FabSwingers.com forum: Very little response

By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Hey gang,

I’ve been on and off here over the years.., but rarely get much interest except from fellas…?

I’m a regular straight chap with a love of sex and would love to get more involved in the swinging scene..

Any advice on what I can do to improve my profile and attract ladies/couples would be very much appreciated…

Thanks and happy Fabbing…

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By *nesCouple
19 weeks ago

Milton Keynes, city of dreams

You’re one of 28585839284 billion single men on here, the odds aren’t great.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

As always, what do you think you're doing right OP?

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By *lleyCat1969Man
19 weeks ago

Folkestone

OP, a couple of things when I looked at your profile:

Your first line is negative which paints you in a bad light from the off. Maybe delete it?

Try rewriting some of the lines so that the majority don't start with I...

And good luck, you're one of several thousand single guys on here

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
19 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Plus you're looking for a very specific age group, so options will of course be less

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By *assageVirtuosoMan
19 weeks ago

SouthEast

"OP, a couple of things when I looked at your profile:

Your first line is negative which paints you in a bad light from the off. Maybe delete it?

Try rewriting some of the lines so that the majority don't start with I...

And good luck, you're one of several thousand single guys on here

Writing and rewriting ...Nobody reads or care.

Go to venues, meet real people. They'll introduce you to others. Don't rely that your profile will catch you fish by itself.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
19 weeks ago

Folkestone

"Writing and rewriting ...Nobody reads or care. "

I disagree.

Some very long profiles (I'm looking at you) might not get read but I have found that having a few decent-ish paragraphs makes a difference.

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By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Only being able to meet in the day may limit you, as lots of people work office hours op.

Also, women and couples do read and take notice of profiles, so maybe expand on what you can offer them if they chose to meet you.

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By *lym4realCouple
19 weeks ago

plymouth

The odds aren't great for males and so going to be hard work ! and couples do read and take note of the Updates males post ?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

People can like reliability, so users who come and go may seem like a less dependable option.

The onus is on each man to demonstrate himself and why he's unique. Use socials and clubs to boost your circle of contacts

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By *iker JackMan
19 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I don’t buy into the statistics thing of men outnumbering woman or couples. There are successful single men on here

You say you have had very little response which means you’ve had some responses. So that’s positive and a lot more than most men will ever get.

So what then stops those responses becoming meets for socials or more

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By *ucka39Man
19 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

Let your personality shine via your bio and add a little humour.

Be creative leaving something for the imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Your bio reads as if you're a married man who is looking to cheat on his partner.

Can't accommodate

Daytime meets

Hotel meet

Other points;

There are a million guys on here.

I wouldn't call myself an ugly chap but there are a ridiculous amount of absolutely chiseled guys on here that make me question my fitness.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

It’s deja vu all over again

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By *allySlinkyWoman
19 weeks ago

Leeds

Any advice on what I can do to improve my profile and attract ladies/couples would be very much appreciated…

Your profile pic is your bottom which attracts bi-men and also your comment about being a heavy cummer. Personally I like toned torso and arm pics.

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By *orningcoffee9Man
19 weeks ago

Manchester

Women tend to be outnumbered on here by the amount of men that join this site, also we all have our own preferences to whom and what we like. You're either for them or your not. I guess be honest with yourself in what you're looking for, don't be pushy and respect to person when they say no.

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Thanks for the input..

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Thanks mate..

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Good idea. Thanks..

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Thanks. I’ll bare that in mind..

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Thanks..

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Good point. Thanks..

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

I’ll work on that. Thanks

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By *acavityMan
19 weeks ago

Redditch

I've read your profile.

You are looking for sex.

That's not uncommon on here. Can't see what makes you stand out from the rest of us single males.

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Not quite sure what you’re getting at…?

I simply asked for some help…

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
19 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Not quite sure what you’re getting at…?

I simply asked for some help…

Click on "quote" so that we know who you are responding to.

I think it takes time, perseverance and understanding to be successful in the swinger community.

A lot of men are here for a fuck buddy but most women and couples are not wired that way.

My take is that most men on Fab lack social skills and just want someone to come around to their home to suck their cock...aka low effort.

Being neurodivergent, I am NOT a low effort person...as you can tell by my profile...but most men can't be bothered to read my profile and therefore shoot themselves in the foot before they even begin.

My poly playmates are readers and gentlemen....they do seem to have a certain level of discipline and confidence to go after what they want also, socially or professionally or sexually and they bring that same energy to learning to navigate the swinger lifestyle.

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By *acavityMan
19 weeks ago

Redditch

"Not quite sure what you’re getting at…?

I simply asked for some help…

Assuming it's my comment.

Your profile says you are looking for sex.

That's better than "will fill in later" But it's still bland and low effort.

But that is the vast majority of people on here.

There is nothing in your profile that explains why a woman should choose you, rather than any other.

Are you relying on your pictures to sell you?

There is no magic formula, different women are looking for different things, when it comes to sexual partners.

But at the moment, you have only ticked one box. You are looking for a partner.

More details about what you want, what you can offer her (sexually) etc. Will tick more boxes for some ladies, and hopefully lead to replies and maybe meets.

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By *lyerboy69 OP Man
19 weeks ago

Warwick

Ok. Thanks..

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By *teveanddebsCouple
19 weeks ago

Norwich

"I don’t buy into the statistics thing of men outnumbering woman or couples. There are successful single men on here

Single being the operative word lol

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