope someone will get their dick wet regardless of the profile or preferences.

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By *piritOfWolvesMan
16 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Yours is a great profile message, clear, nice and very informative. Not just a huge list of demands.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

I do, thoroughly so. I even messaged people without meeting one minor "requirement", but I clearly stated I was aware of it and made my case for having gotten in touch anyway. I got "forgiven" on most occasions (and politely turned down on the others).

From all the complaints I read on the forum, I do believe many single guys really underestimate the power of a decent (as in, civilised, nothing you wouldn't tell your new neighbour... almost 😈), well-composed first message. Not that mine are perfect, mind you, but for being a newbie and a single male, I'd say I've gotten a pretty satisfying rate of people engaging in conversation.

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By *ravesendpussyeaterMan
16 weeks ago

GRAVESEND/ Northfleet

It depends really for me sometimes I do take my time and read the profile and sometimes I don't I go straight in there

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By *ealitybitesMan
16 weeks ago

Belfast

My experience of this is that some people don't believe the profile text applies to them.

As every conversation I've had here in 8 years has been with women and couples I can only speak about their attitudes.

I haven't sent an opening message in 4½ years so when others message me they often start in with a list of instructions of things I must to in order to meet them or fuck the wife.

They ignore the fact I'm not meeting and when I am it will only happen after chatting for quite a while but they still insist on meeting now.

They have in the past ignored the fact that I'm straight and told me if I agree to play bi they will add me to their to-do list for future events.

Some have acknowledged that they didn't read my bio because after all it's just bullshit anyway as men don't have options on fab and should be grateful for any attention especially at my age.

Some women have asked me to make exceptions for them, travel ridiculously long distances because they are worth it and in one case told me to dump anyone holding me back on fab and start fucking for fun.

I'm sure there are lots of men who have unreasonable expectations but the level of entitlement it takes to tell a complete stranger in a first message to lose the beard or you'll never touch me or resort to the old favourite "Do you seriously not know who we are and how we can end your fab journey?" when I refuse is beyond comprehension.

Some people are lazy about reading profiles but some are above the need to as they believe their status entitles them to priority boarding.

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By *harAndBryCouple
16 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Just want to add - it's not just single guys. We find that single women and couples are actually worse (granted most of them are single guys pretending) and can only assume they think they're special so don't need to read profiles.

Of the messages we get, those from single guys are probably 50% one word, crude rubbish showing no sign of reading our profile. Of those we get from couples or single women, 90% are one word, crude rubbish.

(Bry)

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By *rpeggioCouple
16 weeks ago

Baughurst


"I have what I would like to think is an "unusual" profile pic.

So at the end of my profile I ask a question about it.

Probably 80% of the replies I get do not reference this, and I therefore I presume that they did not actually read to the end of the profile.

It is a useful filter though!"

If we were to write you I would start the message saying I have no F-ing clue how many, the photo is certainly unusual. I'd guess two, but it could be one, just you... Hard to say...

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By *ot.a.murdererWoman
16 weeks ago

Banbury

I've got two rules written in my profile blurb. I am very clear that if a rule is broken, you will be blocked. I still have to block at least ten people a week because they have broken both rules. I tell them why they're being blocked before I do it, and had a guy a few days ago begging me to change my mind and give him a chance. He sent 8 messages in under 5 minutes, and when I said I didn't want to talk to him, I suddenly became too fat and ugly and a stuck up bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Because they are knobs we regularly block single males for it

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By *dgeofheaven71Man
16 weeks ago

Portsmouth and Blackpool

Always read the profile, as it is there for a reason, also gives you a chance to find that couple/ lady who might like the same sort of kinky stuff as yourself. No point I’m trying to go all out kinky as hell if they are vanilla or vice versa

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By *enelope2UWoman
16 weeks ago

Fife

Simple...

They are lazy and they only want a hole.. so it is faster to send cut and paste messages or a dick pic hoping for a bite and equally desperate hole to fall into..

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By *rayheresnowMan
16 weeks ago

Cardiff

I always read them. Tells you a bit about them selfs and what they are looking for.Why would you not read them . But that's me.

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By *infullyNaughtyMan
16 weeks ago

Staines

I always read them, however I have had guys tell me that they don't read the profiles anymore because it doesn't make a difference. Whilst I disagree with this, I do see where they're coming from. They spend their time reading a long description, then they construct a message tailored to the profile description, then they get ignored or message deleted

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By *neeyedwillieMan
16 weeks ago

Darlington

I no longer read profiles unless messaged first (never happens).

BUT I don't meaaage anymore either UNLESS I've already met the person or persons at a club or social event and spent time talking....or more

I'm picky, there's to much time wasting on here and I really can't be chewed anymore trying to work.out if a random Internet stranger is being polite to me, just enjoying attention or is genuinly intrested in meeting.

Anyway it's.more.fun if women chase me, not the other way around.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

As has been said, perception of how many people don't read the profile but message anyway even if you're incompatible is skewed by the fact that you'll never be aware of the people that DO read the profile, see you weren't what they were looking for, and therefore don't message.

