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"Many people read profiles before the message. Do you feel yours gives an accurate picture of what someone could expect if they met you or what you expect from them? " In all honesty, I'm baffled by what to put. I've done the long wordy profile and tried to narrow it down over the past year, neither appears to help and if any interest is show, it's fro males and I clearly state that I'm straight so can't figure out where I'm going wrong.   | |||
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"Ah ok, I'll look into the settings and sort that out, thanks. I'd feel creepy turning up to an event on my own, just feels wrong to go to the clubs as a single man, pub's are a different thing, but swingers club's seem alien to me unfortunately " Have you been to a club? If not then you don't know so worth trying. | |||
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"Unless I’m totally missing something the first line of your profile makes no sense to me 🤷♀️" I think he changed his username, used to be something Dom related. Just forgot to update bio  | |||
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored. "Personally I would like to see more in your profile… what exactly are you looking for? What do you have to offer… what makes you special compared to every other bloke? I like more photos of full body… ideally standing! Blur/block of face and intimate area if desired but I want to see what’s on offer! Good luck | |||
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored. "Your profile is frankly terrible. Work out what draws you to other profiles and then put some of that in your own. It's more important to say what you do like rather than what you don't and what you are looking for. Lx | |||
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"Unless I’m totally missing something the first line of your profile makes no sense to me 🤷♀️ I think he changed his username, used to be something Dom related. Just forgot to update bio "Now it makes sense. Thank you. I thought must be a euphemism for something 😁 | |||
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"Ah ok, I'll look into the settings and sort that out, thanks. I'd feel creepy turning up to an event on my own, just feels wrong to go to the clubs as a single man, pub's are a different thing, but swingers club's seem alien to me unfortunately " Why, I go alone to events and others with my husband, yes it's nerve-wracking but just go for it. | |||
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored. "You say you’re single, but your profile says attached (and can’t accommodate) so my money’s on you’ve got a wife at home who doesn’t realise what’s going on. HTH  | |||
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored.
You say you’re single, but your profile says attached (and can’t accommodate) so my money’s on you’ve got a wife at home who doesn’t realise what’s going on. HTH "Good catch! Hadn’t spotted that! | |||
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"The pictures are all totally pointless. Why bother with all that effort at covering up?" Purely for discretion.... I hold a public service job and want to avoid that awkward conversation if spotted or recognised by towns folk etc | |||
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"The pictures are all totally pointless. Why bother with all that effort at covering up? Purely for discretion.... I hold a public service job and want to avoid that awkward conversation if spotted or recognised by towns folk etc" Cropping looks better than the dumb emojis. | |||
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"Delete the dick pics Dick pics in a bathroom just scream that you’re attached and taking a pic whilst the unknowing partner is watching tv " Agreed. The pictures are low quality, and the bio is uninformative. | |||
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"Delete the dick pics Dick pics in a bathroom just scream that you’re attached and taking a pic whilst the unknowing partner is watching tv " • I agree. The cock photos will mostly close any potential doors of opportunity on here than open them. | |||
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"The pictures are all totally pointless. Why bother with all that effort at covering up? Purely for discretion.... I hold a public service job and want to avoid that awkward conversation if spotted or recognised by towns folk etc" People told you 25 weeks ago that cropped pictures look better than emojis. | |||
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"The pictures are all totally pointless. Why bother with all that effort at covering up? Purely for discretion.... I hold a public service job and want to avoid that awkward conversation if spotted or recognised by towns folk etc People told you 25 weeks ago that cropped pictures look better than emojis. " Yes. No sign of improvement in such a long time is not a good sign. | |||
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"Your profile header text seems to be cut short" Opps, had too much written for the word count. | |||
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"Any better?" No. | |||
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored. "Try going to local socials or a club and meet people in real life | |||
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"Any better? No." 😔 right in the feels....lol | |||
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored.
