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"We won't meet those that don't kiss. Totally respect their wishes, but for us,it's a must. " Yes we completely understand that's why we put it on our profile because we won't meet people who insist on it. Everyone gets what they want that way. | |||
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"As couples do any of you object to kissing or think it’s a big thing to do so ?? " It is so very horny and stimulating. Makes a great pic too. | |||
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"Kissing is an important part of foreplay for us. " I get this but respect couples that don’t | |||
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 Mr L-C likes it though - Mrs L-C | |||
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"No kissing, no go, apart from the fact playing without kissing is tedious, it also throws up a load of issues about the non kisser..." This has often been said. What issues does it throw up in your opinion? Genuinely interested | |||
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"No kissing, no go, apart from the fact playing without kissing is tedious, it also throws up a load of issues about the non kisser..." What issues does it throw up? Also why is it tedious without kissing someone on the lips? | |||
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"Kissing is a must for us, maybe I’m wrong and happy to be corrected, but no kissing rules seems like a red flag for their swinging relationship to us. But, mainly we just love it! "We don't kiss casual partners, have been together 44 years and swinging for about 15. I'm in no way justifying or explaining our preference rather pointing out that your comment is a little insulting | |||
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"Kissing is a must for us, maybe I’m wrong and happy to be corrected, but no kissing rules seems like a red flag for their swinging relationship to us. But, mainly we just love it!
We don't kiss casual partners, have been together 44 years and swinging for about 15. I'm in no way justifying or explaining our preference rather pointing out that your comment is a little insulting"I agree people seem to want to read more into it, if people like kissing so much, they can easily just avoid those who don't kiss meets. | |||
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"Kissing is a must for us, maybe I’m wrong and happy to be corrected, but no kissing rules seems like a red flag for their swinging relationship to us. But, mainly we just love it!
We don't kiss casual partners, have been together 44 years and swinging for about 15. I'm in no way justifying or explaining our preference rather pointing out that your comment is a little insulting
I agree people seem to want to read more into it, if people like kissing so much, they can easily just avoid those who don't kiss meets. "It's why we put it on our profile so we can easily be avoided. | |||
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"Kissing don't bother me either way I understand why some couples don't, what I don't understand tho is why some people feel the need to insult other people's boundaries just because they don't understand. Theirs plenty of things that I find strange and don't understand in this lifestyle but we understand everyone is different I would definitely not say things like red flags etc theirs just no need. " 🙌 | |||
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that. What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. "  I was going to add more or less the same thing we have friends who have never been turned down for not kissing considering majority of people on these posts wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.. | |||
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that. What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. I was going to add more or less the same thing we have friends who have never been turned down for not kissing considering majority of people on these posts wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.. "Yep! I guarantee we met guys who didn't even notice that I didn't kiss them on the mouth  | |||
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"Let's face it, there's lots of people for both sides. Nobody has to explain their preferences. " Exactly. Some like and others not. Why best to always ask what like or not and respect that always | |||
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"I’ve seen this debated a lot before … For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two. I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this…. But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man… It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel … I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side … Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate … Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry …. I know what I mean tho !!! Woman typing. "Thankyou so much for this. You have hit the Nail on the head! I couldn’t have said it better myself. This is exactly how I feel. | |||
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"I’ve seen this debated a lot before … For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two. I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this…. But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man… It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel … I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side … Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate … Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry …. I know what I mean tho !!! Woman typing.
Thankyou so much for this. You have hit the Nail on the head!
I couldn’t have said it better myself.