All that being said it can be frustrating when people don't. My kinks are quite niche, so I mention them so it isn't a surprise down the line. I also try to emphasise I don't do the 'meet now' type meets.

Basically I hope that by having my profile read, people that I'm never going to mesh with don't have their time wasted.

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By *trueceltMan
16 weeks ago

Bristol

woah hang on back up just one sec. People write stuff on their profiles?? Well fuck a duck

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By *reudian_slipsMan
16 weeks ago

Bristol

It’s exactly the same with me - guys not reading anything I’ve written.. I guess it’s a useful screening tool perhaps?

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By *etsplay85Woman
16 weeks ago

South City


"Based on message we get I’d say 95% don’t read it at all (so we get random friend requests, smokers, meet right now etc- all things we specifically ask not for) and then our pet hate- “what you looking for”

READ

Love your reply

THE

BLOODY

PROFILE "

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By *essTTWoman
16 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

Not just men, women and couples are also very guilty of not reading profiles

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By *izzycreteWoman
16 weeks ago

Not too far


"I have stopped replying I just delete or block. "

Exactly this!

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
16 weeks ago

Chatham

Keep getting endless messages from men, and clearly quite a few haven't bothered to read the profile. Does my head in. It take just a moment and saves all the messing about.

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By *luttTV/TS
16 weeks ago

Duns

My profile isn’t long - but it does have one specific request in it so that I can see that people have read all four sentences of it.

I’ve just blocked someone who made it to five messages (all without any reply from me) without doing it! Doesn’t fab come up with a big warning sign too if you keep messaging without a reply?

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By *im GumbyMan
16 weeks ago

London


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

I will admit that when I first came to this site, I was not always good at the profile reading. Since then, I have appreciated the work that goes into a solid profile, and that you will never get anywhere with a person that is not after the same as you. Therefore, sending a wink or a message is really pointless plus can be frustrating to them.

Hopefully, I have learnt my lesson now. Not only do I read profiles, but I have worked to make mine a simpler and better read for anyone kind enough to check mine out.

Fab is for like minded people that match needs, and not a cheap knocking shop where you get exactly what you like all the time

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By *nsomniacMan
15 weeks ago

chester

Yes I read the profiles before I consider messaging

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By *endalshaggersCouple
15 weeks ago

Kendal

Ours, as some people have said, is quite long and possibly "too long".

However, as a couple you do tend to get quite a lot of messages daily - other couples will atest - and we felt a longer profile may hopefully cut down on the usual questions people had asked previously if we included it in our profile at the beginning.

Some people do, although we still have quite a few who have clearly read what they "want to read".

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By *s-two-75Couple
15 weeks ago

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Some do, many don’t just look at pics..

Ours is quite clear we don’t meet straight single men or do right now meets but get daily messages for both…. Then it’s a delete and block exercise

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By *renzMan
15 weeks ago

Between Chichester and Havant


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

I think the majority of guys come on when they're horny so aren't always thinking with their brain! Personally I will always read a profile before looking at the photos. It's no good looking at photos only to discover in the text there's something that discounts you. Like yours for instance, you don't like hairy men, so that would rule me out and I wouldn't message. But that's me.

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By *aspar78Man
15 weeks ago

derbyshire

I always read the profile first and rarely message because I'm not what the profile wants.

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By *ackformore100Man
15 weeks ago

Tin town


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

I think the majority of guys come on when they're horny so aren't always thinking with their brain! Personally I will always read a profile before looking at the photos. It's no good looking at photos only to discover in the text there's something that discounts you. Like yours for instance, you don't like hairy men, so that would rule me out and I wouldn't message. But that's me. "

I have no clue what the majority of guys are feeling when they come on here. I only the way I'm feeling.

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By *cnugatugMan
15 weeks ago

Chatham

I find it funny that everyone assumes we don't read profiles there are some of us single fellas that actually do read them and make the effort only to be ignored I've learnt to take it on the chin but it's just funny how all single fellas get painted with the same brush

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By *izandpaulCouple
15 weeks ago

merseyside

We did a count on the numbers who did read our profile.

About 5%.

Single guys are the worst offenders but not by much.

We always respond asking why they didn't read our profile in full.

Most say they did but when asked to read it over again they say oh sorry didn't see that bit.

How they respond is how we go forward.

We always say thanks so much for reading our profile for those who do.

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By *iscotti32Woman
15 weeks ago

gateshead

I don’t bother most of the time.

Mostly because what’s written is a load of crap and also because I don’t really care.

I’d rather message and gather their personality and what they like.

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By *lueDressWoman
15 weeks ago

Bath

I do care that someone is writing to Me due to feeling they could possibly be suitable.That may be because they read My profile.

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By *im GumbyMan
15 weeks ago

London

I will skim read, and then go back in detail if the profile is well written and of interest. I presume that the profile is a summary, and a route to discussion and chat. I feel that some are so comprehensive that they start to become forbidding and an end in themselves. I would prefer to read about what a person likes rather than a list of activities that will get a person banned.