Try going to local socials or a club and meet people in real life "This something I do intend on doing, just feels a little odd to me is all | |||
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"Several people have said that cropped photos are way better than pixelated nonsense, and you’ve just added a new one…. It would be a no from me. " I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse, almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃 | |||
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"As your name is _iker-bang I would expect to see a pic of you on your bike or in biker gear" Will do x | |||
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"Any better? No. 😔 right in the feels....lol" We said cropped. We said better profile text. You did neither. | |||
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"Any better? No. 😔 right in the feels....lol We said cropped. We said better profile text. You did neither." In my defence, I've had way more people say the opposite, I just don't seem to get the right balance is all x | |||
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" I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse " I think they would look better ! " almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃" I'm afraid I don't understand this | |||
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" I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse I think they would look better ! almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃 I'm afraid I don't understand this" I have quite a distinctive face, and I work in the public service sector, discretion is paramount x | |||
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"Any better? No. 😔 right in the feels....lol We said cropped. We said better profile text. You did neither. In my defence, I've had way more people say the opposite, I just don't seem to get the right balance is all x" Your profile screams to me "just another dude, not that interesting, says he's interested in everything, which probably means he's inexperienced or lying". It'd be an instant delete. It's only my perspective, but it's all anyone is offering here. | |||
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" I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse I think they would look better ! almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃 I'm afraid I don't understand this I have quite a distinctive face, and I work in the public service sector, discretion is paramount x" Nobody is suggesting you show your face. | |||
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" I have quite a distinctive face, and I work in the public service sector, discretion is paramount x" This is why we are suggesting cropping the head off all the clothed pics you have posted, rather than pixelating | |||
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"I honestly don’t understand why you’re asking for help, as you seem to have a reason to not do everything that is suggested by your target audience. " In these types of threads, I'm often torn between "if I post in the forum, maybe the women will come to me" (we won't) and "I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas". | |||
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"OP has anyone on this thread advised keeping all the dick pics ?" Is it wrong to pre-empt this one with the answer to the usual response? If the only parts of your body are your face and your penis, you should see a doctor and are probably a medical miracle. Congratulations and/or I'm sorry. | |||
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"As a single straight guy on here, any advice on how to get interest from the ladies? Seems my efforts go unread or ignored.
Try going to local socials or a club and meet people in real life
This something I do intend on doing, just feels a little odd to me is all"Yeah, the first time that I went to a club I felt very self-conscious going on my own. But it proves that you can walk the walk. Think of it as just being like a bar, which happens to have a dance floor area where some people might be dressed a little less than most places. Swinging clubs rely on having at least a few single guys going along, so it's not actually unusual being there on your own. Just don't imagine that it'll be wall to wall women all waiting to fuck you. There's loads of other threads in these forums about what to expect from a swinging club, read some of those threads and make sure that you go with the right attitude. As I said above, I was self-conscious the first time I went into a club. But half an hour later I was feeling totally at ease. I didn't have sex with anyone that night, and not for another half dozen visits either. But I did make friends on that first visit, I got verifications, I started chatting on fab with people that I'd met that evening. There's nothing on fab, or in clubs, or at social parties, that gives any assurance of getting sex. But all of these together provide a gateway into a social life where you might meet women, you might find sexual experiences, you might even end up with a partner. But you have to put the work in, which means doing a lot more than just having a below average profile and being afraid to actually get out into the world. | |||
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" I did attempt cropped but felt they looked worse I think they would look better ! almost all my pictures are selfie style as photos of me on on the people who take them devices 🙃 I'm afraid I don't understand this I have quite a distinctive face, and I work in the public service sector, discretion is paramount x" What don’t you understand? I work in the public sector industry to protect my identity I have cropped my head out of photos | |||
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"I'm certainly grateful for all you comments and advice, I've literally almost pissed myself laughing at my incompetence at taking pictures 🤭🤣 there one thing for sure, I'm no David Bailey 📷" Very normal. When I get into taking pictures for Fab, there's usually a good one in every fifty attempts. | |||
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"Added a little, but never good at talking about myself without coming across as arrogant or waffling " You might just want to run it through a spell checker. Not being snotty saying that but it helps create a good impression. L | |||
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"Looking for women to enjoy nsa fun with Looking for women or the right couple to enjoy all aspects of fun with Could you merge these two phrases rather than having repetition ? " Well spotted, sounded awkward x thanks | |||
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