This is exactly how I feel. "At least it made sense to someone xxxxxxxx | |||
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"Kissing don't bother me either way I understand why some couples don't, what I don't understand tho is why some people feel the need to insult other people's boundaries just because they don't understand. Theirs plenty of things that I find strange and don't understand in this lifestyle but we understand everyone is different I would definitely not say things like red flags etc theirs just no need. " Thankyou for this.. I completely ageee. Everyone is different and everyone should just respect everyone else’s boundaries no matter what they are | |||
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"I’ve seen this debated a lot before … For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two. I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this…. But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man… It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel … I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side … Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate … Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry …. I know what I mean tho !!! Woman typing. "We are exactly the same. C x | |||
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"Kissing is a must for us, maybe I’m wrong and happy to be corrected, but no kissing rules seems like a red flag for their swinging relationship to us. But, mainly we just love it! "You are definitely wrong. We don’t kiss and our relationship in and outside of swinging is rock solid. Everyone sets their own boundaries for different reasons and it isn’t for anyone to make assumptions or judge others for those boundaries. C x | |||
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"Kissing don't bother me either way I understand why some couples don't, what I don't understand tho is why some people feel the need to insult other people's boundaries just because they don't understand. Theirs plenty of things that I find strange and don't understand in this lifestyle but we understand everyone is different I would definitely not say things like red flags etc theirs just no need. " Exactly that. Everyone has different boundaries as everyone is different, I don’t see why others have to insult just because someone’s opinion is different to theirs. | |||
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that. What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. " That’s really good to know. Thankyou for sharing this. | |||
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that. What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. I was going to add more or less the same thing we have friends who have never been turned down for not kissing considering majority of people on these posts wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.. "Thankyou for sharing this, this is good to know. | |||
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that. What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. I was going to add more or less the same thing we have friends who have never been turned down for not kissing considering majority of people on these posts wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss..
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I guarantee we met guys who didn't even notice that I didn't kiss them on the mouth "Thankyou for sharing this. This good to know. | |||
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"Let's face it, there's lots of people for both sides. Nobody has to explain their preferences. Exactly. Some like and others not. Why best to always ask what like or not and respect that always" 100 agree. Thankyou | |||
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"We have always been in the "no kissing" camp because for us, as several others have also noted, there is a level of romantic intimacy associated with kissing which (for us) doesn't attach to other aspects of sex. And no, it does not reflect some sort of underlying insecurity or "red flag" - we have been together for several decades (!) and our relationship is as solid as a rock. We would though make a distinction between kissing on the mouth/with tongues, and kissing other parts of the body which we always enjoy with play partners" Exactly this! People also forget that there are neurodivergent people out there who struggle with things that others don’t. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone except those involved, you just need to be able to respect the boundary and if you can’t, then you’re not compatible and that’s fine. C x | |||
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"Object to kissing? Not really. I just don't like kissing men other than my husband, so I don't do it. I do love to kiss other women though. My husband is happy to kiss other women, and I enjoy seeing him do that. What is strange is that almost everyone on these threads (that come up almost weekly) insist that kissing is essential, yet in all the years we have been swinging not one single person has ever objected, been disappointed not to kiss nor attempted to kiss me against my will. I was going to add more or less the same thing we have friends who have never been turned down for not kissing considering majority of people on these posts wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss..
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I guarantee we met guys who didn't even notice that I didn't kiss them on the mouth "As a single lady I didn't kiss guys.... it's a personal reason for me,and can make me feel very uncomfortable... as a couple I will very occasionally but still finding I prefer not to kiss other men.. nothing to do with insecurities or red flags just that it is not something I enjoy with other guys... Mr kisses other ladies a lot..I love seeing it. No one ever seems to notice that I rarely if ever kiss other men. X | |||
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"I’ve seen this debated a lot before … For us kissing is sensual love and we only keep it between us two. I feel a little of a hypocrite however because we do allow female on female kissing… and that’s because it’s a main good starter what turns myself on a lot and my partner respects this…. But him kissing another woman would rip my heart in two I’m Not going to lie and he feels the same if I were to kiss another man… It’s strange how different it makes everyone feel … I think for us this swininging journey is more about the raw passion naughty side … Whereas kissing is extremely loving and intimate … Ahhhh it’s a hard one … I’m waffling … sorry …. I know what I mean tho !!! Woman typing.
We are exactly the same.
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"Never understood the whole we don’t kiss but u can suck the D or eat the P! Or stick ya dick in me but not ya tongue in my mouth pmsl "don't need to understand it at all.. juat respect it. Respect goes a long way in this world | |||
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"Never understood the whole we don’t kiss but u can suck the D or eat the P! Or stick ya dick in me but not ya tongue in my mouth pmsl don't need to understand it at all.. juat respect it. Respect goes a long way in this world "Obvs and we know that,but it’s a general forum thread for us to share ours views so respect that Pmsl | |||
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"Never understood the whole we don’t kiss but u can suck the D or eat the P! Or stick ya dick in me but not ya tongue in my mouth pmsl "Why do you feel the need to understand it? All you need to do is respect it and accept that it's not for you, just as some people might find your choices are not for them but they respect your right to choose. | |||
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