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By *andPextraCouple
15 weeks ago

North West

As an example of no they don't.

Last message we received.

Outside our age range, miles away, suggesting a very specific sex act I make no reference to at all in our profile and asking for things that I could not marry up to our profile (i.e no clue how they thought we’d be interested)

My best guess is he never got past the photo gallery.

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By *ackformore100Man
15 weeks ago

Tin town


"As an example of no they don't.

Last message we received.

Outside our age range, miles away, suggesting a very specific sex act I make no reference to at all in our profile and asking for things that I could not marry up to our profile (i.e no clue how they thought we’d be interested)

My best guess is he never got past the photo gallery.

"

In fairness it's a very distracting and sexy photo gallery. Poor fella!

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By *r TriomanMan
15 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Hi OP, I'm confused too, I've read your profile, it's a little long but easy to understand; basically, it's don't, don't, don't... Do not, will not, and guys must have a great body, no curves, oh and some legal stuff. You seem to have resisted the urge to add a message to Sydney University though.

It really is that simple folks.

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By *ackie slut99TV/TS
15 weeks ago

derbyshire

No guys do not read profiles at all .x

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By *r TriomanMan
15 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"No guys do not read profiles at all .x"

Show me the data

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Going by the messages past and present in my inbox it’s a big fat disappointing no.

It’s not just guys though, plenty of couples don’t read profiles and in my experience can be far pushier than single men.

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By *ubslutcpleCouple
15 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Most people in here don't bother reading profiles. As there own wants, needs and agenda is far more important. And showing you how big there cock is (or isn't) Shame as genuine couples like ourselves, just get pissed off instead of putting plenty of fun in front of people.

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By *im GumbyMan
15 weeks ago

London

Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated.

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By *cnugatugMan
15 weeks ago

Chatham

It takes little time to read a bio fellas just do it often I get messages from guy's who haven't read mine and I understand that it's annoying on both sides just read it alot of the bios I have read have been rather funny

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By *iscotti32Woman
15 weeks ago

gateshead


"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. "

Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it

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By *ubslutcpleCouple
15 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated.

Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it

"

Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!!

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By *im GumbyMan
15 weeks ago

London


"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated.

Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it

Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! "

I can live with that. I had to ban a couple of guys that aggressively refused to stop messaging of their own accord. Once the fun messages become hidden by the dross, then it must become very boring

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By *ubslutcpleCouple
15 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated.

Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it

Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!!

I can live with that. I had to ban a couple of guys that aggressively refused to stop messaging of their own accord. Once the fun messages become hidden by the dross, then it must become very boring"

We've had everything on here from out n out racism to full on abuse cuz they can't get a meet. The second you say no the vileness starts. Don't get us wrong some lovely guys on here so respectful and genuine. We just wish fab would do something about the scum that hurl abuse. We know they don't as we block n report them. They are still on the block list. So fab don't remove them. Shame this site used to be so much fun. Now it's just hard work!!

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By *iscotti32Woman
15 weeks ago

gateshead


"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated.

Forums have always been full of people with their pitchforks out for single guys. I wouldn’t worry about it

Not pitchforks just the truth. Certain Single males on here ruin it for the rest end of!! "

Some couples aren’t much better tbf or women or whoever. There’s shit in every category.

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By *ackformore100Man
15 weeks ago

Tin town


"Am I the only person that is finding this thread quite negative. I do sympathise with couples etc that find us single guys a bit of a menace, and I do try not to bother people who clearly are after specific needs. I am not nes to Fab, but am new to these forums, and was hoping for fun chat and banter but I am starting to feel a bit alienated. "

A very good point well made

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
15 weeks ago

kent

We’ve had our profile hidden for about 6 months until a couple of weeks ago. We’ve had all the usual silly messages since unhiding it.

Then on Saturday I decided to put a little bossy, picky ‘ don’t bother if’ paragraph at the top of our profile and miraculously all the nonsense messages (fingers crossed) have stopped!

So maybe people read profiles more than we originally thought.

S & J x

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By *r SensualMan
15 weeks ago

London

Why do you say especially guys? Not reading profiles and sending friend requests without chatting first isn’t something exclusive to only to men. There a lot of couples and a few ladies who are just as guilty of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

A lot of people on here done read profiles and the complain when you don’t reply.

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By *ackformore100Man
15 weeks ago

Tin town


"A lot of people on here done read profiles and the complain when you don’t reply. "

A lot of people do read profiles, send an email suited to the profile and don't get a reply and moan..or get a reply but it's not what they want and moan.. . Is there a theme? Life's so tough.

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By *eroLondonMan
14 weeks ago

Mayfair

Whilst there is no denying that some "guys on this site" do not read people's profiles, I sometimes find that women fail to read or even grasp their own profiles. They will message in the first instance and then engage in monosyllabic dialogue whilst expecting me to be verbose in conversation. The irony being that their own profiles mandate - "won't tolerate one-word responses" or "only interested in people with conversational skills" or "not looking to meet after just two short messages" or something similar. Some women need to adhere to their own caveats.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
14 weeks ago

South West London

Both men and women fail to read other people's profiles

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By *ayleigh1111Woman
14 weeks ago

Liverpool

Honestly it's a task in itself having to block/delete those who haven't bothered i dont think its too much too ask just read the profile

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By *carlettxWoman
14 weeks ago

Essex


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

I’ve written long profile text and short ones and can say generally it’s mainly men that don’t read whereas couples and women tend to before messaging

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By *aked plumberMan
14 weeks ago

lincoln

I absolutely do, I’m interested in meeting people who share the same kinda vibes. If I don’t get that from the text I don’t bother messaging.

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By *oiluvfunMan
14 weeks ago

Penrith

I read every word of every profile that catches my eye.

80% of the single female profiles aren’t exactly long; “I’m a xx year old female looking for fun” is usually all you get to work with, but otherwise, if I don’t think we’ll be a likely match, I don’t waste my time with a message

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By *equila89Man
14 weeks ago

Tortured Poets Department

[Removed by poster at 19/09/24 21:58:50]

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By *rs BxxWoman
14 weeks ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.

I've received a message from a guy telling me what a gorgeous woman I am and my profile sounds just what he's looking for. My profile has been hidden for at least 6 months. He must have X ray vision

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Depends how ridiculously deluded the profile is, people need to chill about the requirements and time they consume, ensuring they get a wink, add or photo like….sadly many people on here get either arrogant or let the ratio balance go to their heads….:

If that’s the case and I happened to see it, directly I’d do the opposite, just so I can see the status, like the whole of fab can and presume they care….

This is no dig either, many profiles have made it an easy read, or give off something to catch my eye, then absolutely….

Sadly both male and females percentages here have the brightest peacock feathers flexing, because bots catfishes or freaks give them the validation…,.

You’d be surprise how many people are in need of a walk outside and clear the cobwebs from their mirrors haha

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By *lanenakedMan
14 weeks ago

near you


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

Read every profile right the way through construct relevant hello messages that refer to the profile with a bit of cheek humour etc. Literally no replies ..

"

Why do people not read messages ? Or reply ? ..

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By *inceIlkestonMan
14 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

Because on mobile phones your profile is at the bottom and they're lazy. Ex web designer.

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By *ensherman333Man
14 weeks ago

Newcastle/Durham


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

When has a men ever read the instructions first ??

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By *carlettxWoman
14 weeks ago

Essex


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

Read every profile right the way through construct relevant hello messages that refer to the profile with a bit of cheek humour etc. Literally no replies ..

Why do people not read messages ? Or reply ? .."

Too many messages sometimes to reply

Even when you say thanks but not what I’m looking for they can take that as a foot in the door and keep messaging unfortunately

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By *entenTeaCouple
14 weeks ago

Buckley North Wales

I think guys are ingored if they do and ignored if they don't.

So to be fair I don't blame them for scatter messaging and hoping something sticks.

But at the end of the day we have to say "if you want to meet couples go to clubs".

Fab is saturated with guys too many of whome are pic hunters and wanking dreamers. Connection is out there not in here.

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By *ikeC81Man
14 weeks ago

harrow

Here is my thoughts

I rarely message people without having either met them in a club or been recommended them as good people now a days. Why because I am fighting that other 300 males that are messaging them

I know I am not the Adonis of the male species, I know I have no tatts, I know I can laugh at myself, I know I am overweight. However I can have a chat and a laugh and crack a joke or two. Occasional I can flirt but shit at it lmao

That’s why I go to clubs, I can be myself….also I am picky when looking for people. I don’t drive so only would message people in London or Manc, if they have no single guys, I don’t even bother. If I am out of age range don’t bother. If there pics suggest bareback with a different person that don’t bother also. That’s before I have even read what they are in to

If I have looked at pics / vids and something catches my eye on profile I may message to say hello. I would say it’s rare that I message people that are not from clubs scene

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
14 weeks ago

Coventry


"Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in. "

Your point is 100% correct - and that type of response from guys IS definitely poor. That being so it's also true to say that guys are;

A) Expected to make 100% of the running.

B) Are always wrong.

C) Are expected to write an individual message to every single woman they approach.

D) Are required to referene that profile, selling themselves as compatible.

E) Utilise and display a good use of humour.

F) Are expected to send face photos,potentially to someone who won't do the same.

G) Are expected by all(including the other male 'chancers' who do nothing but try to gain favour by slating other fellas).

H) Are told to expect absolutely nothing.

I) Largely get absolutely nothing.

I could go on, but while I'm very much onside with the women as I know the kind of crap they get sent on here, all a woman has to do is log on......nothing else - and that's what the vast majority of women do.

Sifting through unpleasant, sometimes nasty drivel from some pretty horrible men is something that should never need to happen. I despise that approach and wish it weren't so, but in the same way that all of the above is never going to change, neither is that way women go about things. It's equally difficult, just in totally opposite ways. As a result I don't message anyone any more,which is a pity as it's what Fab should be about, with good people making connections. Sadly the negative side of Fab is slowly killing that, with some really great guys I've met in clubs having left to do more positive things with their time, leaving the ladies to those who aren't really swingers, but just want to get their end away.

I'd call on all guys to make sure they read and respond only to profiles where they genuinely believe they fit the bill, with women only receiving more quality in their inboxes, but it'll never happen - nor will many women do more than read, delete and feel frustration about their messages. I've always thought women should block men, then search for themselves, but over the ten years I've been here that's an incredibly rare thing.

Shame. This could be amazing couldn't it.

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By *nytime2023Couple
14 weeks ago

Gloucestershire


"Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in.

Your point is 100% correct - and that type of response from guys IS definitely poor. That being so it's also true to say that guys are;

A) Expected to make 100% of the running.

B) Are always wrong.

C) Are expected to write an individual message to every single woman they approach.

D) Are required to referene that profile, selling themselves as compatible.

E) Utilise and display a good use of humour.

F) Are expected to send face photos,potentially to someone who won't do the same.

G) Are expected by all(including the other male 'chancers' who do nothing but try to gain favour by slating other fellas).

H) Are told to expect absolutely nothing.

I) Largely get absolutely nothing.

I could go on, but while I'm very much onside with the women as I know the kind of crap they get sent on here, all a woman has to do is log on......nothing else - and that's what the vast majority of women do.

Sifting through unpleasant, sometimes nasty drivel from some pretty horrible men is something that should never need to happen. I despise that approach and wish it weren't so, but in the same way that all of the above is never going to change, neither is that way women go about things. It's equally difficult, just in totally opposite ways. As a result I don't message anyone any more,which is a pity as it's what Fab should be about, with good people making connections. Sadly the negative side of Fab is slowly killing that, with some really great guys I've met in clubs having left to do more positive things with their time, leaving the ladies to those who aren't really swingers, but just want to get their end away.

I'd call on all guys to make sure they read and respond only to profiles where they genuinely believe they fit the bill, with women only receiving more quality in their inboxes, but it'll never happen - nor will many women do more than read, delete and feel frustration about their messages. I've always thought women should block men, then search for themselves, but over the ten years I've been here that's an incredibly rare thing.

Shame. This could be amazing couldn't it.

"

Some valid points to be fair. Although we (I speak for us, not every couple) will respond to anyone who has messaged assuming they’re read the profile. We get between 20-30 messages a day, we have lives outside of this and most messages have less than three words! When we met people on Fab, we always suggested meeting half way so effort was shared. If we had a hotel we would pay half etc. We never expected any perspective guy or couple to travel further or pay more than we do.

In closing, a quick read of a profile and a personal message doesn’t take much time and goes a long way. When we message a guy or couple, we read the profile and message based on compatibility. And guess what?…we get ignored too. We move on 😊

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By *tew008Man
14 weeks ago

edinburgh

I do read them, majority are quite amusing

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By *isterMushroomMan
14 weeks ago

Warrington

I skim read, especially when they’re an essay.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
14 weeks ago

Coventry


"Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in.

Your point is 100% correct - and that type of response from guys IS definitely poor. That being so it's also true to say that guys are;

A) Expected to make 100% of the running.

B) Are always wrong.

C) Are expected to write an individual message to every single woman they approach.

D) Are required to referene that profile, selling themselves as compatible.

E) Utilise and display a good use of humour.

F) Are expected to send face photos,potentially to someone who won't do the same.

G) Are expected by all(including the other male 'chancers' who do nothing but try to gain favour by slating other fellas).

H) Are told to expect absolutely nothing.

I) Largely get absolutely nothing.

I could go on, but while I'm very much onside with the women as I know the kind of crap they get sent on here, all a woman has to do is log on......nothing else - and that's what the vast majority of women do.

Sifting through unpleasant, sometimes nasty drivel from some pretty horrible men is something that should never need to happen. I despise that approach and wish it weren't so, but in the same way that all of the above is never going to change, neither is that way women go about things. It's equally difficult, just in totally opposite ways. As a result I don't message anyone any more,which is a pity as it's what Fab should be about, with good people making connections. Sadly the negative side of Fab is slowly killing that, with some really great guys I've met in clubs having left to do more positive things with their time, leaving the ladies to those who aren't really swingers, but just want to get their end away.

I'd call on all guys to make sure they read and respond only to profiles where they genuinely believe they fit the bill, with women only receiving more quality in their inboxes, but it'll never happen - nor will many women do more than read, delete and feel frustration about their messages. I've always thought women should block men, then search for themselves, but over the ten years I've been here that's an incredibly rare thing.

Shame. This could be amazing couldn't it.

Some valid points to be fair. Although we (I speak for us, not every couple) will respond to anyone who has messaged assuming they’re read the profile. We get between 20-30 messages a day, we have lives outside of this and most messages have less than three words! When we met people on Fab, we always suggested meeting half way so effort was shared. If we had a hotel we would pay half etc. We never expected any perspective guy or couple to travel further or pay more than we do.

In closing, a quick read of a profile and a personal message doesn’t take much time and goes a long way. When we message a guy or couple, we read the profile and message based on compatibility. And guess what?…we get ignored too. We move on 😊 "

I make you 100% correct. I joined Fab as part of a couple for several years and recognise everything you say. Was never difficult to gain interest, although it wasn't all compatible as we'd all expect.

Since rejoining as a single the dynamic has been completely different, with clubs being extremely successful for me and some pretty amazing friends made. The opposite is true with Fab sadly, though not surprisingly.

Though I always tried to ensure respectful quality of messages sent (when I used to send them), ticking all their boxes - and only ever messaging those people where potential compatibility was in line with every element of what they looked for - response rate was zero over four plus years.

I'd never recommend using Fab to get meets directly to any new single guy as a result - in fact I'd warn against bothering completely. I don't think Fab would be a loss to anyone (barring those who make money from it) if single guys were removed completely. It says everything when someone who tries to set their standards high is very successful in a club, but invisible online.

All of that being said it appears that the good guys become fewer and fewer on here, while the badly behaved ones become ever more numerous. A sad state of affairs, but I suspect it'll only get worse. Good guys know their value and don't want to be lumped in with the rest, nor will they continue to bang their heads on a wall forever, whereas the 'chancers' will come and go constantly. I suspect as a result couples and single women will continue to be bombarded with more and more approaches of a poor nature - something they don't deserve to have happen.

Personally I've nothing to lose - or gain - in saying this as I no longer message anyone, so no axe to grind. I'd just lose to see more class displayed by single guys and more effort from women, but neither are likely for the most part.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

I've always read people's profiles, every time for years now.

I put effort into mine, so I give the same effort to read others who have written theirs.

Seems only fair, really.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

So irritating

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By *ngelLordCouple
13 weeks ago

Newport

Unfortunately most people don't

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
13 weeks ago

Coventry


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

I always used to when aI did message. If it was someone I'd have liked to get to know I'd read their profile at least twice and wouldn't message (a pointless exercise to be honest) if as much as one thing about me didn't match what they said they were looking for. I'd always try to find some common ground to reference and make an effort with photos etc. Still zero response ever mind you. I'm genuinely surprised any men bother messaging any more. That being said it appears the ones that do do so poorly a lot of the time.

Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large.

It's a never-ending circle that'll never change, unless people's attitudes and approaches change.....which they never will sadly. The best guys will find better things to do.

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair


"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large."

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The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿

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By *teveanddebsCouple
13 weeks ago

Norwich

We got one that started "Hi Mark and Lynda"

WTF

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By *rafter69Man
13 weeks ago

upminster


"We got one that started "Hi Mark and Lynda"

WTF "

That tickled me! 😂

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
13 weeks ago

Sheffield

The people that frequent the forums probably do, but that’s only a tiny percentage of fab.

Most don’t, but it’s a good filter 😊

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
13 weeks ago

Coventry


"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large.

·

The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿"

They are also never contacted in some cases. There are several really good guys at the club I go to who have zero response on Fab, yet are hugely successful in a club setting.

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair


"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large.

·

The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿

·

They are also never contacted in some cases. There are several really good guys at the club I go to who have zero response on Fab, yet are hugely successful in a club setting. "

•

Indeed, I'm sure they do well.

Personally, clubs hold little mystique for me; Fab serves its purpose inordinately.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
13 weeks ago

Coventry


"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large.

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The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿

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They are also never contacted in some cases. There are several really good guys at the club I go to who have zero response on Fab, yet are hugely successful in a club setting.

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Indeed, I'm sure they do well.

Personally, clubs hold little mystique for me; Fab serves its purpose inordinately."

Definitely fair to say different things work for different people. I suspect a few men do very well, some moderately so, while some are fantasists. It seems the majority di not, but we all know why that is in many cases. When I first joined Fab I was reasonably successful to start with, though that's petered out over time. It's a mystery, but good luck to you if it works for you. I'm lucky that ine of the absolute best - and classiest - clubs in the country is on my doorstep. Also by chance it's one of the few where people actually take the trouble to get to know new visitors, without prejudice...at least most of the time. Having visited a good amount of clubs you're not missing much in a lot of cases.

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By *andPextraCouple
13 weeks ago

North West

We have had five cut and paste messages this morning, all either asking questions that are on the profile, or referencing things we explicitly say no to (meet now etc.) They are very obvious and very generic.

They must do it for a reason. If they send it out 1000 times and get 1 positive response i’m guessing they regard it as a success.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
13 weeks ago

Norwich


"We got one that started "Hi Mark and Lynda"

WTF

That tickled me! 😂"

If your name is Mark and your partner Lynda I can forward it to you

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
13 weeks ago

Edinburgh

In my experience even if guys read the profile they ignore what is in it and send a message sometimes entirely opposite of what the profile says. Go figure, it’s fab so that explains it

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By *ensherman333Man
12 weeks ago

Newcastle/Durham


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

Eh what was that you said????

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By *layfullsamMan
12 weeks ago

Solihull


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

I go boobie blind

not really I do read

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By *issFussyWoman
12 weeks ago

hitchin


"Honestly I'm assuming it's just a numbers game situation most of the time. Cast a wide net with a copy and paste message that maybe gets tweaked and hope that it catches someone's attention.

Obviously it would be better to cultivate a message to someone's profile but in somes eyes they could put a lot of effort into a message and get exactly the same response (or lack of one)... So they end up going down the numbers game. Annoying but just the way it is. Easy to recognise and move on though at least."

I must admit I hate a copy & paste message, especially if I’ve received it numerous times. I would like to think read the profile ticks some boxes tailor your messages accordingly. But obviously odds are against as so many men

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By *oiluvfunMan
12 weeks ago

Penrith


"... ...Problem you have is that high value men won't continue to waste their time when they're constantly ignored, leaving women with the dross, by and large.

·

The "high value men" (HVM™) have very little to worry about. They are often contacted by the more discerning women of substance. 🌿

·

They are also never contacted in some cases. There are several really good guys at the club I go to who have zero response on Fab, yet are hugely successful in a club setting.

•

Indeed, I'm sure they do well.

Personally, clubs hold little mystique for me; Fab serves its purpose inordinately.

Definitely fair to say different things work for different people. I suspect a few men do very well, some moderately so, while some are fantasists. It seems the majority di not, but we all know why that is in many cases. When I first joined Fab I was reasonably successful to start with, though that's petered out over time. It's a mystery, but good luck to you if it works for you. I'm lucky that ine of the absolute best - and classiest - clubs in the country is on my doorstep. Also by chance it's one of the few where people actually take the trouble to get to know new visitors, without prejudice...at least most of the time. Having visited a good amount of clubs you're not missing much in a lot of cases. "

Well I’m so pleased I’m not the only guy who found ‘some’ clubs to be far removed from the ideal they are constantly sold as in here. Certainly speaking as a solo guy, who appreciates fully, the welcome of “Single guy? Thanks for your money, it’s through there…..”……….

Fab should be a full paysite only. That would clear the fakes/timewasters/dreamers overnight

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By *issFussyWoman
12 weeks ago

hitchin


"Totally. But what gets me is they do that but expect the ladies to dress up make and effort but they have put none in. "

This is so true often look like they’ve rolled out of bed in yesterdays clothes

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
12 weeks ago

Coventry

Actually we keep the in's and out's of what we want fairly vague (although our intrests section give a few hits). We don't like to give an indepth description for the following reasons:

We just like to give the flavour of our vibe and seek the same sort of characters. Our best times are always the result of great chemistry rather than the act. And the people we find the best chemistry with tend to be a very diverse range. Our sexual tastes are varied so if the chemistry is right we can usually find common ground to share a good sexual experience for all. Plus what we may do in the context of a space/people/situation we may not do with another. So it's better for us to find our people first and then work out how we're going to play together because it can be different everytime. And since the people we get on with are so diverse there's no point in saying we want people who are this or people who are that. We know when we find what we're looking for.

There's a problem when you tell people what you want and what you don't. Some people out there are disingenuous and will say anything to get into your knickers. If you give them the blue prints of what to say they'll just modify what they say to tell you what you want to hear (even if it's contrary to what they actually like). If you don't give them the blue prints your far more likely to get an honest impression of them.

And lastly we just don't want the bio to be so lengthy to read through. Look at the pictures, see our stats and intrests, get a brief flavour for us and read what others have to say about us. If you like all that then see where it goes (or not).

Mr

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By *oupleLookingToExploreCouple
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

Profile tells you alot about the person/people. Yes! Always read

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By *rLicksMan
12 weeks ago

Worcester

Do people read profiles… some do, some quickly scan read, others just try their luck!

Me and wife have a couple profile and our individual solo profiles, her profile is very straightforward with what she is looking for, it is even summarised in her profile header… yet the majority of messages she receives shows that a huge number are just trying their luck

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By *unner6969Man
8 weeks ago

Bicester

Depends on how negative, or how long the profile is. I can stop reading those quite quickly.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
8 weeks ago

cahoots


"In my experience even if guys read the profile they ignore what is in it and send a message sometimes entirely opposite of what the profile says. Go figure, it’s fab so that explains it "

We often get messages along the lines of "I've read your profile and I'm not what your looking for but...."

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By *oxy jWoman
8 weeks ago

taunton somerset

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By *oxy jWoman
8 weeks ago

taunton somerset

its pretty simple .. dont want to read my profile then i would not want to meet you anyway if you can't read a profile then your attention span in bed will be crap too ..

fed up with guys saying oh im not jumping thru hoops to meet you my answer is good because i dont want to meet you as im only looking for guys who are on the same page and the thing is plenty are even if im not attracted to them...

the idea of a profile is to say who you are and what you are looking for its not demands if you see it as demands then thats you and your problem its not demands it finding the right people and those that it puts off proves your profile is working as you would not want to meet them anyway...

if they were bothered to read the profile that is ...

men think wet hole women think am i attracted to him is he on the same page ... as i said there are some that do understand but there's way way more who dont ... hey fancy a fuck... me..yes fuck off

oh get a sense of humour will ya

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By *oxy jWoman
8 weeks ago

taunton somerset


"In my experience even if guys read the profile they ignore what is in it and send a message sometimes entirely opposite of what the profile says. Go figure, it’s fab so that explains it

We often get messages along the lines of "I've read your profile and I'm not what your looking for but....""

yep easy instant block for me

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By *im GumbyMan
8 weeks ago

London

I have to say that the last 2 posts summarize my thoughts on profiles. People either use them to find hooks to start a convo, or just ignore them and think that a random comment will work instead. Either way is unlikely to work unless you are prepared to put some effort in and connect with people. Online is so much harder than real life because you have no non-verbal comms to back you up. So, if you are lazy, you are going nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I think everyone's just getting bored of the internet

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By *melie LALWoman
8 weeks ago

Peterborough


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

Lazy!

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By *reudian_slipsMan
8 weeks ago

Bristol

I always read the profile! I think others may get stuck on the photos

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By *heIndianladynEnglishguyCouple
8 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

Can I just say that a lot of couples are also guilty of this.

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By *s2walesCouple
8 weeks ago

Gwent...

Just had a message from a single yet plain on profile...no single guys...

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By *nastasia777Woman
8 weeks ago

Wanstead

Only 2% actually read the profiles. When I log in, the first thing I do is delete all friend requests and winks, then I read my messages. I don’t bother responding if they’re not for me (no photo at all and ‘hi’), just block and delete, haven’t got the time or the energy to respond to every single message. What makes me laugh is the demand in their profile that you be a decent person and respond with a simple ‘no thanks’. Mate, if I responded no thanks to every message, I not only wouldn’t have time for anything else but if they’re in any way different, they then start questioning if it’s because of their colour and telling you you’re racist and/or shallow 🤣

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By *adam PadamWoman
8 weeks ago

leeds

People think it's instashag, fuck n go

Send 100 bland messages, hoping for a bite.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

long profiles bore me to tears can’t lie

can only imagine how they would bang on in real life

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
8 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

We get it all the time, yeah our write ups maybe a 1 min read, but it gives so many clues as to what we want and who we are, anyone that can't be bothered to do that first we ain't interested in either. We lose nothing in the end

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
8 weeks ago

coleraine

We would say that about 2/3rda of both men and couples clearly don’t read our profile.

It is bizzare to be honest. Why would you not want to understand as much about people as possible before making contact and considering meeting them?

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
8 weeks ago

coleraine


"long profiles bore me to tears can’t lie

can only imagine how they would bang on in real life "

Wish to have sex with people when you cannot be bothered to spend five minutes understanding the couple.

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
8 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Not to mention the number who seem to read the profile and ask for something you have clearly said you are not looking for

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By *im GumbyMan
8 weeks ago

London


"Not to mention the number who seem to read the profile and ask for something you have clearly said you are not looking for "

That is my favourite, and not only applocable to ladiesmwho get bombarded with male requests. Us straight guys get some very aggressive messages from men too

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By *-man24Man
8 weeks ago

northwest

I always read profiles ,hence why I don’t message women much haha.

So there’s a high percentage's of men compared too women on here that the good guys slip through there pants.

So anyway love to all be happy fabbers x

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I always read the full profile before sending a message.

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By *iandti2023Couple
8 weeks ago

Wokingham

We always read the profile before contacting someone!

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By *naswingdressWoman
8 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm getting quite a few messages about how hot my tits and arse are.

My publicly available pictures are a wonky parsnip (featuring my hand) and my hair (featuring my forehead).

It's just "message every woman within fifty miles", honestly

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By *im GumbyMan
8 weeks ago

London


"I'm getting quite a few messages about how hot my tits and arse are.

My publicly available pictures are a wonky parsnip (featuring my hand) and my hair (featuring my forehead).

It's just "message every woman within fifty miles", honestly "

That has made me smile. Your pics are hilarious, no wonder that you are acting like a magnet on here!

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By *rin0nightCouple
7 weeks ago

Birmingham

Every. Single. Time.

And most of the time we decide not to write to ppl based on what they have written there.

And honestly, we really appreciate being able to filter couples that we think we would not get along with so early.

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By *ensherman333Man
7 weeks ago

Newcastle/Durham


"Please can I ask a general question especially for the guys on this site. Why do you not read people's profiles? Does it not make it easier to know what the person is looking for and also to not get rejected. We have profiles for a reason to write what we like and don't like as we all have personal preferences so why do people not read them.

I'm so confused. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

"

Most men don’t

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